In a serious quandry over my personal blog

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I actually sent it to a warrior here as a private message. It got me thinking so much that I turned it into a blog post on my personal site. I thought I would post it here for feedback... not only just to get input for myself personally, but to see what others are doing with their own, personal blog sites. Some might be branding themselves professionally, some might be just using their personal site as a means of expression, others might be using it as their core business site (like Perry Marshall).

What say you?
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I'm in sort of in a quandry about what to do with my blog here.

I kind of want to rip off the restraints and do more than just business stuff... Michael... Live... In Concert....

But it is the perpetual destination for anyone wanting to dig me up on the web... forever.

So I'm not sure if I want it to be as zany and nutcracker fun as say... my Facebook account (which is more of a reflection of who I really am) - or do I want to keep it austere and just straight up biz?

My personal friends all know that I am pretty... shall we say... colorful... and involved in everything from politics to critiquing flavors of Hot Pockets for breakfast.

Of course, my friend list includes close personal friends, school classmates, but also some of my wealthy business friends, former presidential candidates, and even sitting US Congressmen.

But the point is... I still control who gets into the party.

Facebook is like the neanderthal door man at the hottest dance club in town.

Will transitioning all of the raw me over to my blog in an open setting compromise me in some way down the road? Especially in a professional capacity?

I mean... is it a bad thing that my grandkids could pull my submissions to ratemypoo.com out of Google's cache in 30 years?

The web we weave for ourselves sometimes.... pun intended.

Gimme' some feedback here peoples.
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  • Profile picture of the author RMC
    Keep it to a members only section...use it to build exclusivity, loyalty, and grow your list relationship. (the extreme stuff anyway) You want to keep some of the personal things in there and then hint that they can read more as subscribers.

    Or else make it a separate entity, maybe even under a pen name.

    I had issues with this in a roundabout way and had to wipe out everything I had and start fresh. Personal, business, and family were getting all too cozy for my liking.
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  • Tough decision.. I'm kind of in the same boat. I have a blog on MySpace, but I don't have any of my friends on their, just strangers. It works well for the business.

    Whereas Facebook, I have mostly friends. I try not to market the business side of things too much on there and keep things personal.

    You still want to put a personal touch to those you want to read your blog. People need to see the real you. They need to see your silly side, and your serious side. Ppl that are serious all the time get boring!

    Keep it personal... well, except for the poo part.!!!
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  • Profile picture of the author sbucciarel
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    I'd go for personality. A business blog is a business blog is a business blog. You see one you've seen em all. I never visit business blogs, particularly Internet marketing business blogs, but I will visit a blog with personality and if you can combine personality and business, you'd probably have a winning blog.
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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      Thinking outside of the box is an awesome thing! It brings forth your creativity, adds variety, and let's face it, every body loves some fun!

      I personally stay away from blogs that are strictly business as I find them to be the exact same as listening to a monotone lecture back in collage...I zone right out!

      I say go for it as long as you don't get too "colorful". You certainly don't want to run potential business off.

      I guess moderstion is key here!

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      • Profile picture of the author Martin Luxton
        Michael,

        Nobody can answer this question except you.

        All I can say is that your heart doesn't seem to be in your blog - you've posted there less than once a month. Why is that?

        I've discussed the same quandary with a close marketing friend about my own site and it boils down to this.

        As a person, I am the sum of many parts and many contradictions. On the one hand, if I want a targeted business audience I will confuse them by posting about IM one day, my kids the next day, my rock band the day after . . .

        On the other hand, if I want martinluxton.com to be about me then I feel it should be about the whole of me and I should use other sites as business portals.

        If michaelhiles.com is purely a business vehicle, keep it focused on business. If it's about you, then let us get to know you, warts 'n' all.

        Who knows, being 100% yourself might turn into a great business model for you.

        Martin
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  • Profile picture of the author Lisa Gergets
    I've always respected those who will go out on a limb to be themselves. It's a chance, yup, but with awesome returns.

    I lump everything together...business, personal, whatever. Probably not the smartest thing to do business-wise, but I am who I am, and that's all that I am. LOL I want my customers to know me just like I want to know them.
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    • Profile picture of the author Jason Moffatt
      I say let it all hang out.

      There is nothing more liberating then being able to just be yourself and do whatever the heck YOU want!

      If someone else doesn't like it, FUGGEM!

      Seriously, FUGGEM!

      Nothing worse then being imprisoned on your own blog or in your own business. So many people read my blog and say... "Damn, I wish I could say that.".

      Of course they could, they just don't have the balls to say what they really want. They are afraid of losing deals, or what their mom might say, or what Google will index.

      I can't imagine living in a world where I couldn't freely voice my opinion regardless of who it may offend or push away from my business.

