Eggs, Baskets, And Avoiding Suicide

by Zeus66
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This is a true story about how too many eggs in one basket can wreck your life and make you almost suicidal. I didn't even change the names (name, actually) to protect the innocent... because there were no innocents in this story - only one dumb*ss who learned his lesson.

This story begins in 1996, and it stars me. I was slogging away in my "career" in HR Management for corporate America. Big company, household name, great benefits, yadda yadda yadda. I had the very real vision of a future full of daily middle management "fun" for, oh, about the next 35 years of my life. I was not hurting for "things," but my soul was a mess. Anyone who has spent a few years caught in the cogs of a giant corporation, with all of its inane bureaucracy and entrenched morons in positions of power because they're golfing buddies with the head honchos knows exactly what I mean.

For the rest of you, three words suffice: KILL. ME. NOW.

Along came what saved me - Ye Olde Internets. I remember the day I decided to start a little resume writing service online. I put up a Geocities web page (remember those little charmers?). And in those Wild West days, all you really had to do was mention such a thing in a BBS or AOL chat room and you got takers. But the demand took me totally by surprise. I was making rent and a car payment working weekends. Let's just say the "webpreneur" bug infected me. And it's incurable.

That resume thing turned somehow into an email marketing business. For the life of me, I can't remember how it evolved along that path, but it did. By the middle of 1997, I was doing well enough to contemplate quitting the soul-sucking "career." Which I did, despite the pleas of my family and many friends not to do something so reckless and insane. They meant well - and they turned out to be more than half right in the short term - but I didn't listen.

So there I was, off on my own and facing the unknown. It should have been the scariest time of my life, but it was just the opposite. I felt set free. Again, if you've been there, you know exactly what I'm talking about. And I really poured everything I had into that email business. I built it up to a very comfortable living. I worked literally about an hour a day (sometimes not even that much) once all the pieces were in place, and spent the rest on the golf course or taking my wife out, etc.

But I made one critical mistake. I put too many eggs (basically all of them) in one basket. I had two really big customers that ordered regularly. After they'd been with me for awhile, I got lazy. I stopped trying to find new clients. I started thinking short-term. I stupidly assumed the big fish would stick with me forever. I took my eye off the ball, bottom line.

Then along came a little thing called the CAN-SPAM Act. Now, what I was doing was not spam, but that didn't matter to these two big players. They freaked out, got scared for their reputations and businesses, and they bolted. Both of them. Within weeks of each other. I simply could not convince them to hang tough.

To put this in perspective, I went from six figures to almost nothing in the span of about 5 weeks. Talk about a wake-up call. But it came too late. The business folded, I went from riches to rags, and fell into a deep funk.

I've since recovered, obviously, but it was slow going, in part because I was so depressed about that experience. At the time I just saw myself as a victim of bad luck. But that's not what I was. I was a victim of my own shortsightedness and failure to treat my business as a business. I assumed way too much and got lazy. I could have avoided it all had I kept my head in the game.

And most importantly, things never would have been so devastating had I just not put all the eggs in one basket. I guess that's why I'm posting this thread. Don't rest on your laurels if things are going well for you. And if you're still in business building mode, moving your way up, diversify. Don't rely too heavily on any one source of income, be that one customer or one way of doing business or one big money niche. Have multiple streams set up, so when you do take that inevitable hit in one area, you can keep right on rockin'.

Because feeling suicidal is never fun, and starting over from nothing is possibly even less fun.

John
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  • Profile picture of the author Jeremy Kelsall
    hehe?

    Well, I'm not sure I can relate totally, but I definitely can relate to how quickly things can change.

    Up until about 2 weeks ago - the 2.5 months prior were absolutely horrible for me personally which in turn made business horrible.

    Legal problems X 2

    Custody trouble X 1

    1 Legal problem not going my way

    =

    Me waking up one day and saying to myself WTF just happened. (yes, I just said WTF)

    Things can definitely turn on a dime and you never REALLY know from one day to the next what is coming your way nor is there a way to be "prepared" for it.

    All you can do is hang tough and work through it while you move forward.
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    • Profile picture of the author Zeus66
      Originally Posted by Jeremy Kelsall View Post

      hehe?

      Well, I'm not sure I can relate totally, but I definitely can relate to how quickly things can change.

      Up until about 2 weeks ago - the 2.5 months prior were absolutely horrible for me personally which in turn made business horrible.

      Legal problems X 2

      Custody trouble X 1

      1 Legal problem not going my way

      =

      Me waking up one day and saying to myself WTF just happened. (yes, I just said WTF)

      Things can definitely turn on a dime and you never REALLY know from one day to the next what is coming your way nor is there a way to be "prepared" for it.

      All you can do is hang tough and work through it while you move forward.
      I'm really glad things are looking better, Jeremy. You're one of the "good guys" and don't deserve to have to deal with that crap.

      John

      PS - Shut up, Gergets. HA!
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      • Profile picture of the author Tina Golden
        Jeremy, since you said "up until about 2 weeks ago", I am hoping that means things are moving up for you again? I agree with John and Lisa - you're one of the good guys and I hate to see you going through a bunch of needless crap.

        Great advice, John, as usual. You need multiple baskets and multiple sources of eggs these days.

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        • Profile picture of the author Jeremy Kelsall
          Originally Posted by TMG Enterprises View Post

          Jeremy, since you said "up until about 2 weeks ago", I am hoping that means things are moving up for you again?
          The last thing was sorted the beginning of this month. Unfortunately it took me 7 - 10 days to sit back and kind of "catch my breath" for the lack of knowing how else to describe it.

