I Need Advice - I Just Quit My Job!

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OK, so here's the deal. I just turned in my resignation at a good paying job. Why? Because I felt like my life was going by and I saw myself at the job for the next 20 years if I didn't do something. It was a good job and I worked with good people. No complaints about the job except general working complaints.

So I plan to make money online. I write articles for people, I have several websites up and running myself, and I sell a Clickbank product that I make decent money off of. I am fairly confident that if I work 10-12 hours each day, I can make enough to live off of plus a little more. But I will only make about 30%-40% of my previous job for a while.

So it seemed like a great idea until I told my wife. I had talked to her quite a bit about quitting - probably for the last year or so. So granted, while she knew about my thoughts, the timing completely caught her off guard.

We don't have kids and the only debt we have is a reasonable house payment. My wife has only worked off and on since we have been married because we didn't need the money. She wants to work, but she is not necessarily a go-getter. So she is pretty ticked off right now and is out searching for a job. Thankfully she chose the fight not flight option

So I couldn't sleep last night, and I am pretty scared. Self confidence is a fleeting thing sometimes, especially when your closest friend doesn't like your choices. I could rescind my resignation right now and, other than a little embarrassment, could continue on as normal. Last night I wanted to, this morning I believe I can make it.

If it was just me, I would be OK with this. If it didn't work, I could go down to the local McDonald's a get a job to live off of. With my wife working and my money coming in, we won't go broke. It is just a drastic change in thinking.

Has anyone gone through anything like this? Any advice?
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  • Profile picture of the author Heidi White
    Rescind your resignation, then start being a bad employee (every so gradually) while building up your business - if you're lucky - they'll fire you - then you can collect unemployment.

    OK - maybe not such good advice, but I was always told - "never quit or resign from a job"
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    • Profile picture of the author Srikanth D
      Resignation or not is purely a personal decision. I can't comment on that.
      But I can definitely say a few things on the plans that you have mentioned.

      If you are confident about making money writing articles, go for it. Initially offer content at low price, build confidence in your customer - That way, grow your customer base. Remember, most of these will turn into repeat customers if they like your service. Take only that many orders that you can provide without compromise on quality.

      Now you will have a customer base that pays you sufficiently. This is when you have to venture into affiliate marketing. Since you already have a source of income, you wont be very desperate in your affiliate marketing venture. Believe me, this mindset will really help!
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  • Profile picture of the author Justin Says
    I'm going to PM you my story, don't really share too much personal info =D
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  • Profile picture of the author theemperor
    Originally Posted by aboutusnow View Post

    OK, so here's the deal. I just turned in my resignation at a good paying job. Why? Because I felt like my life was going by and I saw myself at the job for the next 20 years if I didn't do something. It was a good job and I worked with good people. No complaints about the job except general working complaints.

    So I plan to make money online. I write articles for people, I have several websites up and running myself, and I sell a Clickbank product that I make decent money off of. I am fairly confident that if I work 10-12 hours each day, I can make enough to live off of plus a little more. But I will only make about 30%-40% of my previous job for a while.

    So it seemed like a great idea until I told my wife. I had talked to her quite a bit about quitting - probably for the last year or so. So granted, while she knew about my thoughts, the timing completely caught her off guard.

    We don't have kids and the only debt we have is a reasonable house payment. My wife has only worked off and on since we have been married because we didn't need the money. She wants to work, but she is not necessarily a go-getter. So she is pretty ticked off right now and is out searching for a job. Thankfully she chose the fight not flight option

    So I couldn't sleep last night, and I am pretty scared. Self confidence is a fleeting thing sometimes, especially when your closest friend doesn't like your choices. I could rescind my resignation right now and, other than a little embarrassment, could continue on as normal. Last night I wanted to, this morning I believe I can make it.

    If it was just me, I would be OK with this. If it didn't work, I could go down to the local McDonald's a get a job to live off of. With my wife working and my money coming in, we won't go broke. It is just a drastic change in thinking.

    Has anyone gone through anything like this? Any advice?
    My take on this is you have now quit, so go for it! Try and build up that online income. It is your life and really why should you have to sacrifice your dream to give your wife an easy life? If she really is your best friend she will support you. If she leaves in protest of having to earn her keep then ... well she wasn't the one and you are better off.
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    • Profile picture of the author Rod Cortez
      From a financial planning perspective, quitting your job without already having a steady income already coming in, wasn't the smartest thing to do. At least tell me you've got at least one year's of living expenses saved up.
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  • Profile picture of the author travlinguy
    Pretty dumb to quit a good job. If you can go back and tell them you were off your meds do it. Then, put aside some money and build up a little war chest so you can get going. You mention nothing about having a plan or how you're going to make money, just that you're going to work 10 - 12 hours a day.

    If I were your wife I'd fall just short of Lorena Bobbit with you. It's really inconsiderate of you to just quit without letting her know first. Marriage is supposed to be a partnership and you've just shown her that it's really a one way street, your street. I think you're pretty irresponsible.

    Maybe you think people will be all over you with high-fives, but this is crazy. I hope it works out for you. Good luck.
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    • Profile picture of the author theemperor
      Originally Posted by travlinguy View Post

      Pretty dumb to quit a good job.
      Well that depends ... he can earn 30% and live off it, so no problem. He might end up earning twice his old salary eventually. I mean isn't this the path for everyone, earn enough from IM in you spare time until you can just about quit the job, then once you have an extra 40 hours/week to put into IM you can really take off?

      I don't see the point of doing IM at all if you have no plan to go full time at some point, and it may be too long to wait to get the income up to 100% of JOB, and often there is no need as there is a little thing called thrift.
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    • Profile picture of the author dremy154
      Originally Posted by travlinguy View Post

      Pretty dumb to quit a good job. If you can go back and tell them you were off your meds do it. Then, put aside some money and build up a little war chest so you can get going. You mention nothing about having a plan or how you're going to make money, just that you're going to work 10 - 12 hours a day.

      If I were your wife I'd fall just short of Lorena Bobbit with you. It's really inconsiderate of you to just quit without letting her know first. Marriage is supposed to be a partnership and you've just shown her that it's really a one way street, your street. I think you're pretty irresponsible.

      Maybe you think people will be all over you with high-fives, but this is crazy. I hope it works out for you. Good luck.
      Well.....

      On the topic of quitting - you said that you are seeing profits from a product and make a decent "income". That is probably one of the hardest parts of the whole internet marketing thing, getting started and seeing consistent sales. If you are already that far, then I think that you have definitely got what it takes to make it work to it's full potential.

      What traveling guy said, I somewhat agree, about what marriage is supposed to be, and that is PART of what is wrong with this world, people thinking of themselves, while trodding on others. I don't mean that is what you have done, just a general statement. But no one does the right thing, at the right time, all of the time. Hell, if we get some of it right, sometimes, we're doin' damn good.

      I used to make decisions without my wife (1st) when I was 20-something; my mentality has changed over the past 20+ years.

      What I am trying to say is that you already crossed the bridge, how is now irrelevant; don't make it for nothing.
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  • Profile picture of the author Justin Says
    I had to send it as a regular message, couldn't include a private message because it says i need 50 posts, so just check your message history on your profile.

    And to the above message. My girl left my job a few days ago and we have been talking about quitting our jobs for a while now. I don't believe it's a total irresponsible thing to just up and leave. I know i'm not married, but I believe that when you have some stream of money and can atleast get by and still be happy, do it.

    I'm very very very happy with my life right now and so is my girl.

    When she left her job, I was actually proud of her. And when I left mine, she was proud of me. I do understand that your stating that you should build a bunch of income before going into this business, but still.
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  • Profile picture of the author Alan50
    Thank you for the advice. Appreciate it.
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    • Profile picture of the author aboutusnow
      Thanks for people's input. I figured I would get both sides of the argument as I can see both points of view.

      The good news is that I do have 6 months of expenses saved. Not quite a year, but enough to feel relatively comfortable.

      Someone mentioned that I was coming here asking how to make money. That is not what I asked as I already make money online. Sure, I can get better, but I pull in decent money working at it part time already. I do have a plan for growing my business - not having a plan previously is what kept me at my job so long.

      So I'll keep thinking on it. On one side, it does seem dumb to quit a good paying job in this economy. Lord knows it is tough out there. On the other side, most people's unique and personal goals do seem "dumb" and they sometimes rub people the wrong way.

      I feel like I am fairly prepared. Just wished it was an easier decision. I almost wished that I was layed off or fired. Sounds stupid, but at least the decision would be a whole lot more clear.
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      • Profile picture of the author Rod Cortez
        Originally Posted by aboutusnow View Post

        Thanks for people's input. I figured I would get both sides of the argument as I can see both points of view.

        The good news is that I do have 6 months of expenses saved. Not quite a year, but enough to feel relatively comfortable.

        Someone mentioned that I was coming here asking how to make money. That is not what I asked as I already make money online. Sure, I can get better, but I pull in decent money working at it part time already. I do have a plan for growing my business - not having a plan previously is what kept me at my job so long.

        So I'll keep thinking on it. On one side, it does seem dumb to quit a good paying job in this economy. Lord knows it is tough out there. On the other side, most people's unique and personal goals do seem "dumb" and they sometimes rub people the wrong way.

        I feel like I am fairly prepared. Just wished it was an easier decision. I almost wished that I was layed off or fired. Sounds stupid, but at least the decision would be a whole lot more clear.
        Did you also factor in the cost of benefits? What about all your insurance coverages? (Life, medical, home, car, etc.). In my experience as a financial planner, most people don't factor in a lot of things when quitting their jobs and usually they quit them too soon.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kim Standerline
    Criky you chucked your job in without discussing it with your wife first
    She must be very understanding.

    To be honest I don't think you should be asking advice (as such) about this on a forum, you should be sitting down with your wife and discussing it with her. At least then if she agrees to your quitting you know you have her blessing

    Good luck whatever you decide
    Kim
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    • Profile picture of the author aboutusnow
      Originally Posted by Kim Standerline View Post

      Criky you chucked your job in without discussing it with your wife first
      She must be very understanding.

      To be honest I don't think you should be asking advice (as such) about this on a forum, you should be sitting down with your wife and discussing it with her. At least then if she agrees to your quitting you know you have her blessing

      Good luck whatever you decide
      Kim
      See, I have talked to her about it many times. She is self admittedly very worried about not having income because she grew up in a family that didn't. I make decent money, and with no kids, we do what we want when we want. We are very comfortable, and have an easy life.

      She likes "easy", I like not having someone tell me what to do, when to do it, how much I will get paid to do it, and how long I have to do it.

      I believe that I could have 5 years living expenses with no debt at all and she would be quite hesitant about me quitting. That is why I had to make "my" decision. It does sound selfish, but at some point you have to do what you believe is right for you. And while my wife is the most important person in my life, even she can't control what I do with my life.

      Thankfully, I don't know of many "my" decisions I have made in my 8 years of marriage. Most things are agreed on ahead of time, so I think I have some good-will built up.
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  • Profile picture of the author cashcow
    The first thing you should do is quit worrying about not having enough money and think about how much better off you will be once you really get your IM business going and have more money than you ever imagined.

    You can't let the doubt and worry drag you down because what will happen is that you will be constantly in a panic to make sure you make enough money which will probably lead you to jumping from one thing to another and not being able to build a proper business.

    I speak from experience - didn't quit my job but I got laid off. I only make 30% of my previous income but I could be making more if I didn't spend most of the time panicking and worrying about money.

    I would never go back to working for someone else again though - I'd rather sell everything I own and live in a cheap apartment. Can't say my hubby is on the same page as far as that goes, but he has out a lot of faith in me and does give me a lot of support so I am grateful for that.

    Who knows, maybe getting a job will be good for your wife and she will look back on this being the best thing that ever happened?

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  • Profile picture of the author GoGetta
    Yeh, talk to your wife!

    However, go for it! Forget the job, you said it yourself, if it all goes wrong, you can just get another job, no biggie! I quit my job with no backup money and made things happen. This is actually what drove me to succeed, it may do the same for you!

    Stop worrying and Start doing!

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  • Profile picture of the author Droopy Dawg
    Don't quit yet... get your wife into IM with you, and you too can try to start your own offline business TOGETHER. Teach her what she needs to know about IM and how offline businesses can use your services.

    You can then (try to) get some offline clients in your hometown, and outsource the work. once your wife sees how "easy" and fun it is as an Im'er, then she'd MAKE YOU quit your job so that you can concentrate on your (collective) business.
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    • Profile picture of the author aboutusnow
      Originally Posted by Droopy Dawg View Post

      Don't quit yet... get your wife into IM with you, and you too can try to start your own offline business TOGETHER. Teach her what she needs to know about IM and how offline businesses can use your services.

      You can then (try to) get some offline clients in your hometown, and outsource the work. once your wife sees how "easy" and fun it is as an Im'er, then she'd MAKE YOU quit your job so that you can concentrate on your (collective) business.
      Believe me, I have tried this. I have asked her to help. I have "assigned" her tasks so that she would have clear direction. She doesn't get the online thing as it is not tangible. Plus she loves interacting one-on-one with people which is sometimes difficult behind a keyboard.

      We even sold vitamins together to try to have a common goal. Didn't work. It is hard to motivate someone that doesn't want to be motivated or sees things from a totally different perspective.

      Sometimes you just have to agree to disagree. Really, I have tackled this from about every angle I know to tackle it other than just jumping in with both feet! I knew she wasn't going to come voluntarily, so I kind of dragged her in with me
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      • Profile picture of the author Droopy Dawg
        I hear ya... and I understand. If she loves doing face-to-face then she'd be a great sales associate for your offline consulting business... I just wish (for your sake) she'd "meet you halfway".

        I still have my full-time job as a network admin, but my job isn't demanding AT ALL, so for the 8 or so hours I'm here at work I'm working on my IM business, and my boss doesn't have a problem with it.