      I truly believe you will gain much more than you will lose by just being yourself and not setting any rules or limitations on what YOU WANT TO DO!
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    • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
      Michael,

      This is something that's an issue for a lot of people. It's going to take some time for it to settle into a general awareness sort of thing.

      I asked my subscribers yesterday if they use Facebook or Twitter. A huge chunk of the ones who replied and said they didn't see the point also mentioned their ages. Almost every one of them so far has been over 45. Most of those same people expressed concerns about security. Both computer-related and privacy-related.

      People under 30 seem a lot more comfortable broadcasting their lives online, but they tend to do it to groups of people they really know. They don't use these sites the way marketers do.

      The same sorts of concerns apply to personal blogs.

      It really comes down to what you want to accomplish, and what you're comfortable with, dunnit?

      If that involves the opinions of other people, do a gut check. If those people whose opinions matter to you saw it, how would you feel? Would you be comfortable talking with them about it? Is it worth the possible discomfort later?

      Those are the kinds of trade-offs and decisions that only you can answer. I'll give you one thought that might help you answer your own questions, though.

      A lot of people find that their family and friends don't take them seriously, even though they might be regarded as experts in their fields. That can be confusing, especially when the people around them discount their potential. It's a really simple thing, though.

      Your family and friends like you, but they may not respect you. Not in the way people you do business with will. They've seen you at the party with the lampshade on your head.

      Do you want to post videos of you at that party?


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  • Profile picture of the author WD Mino
    Hey Michael,

    here is a thought.

    Keep the main part of the blog Business oriented. have a different part that requires an opt in for Michael Hiles Raw and Unplugged where you can discuss everything you wish. this way you are not intruding on the business oriented visitors and they are opting in to receive access to the "dark side" either that or set up a different blog and link it off the main one but suggestion A might be better suited.
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  • Profile picture of the author Zeus66
    I gotta go with J-Mo on this one. Balls to the wall. Keep it really real.
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    • Profile picture of the author Kevin Riley
      Michael

      I started my blog a few years ago as a place to announce new products, but it quickly became a place where I share our latest vacations, videos of stuff in Japan, getting our girls, and this week a "name that food" contest.

      Feedback has been that my members love it. I especially get good feedback after posting one of our trips. Take a look:

      Kevin Riley Inc

      BTW, for anyone who ever wondered why the corporate "inc", some dang designer in the US got KevinRiley.com a long time ago.
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      • Profile picture of the author Zeus66
        Originally Posted by Kevin Riley View Post


        BTW, for anyone who ever wondered why the corporate "inc", some dang designer in the US got KevinRiley.com a long time ago.
        Nobody cares, hamster boy.
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      • Profile picture of the author MichaelHiles
        Wow... talk about topic resurrection. I though this was dead and buried in Warrior Forum history.

        Thank you to everyone who has given me input on this. If you clicked through to the site, you can see that I hadn't come up with a solution yet... the top post is this same one from Feb 6th.


        Originally Posted by Martin Luxton View Post

        Michael,

        Nobody can answer this question except you.

        All I can say is that your heart doesn't seem to be in your blog - you've posted there less than once a month. Why is that?

        I've discussed the same quandary with a close marketing friend about my own site and it boils down to this.

        As a person, I am the sum of many parts and many contradictions. On the one hand, if I want a targeted business audience I will confuse them by posting about IM one day, my kids the next day, my rock band the day after . . .

        On the other hand, if I want martinluxton.com to be about me then I feel it should be about the whole of me and I should use other sites as business portals.

        If michaelhiles.com is purely a business vehicle, keep it focused on business. If it's about you, then let us get to know you, warts 'n' all.

        Who knows, being 100% yourself might turn into a great business model for you.

        Martin
        From a business perspective, my blog really doesn't do a whole lot except give some Google food for anyone who might be searching me out for info/reference for my strategic marketing consulting services and lead generation campaign development. Essentially, yes I'm a real guy, I know what I'm talking about, I have a web presence, etc...

        But it's there just as a point of reference, and not a business generator. I been around for so long that I generate nearly 100% of my business from references and my existing customer list of 15 years. In fact, I haven't taken on a brand new client since last fall.

        So, you're correct, my heart isn't necessarily "in" my blog right now - BUT I WANT IT TO BE.

        For those warriors that are friends with me on Facebook, they know how much I update... sometimes 10 posts a day. And it's across the board depending on what I run across or what I'm thinking and it's all over the map from music, politics, waxing philosophical-like... whatever...

        I really want to move things over to the blog as the central hub, and let the blog syndicate out to the social media side and everything else. It came about as a result of reading "Crush It". Ultimately the blog is my ideal place to let 'er rip.


        Originally Posted by Jason Moffatt View Post

        I say let it all hang out.

