Are You a "People Person"?

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Being a people person is supposedly an advantage in networking. However, that involves "liking people." How can someone like people, even on a theoretical level? People get nasty with little provocation, start wars over useless rocks. Many have bad BO.
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    • Profile picture of the author Al-Leyson
      Originally Posted by MaverickMarketing View Post

      You don't have to "like" everyone, you just have to learn how to work with them! Big difference.
      Indeed. I am a people person and no matter how much they shout or curse, I get along. Just "like" them for the sake of business.
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      Originally Posted by MaverickMarketing View Post

      You don't have to "like" everyone, you just have to learn how to work with them! Big difference.

      Very true words....
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      • Profile picture of the author webwriter
        I tend to keep to myself, spending much of my time online or with a good book. However, I find that I interact very well with people online. In a group of strangers, I turn to a wallflower, though I have no problem interacting with people, including relatives, that I know well.
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    I get on fine with people and, for reasons I don't comprehend, usually like them all right.
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  • Profile picture of the author tweetzon
    im not a really a people person , i dont like to communicate that much maybe cuz i aint good at talking . it take time to think of words to say and sometimes you just scare that u offended them. so conclusion , just keep your mouth shut.
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    • Profile picture of the author thunderbird
      Originally Posted by tweetzon View Post

      im not a really a people person , i dont like to communicate that much maybe cuz i aint good at talking . it take time to think of words to say...
      Sounds like you must be a screenwriter.
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    i like the sound of that , i might probably become one haha!
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  • Profile picture of the author DougBarger
    One way I like to deal with those who seem to be hard to get along with either because of abrasive personalities or whatever reason, is to look at the "real them".

    The "them" they may not even recognize as who they truly are.

    The person they have the potential to be.

    I speak to that person and expect the best.

    Many times we've seen this in action when someone profiles someone based on prejudices and then because they were "expected" to act that way, they just live up to that unfair stereotype projected onto them because it was how they were conditioned to believe they were expected to act.

    Of course we're each responsible for our own behavior regardless of how others treat us, but that's just the way it is.

    What I like to do, is use it for good and expect people to be the very best version
    of themselves they can be.

    Amazingly, many times, just that simple power of expectation will "release" them into being who they really are and dreamed they could be...

    capable of great things and excellence if only someone would have acted as if it were even possible!

    You see, I've developed this idea over time that in order to "bring out the best" in people,

    we have to expect them to be that best within.

    We truly do each have our best within us.

    It's who we've been created to be.

    If we want to see more of the best of others...

    Let's speak to their best and give "their best" room
    to meet us at our level of expectation.

    Because, it's really only there, that "we" are each at "our best" anyway!
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    • Profile picture of the author thunderbird
      Originally Posted by DougBarger View Post

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      Many times we've seen this in action when someone profiles someone based on prejudices and then because they were "expected" to act that way, they just live up to that unfair stereotype projected onto them because it was how they were conditioned to believe they were expected to act.

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      It could also be that they just don't want to deal with someone who acts like they they're supposed to prove something to them. If I meet up with someone who acts superior and behaves like I have to justify my existence to them, I won't want to deal with them either.

      It is quite possible to market stuff without letting anyone give you sh*t.
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      • Profile picture of the author DougBarger
        Originally Posted by thunderbird View Post

        It could also be that they just don't want to deal with someone who acts like they they're supposed to prove something to them. If I meet up with someone who acts superior and behaves like I have to justify my existence to them, I won't want to deal with them either.

        It is quite possible to market stuff without letting anyone give you sh*t.

        Being secure, I already know no one is superior to me.

        So it doesn't bother me in the slightest.

        And I agree, as I had already covered before,
        I don't let anyone's "sh*t" as you call it,
        do anything but stay under subjection to what I've already purposed.
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  • Profile picture of the author entrepreneurjay
    I hate people but I still do well online lol. Thats why my Dog is my best friend lmao. Great points made though, I don't think you necessarily have to love people to be successful you just need to know how to sell to them, and be a good communicator like Barack Obama, or William Jefferson Clinton lol. I'll stop kidding around but those are my 2 cents.
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    • Profile picture of the author Ken
      It's ok not to like everyone.

      Everyone is different. People are good & evil. People are beautiful & ugly. People are honest & liars.

      You don't have to like everyone. Everyone doesn't have to like you. Similar to needing everyone to like you are the people who need everyone to think they are the most important person on earth.

      Some people we love and others we detest, and you need only to realize that it is ok not to like them, and for them not to like you. It does not make you or them a bad person.

      Never believe there's something wrong with you. Don't scrutinize/second-guess/self-flagellate. Using your own judgment does not make you "a horrible person." It makes you, you.

      In fact, dislike is normal in general; it's part of social interaction. The person who believes there's such a thing as being adorable to every soul on earth needs to stop hanging out with Unicorns.