        But I am working to get to the point where I could also quit my job and work fulltime from home. I have a ways to go, but I understand your position.

        Originally Posted by aboutusnow View Post

        Believe me, I have tried this. I have asked her to help. I have "assigned" her tasks so that she would have clear direction. She doesn't get the online thing as it is not tangible. Plus she loves interacting one-on-one with people which is sometimes difficult behind a keyboard.

        We even sold vitamins together to try to have a common goal. Didn't work. It is hard to motivate someone that doesn't want to be motivated or sees things from a totally different perspective.

        Sometimes you just have to agree to disagree. Really, I have tackled this from about every angle I know to tackle it other than just jumping in with both feet! I knew she wasn't going to come voluntarily, so I kind of dragged her in with me
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  • Profile picture of the author Justin Says
    I'll just state one more thing, since you are receiving so many replies for this.

    Congratulations. (read my post in your profile when you can )
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  • Profile picture of the author steve-wilkins
    If you have the detemination and will to succeed you will. Of course you will need to balance your finances well and make sure you have a positive cash flow running through your online business.

    You said you write articles, can you scale this up slightly to bring in a little extra money to pay for things like a mentor (if needed) , advertising, traffic to your sites etc.

    I was very lucky that when I decided to quit my job to pursue my online dream - my partner was very supportive and has been ever since. I suggest you talk this through fully with your other half because if there is any resentment this may eat away at you later.

    The most important advice I can give is if you have a goal and you have the determnation then follow it through but don't be hasty and really weight up all the pros and cons, do your finances also and make sure you have enough to fund your new business and live off until it takes off.

    Best of luck!
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    • Profile picture of the author bleedgreen
      You have gotten a lot of advise for your problem. I ask one thing keep us updated as I know I want to do the same thing as you but have not had the nevre to do it yet.

      Good Luck
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      • Profile picture of the author Hanz
        You probably should've applied for unemployment insurance benefits if possible. Maybe you still can. Although you'd need a valid reason for quitting your job. That way, you have a bit of government financial-aid while working on your IM venture or searching for another job.
        I'm in Canada though. Not sure how it works over there where you are.
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        • Profile picture of the author workfromhomejobs
          We only consider others closed friends if we won't make them angry like letting them first before making any important decision.

          Anyhow you already made the decision and the jobs is already gone so no point of making both of you miserable.

          Making online world is gruesome and unpredictable. And it will get even worse if your daily offline world is already unstable. So try to produce a healthy environment.

          And about getting her into online as well, just don't. People are different. Some can live online some just can't. Let her do it voluntarily once she look at you and she think you are having a great time. Nobody want to follow people with stress.
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  • Profile picture of the author Lisa Gergets
    I totally get that you wanted to quit, but without discussing it with your wife? Egads, man, what were you thinking?
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    • Profile picture of the author aboutusnow
      Originally Posted by Lisa Gergets View Post

      I totally get that you wanted to quit, but without discussing it with your wife? Egads, man, what were you thinking?
      Whoa, whoa, whoa!

      This was definitely discussed with my wife many times. My problem was probably discussing it TOO much. She didn't know when I was serious or if I ever was going to quit because I talked about it and never did anything.

      According to previous conversations, she was not going to be happy when I resigned. So it is like the shot that you dread. Do you close your eyes and take the pain when it comes, or do you sit down and talk about how much it will hurt and then get the shot. Either way you endure the pain - one method is more drawn out, another is less drawn out.
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      • Profile picture of the author Lisa Gergets
        Originally Posted by aboutusnow View Post

        Whoa, whoa, whoa!

        This was definitely discussed with my wife many times. My problem was probably discussing it TOO much. She didn't know when I was serious or if I ever was going to quit because I talked about it and never did anything.

        According to previous conversations, she was not going to be happy when I resigned. So it is like the shot that you dread. Do you close your eyes and take the pain when it comes, or do you sit down and talk about how much it will hurt and then get the shot. Either way you endure the pain - one method is more drawn out, another is less drawn out.
        Nah, I get it..."Better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission."

        When I was married to my first husband, I went out and bought an expensive sports car without discussing it with him first. He was a little honked off when he pulled into the driveway that evening. But, we were making bank so why not? LOL
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      • Profile picture of the author JohnMcCabe
        Originally Posted by aboutusnow View Post

        Whoa, whoa, whoa!

        This was definitely discussed with my wife many times. My problem was probably discussing it TOO much. She didn't know when I was serious or if I ever was going to quit because I talked about it and never did anything.

        According to previous conversations, she was not going to be happy when I resigned. So it is like the shot that you dread. Do you close your eyes and take the pain when it comes, or do you sit down and talk about how much it will hurt and then get the shot. Either way you endure the pain - one method is more drawn out, another is less drawn out.
        I'm not going to comment about your resignation, other than to reiterate what was said above about making sure you have things like medical insurance covered. A simple fracture coupled with an emergency room visit could wipe out that six month reserve and your easy lifestyle in a second.

        What I am going to comment on, from the vantage point of being happily married for over 28 years, is the fact that you took a unilateral action that changed both of your lives without getting even a reluctant buy-in from her.

        Like you said, you talked about quitting a lot. I'm guessing it was mostly 'someday' talk. Then you went and did it.

        The best advice I can give you right now, husband to husband, is to sit down with her and talk about this. Explain what led up to it, explore how your action affected her and what she sees coming out of it. Get everything out and on the table.

        Be prepared to compromise. Go back to your job with the understanding that once you've matched your income, covered your bases, etc. you will set out on your own with her support.

        Without that clearing of the air, things stew under the surface and bubble up at the worst possible time.
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        • Profile picture of the author Hanz
          Originally Posted by JohnMcCabe View Post

          I'm not going to comment about your resignation, other than to reiterate what was said above about making sure you have things like medical insurance covered. A simple fracture coupled with an emergency room visit could wipe out that six month reserve and your easy lifestyle in a second.

          What I am going to comment on, from the vantage point of being happily married for over 28 years, is the fact that you took a unilateral action that changed both of your lives without getting even a reluctant buy-in from her.

          Like you said, you talked about quitting a lot. I'm guessing it was mostly 'someday' talk. Then you went and did it.

          The best advice I can give you right now, husband to husband, is to sit down with her and talk about this. Explain what led up to it, explore how your action affected her and what she sees coming out of it. Get everything out and on the table.

          Be prepared to compromise. Go back to your job with the understanding that once you've matched your income, covered your bases, etc. you will set out on your own with her support.

          Without that clearing of the air, things stew under the surface and bubble up at the worst possible time.
          The op hasn't described fully as to why he quit his job. Was he being abused by co-workers or were conditions bad for his health? If the job was so bad that it forced one to quit because of depression which can lead to health problems later, then maybe quitting was the best move.
          No amount of money is worth one's health.
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      • Profile picture of the author jesseakers
        Let her go work a sucky job that she hates year after year and see how she likes it! I am with you man and I bet the wife will come around, she is probably just in shock. If you have no kids and a moderate house payment I see no reason to even sweat it. Just go after your dream and never look back! And as far as having a year of income set back YEAH RIGHT! No one has a year of income set back unless they are very passionate about what they are already doing and will never need to use the money. Kudos and good luck!
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  • Profile picture of the author Valorie
    Self doubt will cripple you right now. It seems like you know what you're doing, and you can do this. Your wife might have been thinking you were just blowing off steam about quitting. Personally, I think she has had it super easy. In the long-ago before we had kids, I always worked. What did she do all day, staying home without any kids? Does she volunteer? Feed the homeless? Just let you work all day and keep her comfortable?

    I do understand her needing to feel secure. I was raised by a farmer/logger and my mother substitute taught when we were all in school. One year when I was in high school they only claimed $5,000 income on their taxes. That can be hard thinking to overcome, I still have trouble spending money and doing stuff with my kids that costs any money, because I have that scarcity thinking.

    With great risk comes great rewards. Your wife can keep you afloat, you don't have any kids, now is the time to make your dreams come true.

    IMHO

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    • Profile picture of the author Hanz
      Originally Posted by Valorie View Post

      Self doubt will cripple you right now. It seems like you know what you're doing, and you can do this. Your wife might have been thinking you were just blowing off steam about quitting. Personally, I think she has had it super easy. In the long-ago before we had kids, I always worked. What did she do all day, staying home without any kids? Does she volunteer? Feed the homeless? Just let you work all day and keep her comfortable?

      I do understand her needing to feel secure. I was raised by a farmer/logger and my mother substitute taught when we were all in school. One year when I was in high school they only claimed $5,000 income on their taxes. That can be hard thinking to overcome, I still have trouble spending money and doing stuff with my kids that costs any money, because I have that scarcity thinking.

      With great risk comes great rewards. Your wife can keep you afloat, you don't have any kids, now is the time to make your dreams come true.

      IMHO

      -Valorie
      Maybe the wife, if she's sitting home, should consider the article-writing venture?
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  • Profile picture of the author TelegramSam
    Tell your wife she needs to get a job and darn quick.

    She has had it easy for far too long.

    Tell her you are going to spend the next 6 months or so taking no effective action and just visiting this forum for a few hours each day like many others, and learning.

    I would suggest that your first product is "How to pack your job in and get rich online".

    You have already done the first bit. Your customers won't know you haven't done the second bit.

    Seriously though, just make sure you take effective action towards your objectives.

    Otherwise you will see 6 months or a year has gone by and nothing has happened except a growing overdraft.

    Read the bolded sentence again, and then come back and thank me in a year's time.

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  • Profile picture of the author cashcow
    Being a wife myself I hate it when hubby does major stuff without my "seal of approval".

    But, in your case it looks like your wife just left it up to you to be responsible to bring in the money so, I think you should be able to choose how you make that income. From your posts it appears as if she didn't care to contribute financially and I don't see why you should have to earn the money the way she wants you to earn it. It sounds like she's had it pretty good for a while so now she can help out financially while you build your empire for both of you.

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    • Profile picture of the author Lisa Gergets
      Originally Posted by cashcow View Post

      Being a wife myself I hate it when hubby does major stuff without my "seal of approval".

      But, in your case it looks like your wife just left it up to you to be responsible to bring in the money so, I think you should be able to choose how you make that income. From your posts it appears as if she didn't care to contribute financially and I don't see why you should have to earn the money the way she wants you to earn it. It sounds like she's had it pretty good for a while so now she can help out financially while you build your empire for both of you.

      Lee
      Sounds like you may very well be right...no one knows but the OP.

      My husband and I don't do anything without discussing it with the other and getting the approval first. We've both agreed that I'll quit work in April and go full-time into IM at that time. We're scared as hell, but we're going to do it!
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  • Profile picture of the author digigo
    you will be doing fine.. no guts no glory.. now you have all the freedom pursuing what you really like instead of being told what to do... and if you are getting any better with your online business you may even create jobs for the economy... 30-40% of your wage is a good start... only a few percentage of new business can make it.. yours are one of those.. so congratulations...
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  • Profile picture of the author JohnMcCabe
    Originally Posted by Hanz View Post

    The op hasn't described fully as to why he quit his job. Was he being abused by co-workers or were conditions bad for his health? If the job was so bad that it forced one to quit because of depression which can lead to health problems later, then maybe quitting was the best move.
    No amount of money is worth one's health.
    Hanz, did you even read the first (original) post? Here's the first paragraph:

    OK, so here's the deal. I just turned in my resignation at a good paying job. Why? Because I felt like my life was going by and I saw myself at the job for the next 20 years if I didn't do something. It was a good job and I worked with good people. No complaints about the job except general working complaints.
    I don't see anything in that that even hints about poor conditions, abuse or depression.

    I don't even remember saying that the act of quitting his job was wrong. That's not up to me, anyway. Where I differed was in the way he did it. He asked for comments and advice, I gave it.
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    • Profile picture of the author Hanz
      Originally Posted by JohnMcCabe View Post

      Hanz, did you even read the first (original) post? Here's the first paragraph:



      I don't see anything in that that even hints about poor conditions, abuse or depression.

      I don't even remember saying that the act of quitting his job was wrong. That's not up to me, anyway. Where I differed was in the way he did it. He asked for comments and advice, I gave it.
      Oh sorry, I missed that first paragraph. Darn! my bad! Sorry John.
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  • Profile picture of the author Nemanja
    I will say just go for it and don't look back now, concentrate on the business and how you can grow it and get new customers.

    Also talk to your wife but be determine, if she see that you are self confident she will accept that fact better. If she don't know nothing about IM then help her to find some job.

    Just think positive and things will sort out.

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  • Profile picture of the author sbucciarel
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    If you can rescind your resignation, I would do it immediately. Internet Marketing has no guarantees and MANY PEOPLE FAIL at it. I can easily see why your wife is both mad and panicked, particularly in this economic climate.

    It would be a lot wiser to BE a success and ALREADY be making the money you need to live off of and have some BACKUP SAVINGS accrued before making such a rash move.
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    • Profile picture of the author DogScout
      Originally Posted by sbucciarel View Post

      If you can rescind your resignation, I would do it immediately. Internet Marketing has no guarantees and MANY PEOPLE FAIL at it. I can easily see why your wife is both mad and panicked, particularly in this economic climate.

      It would be a lot wiser to BE a success and ALREADY be making the money you need to live off of and have some BACKUP SAVINGS accrued before making such a rash move.
      Amen. With about a 3% success rate, you have lost your mind. Plus the average time to get a living wage on IM is 3 years, Of course you could be one of the exceptions, but be prepared to take action and WORK!
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      • Profile picture of the author Silas Hart
        First of all, don't quit your job. Most of the people who make a living through internet marketing or any job working at home first earned their start up money by working a 9-5. My business makes about 230k a year (thats before the employees, and all of the overhead) and I STILL work a 9-5 job. If I had got started with absolutely no money, it would have taken YEARS, but once I was able to actually invest in myself, it took just a couple months with no struggles on my personal life.
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  • Profile picture of the author Steve Powers
    Well,I guess you're still young since you don't have a baby.So there are many chances for you.Now that you have made this choice,just let it be history.Working online can be also treated as your business.And I dare to say you will have more chances in this area than working in the office.Therefore,come on and I'm sure you will make it in the future.
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  • Profile picture of the author Katie Rich
    Blimey! Giving up a well paid job is a difficult decision. As long as you have factored in all the 'extras' and are quietly confident of improving your online business, then you should be ok.