          But, all in all everything is on track
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      • Profile picture of the author Lisa Gergets
        Originally Posted by Zeus66 View Post

        I'm really glad things are looking better, Jeremy. You're one of the "good guys" and don't deserve to have to deal with that crap.

        John

        PS - Shut up, Gergets. HA!
        Man, I'm sick of this abuse.

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        • Profile picture of the author Zeus66
          Originally Posted by Lisa Gergets View Post

          Man, I'm sick of this abuse.

          {flounces off}
          Are you humming the tune to "These Boots Are Made For Walkin'"? Cuz if you are, I'm running. Fast.
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  • Profile picture of the author Lisa Gergets
    Excellent advice from two of my favorite IM dudes.
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    • Profile picture of the author Zeus66
      Originally Posted by BIG Mike View Post

      @Gergets - your Title says, "Soon to be on a farm in KY"...I was curious, you being put out to pasture?

      @Jeremy/John - Been there, done that and life goes on and on and on.

      My old man had a saying he used a lot, "20 years from now, it won't make a bit of difference."

      As I got older, turns out he was right. Just play the game, learn from your mistakes and move on...it's all relative to how much you beat yourself up over everything.
      HAPPY BIRTHDAY BIG MIKE!!!

      Rock on with your bad self.
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      • Profile picture of the author Lisa Gergets
        Originally Posted by Zeus66 View Post

        HAPPY BIRTHDAY BIG MIKE!!!

        Rock on with your bad self.
        Agreed!!!!
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          • Profile picture of the author Tina Golden
            Did anyone else notice that John's avatar and the sarcasm smilie (used in Lisa's post) are suspiciously alike? Did you pose for that smilie, John?

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            • Profile picture of the author Zeus66
              Originally Posted by TMG Enterprises View Post

              Did anyone else notice that John's avatar and the sarcasm smilie (used in Lisa's post) are suspiciously alike? Did you pose for that smilie, John?

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              Dangit, now the cat's outta the bag. I figured the blue color would keep it secret. Good job, Tina.
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    Big Mike - it's better than the glue factory, right?
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  • Profile picture of the author hotftuna
    Hey Zeus, Glad you are on the way up.

    I have had a smilar experience only my decline was much more gradual. How did it happen? I got lazy after years of reaping the rewards of a top ranking for a big money phrase. In addition to becoming lazy, I was not reinvesting nearly enough of my income back into my business. I was living off of it- in a big way!

    The whole reason I joined WF a few months ago was to broaden my knowledge of IM and to diversify into other opportunities.

    All the best with regards to getting back on track.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
    John, it took a bit of courage to write that, thanks. Our stories have many similarities. I too kind of fell into a business. It was all my own doing, of course, but it kind of took on a life of it's own.

    I had all my eggs in one basket too. A Chinese hacker is how my eggs got broken. He (guessing it was a he) screwed up my site's search engine rankings and my traffic went from about 80,000 unique visitors per month to around 4,000. You can imagine how that killed my income. We ended up selling our home to keep from draining our savings completely dry. Once I got my site cleaned up and back into the search engines, I started diversifying.

    In the end, I'm confident I'll be able to look back at it and say it was for the best, as I do try to make lemonade out of all the lemons thrown at me, but right now I'm just getting things back close to where they were.

    Anyway, thanks for sharing your story. I not only appreciate it, but I empathize with it tremendously. If I can ever do anything for you, let me know.
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    • Profile picture of the author Zeus66
      Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

      John, it took a bit of courage to write that, thanks. Our stories have many similarities. I too kind of fell into a business. It was all my own doing, of course, but it kind of took on a life of it's own.

      I had all my eggs in one basket too. A Chinese hacker is how my eggs got broken. He (guessing it was a he) screwed up my site's search engine rankings and my traffic went from about 80,000 unique visitors per month to around 4,000. You can imagine how that killed my income. We ended up selling our home to keep from draining our savings completely dry. Once I got my site cleaned up and back into the search engines, I started diversifying.

      In the end, I'm confident I'll be able to look back at it and say it was for the best, as I do try to make lemonade out of all the lemons thrown at me, but right now I'm just getting things back close to where they were.

      Anyway, thanks for sharing your story. I not only appreciate it, but I empathize with it tremendously. If I can ever do anything for you, let me know.
      Dennis, I won't say that I'm glad you know what it's like, but it's comforting to know others have been down this road. Misery loves company and all that. And you're right - the bad stuff makes us stronger and when we come out the other side, it can make us smarter too.

      John
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    Great post thanks Zeus.
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  • Profile picture of the author kevinw1
    This is the flip side of "pick one thing and focus on it".

    Once you have that one thing working, diversify - preferably in a way which leverages your original "thing" (niche, business model, whatever).

    Diversifying income streams and traffic streams are my business goals for this year.
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  • Profile picture of the author herrick
    Great post zeuss, I remember reading when you were stepping up to plate and helping your family out a few months back, very honorable. It takes alot to write a post like that.
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    • Profile picture of the author jan roos
      Yeah, I appreciate you making this post. It shows your an honest and straight forward guy plus you just shared a great tip about putting all eggs in one basket.

      Cheers
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      • Profile picture of the author entry
        Nice post!

        while we are on the topic, whats the best way to scramble eggs? lol
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