      Don't live my life worrying what other people think about you. I don't have time to worry about what others think about me. I don't think you should either.

      I know there are people I don't like, and sometimes I have no good reason, I just don't like them, and I figure there are people who just don't like me. That's the way life is. Just let it go and don't get upset over every little thing.

      As my old friend Popeye once said, "I yam what I yam and that's all that I yam, if you don't like it, I don't give a ....." or something like that.

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      • Profile picture of the author Hanz
        Agreed with Maverick. You have to learn to work with people if you want to make it in the workplace or life in general. I was forced to work with the boss' brother. I had to deal with it whether I liked it or not. Not just him but a whole lot of other clients. I got a lot of "Thanks" and pats on the back for good work but other than that, I never did manage to climb that ladder to bigger things within the company.
        Same goes for marketers, online or offline. You can't make sales if you lack patience with your customers.
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  • Profile picture of the author silvervixen
    I'm NOT a people person, which is probably why I thrive on the internet. There's enough of that distance to make interacting with others easier to do than if I were face to face with them.
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  • Profile picture of the author CDarklock
    Originally Posted by thunderbird View Post

    People get nasty with little provocation, start wars over useless rocks. Many have bad BO.
    People also build fantastic things, think amazing thoughts, and help you when you can't do something yourself.

    It's up to you which qualities you decide are more important.
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    • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
      To paraphrase Jonathan Swift, "I like people. It's the occasional Tom, Dick and Harry that disgusts me."

      I think people are the coolest things going. Even if they weren't, look at the stuff they've invented. Like beer. And can you imagine a pool table designed by an octopus?


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  • Profile picture of the author Lisa Gergets
    I'm very outspoken and I really do love people, but you really don't need to like people to be good with them...you only need to be able to mirror their actions, attitudes, nuances of personality. People like people that are like them. Be like them and they'll trust you. When they trust you, they'll buy from you. Create relationships and you're golden.
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    • Profile picture of the author CDarklock
      Originally Posted by Lisa Gergets View Post

      Be like them and they'll trust you.
      Pretend to be like them, and they'll destroy you.

      Therein lies the rub.
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      • Profile picture of the author Lisa Gergets
        Originally Posted by CDarklock View Post

        Pretend to be like them, and they'll destroy you.

        Therein lies the rub.
        Hmmm, I don't necessarily agree with that, CD.

        I used to be in retail sales (oh my god did that suck). I realized that if I could observe and mirror things like voice inflections and speech cadences, small physical mannerisms...all very very subtle stuff...people were MUCH more apt to trust my opinion on something they were considering buying.

        Besides all that, nobody can destroy you unless you let them.
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  • Profile picture of the author mfleisch
    Hey Thunderbird... you can't be all negative. If you want to network successfully you should start by finding people you want to network with. Just like the Warrior forum, you can find like minded people who like to talk about the same stuff you do. It may be a little intimidating at first but it's well worth it.
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    Dogs think we're above them; cats think we're below them;
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  • Profile picture of the author valerieSONORA
    I have to say it depends on the people Most people I can get along with, but then there's some I don't want to, I can't, I won't, I wouldn't even try
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    • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
      Val, Val, Val...

      Fix your sig file. It should be, "Gabba gabba hey!"

      [sheesh. some people's kids]


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      • Profile picture of the author valerieSONORA
        Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

        Val, Val, Val...

        Fix your sig file. It should be, "Gabba gabba hey!"

        [sheesh. some people's kids]


        Paul


        This is your type of show Paul, you'd love it Especially the Jack Black one where he dances.

        Sorry, a "downstairs" post, but couldn't help myself.

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        • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
          Val,
          This is your type of show Paul
          Ummm... No. The Ramones were my kind of show. Or for TV, "Criminal Minds." Or "Battlestar Galactica."

          People who write stuff like you linked to should all be named Tom, Dick and Harry, for convenience in identifying who to dislike...

          [sigh]


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          • Profile picture of the author valerieSONORA
            Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

            Val,Ummm... No. The Ramones were my kind of show. Or for TV, "Criminal Minds." Or "Battlestar Galactica."

            People who write stuff like you linked to should all be named Tom, Dick and Harry, for convenience in identifying who to dislike...

            [sigh]


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            I've never been called Tom, Dick or Harry before

            I think I need a good cry now

            And don't lie, everyone knows your favorite show is The Real Housewives of Orange County!
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            • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
              Val,
              I've never been called Tom, Dick or Harry before
              You script that show? Tsk. That sort of thing is why people come in here unable to construct complete sentences.
              And don't lie, everyone knows your favorite show is The Real Housewives of Orange County!
              "What's that, Lassie? Gretchen fell in the well and Timmy needs help pulling the cover over it?"