    I have no idea how things work where you are, but here, if you make yourself 'voluntarily unemployed' (i.e. quit your job or get fired) there is no unemployment benefit for 6 months.

    Hopefully, your wife will overcome her panic and be supportive. Whilst you may have discussed it, it's not the same as actually doing it and then telling her!

    I wish you every possible success.
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  • Profile picture of the author Ashley Skuse
    As a full-time student, I previously had to rely purely on my student loan to cover my living costs. It just wasn't enough and I realised I was gonna lose the roof over my head.

    The pressure of losing everything led me to start on my quest to make money online via blogging, affiliate marketing, and product creation. Now I'm making a nice bit of money which is more than enough to pay rent, that's for sure. It did take some time to build up, so I had to comprimise with my landlord and billing companies, but it wasn't the end of the world...

    Now, I'm at a point where in the first time in a long time, I can actually buy myself luxuries rather than just live on a shoestring. The good thing is that the money grows as long as you have a passion for what you're doing.

    So, even though we clearly come from different situations, the point is that you can absolutely make a lot more money than you did before. The opportunity to scale up your online income is always going to be there.
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  • Profile picture of the author jjbalagosa
    Bravo man! Most people will choose to follow listen to their fears rather than follow their passions. Glad you chose the latter. It's what separates giants from mice.

    Don't listen to people that are trying to make you second guess your decision. There will always be those people in life. Surprisingly, they're usually the people closest to you.

    (Without going into too much personal detail...) I know from personal experience that there's almost nothing that's irreparable. And most "worst case scenarios" are imaginary.

    You may think your decision is a little selfish, but you are doing the right thing. We only have one relatively short life to live; and in the end we lose it all anyway. So why not live life accordingly?
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      • Profile picture of the author jjbalagosa
        Originally Posted by Lincoln Ryan View Post

        If you live single and can handle the downside, then go ahead. But if you have a wife or family, then your passions take a backseat to your responsibility.
        Thanks for reminding me.

        Forgot to mention, I'm happily married and have a son that makes me laugh all the time. That's partly what I was talking about when I said that I was speaking from experience.
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        • Profile picture of the author Karen Blundell
          don't listen to naysayers and fear-mongers. Entrepreneurs are risk-takers and most have failed many times before they succeeded. So don't be afraid of failure and don't be afraid of people disapproving of your choice to quit your job.

          watch this video for inspiration:

          My story: In 1996 I quit my Government of Canada cushy job. It was a unionized job with full benefits, good pay..etc. I was and still am a single mom. Most of my friends thought I was insane. But I took some of my serverance money and bought a computer, taught myself HTML, then later XHTML, then CSS, then PHP...etc. I was determined and though I'm still not wealthy financially, it was the freedom that I craved, not really the money, although I like money too. Wealth means different things to people, and at the time I appreciated the wealth of time I had to learn new things and to raise my son.

          Besides, that government job was soul-sucking, it stifled my creativity, and I felt half-dead there. Not only that, but my son was being cared for by strangers...

          So when I quit and started making a modest living online, I didn't care that there was feast or famine times and zero security. I was happy that I could work from home, and still go on school trips with my son, or drive him to basketball games after school. That was what I called FREEDOM!

          I wouldn't trade entrepreneurship for anything, however, I'm not adverse to taking a part-time "job" if needed.

          I wish you every success on your journey. Enjoy the ride!
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  • Profile picture of the author Valorie
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    Here's a little unsolicited advice about keeping your health insurance. In May, my husband left a job that was stressful, dangerous, and made him come home a total jerk, since he was venting his frustration at his job back at us, where it was "safe". So he walked away, and we are both self employed now. But we kept paying for our health insurance even though we are both relatively young and healthy. Writing that check every month hurt, but we did it.

    The day after Christmas, my healthy husband developed "gut pain". Now we are in the process of ruling out one terrifying possibility after another. Yesterday in the waiting room of the surgeon's office, another youngish couple came in. They didn't have health insurance, and they had to fork over $300 cash. We had a $25 co-pay. Having health insurance will make a huge difference for us, even though we have a big deductible.

    I will never regret my husband leaving his job, because last summer was fantastic for us, and the kids. My husband was happy, and he and I split up the daytime hours for our work, so they had lots of Dad time, for the first time in their lives. If it was one of our last summers together, I am extra glad that it happened this way.

    So it makes me feel bad, I kind of dumped on your wife. Make sure you love each other and make happy memories as you go. Don't let money mess with a good thing. None of us has any guarantee of how long we will be on this earth. Love and people come first, money second.

    I wish you and your wife all the happiness and love in the world. And I wish you continued and expanded success in your online business!

    -Valorie
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    • Profile picture of the author JohnZags
      Congrats,

      I believe if you truly went through with quitting your job that proves that you have enough confidence in your ability to earn a solid living working from home.

      Believe it or not, I've never been employed by another person. When I graduated college I shopped the job market for a while and nothing was out there. I started my own business and 5 years later I am still advancing.

      I believe your wife should be supportive of your decisions because you are obviously the one paying the bills. As long as the bills continue to get paid and she has a roof over her head I see no reason why she would panic.

      Working from home is definitely a different kind of monster though. You need to be very plan oriented as it is very easy to get off the beaten path when you do not have anybody to answer to. I am part of Mario's "NO BS IM Success" membership site and he recommended a piece of software called "Action Enforcer" It is a great tool to keep you on course through out the day.

      My advice to you would be to save forums like this for your free time. You can lose hours a day surfing forums and other websites when you could be doing things a lot more productive. Good luck to you my friend and I am sure you are going to do great.
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      • Profile picture of the author deniserowe
        Wow, this post hit on a very sensitive topic. So many replies. I guess I will drop my two cents in.

        Quitting your job took courage and strong faith in yourself. You may have gone about it in the wrong way where your wife is concerned though. Nevertheless, you did it. Take full responsibility for your decision. Don't go back to your employer; they may not trust you again.

        Time to take action...set some goals for yourself...develop a daily action plan. Learn how to work smarter, not harder. Don't just assume you need to work 10-12hrs a day. Make sure you save time for your wife. That last thing you need is to neglect her while trying to build your business. Involve her in some of its aspects. She may make a great partner and also realize the life you both can have by building it together.

        I don't hope it will work out for you...I know it will work out. You've already taken the first major step.
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      • Profile picture of the author Kay King
        I could rescind my resignation right now
        Do it!

        To quit a job when you are making money online is one thing - when you are just feeling super confident that you CAN earn online MAYBE in the FUTURE is irresponsible unless you have enough in savings to carry your living expenses for at least six months if not longer.

        Why on earth would you take such a life changing step without consulting your partner in life - your wife - first?

        If you have a reasonably good job as you say, stop griping about it and use your spare time to get started online.

        EDIT: I see now you are already making money online. I understand your reasoning but for your sake in the future I wouldn't pull a stunt like this on your wife again! You may have discussed it without doing anything but it would have been best to tell her "tomorrow I am going to quit".

        Good luck with it.

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      • Profile picture of the author Alex Arseniy
        hmmm...

        If i were you, i would get my job back, but not for a long time.

        just save up a little and while you are doing that, you could learn as much as you can about making money onling.

        The fact that you are running your own websites already shows that you are smart, but there is still so much you can learn.

        To be honest, i have not made a penny from the internet yet but i am confident that one day i will know what to do and take action (i am still learning and studying)

        But I know a person who makes money online and he made me read this ebook.

        it had good information, but i asked him "why did you make me read it? I am not going to need this" but he told me that it doesnt matter because now i got some good info and who knows, maybe it will come to good use

        So basically my advice is to get your job back for a little bit, then you can quit later because from the way i see it, it doesnt look like you have a good backup plan..

        I also lost my job and right after that, i wanted to learn how to make money online.

        hope this helps
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      • Profile picture of the author VegasVince
        I love anyone with the wavos to quit their clock punching jobs...which is basically legalized slavery.

        Quitting a job to go out and roll the dice on your dream is noble in my book.

        However.....

        Quitting a job with absolutely no plan in place.....is a recipe for a divorce in the making.

        And you will have to write a lot of "articles" in order to pay for the attorney fees.... when your wife runs out of patience...after the cable, lights, and the rest of it get shut off.

        Don't find out the hard way...that a nickle a word for an article on why Humming Birds Hum...aint gonna buy a loaf of bread much less pay the mortgage.

        With that said....I wish you the best of luck.

        But I wouldn't be wasting a lot of time.....looking for the key to Xanadu...cuz it aint available.

        And what do I know for sure?

        Desperation is a recipe for failure too....a train wreck waiting to happen. The more you have to have it....the more you tend to drive it away.

        I'd do something....get in the marketplace....cuz in order to eat you are going to HAVE TO SELL SOMETHING.

        And you better not sell "theory".

        Better be something with a big margin...that people can't live without. Otherwise....you might just end up a single bachelor before you know it.


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      • Profile picture of the author Scott Henderson
        I say go for it, and don't look back. Desperation will bring out the best in you. I live off the theory that those who take the biggest risks get the biggest rewards.

        When my employer "quit me", I never even considered going to look elsewhere. I'm in my mid 40's in good health and can proudly say that if I want to get on a plane tomorrow and fly to where ever my heart desires I can,,,,,,,, so long as I have a wifi to do my chosen career path.

        Your wife may be ticked off now, but use that as motivation to push you to pursue your dreams, she'll look back one day and be happy you had the balls to stand up for yourself and to work for nobody but you and your family.

        You live this life once,, live it!!
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      • Profile picture of the author Denise Million
        To me it depends on how much money you have in the bank to cover expenses while you pursue a new career. I had money saved up and then was out of work comfortably for several months. Maybe that would have been a better way to present your case to your wife. I think her feelings - if she truly is your best friend - should have been considered.

        You can live your dream alone, that is true. But is it what you really want?
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      • Profile picture of the author Hardi Wijaya
        I've never been in this situation before.

        You can make it if you truly believe. But you still need your wife's support. Because you're not living as an individual anymore.

        Being a married person, I know that life gets better only when my wife supports me wholeheartedly.


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  • Profile picture of the author Nick Brighton
    Here's my advice....

    Take half the advice you've been given in this thread with a major pinch of salt!

    So much advice seem to be opinions based on no experience...or worse still, based on fear.

    Yes, you'll struggle...

    Yes, you will spend the next few years making mistakes and having peaks and troffs with your income

    Yes, you will want to give up

    Yes, you will get bored, distracted and lost...

    Some folks will think they are "working hard" to suceed, when they are playing around with their QWERTY keyboard in the evenings in front of the TV, whilst their wives watch desperate housewives....

    ...others spend all day, religously learning, testing, networking...and TAKING ACTION.

    Throw enough darts at the dartboard, and you'll score a bulleye sooner or later.

    Let me tell you, right now is the best and sweetest part of your entrepreneurial journey. I should know, because I jacked my job without a stable income (less than you), and it fired my online career up like a rocket.

    Sure, most people want safety and security...which is part of the employee mindset. When you start running your own business, you'll soon find that risk and danger is part of your daily life.

    You can't make it in this game if you are expecting to sit back and have someone send you work, and make decisions for you.

    Bottom line? Congratulations...I have a feeling you won't be going back to your 9-5 from here on out...it's just an impossible thought once you've tasted REAL freedom.

    Well done, now put the blinkers on and move, move, move!
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  • Profile picture of the author JaiJay
    I can completely see where you are coming from. In my last job I was very happy to begin with and after a few years it all went downhill. As you are, I became extremely unhappy and no longer found it easy to get into the car to head to work, it was like I wanted to break down or find some reason to be there for a little less time. I did the same thing, I resigned and became self-employed. I won't lie, it was extremely difficult for the first few months but I bit the bullet and feel happy now. There is NOTHING worse than not being able to smile when you wake up for work.
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  • Profile picture of the author JaiJay
    This is a very good point. Although I did go 100% self-employed straight after leaving my regular job, I had always worked "part-time" in my evenings and weekends working on my internet projects. Nothing was new and I did have experience.

    What are you planning to do or do you already have something set up?
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  • Profile picture of the author silvervixen
    I hope that you make enough from your online ventures to replace your income and that you have enough saved up that it won't affect you if you were to hit a dry spell.

    My advice is to make sure you don't put your eggs in one basket, make sure you have several sources of income, in case one of them dries up...IM is notoriously fickle.

    Best of luck!
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  • Profile picture of the author johnben1444
    I kind of have similar problem with you except am not married and am trying to go back to school and am quiting my job in the next 6months.

    I understand exactly where you are heading from. Obviously you are confused but it looks like you are doing well. Did you say you are earning 30% or could earn 30%.

    My advice is for you to get along with people who are in the same niche as yours in this forum. It will really go a long way.

    If you are earning 30% and you feel you can live with that, then great.

    You are welcome on board.
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  • Well, I am not sure how timely this post will be for you but here goes..If you can get your job back. Do that. Family comes first. Then put a plan together. All of the hours you have available outside of work, grow your business. Then give yourself a deadline to achieve the monetary goals you need. I would love to have someone like you as a part of my marketing team. Get in touch..
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  • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
    Originally Posted by aboutusnow View Post

    OK, so here's the deal. I just turned in my resignation at a good paying job. Why? Because I felt like my life was going by and I saw myself at the job for the next 20 years if I didn't do something. It was a good job and I worked with good people. No complaints about the job except general working complaints. ... Any advice?
    If you'd have come in here and said what you did without asking for advice I'd have said congratulations and wished you well. If you were single I'd say say go for it and wish you well. But you are not single, and you did ask for advice, so...

