Eggs, Baskets, And Avoiding Suicide

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This is a true story about how too many eggs in one basket can wreck your life and make you almost suicidal. I didn't even change the names (name, actually) to protect the innocent... because there were no innocents in this story - only one dumb*ss who learned his lesson.

This story begins in 1996, and it stars me. I was slogging away in my "career" in HR Management for corporate America. Big company, household name, great benefits, yadda yadda yadda. I had the very real vision of a future full of daily middle management "fun" for, oh, about the next 35 years of my life. I was not hurting for "things," but my soul was a mess. Anyone who has spent a few years caught in the cogs of a giant corporation, with all of its inane bureaucracy and entrenched morons in positions of power because they're golfing buddies with the head honchos knows exactly what I mean.

For the rest of you, three words suffice: KILL. ME. NOW.

Along came what saved me - Ye Olde Internets. I remember the day I decided to start a little resume writing service online. I put up a Geocities web page (remember those little charmers?). And in those Wild West days, all you really had to do was mention such a thing in a BBS or AOL chat room and you got takers. But the demand took me totally by surprise. I was making rent and a car payment working weekends. Let's just say the "webpreneur" bug infected me. And it's incurable.

That resume thing turned somehow into an email marketing business. For the life of me, I can't remember how it evolved along that path, but it did. By the middle of 1997, I was doing well enough to contemplate quitting the soul-sucking "career." Which I did, despite the pleas of my family and many friends not to do something so reckless and insane. They meant well - and they turned out to be more than half right in the short term - but I didn't listen.

So there I was, off on my own and facing the unknown. It should have been the scariest time of my life, but it was just the opposite. I felt set free. Again, if you've been there, you know exactly what I'm talking about. And I really poured everything I had into that email business. I built it up to a very comfortable living. I worked literally about an hour a day (sometimes not even that much) once all the pieces were in place, and spent the rest on the golf course or taking my wife out, etc.

But I made one critical mistake. I put too many eggs (basically all of them) in one basket. I had two really big customers that ordered regularly. After they'd been with me for awhile, I got lazy. I stopped trying to find new clients. I started thinking short-term. I stupidly assumed the big fish would stick with me forever. I took my eye off the ball, bottom line.

Then along came a little thing called the CAN-SPAM Act. Now, what I was doing was not spam, but that didn't matter to these two big players. They freaked out, got scared for their reputations and businesses, and they bolted. Both of them. Within weeks of each other. I simply could not convince them to hang tough.

To put this in perspective, I went from six figures to almost nothing in the span of about 5 weeks. Talk about a wake-up call. But it came too late. The business folded, I went from riches to rags, and fell into a deep funk.

I've since recovered, obviously, but it was slow going, in part because I was so depressed about that experience. At the time I just saw myself as a victim of bad luck. But that's not what I was. I was a victim of my own shortsightedness and failure to treat my business as a business. I assumed way too much and got lazy. I could have avoided it all had I kept my head in the game.

And most importantly, things never would have been so devastating had I just not put all the eggs in one basket. I guess that's why I'm posting this thread. Don't rest on your laurels if things are going well for you. And if you're still in business building mode, moving your way up, diversify. Don't rely too heavily on any one source of income, be that one customer or one way of doing business or one big money niche. Have multiple streams set up, so when you do take that inevitable hit in one area, you can keep right on rockin'.

Because feeling suicidal is never fun, and starting over from nothing is possibly even less fun.

John
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  • hehe?

    Well, I'm not sure I can relate totally, but I definitely can relate to how quickly things can change.

    Up until about 2 weeks ago - the 2.5 months prior were absolutely horrible for me personally which in turn made business horrible.

    Legal problems X 2

    Custody trouble X 1

    1 Legal problem not going my way

    =

    Me waking up one day and saying to myself WTF just happened. (yes, I just said WTF)

    Things can definitely turn on a dime and you never REALLY know from one day to the next what is coming your way nor is there a way to be "prepared" for it.

    All you can do is hang tough and work through it while you move forward.
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    • I'm really glad things are looking better, Jeremy. You're one of the "good guys" and don't deserve to have to deal with that crap.

      John

      PS - Shut up, Gergets. HA!
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  • Excellent advice from two of my favorite IM dudes.
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  • Big Mike - it's better than the glue factory, right?
  • Hey Zeus, Glad you are on the way up.

    I have had a smilar experience only my decline was much more gradual. How did it happen? I got lazy after years of reaping the rewards of a top ranking for a big money phrase. In addition to becoming lazy, I was not reinvesting nearly enough of my income back into my business. I was living off of it- in a big way!

    The whole reason I joined WF a few months ago was to broaden my knowledge of IM and to diversify into other opportunities.

    All the best with regards to getting back on track.
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  • John, it took a bit of courage to write that, thanks. Our stories have many similarities. I too kind of fell into a business. It was all my own doing, of course, but it kind of took on a life of it's own.

    I had all my eggs in one basket too. A Chinese hacker is how my eggs got broken. He (guessing it was a he) screwed up my site's search engine rankings and my traffic went from about 80,000 unique visitors per month to around 4,000. You can imagine how that killed my income. We ended up selling our home to keep from draining our savings completely dry. Once I got my site cleaned up and back into the search engines, I started diversifying.

    In the end, I'm confident I'll be able to look back at it and say it was for the best, as I do try to make lemonade out of all the lemons thrown at me, but right now I'm just getting things back close to where they were.

    Anyway, thanks for sharing your story. I not only appreciate it, but I empathize with it tremendously. If I can ever do anything for you, let me know.
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    • Dennis, I won't say that I'm glad you know what it's like, but it's comforting to know others have been down this road. Misery loves company and all that. And you're right - the bad stuff makes us stronger and when we come out the other side, it can make us smarter too.

      John
  • Great post thanks Zeus.
  • This is the flip side of "pick one thing and focus on it".

    Once you have that one thing working, diversify - preferably in a way which leverages your original "thing" (niche, business model, whatever).

    Diversifying income streams and traffic streams are my business goals for this year.
  • Great post zeuss, I remember reading when you were stepping up to plate and helping your family out a few months back, very honorable. It takes alot to write a post like that.
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    • Yeah, I appreciate you making this post. It shows your an honest and straight forward guy plus you just shared a great tip about putting all eggs in one basket.

      Cheers
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    This is a true story about how too many eggs in one basket can wreck your life and make you almost suicidal. I didn't even change the names (name, actually) to protect the innocent... because there were no innocents in this story - only one dumb*ss who learned his lesson. This story begins in 1996, and it stars me. I was slogging away in my "career" in HR Management for corporate America. Big company, household name, great benefits, yadda yadda yadda. I had the very real vision of a future full of daily middle management "fun" for, oh, about the next 35 years of my life. I was not hurting for "things," but my soul was a mess. Anyone who has spent a few years caught in the cogs of a giant corporation, with all of its inane bureaucracy and entrenched morons in positions of power because they're golfing buddies with the head honchos knows exactly what I mean.