        There is nothing more liberating then being able to just be yourself and do whatever the heck YOU want!

        If someone else doesn't like it, FUGGEM!

        Seriously, FUGGEM!

        Nothing worse then being imprisoned on your own blog or in your own business. So many people read my blog and say... "Damn, I wish I could say that.".

        Of course they could, they just don't have the balls to say what they really want. They are afraid of losing deals, or what their mom might say, or what Google will index.

        I can't imagine living in a world where I couldn't freely voice my opinion regardless of who it may offend or push away from my business.

        I truly believe you will gain much more than you will lose by just being yourself and not setting any rules or limitations on what YOU WANT TO DO!
        I hear you Jason.... I am there with you because I've always been a "let it all hang out guy" in person... so it's not like it would be a stretch. That's the devil on the other shoulder saying, "Listen to JMo and Gary Vaynerchuk... you're a crazy fu@ker like just they are, so go for the gusto." And you're not helping me ignore that little ******* either... haha

        But it's still sort of like the internet version of the morning after a couple 5ths of Maker's Mark... what the hell did I do last night??

        Nobody wins a race by being mediochre. Nobody get's the leading role by being bland. Nobody gets the record deal because they're just okay. Nobody makes the NBA without throwing some elbows.

        So to quote an old Bad Brains song... KICK OUT THE JAMS!!!

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        Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

        Michael,

        This is something that's an issue for a lot of people. It's going to take some time for it to settle into a general awareness sort of thing.

        I asked my subscribers yesterday if they use Facebook or Twitter. A huge chunk of the ones who replied and said they didn't see the point also mentioned their ages. Almost every one of them so far has been over 45. Most of those same people expressed concerns about security. Both computer-related and privacy-related.

        People under 30 seem a lot more comfortable broadcasting their lives online, but they tend to do it to groups of people they really know. They don't use these sites the way marketers do.

        The same sorts of concerns apply to personal blogs.

        It really comes down to what you want to accomplish, and what you're comfortable with, dunnit?

        If that involves the opinions of other people, do a gut check. If those people whose opinions matter to you saw it, how would you feel? Would you be comfortable talking with them about it? Is it worth the possible discomfort later?

        Those are the kinds of trade-offs and decisions that only you can answer. I'll give you one thought that might help you answer your own questions, though.

        A lot of people find that their family and friends don't take them seriously, even though they might be regarded as experts in their fields. That can be confusing, especially when the people around them discount their potential. It's a really simple thing, though.

        Your family and friends like you, but they may not respect you. Not in the way people you do business with will. They've seen you at the party with the lampshade on your head.

        Do you want to post videos of you at that party?


        Paul
        lol... I hit you up on FB after reading your email.

        You hit the crux of the matter.

        The irony for me is that after being a veteran in the internet industry, I only jumped into social media a year ago when an old friend said he had tried to look me up and couldn't find crap.

        And that was very much by design because I came from that old school of thinking. Be anonymous as possible, stay off the radar, control your image/brand, etc...

        But I realized that I also agreed that it wasn't going away and old models were in play. I can't say "dead" because I agree that building onto the general awareness piece, nobody really knows what it will all mean in the end. But for now, I agree with Socialnomics and the value of being genuine and legit - for better or worse.

        I can't remember where, but I remember reading an article or blog post (Seth Godin maybe?) about how business operated in our grandparent's era. Small town mercantile shops meant you should smile, put on the nice front, don't alienate half the town by being outrageous or extremist in your views. The gist of the article was that social media was bringing a return to that kind of "politeness" because of the risks involved.

        The difference between the internet vs. small town mercantile business is that if you screw up in some way in the village, eventually you can overcome most of the issue. People forget. Memories fade. It's no longer relevant. But with Google cache - it's there forever, in stark black and white, unforgiving, unforgetting, as fresh in 30 years as it was the day it happened.

        I wonder how it will work out for people in a couple decades when the "hookers and blow" pics issue comes up after someone who does matter finds them in Google (or whatever search du jour there is). There's a difference between a couple of Polaroids floating around in a fraternity brother's shoe box, and having unlimited inventory of digital deliciousness ready to pop at a click for anyone who wants it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Sandy Cormack
    Michael,

    I propose three blogs - one for optins, one for communicating with your list, one for personal stuff.

    I propose two Facebook personas - one for personal, one a 'page' for your biz (become a fan of...).

    For me, I don't need a personal blog because my Facebook persona gives me an outlet for that.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
    If I didn't let a little personality out into my business endeavors I'd probably explode.

    Boom.

    I'd guesstimate that 99.9% of any feedback I get about it is positive. I will add that what I let out is measured, calculated if you will, as one can surely go too far as well.

    If you really want to let your hair down, so to speak, why not just start a separate blog?
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