    You quit a good job that pays well, working with good people and not having any complaints other than you didn't want to do it for the next twenty years.

    I'd call the decision to quit without telling your wife ahead of time selfish and irresponsible. You entered into a partnership with her when you married, but you didn't even give her the courtesy of saying, "Honey, I'm going to quit in 6 months or one year." That would have at least shown her the respect she deserves, and given her a chance to get a job before you quit, instead of her hunting for one now out of fear.

    Frankly, I think your wife has every reason to distrust your judgment and commitment to her from here on out. You've already proven that what you want is more important than what she thinks.

    Besides telling her in advance, and setting a date far enough into the future that she could become comfortable about it and could find a job beforehand if she wanted, you should have had more money saved up. Six months is nothing. One emergency can wipe that out in a day.

    You may have talked about it for a year, but your decision was still one-sided and unexpected. I don't mean to discourage you, but you're going about chasing your dream all wrong, in my opinion. You violated a trust and partnership with your wife, in my opinion. You could have gone for your dreams without doing that. You could have gone for your dreams in a more mature and planned way.

    So now you're going to work 11-12 hours a day for about 30-40 percent of what you were making. All you've really done is change jobs...for less pay, less security, and no benefits.

    Sorry, but that's the way I see it. My advice would be to get your job back and PLAN for a transition to self-employment. There is no rush other than the one in your own mind.

    Originally Posted by NY1 View Post


    To quote Benjamin Franklin;

    "Those that would choose security over freedom deserve neither."
    The real quote is: Those who would give up Essential Liberty to purchase a little Temporary Safety, deserve neither Liberty nor Safety.

    Because you quoted a *******ized variation, it tells me you don't know the context of the quote, which was in reference to war. It's alright if you want to offer that advice as coming from you, but to infer Benjamin Franklin supports this decision through his published words by taking them out of context is disingenuous at best.

    Someone said "Entrepreneurs are risk-takers" ...that's true, but the risks they take are not impulsive risks. They are calculated risks based on educated decisions. Donald Trump doesn't buy property because he feels like, he investigates many factors before investing. Anything less is just counting on dumb luck.

    But then again, everything I've written is just my opinion. It isn't worth any more than any other opinion on this page, so take what you can use and chalk the rest up to the ramblings of a delusional old man...and I do still wish you well. I hope you are financially independent and happy as a clam before the year is out.
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    • Profile picture of the author Silas Hart
      Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

      If you'd have come in here and said what you did without asking for advice I'd have said congratulations and wished you well. If you were single I'd say say go for it and wish you well. But you are not single, and you did ask for advice, so...

      You quit a good job that pays well, working with good people and not having any complaints other than you didn't want to do it for the next twenty years.

      I'd call the decision to quit without telling your wife ahead of time selfish and irresponsible. You entered into a partnership with her when you married, but you didn't even give her the courtesy of saying, "Honey, I'm going to quit in 6 months or one year." That would have at least shown her the respect she deserves, and given her a chance to get a job before you quit, instead of her hunting for one now out of fear.

      Frankly, I think your wife has every reason to distrust your judgment and commitment to her from here on out. You've already proven that what you want is more important than what she thinks.

      Besides telling her in advance, and setting a date far enough into the future that she could become comfortable about it and could find a job beforehand if she wanted, you should have had more money saved up. Six months is nothing. One emergency can wipe that out in a day.

      You may have talked about it for a year, but your decision was still one-sided and unexpected. I don't mean to discourage you, but you're going about chasing your dream all wrong, in my opinion. You violated a trust and partnership with your wife, in my opinion. You could have gone for your dreams without doing that. You could have gone for your dreams in a more mature and planned way.

      So now you're going to work 11-12 hours a day for about 30-40 percent of what you were making. All you've really done is change jobs...for less pay, less security, and no benefits.

      Sorry, but that's the way I see it. My advice would be to get your job back and PLAN for a transition to self-employment. There is no rush other than the one in your own mind.



      The real quote is: Those who would give up Essential Liberty to purchase a little Temporary Safety, deserve neither Liberty nor Safety.

      Because you quoted a *******ized variation, it tells me you don't know the context of the quote, which was in reference to war. It's alright if you want to offer that advice as coming from you, but to infer Benjamin Franklin supports this decision through his published words by taking them out of context is disingenuous at best.

      Someone said "Entrepreneurs are risk-takers" ...that's true, but the risks they take are not impulsive risks. They are calculated risks based on educated decisions. Donald Trump doesn't buy property because he feels like, he investigates many factors before investing. Anything less is just counting on dumb luck.

      But then again, everything I've written is just my opinion. It isn't worth any more than any other opinion on this page, so take what you can use and chalk the rest up to the ramblings of a delusional old man...and I do still wish you well. I hope you are financially independent and happy as a clam before the year is out.
      I love this post. Just wanted to say that.
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      • Profile picture of the author Vagabond 007
        Logically speaking, this was an incredibly stupid move.

        Emotionally speaking, I completely understand why you did it.

        Either way, best of luck. I hope you succeed at whatever adventure you're headed on and in a few years from now, look back and laugh at how ballsy this decision was.
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    • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
      Originally Posted by JaiJay View Post

      This thread just goes to show how very different the logical and emotional sides of the same story can be. I'm whole-heartedly with you on the emotional side. I've always said if you don't like something, then change it. There's nothing worse than someone who hates their job and every day fills them with sadness...but then they don't look for anything new to change that situation.
      You're right, there are two distinctly different ways to look at it. What some of us have been trying to say, however, is that it didn't have to be an either/or decision based on emotion or reason, it could have been an emotionally driven decision tempered with reason...best of both worlds, so to speak.

      Originally Posted by sbucciarel View Post

      Yes actually, there is something worse. Not having a job and not being able to support yourself and family is a whole lot worse.

      It's incomprehensible to a lot of us that this decision was made impulsively, rather than rationally, without even consulting the person he has chosen to be a partner in life. If you have such a lack of communication and disregard for a spouse's feelings and opinions on such an important decision, one that affects both of you, you might find yourself only having to take care of yourself, and doing exactly what only you wants to do.
      Well said.

      Originally Posted by NY1 View Post

      Actually I do know the context of the quote and I should have said I was paraphrasing because I was going off of memory and not googling it. I also made the mistake of thinking that most people would know right off the bat what the original context was.

      For you to presume that I don't know this is just your judgment based on very little data. Or, you wanted to show how 'smart' you are.
      Point taken, thank you for clarifying. No, I wasn't trying to show how smart I am. I don't think along those lines at all. I was merely pointing out to the OP that Ben Franklin's words were taken out of context and had little bearing on the discussion when considered in context. I seriously doubt if most people know which version is the correct one, where it appeared, or the context it was used in. The only reason I knew it is because I'm a collector of quotations and quotation books. You are right though, I did make an assumption about you, and for that I apologize.
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  • Profile picture of the author billross
    Get your job back! The economy is a mess and the only smart thing to do is have security for your family! That does not prevent you from building your online business. If you think you can't make it work because you don't have time then take some of the money you make at your JOB and outsource. Build a team. You don't want to do it all yourself anyway. Be smart and get your JOB back. Now is not the time to give up a paycheck if your other options is not producing what you need to live on.

    Trust me - life experience.
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  • Profile picture of the author newbim
    You know what? You'll look back on this decision in ten or twenty years and be able to say "This was the best decision of my life" - Good luck with everything.

    Cheers,

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  • Profile picture of the author Scott Ames
    You just took a leap. Some will agree, some won't, but you did it. Now you are much like Cortez.


    ... his quest for riches is legendary. Cortez was an excellent motivator, he convinced more than 500 soldiers and 100 sailors to set sail from Spain to Mexico, commanding 11 ships, to take the world's richest treasure. The historic question is "how a small band of Spanish soldiers arrived in a strange country and swiftly brought about the overthrow of a large and powerful empire that was in power for over six centuries?"

    For Cortez, the answer was easy. It was all or nothing! A Complete and Total Commitment. Here's how Cortez got the "buy in" from the rest of his men. He took away the option of failure. It was conquer and be hero's and enjoy the spoils of victory...or DIE! When Cortez and his men arrived on the shores of the Yucatan he rallied the men for one final pep talk before leading his men into battle, and utters these three words that changed the course of history. "Burn the Ships".
    Can you imagine how crazy everyone thought he was? Burn 11 perfectly good and expensive ships that were his only way back?

    Good luck. Make it happen.
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    • Profile picture of the author Rod Cortez
      Originally Posted by Scott Ames View Post

      You just took a leap. Some will agree, some won't, but you did it. Now you are much like Cortez.

      Can you imagine how crazy everyone thought he was? Burn 11 perfectly good and expensive ships that were his only way back?

      Good luck. Make it happen.
      Yeah, that Cortez guy had a cool last name too.

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  • Profile picture of the author Marketstriker
    I've passed through last year. The same situation: good job, not much interest in it and the wish to do something greater. Exception is that I don't have a wife, only girlfriend. I remember the same fear. But I just believe that every new change in my life is a new experience, what is better than lifetime routine. Every new change in my life leads me closer to my dream life style and my passion. And it happed like I told... I like to work online for myself. It became my passion. And it helps me little by little to create my dream lifestyle.
    I don't say that you must quit well paid job. It has its benefits. Just think what is worth?
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    • Profile picture of the author theemperor
      From this thread I have learned something very interesting ... about marriage. It seems to mean for many people that you have no freedom to even consider doing something daring, let alone actually discuss it with your spouse, or execute it. You are confined to a life of medicroty, the main priority to earn steady money to keep the other one happy, so you can pay that mortgage and own that new car, have 2 weeks holiday and 2.4 children. Have I got this right? :confused:
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      • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
        Originally Posted by theemperor View Post

        From this thread I have learned something very interesting ... about marriage. It seems to mean for many people that you have no freedom to even consider doing something daring, let alone actually discuss it with your spouse, or execute it. You are confined to a life of medicroty, the main priority to earn steady money to keep the other one happy, so you can pay that mortgage and own that new car, have 2 weeks holiday and 2.4 children. Have I got this right? :confused:
        Not really. You are still free to do as you will, but you give your spouse the respect they deserve and bring them into the decision making process when it affects their life too. In the end you can still do what you want even if you don't get your spouse on board if it's that important to you, just tell them and give them time to accept it or to do what they think they need to do. When you get married you form a partnership, it's really not that difficult to understand.

        As for mediocrity, that is your opinion based on your judgments. For one person what you describe as mediocrity may be another man's heaven. Believing your judgments apply to the rest of the world is a dangerous and foolish game.
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        • Profile picture of the author theemperor
          Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

          Not really. You are still free to do as you will, but you give your spouse the respect they deserve and bring them into the decision making process when it affects their life too.
          That is what I think is best. Some of the posts are along the lines of "you shouldn't do that if you have a wife" which I why I raised the question.

          Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

          As for mediocrity, that is your opinion based on your judgments. For one person what you describe as mediocrity may be another man's heaven. Believing your judgments apply to the rest of the world is a dangerous and foolish game.
          I agree!

          For me mediocrity is living the life you think you should lead based on what society tells you to do (or implies you should do). It has nothing to do with whether you are a pop-singer or a chimney sweep - but more to do with living your life to be (and I'll use your word here) "heaven".

          You could email me your CV and from that I couldn't tell if your life is medicore. There is of course more too it.

          But saying you can't do X because I have a wife to me sounds like a recipe for a medicore life.

          Finally I do admit to being devils advocate a bit because I think this is an important debate and directly relevant to IM. There are people here who seem to have rules about life that are quite limiting. And I admit I am one of them! But I am trying to change that.

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          • Profile picture of the author JohnMcCabe
            Originally Posted by theemperor View Post

            From this thread I have learned something very interesting ... about marriage. It seems to mean for many people that you have no freedom to even consider doing something daring, let alone actually discuss it with your spouse, or execute it. You are confined to a life of medicroty, the main priority to earn steady money to keep the other one happy, so you can pay that mortgage and own that new car, have 2 weeks holiday and 2.4 children. Have I got this right? :confused:
            I had a hunch you might be a single guy...

            On a gorgeous fall day in 1981, my wife and I both said "I do" and we haven't looked back. This has nothing to do with whether or not someone has "freedom to consider doing something daring" or not. It has everything to do with respect.

            When I was laid off from my own engineering job, we looked at the prospects, I went on a few interviews, and together we decided that the only real prospects were in places we did not want to live. On that day, I became self-employed. We've had tough times since, but we always get through them because we're both pulling in the same direction.
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            • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
              Originally Posted by Scott Murdaugh View Post

              I haven't read the other replies.

              I quit my job single and almost broke, at about 24 years old.

              Long story short, best decision I've ever made. Just do it. I quit for the same reason, I don't want to spend my life in a job I hate. And now 3+ years later I don't. (And haven't since then).

              -Scott
              Different situation entirely, Scott. You were single and hated your job, he is married and liked his job, he just didn't want to be doing it 20 years from now. He could have set himself up better and still freed himself from his job. There was no rush. He'd been thinking about it for a year but apparently made few plans and didn't prepare well for this decision. If he was well-prepared he wouldn't be here asking for advice, he'd be working his plan.

              Originally Posted by JohnMcCabe View Post

              We've had tough times since, but we always get through them because we're both pulling in the same direction.
              Right on the money, John. When two people are pulling in the same direction very little is impossible to them. When they pull in different directions, they weaken each other. Too long spent pulling in different directions often breaks the tie that binds.
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      • Originally Posted by theemperor View Post

        From this thread I have learned something very interesting ... about marriage. It seems to mean for many people that you have no freedom to even consider doing something daring, let alone actually discuss it with your spouse, or execute it. You are confined to a life of medicroty, the main priority to earn steady money to keep the other one happy, so you can pay that mortgage and own that new car, have 2 weeks holiday and 2.4 children. Have I got this right? :confused:
        I currently help take care of my father who is 78 years old and suffering from Alzheimer's.
        This man worked his entire life even after he retired from the mill because the mill filed bankruptcy shortly after his retirement and took most of his pension away.

        Now he is near death and never got to enjoy any of his life or his hard earned cash because of a dead end job and putting trust in others.
        I see many of his mill working friends in the same boat too. They spent their lives working for others just to have their "security" pulled out from under them.

        What we have to remember in this life is that there is no destination, except death, and that living the adventure Now is where life and freedom is at. Not in the waiting room waiting for another day.

        The best of luck to you!
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        • Profile picture of the author jjbalagosa
          Originally Posted by HomeComputerGames View Post

          I currently help take care of my father who is 78 years old and suffering from Alzheimer's.
          This man worked his entire life even after he retired from the mill because the mill filed bankruptcy shortly after his retirement and took most of his pension away.

          Now he is near death and never got to enjoy any of his life or his hard earned cash because of a dead end job and putting trust in others.
          I see many of his mill working friends in the same boat too. They spent their lives working for others just to have their "security" pulled out from under them.

          What we have to remember in this life is that there is no destination, except death, and that living the adventure Now is where life and freedom is at. Not in the waiting room waiting for another day.

          The best of luck to you!
          I can definitely relate to this. My father was an electrical engineer for 30 years at well known large company. He also had a freelance business that he was pursuing part time. He let the business go because he wanted to spend more time with my brother and I. He chose the job over the business because he thought it meant more security.

          In 2004, how did his company repay him for 30 years of hard work and loyalty? A lay off and an empty promise of help finding a new job. (He's still currently, but happily unemployed.)

          I say this not to mock my father of a wrong decision (He's one of my greatest heroes and always will be), but to emphasize that job security is just an illusion. Smoke and mirrors put in place by powerful people, to help insure that there are plenty of employees to keep their pockets full.
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      • Profile picture of the author JaiJay
        Originally Posted by theemperor View Post

        From this thread I have learned something very interesting ... about marriage. It seems to mean for many people that you have no freedom to even consider doing something daring, let alone actually discuss it with your spouse, or execute it. You are confined to a life of medicroty, the main priority to earn steady money to keep the other one happy, so you can pay that mortgage and own that new car, have 2 weeks holiday and 2.4 children. Have I got this right? :confused:
        Although I'm not married and do not have any children, I still cannot agree with this post Remember, different families have differnt priorities and many live their lives in entirely different ways.

        To be married certainly does not mean that you have no freedom. Marrying someone means you wish to share your life with them so it is at least courteous to involve them in some of the decision making. This is especially vital if you have children, they need to be put through school, fed and clothed.

        If this kind of thing has been taken into consideration then an agreement can be made between the couple about what is best.
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      • Profile picture of the author Marketstriker
        Originally Posted by theemperor View Post

        From this thread I have learned something very interesting ... about marriage. It seems to mean for many people that you have no freedom to even consider doing something daring, let alone actually discuss it with your spouse, or execute it. You are confined to a life of medicroty, the main priority to earn steady money to keep the other one happy, so you can pay that mortgage and own that new car, have 2 weeks holiday and 2.4 children. Have I got this right? :confused:
        You described the situation that I've met a lot of times in my life. People marry, make children and live their lives. But the marriage is not the reason for mediocrity. Besides what you've named mediocrity for other person is happy life. The reason lies in a mindset.

        Nevertheless it doesn't mean everybody lives like you told. I know couples that try understand each other and create a synergy affect. They contribute to the personality of each other, make many things together, which includes risky ideas. It depends on the mindset and personality.
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      • Profile picture of the author Kim Standerline
        No you haven't got it right at all

        Obviously different people have a different perspective etc on marriage, but to me it is a partnership where you discuss major decisions before they are taken.

        I've been very very successful with my online biz, but I never ever gave my offline job up. That was for 2 reasons, first being that I actually like going out to work and meeting other people etc. But the other reason is my husband would have been drastically upset that I jacked in a very well paid job for something he considered was built on sand!

        We discussed my giving up work to pursue my online ventures, but it would have buggered up my pension which I can claim in just over 2 years as a nurse. He has fully supported every decision I've made otherwise to do with IM

        We certainly don't have a mediocre lifestyle and I'd suspect most other married Imers on here don't either.

        To finish, the OP doesn't have children which he obviously factored into his decision, but if you do take on the responsibility of having children, then that includes they are adequately dressed, fed and have a roof over their head. That isn't mediocre either, it's called taking responsibility...

        Anyon'es life is only as mediocre as they wish to make it!

        Kim

        Originally Posted by theemperor View Post

        From this thread I have learned something very interesting ... about marriage. It seems to mean for many people that you have no freedom to even consider doing something daring, let alone actually discuss it with your spouse, or execute it. You are confined to a life of medicroty, the main priority to earn steady money to keep the other one happy, so you can pay that mortgage and own that new car, have 2 weeks holiday and 2.4 children. Have I got this right? :confused:
        I love Vegas Vince, he puts everything into a nutshell lol

        Originally Posted by VegasVince View Post

        I love anyone with the wavos to quit their clock punching jobs...which is basically legalized slavery.

        Quitting a job to go out and roll the dice on your dream is noble in my book.

        However.....

        Quitting a job with absolutely no plan in place.....is a recipe for a divorce in the making.

        And you will have to write a lot of "articles" in order to pay for the attorney fees.... when your wife runs out of patience...after the cable, lights, and the rest of it get shut off.

        Don't find out the hard way...that a nickle a word for an article on why Humming Birds Hum...aint gonna buy a loaf of bread much less pay the mortgage.

        With that said....I wish you the best of luck.

        But I wouldn't be wasting a lot of time.....looking for the key to Xanadu...cuz it aint available.

        And what do I know for sure?

        Desperation is a recipe for failure too....a train wreck waiting to happen. The more you have to have it....the more you tend to drive it away.

        I'd do something....get in the marketplace....cuz in order to eat you are going to HAVE TO SELL SOMETHING.

        And you better not sell "theory".

        Better be something with a big margin...that people can't live without. Otherwise....you might just end up a single bachelor before you know it.


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        • Profile picture of the author JohnMcCabe
          One thing people always forget when they hear that quote about Cortez (Hernando, not Rod) is that while burning the ships may have contributed to conquering the Aztecs, so did a little thing called 'smallpox'...
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  • Profile picture of the author JaiJay
    John, could you please tell me more about where I can find out about the NO BS IM Success" membership site? I'm not sure about Googling it in case I come up against a copycat site.

    I too find it very difficult to keep focused, there is always something that can send me on my way into dream world. This must be hard for most though right?
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  • Profile picture of the author b.super13
    Wow, that takes some serious balls. If you follow the right plan you should be able to make more than enough for both of you to live on without working regular jobs.

    On the very positive side. Now you have 100% more time to work at your online business. I was always told and believe that you will work much harder for yourself than for someone else.

    Good luck to you.
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  • Profile picture of the author kaos
    The job is gone so it is now time to move along in the next phase of your life. You said that you can or were going to grow your online business. I would set down and outline and set up goals to measure yourself. Distractions are a time killer and before you know it your savings are gone.

    Be honest with yourself of where you are going and how you are getting there. Put in all your time to reach your goal.
    Do not deceive yourself into believing you can put things off. You need to get everything done now until you have reached your goal.
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    • Profile picture of the author JV3STUDIO
      You sound like an intelligent young man. I bet you're going to be fine. What's most important is to focus on getting income producing work done - every day 7/7 until you're making enough to slow things down a bit.

      10 years ago I did the same thing. It wasn't always easy but I'm better off today.

      Good luck!
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  • Profile picture of the author Scott Murdaugh
    I haven't read the other replies.

    I quit my job single and almost broke, at about 24 years old.

    Long story short, best decision I've ever made. Just do it. I quit for the same reason, I don't want to spend my life in a job I hate. And now 3+ years later I don't. (And haven't since then).

    -Scott
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  • Profile picture of the author iVentureBiz
    I understand completely where you're coming from... I too had those times where I would be at a job and just decide to quit on a whim because I couldn't take it anymore... Not necessarily the job but just the idea of working 9-5 for the rest of my life at some menial job.

    Hang in there...

    There really are a couple options at this point for you -especially depending on your personality.

    1. Quitting is a good thing, painting yourself into a wall sometimes where you have no choice but to succeed can really help give you the motivation you need to actually follow through on what needs to be done - in your case working 10 - 12 hour on making money online (as you said). It can be scary at first to put all your faith into things just working out but it really ensures that you give it your best shot.

    2. The other situation here is that you look into getting some kind of part time work to help cover the bills... I mean jobs are a dime a dozen so there really isn't a worry of never getting money again (as long as you're not too picky with where you work) - with the right resume you can get a job anywhere. Heck I never finished highschool and at my peak while I was working typical jobs I was making near $30 rubbing shoulders with people that had 4+ years of college. The reason I got the job? Marketing myself... with a flashy resume and connecting with people in interviews....

    Anyways I digress.

    My suggestions?

    Well since you've already quit (provided you're not hurting too bad for cash) why not take a week or two and focus purely on growing your online business? Having no distractions and getting laser focused for a bit could be what you need to do in order to start earning really good money online - who knows maybe after the 2 weeks you won't NEED another job.

    Making money online is pretty easy when you know what you're doing or you're following a guide... As crazy as it may sound you can actually make a few thousand dollars in less than two weeks. Seriously I've seen affiliate marketers do this. They started with nothing... got in on a new big ticket product launch... drove a bunch of free traffic to it and cleared $10,000 in less than two weeks.

    Anyways, don't stress over things. Now that you've quit your job and have the time to work on the internet embrace the opportunity and don't waste your time feeling depressed or resourceful of quitting - you can always get another job.
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  • Profile picture of the author travlinguy
    A lot of people are missing the point with this post. This isn't about taking a daring step into independence. This is about a reckless decision to leave a good job, without a plan, in an economy where jobs evaporate every day like water in the desert.

    If the OP was single and did this, fine. But he's not single, he's married and made the decision without discussing it with his wife who will suffer if his decision is a bad one. It's already been mentioned several times that the failure rate in this business is high. So when you look at it that way, this isn't about independence at all. It's exactly the opposite.

    It's about vows and commitments and promises. Hopefully, the OP's wife loves him a lot and is willing to throw in to help make it work. But if she wants to be royally pissed for a while before she decides, she has every right to be.

    And for the record this isn't some gun shy dork posting this, it's the voice of experience. I did almost the exact same thing back in the early 90s with an offline venture, and even though it eventually turned very profitable I was never able to have my lady's full trust again after making a MAJOR move for us without considering her input.
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    • Profile picture of the author iVentureBiz
      Originally Posted by travlinguy View Post

      A lot of people are missing the point with this post. This isn't about taking a daring step into independence. This is about a reckless decision to leave a good job, without a plan, in an economy where jobs evaporate every day like water in the desert.

      Well if this is the case and the guys only having remorse of quitting and is scared - the choice is obvious...... ask for the job back. DUH And if he can't get it back start looking for a new one...

      But I really think it goes beyond this I can't imagine someone taking the time to post all this story only to hear a response that they already knew...
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  • Profile picture of the author sahail
    You don't have children. You are both adults that make choices.

    I suggets you stick with it, you have money coming in and freelancers in the writing field can make decent money

    But remember that your emotions drove this decision, which means that, in ten years time, it will probably seem the best thing you ever did...
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  • Profile picture of the author ppbiz
    Hiya!

    Wow big step! Quitting your job is a massive deal, BUT it could be the best thing ever! Nothing is more motivating than removing the 'safety net'.

    I think if you are smart about this you can make it work. Remember that careful planning and focus are both really important when you are trying to make a full time income online.

    The good news for you is that you are already making money- you at least have something to work with. You already know what makes money so now you just need to scale it up and tweak it so you make more.

    Good luck- you have made a very brave decision. Jump in now and see if you sink or swim- in 6 months time you can assess whether or not it is wise to continue but for now go for it!

    Cheers,

    Rhiannon

    PS talk to your wife and tell her how you feel- maybe ask her what she needs from you in order to feel good about this. Relationships are a two way street
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  • Profile picture of the author cma01
    I've read a quarter of the way through the thread and from what I've seen from your posts so far, you have a very distorted view of what a marriage partnership is supposed to be. You've talked to her "many times" and because she doesn't agree with you, you're just going to go do it anyway.

    If I thought you were going to listen to my advice (which if you don't care what your wife thinks I don't know why you would,) I would tell you to see if you could get your job back first thing tomorrow and the second thing would be to get your butt in a marriage builder class so you can start to get a clue what it is about.

    Never make a major decision in your marriage unless you both are 100% for it.

    You sound very self centered and irresponsible to me. And I can't say that I think the way you have posted about her in this thread is all that respectful either.

    Forget the job, you said it yourself, if it all goes wrong, you can just get another job, no biggie!
    Really? I know quite a few people right now that would tell you differently. I know people with masters degrees that are working for close to minimum wage because they can't find anything else.

    I know someone who walked from a six plus figure job a year because their boss offended them. Five months later, the person is still looking for work, has depleted all their savings, is selling off furniture, and still can't get unemployment because he quit and his old employer is fighting it.
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  • Profile picture of the author WD Mino
    Hmmmm.

    I am not going to be very encouraging here but that is life.

    You have quit your job to go into a market with a 95-98 % failure rate and you think this is wise?

    I was forced to make a transition from offline to online because of my wife's health But I also had a disability check that came like clockwork.
    but I would not recommend just jumping in I wouldn't recommend it to anyone. especially if they already had a way to pay the bills. What you have done is not faith it is foolish. Making a living online takes time dedication PERSEVERANCE and definitely a willingness to experience failure. I had the same thought I left my disability check and moved my wife and I out to a tiny town in canada.-FOOLISH but we thought it was wise yes WE I never ever make any decision without my best friend and partner Wendy my wife.. I have put more time more effort and more sleepless nights into this then I would ever have done in my offline business. I find this down right ridiculous for you to do. It is not so easy I have created products that did ok and I have created products that should have done well but flopped. there is no guarantee in this business and it really is a trial and error school of hard knocks kind.

    Go get your job back man and start making some headway online if that is what you want to do but for the love of mike don't be foolish with your family depending on you.
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  • Profile picture of the author Energize
    All I can say for now is.....Congratulations! Bravo!
    I did the exact same thing, and was the best decision I ever made.
    The only things you'll ever regret are the things you never did.
    Go for it...move forward in confidence...make it happen.


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  • Profile picture of the author All Night Cafe
    You sound serious about making your living online. Quitting your
    job, not talking to wife. I can't ad anything comments to that.

    Everyone else has. I don't know if you worked 10 to 12 hour
    on your regular job, But I do know if you don't work as hard
    for yourself as you did for your boss, it will be a long time before
    you replace your income.

    Work your butt off, show your wife you will succeed no matter what.
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  • Profile picture of the author mello
    Dumb, stupid, selfish and irresponsible!

    Brave, courageous and full of hope!

    There's always two sides. Go with the one that inspoires you.

    When I hired sales people there were 2 views there too - hire the one with no family 'cos they'll be unrestricted in travelling and entertaining clients, or, hire the one with a family 'cos they are the ones hungry for money so long as they have a positive attitude.

    Keep hungry and keep positive. Put the plan in place and execute like your life depends on it (in fact your marriage may well do!).

    Good luck, mate.
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  • Profile picture of the author Bruce Wedding
    You are where you are now. There is no point debating whether your screwed the pooch or not, the boats are on fire, right Cortes?

    Good. And its good that you're scared. That's the energy you need to motivate your ass to get to work.

    Onward.
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  • Profile picture of the author Floyd Fisher
    Originally Posted by aboutusnow View Post

    OK, so here's the deal. I just turned in my resignation at a good paying job. Why? Because I felt like my life was going by and I saw myself at the job for the next 20 years if I didn't do something. It was a good job and I worked with good people. No complaints about the job except general working complaints.

    So I plan to make money online. I write articles for people, I have several websites up and running myself, and I sell a Clickbank product that I make decent money off of. I am fairly confident that if I work 10-12 hours each day, I can make enough to live off of plus a little more. But I will only make about 30%-40% of my previous job for a while.

    So it seemed like a great idea until I told my wife. I had talked to her quite a bit about quitting - probably for the last year or so. So granted, while she knew about my thoughts, the timing completely caught her off guard.

    We don't have kids and the only debt we have is a reasonable house payment. My wife has only worked off and on since we have been married because we didn't need the money. She wants to work, but she is not necessarily a go-getter. So she is pretty ticked off right now and is out searching for a job. Thankfully she chose the fight not flight option

    So I couldn't sleep last night, and I am pretty scared. Self confidence is a fleeting thing sometimes, especially when your closest friend doesn't like your choices. I could rescind my resignation right now and, other than a little embarrassment, could continue on as normal. Last night I wanted to, this morning I believe I can make it.

    If it was just me, I would be OK with this. If it didn't work, I could go down to the local McDonald's a get a job to live off of. With my wife working and my money coming in, we won't go broke. It is just a drastic change in thinking.

    Has anyone gone through anything like this? Any advice?
    You know what you gotta do, just focus like a lazer beam on doing it.

    Let me tell you a story of true courage, and you will understand the moral immediately.

    In 1986, I was going to school at NTC Great Lakes.

    One day, while I was on break, some Pakistani Army student decided to go on a shooting rempage, which left on Chief Petty Officer dead. I heard shots fired from down the hall where it was taking place.

    Obviously, I panicked, and immediately hid in the nearest classroom.

    While in there, I saw the most amazing thing. An instructor who heard the same thing I did, and decided not to panic, and just focus on doing his job (teaching class). His courage under fire calmed my panic, and left a deep impression on me what real courage is.

    There are times in life where everything is literally going to hell around you. Courage is not panicking, and instead focusing on doing what you need to do. Keep your cool, finish the task at hand, then do the next one, and the one after that, and you will move forward no matter what is going on around you.
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  • Profile picture of the author Justin Says
    Good luck fellow warrior, really hope you succeed.
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  • Profile picture of the author JaiJay
    This thread just goes to show how very different the logical and emotional sides of the same story can be. I'm whole-heartedly with you on the emotional side. I've always said if you don't like something, then change it. There's nothing worse than someone who hates their job and every day fills them with sadness...but then they don't look for anything new to change that situation.
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    • Profile picture of the author sbucciarel
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      Originally Posted by JaiJay View Post

      This thread just goes to show how very different the logical and emotional sides of the same story can be. I'm whole-heartedly with you on the emotional side. I've always said if you don't like something, then change it. There's nothing worse than someone who hates their job and every day fills them with sadness...but then they don't look for anything new to change that situation.
      Yes actually, there is something worse. Not having a job and not being able to support yourself and family is a whole lot worse.

      It's incomprehensible to a lot of us that this decision was made impulsively, rather than rationally, without even consulting the person he has chosen to be a partner in life. If you have such a lack of communication and disregard for a spouse's feelings and opinions on such an important decision, one that affects both of you, you might find yourself only having to take care of yourself, and doing exactly what only you wants to do.
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  • Profile picture of the author pincpassion
    If there are too mutch at stake, do not quit now. You might lose focus when you're working online and you don't have some financial resources.

    Maintain your job but do more for yourself and build your online business. Just don't forget to quit before reaching 20 years ok?
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  • Profile picture of the author pincpassion
    I feel you should sacrifice having a job until you have substantial earning online. It's good practice for having patients which you could also apply on your business.
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  • Profile picture of the author global1967
    hey,
    self belief is the strongest weapon anyone will ever have. This time last year i was working as a sales man making about $300 a week and all of a sudden the job ended. So i said to myself i would get into this IM full time. So i went on the Benefit system which works out at $170 every forthnight and really applied myself. Now i am earning about $60,000 a year as an affiliate marketer and i know with time i will double that. Morale of the story is this. If you conceive and believe the mind will achieve.
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    • Profile picture of the author JaiJay
      Originally Posted by global1967 View Post

      Morale of the story is this. If you conceive and believe the mind will achieve.
      I love this quote and it is extremely true! I try to live like this but it is difficult. I've found a lot of inspiration on this forum so have found msyelf putting a few hours in each day to learn a little about affiliate marketing.
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  • Profile picture of the author Vagabond 007
    Perhaps an alternative is to get the job back BUT for the next 30 days absolutely bust your ass at the IM thing in your spare time.

    Done right, in 30 days you will have a good idea whether or not IM is for you. If it is, quit the job. If not, keep it and change your spare time game plans. Keep repeating until you've found something that works for you.
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  • That's crazy OP. I just lost my GREAT job of 10 years. I thought I was working on a career with this company, but Tues. I was suddenly laid off.

    Quitting instead of being let go? That is crazy. I am really fighting depression and fear right now. You said you were having doubts about your resignation. I can tell you this. After 4 days, it has only got harder for me. I have slept maybe 5 hours, cant eat and cant stop thinking about the future...and the past. If you can resend your resignation, I would do it. Be thankful you have a job.
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  • Profile picture of the author txconx
    Now that I've read this entire thread through twice, I'll add my two cents.

    Forget all the rah-rah "You can do it!" It's crap IMO that isn't supported by statistics.

    Let's get real here for a minute.

    Get your job back. Talk to your wife. Set goals TOGETHER. Make a plan. Do what many of the rest of us have done and work the steady income while building your other business. Part of your goals and plans should be a point where you feel you CAN quit your job. Build your savings while you build your business.

    And IMO, part of that plan should be the wife getting a regular job and contributing to the savings so you can reach the mutual goals. Face it - she doesn't have the self discipline required to be self employed and/or employed at home. (And what DOES she do all day, anyway?)

    I've been self employed, at home, for over 20 years. My husband never tells me "no," but he does occasionally interject another point of view and common sense into some of my admittedly harebrained ideas and plans. And if he had said no, I would've respected that whatever he said no to wasn't good for our marital partnership. Or figured I wasn't doing a good-enough sales job. And I have sent up the occasional test balloon so I could either see for myself that he was right or go show him that it was a good idea and change his mind about that no.

    It isn't about believing in yourself. Crimoney - you see enough of that rah-rah "If you just believe and work hard" crap at every Mary Kay, Avon, Shaklee, Tupperware etc ad nauseum sales meeting and half those people aren't successful and are never going to be successful no matter how much they believe or how hard they work.

    I guess what I'm trying to say is - go for it, but hedge your bets. And never quit a sure thing until you have another sure thing lined up.
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    • Profile picture of the author hblzr1
      You've crossed the bridge and now you're looking back?

      You must know that you can't go forward while looking in the rear view mirror. You are destined to crash and burn.

      The answer you seek is not here. No one can answer your question because they can not read your mind and see into your heart. Only you can do that. You already know the answer to the question you ask. You know that you are only seeking validation to the answer you have already chosen. No one here can can really know your situation.

      You seriously can not be thinking about taking 30 second sound bite advice from strangers (albeit good intentioned) for a life changing event. No even mine.

      Reflect on your actions and truly discuss it with your wife. Find out what moves both your hearts and souls and you will know the answer.
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  • Profile picture of the author Gary Huynh
    I admire people who have an entrepreneurial drive because it's just like me. To be an entrepreneur you have to be willing to live below your means for a while in order to achieve the ultimate time freedom. Business is very risky but only by taking that risk can you achieve your dreams on your own terms.

    However, after working online for over 5 years full-time, I have some insights which may prove helpful to you.

    It's a lot different to work on your business full-time because you don't have any backup in case your business runs into trouble. When your business is your main source of income, you will feel jittery about EVERY thing like when your sites lose ranking or Paypal freezes your account.

    While working on your business only and having a job will slow your growth, it will give you peace of mind. You'll want to eventually break free from your job but not until you're making substantially more with your business than with your job. It will come at a slower rate but it will come because with an online business, you just have to scale it up.

    If I had to do it over again, I would choose to work while growing a business even if it takes longer. The peace of mind is something that you need especially in these hard economic conditions.
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  • Profile picture of the author LetsGoViral
    I would have resigned once I get a steady business running. At least that way I wouldn't have burned my bridges. If you have a good job, you should be thankful for it in this tough economy.
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  • Profile picture of the author janisv
    I think the best you can have ever done was quitting your job. That shows that you have the ... to pursue your dreams. Having a nice job can lead you to complacency which can totally stops your personal growth. When you are in the position of make it or break it, you will do your very best to make it.
    If you are planning to write my suggestion is to be very aware of your competitors, specially those overseas. I have post several jobs on Guru and it really piss me off to see the attitude of some american free lancers. They totally disregard their competitors in terms of their bid answer, price and turnaround and end up with no work at all.
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    • Profile picture of the author The 13th Warrior
      Don't get it, dude.

      Why did you not simply put more hours into your online income until it, at the very least, it equaled what your job income was?

      This was not an option?

      Especially since you said you made good income, good co-workers and the job was not that bad.

      These guys telling you that they never had a job or that they quit and became a success are giving you unrealistic "go for it" advice.

      If the stats show that it was a 50/50 option of succeeding after doing this, maybe.

      There's also a stat that show that 1 out of 100 people or something that fall off a building survive.

      So is it smart to think you are going to be that one to survive, especially with no real plan?

      Let's you and me go find a building to prove and verify that that stat is true and consistent.

      Forget all this "rah-rah, go for it, you can do it" crap, be practical.

      People win $1,000,000 to $300,000,000 lump sums in the lottery every week, so should you allocate all the money you can afford to play until you win?

      There was a guy that sold everything he owned, totaled about $70,000, went to some casino, and , wait for it....., put it A-L-L on one number and won.

      The "rah-rah , go for it" guys seem to be insinuating that everyone can do that and be successful because it happened to them.....sorry, that's irresponsible advice.

      They would have you believe that "WORKING WITHOUT A NET" is a way to make you concentrate your efforts better...., they DEFINITATELY were not Trapeze artist, with a few practice runs for a beginner, "now remove the net"...., they would not be here, typing this advice to you.

      You have to create your OWN story, "others" story of success or failure are simply benchmarks to be analyzed to your discretion of likely-hood in the real world, in general, "your" reality as it relates to you and your life, expanding more options to be viewed and PLANNED for your consideration.

      People became millionaires gambling in Las Vegas, if they won, you can too, so "go for it",.......not applicable or responsible advice.

      You have to know the difference between a Gamble and Plan.

      You have to know the difference between Benchmarks someone else set vs being realistic and finding and establishing your own "personal" benchmarks and how far you can exceed it , once established, or if you want to exceed it at all.

      Benchmarks or Milestones set by others only EXPAND the limits of possibility, which simply gives everyone else, or lesser mortals room, opportunity and tools to work with, thats all.

      Everyone uses Bill Gates story, Warren Buffets story, etc., even on this forum for motivation, nothing wrong with that, but who, here, now, is a multi-Billionaire?

      Some of the successful people here on this forum have been in business as long as these Billionaires, so why are they not Billionaires?

      Did they try to implement "someone else's" benchmark, or set realistic goals (which require's "SOME" plan) and became satisfied once "their" particular "comfort" zone was reached?

      Why doesn't EVERY WSO product contents start with, " Step 1: QUIT your Job, right N-O-W"?

      If you like "rah-rah", go for it" stories, here are some:



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      Just simply do what they do, become a Billionaire, right? You telling me everyone here, including the Warrior Forum owner here would not like to have a story like that and be a Billionaire?

      Just drop everything, and "go for it ", right?

      Any scientist worth his salt will tell you that something , in the lab, can be mathematically sound and perfect passing all test and verifying the theory, BUT in the field, it does not pan out, other factors have to be assessed and accounted for to either verify theory, re-define the theory or come up with a whole new theory and throw the previous premise out.

      Stick with day-in, day-out , sound, proven "FIELD" Results, called PLANNING, NOT the occassional LONGSHOT that comes in.

      Here's a LONGSHOT story :


      Why do people 'play the longshot' but buy insurance? It's in our genes


      I think there is a WSO here, somewhere, with the title, "WORKING WITHOUT A NET".

      Might be in "WSO of the Day".


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  • Profile picture of the author Jackbgd
    Originally Posted by aboutusnow View Post

    OK, so here's the deal. I just turned in my resignation at a good paying job. Why? Because I felt like my life was going by and I saw myself at the job for the next 20 years if I didn't do something. It was a good job and I worked with good people. No complaints about the job except general working complaints.

    So I plan to make money online. I write articles for people, I have several websites up and running myself, and I sell a Clickbank product that I make decent money off of. I am fairly confident that if I work 10-12 hours each day, I can make enough to live off of plus a little more. But I will only make about 30%-40% of my previous job for a while.

    So it seemed like a great idea until I told my wife. I had talked to her quite a bit about quitting - probably for the last year or so. So granted, while she knew about my thoughts, the timing completely caught her off guard.

    We don't have kids and the only debt we have is a reasonable house payment. My wife has only worked off and on since we have been married because we didn't need the money. She wants to work, but she is not necessarily a go-getter. So she is pretty ticked off right now and is out searching for a job. Thankfully she chose the fight not flight option

    So I couldn't sleep last night, and I am pretty scared. Self confidence is a fleeting thing sometimes, especially when your closest friend doesn't like your choices. I could rescind my resignation right now and, other than a little embarrassment, could continue on as normal. Last night I wanted to, this morning I believe I can make it.

    If it was just me, I would be OK with this. If it didn't work, I could go down to the local McDonald's a get a job to live off of. With my wife working and my money coming in, we won't go broke. It is just a drastic change in thinking.

    Has anyone gone through anything like this? Any advice?
    You chose a not enough supportive wife, and better get divorced with her now before she starts complaining more.. your life, your decisions. Don't be dependent on your happiness just because it will make someone else feel less "secure", you don't have to have a "regular high paying job", just so she can buy more clothes and spend your money on bs you'd never buy yourself anyway.

    I'd never ever let anyone stand in my way of success. And yes, people will be against the "risk", the "unknown" and they'll argue, and the best thing to do is just to tell them all to f-off and do what your heart tells you. I've had a similar situation, and now that I have succeeded people are acting as if they were supporting me from the start - but they weren't.

    Your life, your choice, your happiness. Don't let anyone take away your freedom or limit you in any bull**** way. Nothing against your wife personally, she's probably a nice person, but shouldn't be a lazy person that wants you to work 50 hours a week and bring in a tone of money just so she wouldn't have to do anything... No pun intented,

    just my 2 cents,
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  • Profile picture of the author KarlWarren
    Lots and lots of opinions on the OP's situation...

    Here's my take on it, take the advice if you wish, or don't.

    = I did what you did =


    I've been there, and I'm currently PAYING for the privilege despite now having a successful business. I owe money because I did things the wrong way... I won't go into how much, or how long it's going to take me to pay off - but let's just say I'm earning a lot more than I would in my job, but I barely see MOST of that money.

    I'll get out of the situation, with hard work and persistence... and I'll never turn back, I've come too far - but you haven't yet passed the point of no return, you have the opportunity, go back and do it the right way.

    (1) I had to work my balls off to make ends meet

    This had the following effects:

    - less time to spend with my partner, who in turn resented the fact
    - more stress because my savings, and eventually my credit line dried up
    - the breakdown of my relationship

    (2) This led to a complete lack of interest and self-destructive pattern

    This had the following effects:

    - less time spent building my business
    - less money coming in
    - MORE stress due to creditors calling and being unable to pay them

    It took me a whole YEAR to get out of this self destructive pattern...

    Nobody knows why I practically vanished from WarriorForum last year...

    Above is the reason. I was not in a good place at all, and I was working bloody hard to get back on track.

    YES! You can hit a home run, if you're lucky - or you have the plan in place and focus on it, putting in the work needed to get there.

    YES! You hear stories about $1m launches and can be seduced by it.

    If you're going to succeed, you don't "make money" you "build a business" - so, now you have a decision to make...

    Do you build a business from scratch, with no income (and only savings to live on) - with all the pressure of watching those savings drying up?

    or...

    Do you build a business from scratch, with an income (and savings in the bank) - with less pressure, allowing you to FOCUS on building a business, without the added pressure of "make or break".

    I might reply more later.

    One more thing I will say is this...

    Be careful whose advice you take.

    Nobody else has a vested interest in your situation - so their advice is cheap. It makes no difference to them what happens to you.
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    • Profile picture of the author dotslash
      Well I say good for you, there are of course an infinite number of opinions and pieces of advice that can be supplied to your decision.

      I personally don't see what the big deal is quitting a job in your position, it's just a job after all, as long as you can pay your bills somehow who cares. Unless it's something you love doing it can be replaced in a thousand different ways.

      Life is about risk, when you look back you'll always regret the things you didn't do way more than the mistakes that you made.

      Your decision could be the best decision you ever make or a complete unmitigated disaster - but it's your choice and you have at least made one. Who knows what the result will be but you have six months starting now to make it happen.

      I've done the same as you but with dependents and it's worked out for me

      Good luck
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    • Profile picture of the author The 13th Warrior
      Originally Posted by KarlWarren View Post



      Do you build a business from scratch, with no income (and only savings to live on) - with all the pressure of watching those savings drying up?

      or...

      Do you build a business from scratch, with an income (and savings in the bank) - with less pressure, allowing you to FOCUS on building a business, without the added pressure of "make or break".
      Smart question he should have asked himself.

      If he had NO options, that would be one thing.

      "Take Risk, go for it", so now we must ask, what should be the parameters of what people call "risk".

      Good risk and Bad risk.

      If "risk" is so optimal, why don't everyone here put ALL their eggs in the investment game, like the Stock Market and be like Warren Buffet or George Soros ?

      They "went for it" became billionaires , why can't you?

      This "Throw A-L-L caution to the wind" advice is at your discretion.

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      • Profile picture of the author Kevin Marshall
        I also did exactly what the OP did in November. I quit my job making only $50 per month in passive IM income. The only differences between me and the OP here is that I had my wife's support and she wanted me to do it. The other difference for me was I hated my JOB working 65 hours a week or more and not having any time for my IM business at all. We also do not have children, but we have a lot of debt, and things were already getting worse as our income wasn't matching our bills. On November 9th, 2009, I just walked away.

        Fast forward to today. I have regained some of my income I was making in my crappy JOB. I'm not where I want to be yet. I thought I would be making $3,000 this month, and I am not anywhere close.

        With that said, things are moving in the right direction. I have started to have a few breakthroughs in the last two weeks. I need to get back to about $3,200 per month to get back to where I was when I quit my JOB. Sure, the finances are worse right now, but I have a plan and it is growing.

        I felt like I was taking a bigger risk in the long run if I kept doing what I was doing, so I just took the plunge.

        As far as the OP is concerned, I will share a few things I learned. Only start in one or two niches. Do NOT start in more than that. Make sure there is ALOT of traffic in that niche. I started in too many niches and not enough traffic, and that is why I have been bumbling around. Things have started to turn around, but it will take time.

        Consider offering freelance services if you can write, or get a part-time JOB.

        Work on your speed in writing articles. I have gradually increased my speed, and you will too if you keep writing every day.

        Make sure you have a structured plan of exactly how you will promote each niche. What I mean is that you need to have a step by step plan to promote your niches and not just write a bunch of articles at Ezine. This was another big mistake I made, but I have learned from my mistakes now.

        Oh yeah...just because you are working 12 hours a day doesn't mean you will be successful right away.

        Don't spend a lot of time here! That is also one of my mistakes. I am doing better, but I am not always as focused as I should be.

        Lastly, as everyone else has stated, you probably should have had agreement with your wife first. I'm sure you know this by now! LOL This time in my marriage has been tough, but it could have been worse. I was already working a lot of hours before this, but now I work from home all day. My wife sees me more now than before, and I am the one that always worries about the bills.

        Anyways, good luck to you, and I am sure you can be successful. Just know that it will probably be tougher than you think!
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  • Profile picture of the author cowsgonemadd3
    I would have cut back my hours but not quit if possible. I hope you do well!
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  • Profile picture of the author Emily Meeks
    All right... time for my $0.02.

    I work a crappy retail job. It's a multi-billion dollar industry, but this corporate office a.) is the stingiest I've ever worked with and b.) has no idea what it's doing. The vast majority of the people I work with are cool, sure, but I basically quit trying because my work was unappreciated (and ironically enough, one week I thought I did especially well but got my hours slashed the one week I worked extra hard - so I just don't bother, and still get the hours). These people also have no respect for your schedule, and I had to remind my manager I had a Saturday class every Friday for FOUR MONTHS, even after I turned in several availability forms and talked to her several times. I'd love to quit without notice, but I don't.

    Why?

    Because I made the mistake of not getting a second job sooner, before I even discovered IM. And, because, I kinda need the money.

    At this point though, I'm actively looking for a second job, or even third one (to replace the first). I'm living off that income. Yes, I do freelance work as well, and while that money has helped me out before, I've found that instead of spending my IM money on personal stuff, I reinvest the money I earn from my IM endeavors to build my businesses.

    Think about it.

    You go to one or two jobs a day, you do your work, you get paid for your time. You use that money to feed yourself while you sit at the computer and work online. I first made the mistake of using the online money for bills, but now, instead of doing that, I save it to reinvest later. That way, my businesses actually GROW, so I can work towards replacing one or both day jobs, and eventually accomplish the even greater goal of comfortably making six, or possibly seven, figures a year.

    I hope maybe you can get your job back, your wife can get a job, or SOMETHING so you have that security while you work towards your future. I wish you the best.
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  • Profile picture of the author Rien
    I remember a job I had several years back where I was getting
    crapped on pretty bad by the executives of the company. At first
    they asked me to work a few extra hours here and there, then soon
    enough I was getting home from work after 9 p.m. on a regular basis.

    Then they asked me to start working Saturdays and some Sundays.
    The last straw was when I asked for a Saturday off a month in advance
    so I could go to a wedding. They told me yes and then changed their minds.
    It pissed me off because I had already gotten someone to work for me.

    Their response: It's not their responsibility to work for you

    My response: F-U I quit

    I remember my wife's face when I told her. She knew my job was bad
    and that I was constantly stressed out, so she supported me, but I did
    get an earful about how irresponsible it was.

    It was extremely irresponsible of me and because of one moment of anger
    I just said screw it.

    I was so lucky she did not kick my butt out. And I am glad for you that
    your wife is understanding, however some wives are not.

    For any other married men out there thinking of taking the leap, think
    twice and talk to your wife before quitting your job to pursue IM or
    otherwise.
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    • Profile picture of the author The 13th Warrior
      Originally Posted by moneysoapbox View Post


      You use that money to feed yourself while you sit at the computer and work online. I first made the mistake of using the online money for bills, but now, instead of doing that, I save it to reinvest later. That way, my businesses actually GROW, so I can work towards replacing one or both day jobs, and eventually accomplish the even greater goal of comfortably making six, or possibly seven, figures a year.
      Truth.

      And pragmatic.
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  • Profile picture of the author fred67
    If you are making money with a clickbank product why on earth don't you just 'upscale' the promotions that are working for you now?

    Forget most of the big Gurus though, there's a mad scramble for our money at present that seems relentless. I know there are many people on this forum who appear to be doing well, but don't forget the Golden Rule that almost all self-help gurus teach - "Convince yourself by positive affirmations".

    In other words, write and speak as though you are 'already' successful and success will surely follow - NOT!!

    So can you believe all the hype about mega-success throughout the trillions of forums??
    I doubt it.
    So if you 'are' having success with a clickbank product, scaling up is a no-brainer and your future is probably secure.
    If you're like the majority and scratching for the crumbs left over by the major players, then I'd look hard at retaining a regular income until you 'are' seeing a successful cash generator that you CAN scale up.

    Good luck, Pete.
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  • Profile picture of the author jury
    I have pretty much same situation. My work was killing me, I was menatlly 24/7 at work. So I left the company last summer. Now I don't earn like nothing yet compare what I used to, but my life is so much better. I choose life and save my marriage instead of work in meanless job till death. I try to make my living from internet and trust that it will happen soon. Good luck to you!
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  • Profile picture of the author garett70
    Quit the job and find a new jobs... You never know what potential you have ..sometime life is really hard by this economics downturn...I also going to quit my jobs sooon.....Hence right now i tried to learn as much a possible...
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  • Profile picture of the author costos gohdohb
    Never doubt any more - or your doubt can kill your success! Never doubt and act until succeed!

    Btw - I did the same - I resigned, too! And never regretted about it! Never!
    After all, life is too short and I didn't want to lose my life opportunities just because of fear.
    I didn't want to say at the end of my life: I didn't do anything, & I realized no dreams just because I feared. - No way!

    PS: but I didn't tell anybody at first about my resignation - it makes life so much easier!
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  • Profile picture of the author ArnelRicafranca
    That is a tough one. If you can, work part-time as an employee and full time as an internet marketer. That is a tough situation when you a mortgate to pay for. Even working 10-12 hours a day, you may not see the return as quickly as you are hoping for.
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  • Profile picture of the author duncanb
    Best of luck with it! You say that you quit as you had no quality of life - IM can sometimes be quite boring aswell however at the initial stages of building an IM business, especially if you are putting in 12 hrs p/d.

    Just dont expect it to be all cozy from now on. Your going to have to work very hard.

    Again best of luck!
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  • Profile picture of the author seobro
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    • Profile picture of the author fxmmorale
      This is a crazy thread.

      One question keeps ringing in my head as read all these responses and that's...

      Who do you love more...

      Your wife or IM?

      There is no such thing as an 'easy' life due to the unpredictability of the human psyche.

      i.e. You quit your job without talking to your wife about it.

      The economy is unstable and despite the fact that people are spending money online, there's no guarantee.

      Does this mean you can't make it? NO. BUT...

      Why go through the unnecessary anxieties of trying to build a business under pressure when you had the opportunity to build it without that problem.

      Despite what some have had to say about taking the leap...

      Building a business out of desperation can lead to many rushed decisions that could ultimately cost you your business and more importantly your relationship with your wife.

      When it's all said and done, how would you rather be remembered?

      As a successful IM'er or a good husband. I know you're probably saying both, but the truth is ain't nobody gonna care about what you did to make money, they're only gonna look at what kind of person you were to those around you.

      I hope it works out for you, because you're wife deserves it. You said so, when you said: "I do".

      Just for GP I am married 21 years with 2 kids and know what it's like to do this stuff... with and without a job.

      Job is better.

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  • Profile picture of the author DanielCW
    Well I joined this late, but anyway here is my two cents worth. Always play your shots from a position of safety ( cricket ). In another words make your move when you are safe. Not when you feel safe but when you are safe. Your biggest threat is a secure income so if you have like you said, savings and a game plan thenthe only reason it should not work is you. If you feel like you're in, then smack the ball
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  • Profile picture of the author Lady
    I wish you all the best in the world. That took guts!

    I might start a list of long and short-term goals, with a few easier to achieve goals, with the belief that these minor achievements will encourage me to continue.

    I would also develop a close relationship with my supporters who believe in me and are willing to challenge me.

    I would also read everything current I could get my hands on.

    I also would do a few odds and end jobs so that my new career path does not take a chunk out of the family budget, but that is me.
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  • Profile picture of the author mysteryleaves
    You were lucky to have a job quitting a job in this depession is madness
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    • Profile picture of the author Hardi Wijaya
      Originally Posted by michaelbury View Post

      Oops, obviously I didn't have the faith in my ability & as you can see above, my link to the Immediate Edge is here & below for ease of navigation.

      Again, we would recommend that if you at all interested & serious about IM have a look at this extremely powerful tool

      good luck

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      Bad habit, Michael.
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      • Profile picture of the author The 13th Warrior
        Originally Posted by shen923 View Post


        Desperation will bring out the best in you. I live off the theory that those who take the biggest risks get the biggest rewards.


        By this logic, everyone who lost their job in this economy should be doing better than before.

        Do like that other dude who "took the biggest risk" by selling everything he owned and putting it ALL on one number/color on the roulette table. Big talk when someone is gambling with your life.

        There was a major guru of a particular field, and he said when he was at a major guru seminar with "other" gurus on the plane, he was astounded by how many people did absolutely NONE of what they were selling and preaching to the audience, did none of methods they were selling, and some of these products were in the thousands of dollars.

        There is another guy that is considered a guru, but he does no seminars, and don't recommend or drop names of anyone of less than 1 or 2 people , IF THAT, because when he DID do seminars 30 years ago, he found most "experts" could not and did not make money with the methods they were selling as products.

        He found a lot of "Big Name" or so-called legendary guys either did not make the income claims and follow the plan they were teaching and selling others OR they were into very questionable and shady type products that did not meet the claims and he did not want to be associated with the product or big name marketer.

        There are some here "projecting" their desire of what they would "like" to do on you as though they have done it , like a sports crowd, egging you on, but are probably working as they type, at a job crummier than the one you had.

        And the one's that did "WORK WITHOUT A NET" and succeeded, so what , that was them.

        How many stories have you heard of a guy driving drunk, totally plastered and commatose, gets in a accident, kills the other person in the other vehicle, his car flipped, spun and was TOTALED yet he is either removed from the wreckage or walks off with barely a scratch?

        These people have driven totally drunk, and successfully survived, why can't you?

        Dude, either get your job back or get a lower paying job that is fun, income you can have until you grow your business.

        A junkie needing a fix is also desperate , so what does he do? Find an easy theft so he can score some more dope or go to rehab ???

        If you were really desperate, maybe you should have spent EVERY WAKING HOUR that you were not at work on doing everything it takes to accelerating your business to grow as fast as possible, IF, you were THAT desperate, that would be ONE move that was reasonable.

        All the rags to riches stories point was is that they had a goal, and simply find and used what they had or knew was available to work toward achieving that goal.

        Everyone had a diffferent way of doing, but they would not tell you to do what they did when they started.

        Simply read all the rags to riches stories from legitimate business owners, especially the brick and mortar type businesses, and you're rarely, if ever, find someone to advise you to come up the same hard and desperate road they was on to get to were they are.

        That just don't make sense at all whatsoever.

        Some had NO OTHER options, you had a good job, seed money to grow your business until it equalled or exceeded your job, then you could've dropped it.

        You were not in a desperate situation..., go to the unemployment office or trauma center and go see REAL desperation.

        You took a gamble , a shot in the dark and hope it is going to turn out right......if you use that SAME philosophy at growing your business ( business is testing, research,tweaking, adjusting, following models of success, tried and true methods), well, all I can say is business, real business, is not a gamble or chance in the dark.

        Even if you are successful at growing your business, at some point this practiced philosophy might sink a potentially thriving business.

        Business and planning are inseparable, almost siamese twins joined at the hip.

        Business IS planning.

        You did not "research" or surmise at how you were going to immediately replace that lost income so you could pay your bills.

        You remind me of those group of chaps that got together and gambled $80,000 on the lottery to win that triple digit million dollar jackpot.

        I think may have took out a loan, mortgaged their house or used credit cards.

        I think it was $80,000 or so in Quick Pick tickets.

        I don't recall them even getting 2 or 3 numbers correct.

        But hey, they "took a shot".

        The 13th Warrior
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  • Profile picture of the author wiseinvest
    Mate,

    I gotta say I admire you for doing that. It's exactly what I want to do right now as a lot of times I think I can do much more productive things, knowing that everything I do I'm responsible for myself. Getting late pays that sometimes takes another month doesn't help either.

    You've now closed all your exits and the only way to go is forward. Focus on what you really need to do. Eventually, your wife will see your passion and believe in you. Hopefully, she will eventually help and work along with you in your journey - together!

    Look if you've got some funds saved up, you may have to work at it so hard first and make sure that you're working smart as well. You've already made your first dollar. Just rinse and repeat and TAKE MASSIVE ACTION!

    If you go back to your work, you'd always wonder EVERYDAY - what if... or you may be working but your heart is not in it - always thinking of what you really want to do than working in your job. Stay there and 20 years from now you'd think - what if I chose the path I did that day? Where and what would I be doing now?

    Fear and uncertainty is what holds most people back. Embrace it fully and use that to your advantage. They say that invention is always born out of necessity. I say, the BEST IN YOU is always born out of necessity.

    Do keep us posted.


    cheers,
    Armand

    P.S. I'm also giving notice to my work. It's something that I too have been thinking in a long time. Having said that, I've already started my offline business and already working with a client. All I need to do is rinse and repeat and I could easily see this to supplement my income in no time.
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  • Profile picture of the author saraward
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    Some of my closest friends thought that I was crazy for quitting my job. But I just had to do something. Because unlike you I hated my job and had to drag myself out of bed to go. So I had to make a very hard decision to give up that income. I'm doing OK. But I could be doing better.
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  • Profile picture of the author Sonomacats
    A lot of people have made some very good points, so I won't repeat them.

    At least you already had online marketing experience, so you're not starting from scratch.

    I know exactly how you feel. I hated working a JOB, but I was in a situation where I couldn't afford to quit. Thank goodness my company laid off so I still had something coming in while I ramped up. As you have a reasonable amount in the bank, you've got that covered.

    Since you're in a good situation and your wife could work part time or temp if necessary (as could), all I'm going to say is go for it. Make it work. If you're really hungry and determined to do what it takes, there's no reason you couldn't be successful.

    Life is too short to slog away doing something you hate or working at a JOB when that's the last place you want to be.

    Good for you and good luck!
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  • Profile picture of the author Mary Wilhite
    Yes, I have gone through this most of my career as a auto sales person, politician, and working for city hall in Atlanta, GA.

    But I can you there is nothing like working for yourself. Once you get going you make more money, have more freedom and fun.

    Quitting is not what it used to be. When a job was the sign of security, quitting meant you had a self-destructive streak.

    This is not the case anymore, quitting means that you are independent and can charge of your own life and finances, but you must remain strong and focus.

    You can do this and make this best time of your life.
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  • Profile picture of the author rg0205
    I would start making a sustainable amount before quitting my day job...but since you've already quit, what you need now is a clear set of goals, a marketing/ business plan to go with and an execution/ day to day planner.

    There are project management softwares available for free all over the net. Once you have identified your goals and created a set of realistic plans and executions, start implementing them and then track your progress.

    I have to say that I admire the courage you have to follow your dreams. Not many people have the guts to actually do this so what you just need right now is to follow through and never be discouraged by hiccups here and there.

    I have yet to do the same because I am still contemplating and building a steady income stream before I quit my day job.

    I would love to stay tuned to your success and I wish you all the best.
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  • Profile picture of the author prtt75
    Since you are not a newbie after all when it comes to internet marketing, i guess there isn't a reason why you should not go for being a full time internet marketer. Duplicate, improve and focus.

    Good luck.
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  • Profile picture of the author Slugger_mn
    I lost 10 houses 2 years ago, it sucked!! But I jumped online, and I made things happen, now I make over 5,000 a month easy, and I love what I do! Just stick to it, and you will make it!
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  • Profile picture of the author russells
    Ok, so you've made the choice - no going back.

    My advice to you is to sclae up waht's already working for you!

    Have faith, desire and take action!

    You CAN do it!

    Work hard, apply elbow grease and you'll meet your goals.

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  • Profile picture of the author moneyhunter
    I'm very new in this forum but as maturity is concerned I have some to share with you all. I'm a Software Engg and earning a pretty good income have a wife and a daughter but deep down somewhere I can't explain this work doesn't make me happy. I've to do but it's just killing me. In between I run a mathematics website and do my field related article work and marketing all in all a one man army and guess what I'll be quitting my job in next 3 months.
    I don't know if it is a right thing to do or not but if I don't do it then isn't that too a sign for cowardice..I don't have an answer to it but still I want to take that risk else I will never know what's in that dark closet.
    So if you don't require a lot of money and not planning to expand your family for at least 3 years then fear not and see whats there for you. And if you have experience I guess it's not that bad a scenario if you need to find a job in the worst scenario but don't think of any Plan B right now and have a good sleep and write with a zeal such that there is no tomorrow. Success will be yours and if not still you will feel not bad for not giving it a shot.
    God bless you !!!
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  • Profile picture of the author Latsyrc
    I am committing a sin by not reading all the other posts yet, but quitting your good job and a backup is McDonalds is not a good thing. I urge you to go claim your job back! You know there are wait lists these days to work at Mickey D's, don't you? This is a bad time to quit a good job! I am staying at home trying to make an income online, but I never had a job to quit from. It takes time like any other business to make money.
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  • Profile picture of the author Andrea Wilson
    You sure have the big dream man! Go and reach your star. Do everything you think will work for you. I was never in the same situation but I have always thought of running away from the stuff I do right now to focus more in internet marketing.


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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      I don't think the problem is quitting your job. Where I come from we call that "getting a wild hair up his a$$" You seem dismissive about how your wife feels and what she does - and I think that's a bigger problem than what work you do.

      I think you were afraid to tell your wife "I'm going to give 2 weeks notice tomorrow" because you knew her logic might change your mind. Talking about a major life change is not the same as making the change - no matter how much you justify your decision.

      It is not unusual to be fearful of the lack of steady work/regular paycheck. It leads to feelings of insecurity that are hard to overcome. Had you waited until your income online was enough to fully pay your lifestyle, you might have eased her worry.

      it's done. You have six months in savings - you better get to work.

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  • Profile picture of the author John Romaine
    Back in the beginning of 2007, I had a relatively well paying government job. I was earning around $80,000 a year.

    Around that time, Id just finished reading a number of wealth creation books, in particular Rich Dad Poor Dad and Cashflow Quadrant. Im sure you've probably heard of these two books - if not, I highly recommend them. Robert Kiyosaki is the author of both.

    Anyway, I must've spent the better part of at least 3 - 4 years prior to this, thinking about quitting my job and becoming financially independant. Coincedentally, about 2 weeks after I finished Cashflow Quadrant, my supervisor had a go at me for being 4 minutes late for work. 4 minutes!!!

    I quit the next day.

    That was 3 years ago.

    I had a secure, high paying government job and I walked. And you know what the biggest and most important part of all of this was for me personally?

    It wasnt quitting the job, it wasnt the initial freedom, and it wasnt not having to answer to anyone anymore (although those things were great)

    It was the support of the people around me.

    I made certain that I surrounded myself with likeminded people that said "You can", "Go for it", "Let me know if I can help..." NOT "You idiot", "Ask for your job back", "Its too risky..", "You have to have a job..." etc etc

    You have two choices in this life...

    1. Do whatever makes you REALLY happy

    OR

    2. Sit in a cubicle all day, every day for the next 50 years.

    For me, the choice was easy.
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  • Profile picture of the author JohnMcCabe
    Given that the original post was put up almost a year ago, and bumped with a one-liner from a new member, I think the time for go/no go advice is long gone.

    If the OP is still around, I'd love an update, though...
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  • Profile picture of the author TurnKey Internet
    Have you considered a compromise? Could you work part time at your old job? If that's no good, then go for broke! Work hard and you will find a way to make money. Use this site and get creative. There are so many ways to support yourself, you just have to really be a go-getter about it and really give it your all. Best of luck!
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