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  • Profile picture of the author tweetzon
    have you ever have this feeling that when you see this person you dont even want to talk to him/her? i do and i dont know why haha
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  • Profile picture of the author seasoned
    Originally Posted by thunderbird View Post

    Being a people person is supposedly an advantage in networking. However, that involves "liking people." How can someone like people, even on a theoretical level? People get nasty with little provocation, start wars over useless rocks. Many have bad BO.
    NO, I'm not a people person. SURPRISE everyone!(sarc) Some people I DO like, but not nearly as much as I would like. between the people that seem to want to BUG people and slow the planet down, the ones with chips on their shoulder, the ones that will blame whatever for all their ills, GIVE ME A BREAK! As for BO, I guess I have been lucky. I haven't smelled that in quite a while. Maybe that is due to my being in a white collar profession, and often in small or better hotels.

    The area my home is in is also a nice area. I DO like my neighbors. One once treated me badly, but his WIFE told him off! 8-) NOW, we are good friends. He always seems happy to see me, says hi, and I let him keep his car in my garage and he got and installed a garage door opener. Oh yeah, he gets my mail also. Another neighbor has some daughters that I am currently having water my lawn. well, I DID say I like some people. One neighbor came over to see if I was ok because, a few months after she saw me in an ambulance, she didn't think my car moved.

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    • Profile picture of the author CDarklock
      Originally Posted by seasoned View Post

      Another neighbor has some daughters that I am currently having water my lawn.
      Is that a euphemism? Because I've never heard of that, and it sounds interesting.
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      • Profile picture of the author seasoned
        Originally Posted by CDarklock View Post

        Is that a euphemism? Because I've never heard of that, and it sounds interesting.
        Around the house, there are plants and there is a big green patch of grass. There is a spigot on my home, where I live, that they connect a hose to and water the grass(which are plants), so they don't die.

        So NO, it isn't a "euphemism". Garage means garage, opener means opener, daughters means daughters, lawn means lawn, etc....

        WOW, do people really think I may do that?

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        • Profile picture of the author CDarklock
          Originally Posted by seasoned View Post

          WOW, do people really think I may do that?
          Well, honestly, there's an age when it becomes a perfectly reasonable option.
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    • Profile picture of the author thunderbird
      Originally Posted by seasoned View Post

      <snip>
      As for BO, I guess I have been lucky. <snip>
      You've produced hit movies? Good for you!
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        Originally Posted by thunderbird View Post

        You've produced hit movies? Good for you!
        HUH!?!?!?....
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        • Profile picture of the author thunderbird
          Originally Posted by seasoned View Post

          HUH!?!?!?....
          Box office. Bad pun. Also, irrelevant to this thread.

          (Here's an article that uses the term:
          'Stinking Films' Responsible for Fox's Bad B.O. - ABC News)

          In an attempt to twist this non sequitur bad joke on topic: In Internet marketing, I guess someone with bad BO doesn't attract good business in their online campaigns. Ah, never mind, it ain't working. The pun can't be salvaged.

          That joke has bad BO. Please excuse.
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  • Profile picture of the author valerieSONORA
    I've never even seen Tom, Dick or Harry I will have to look it up. When I've finished crying, that is. Start being a people person Paul Myers!!!!! PS: Quit calling me a "placeholder for multiple unspecified people!"

    You like Lassie???? Oh I just KNEW somewhere deep inside, deep, deep, deep inside of you there was a fluffy, puffy marshmallow! YAY!
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    • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
      Val,
      PS: Quit calling me a "place card for multiple unspecified people!"
      [sigh] Note the previous paraphrase of Swift. That refers to his comment, "I dislike people in general, but am fond of the occasional Tom, Dick or Harry."
      You like Lassie????
      It seemed less insipid than "Real Housewives." I had to look the show up to even get the name of someone in it.

      Time to go shoot some peop... er... pool.


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      • Profile picture of the author valerieSONORA
        Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

        Val,[sigh] Note the previous paraphrase of Swift. That refers to his comment, "I dislike people in general, but am fond of the occasional Tom, Dick or Harry."It seemed less insipid than "Real Housewives." I had to look the show up to even get the name of someone in it.

        Time to go shoot some peop... er... pool.


        Paul
        Hey you said
        To paraphrase Jonathan Swift, "I like people. It's the occasional Tom, Dick and Harry that disgusts me."
        Then called me Tom, Dick, and Harry
        Where's the sobbing emoticon? (((SOB, SOB, SOB)))

        You don't like Lassie???

        That marshmallow inside of you will be discovered one of these days!!!!!
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        • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
          Val,
          That marshmallow inside of you will be discovered one of these days!!!!!
          When it is, it shall be discovered to have been roasted, on a stick.


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          • Profile picture of the author valerieSONORA
            Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

            Val,When it is, it shall be discovered to have been roasted, on a stick.


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            Oh, no it will be kept under lock and key in a museum.
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  • Profile picture of the author Online Bliss
    Indeed. I am a people person and no matter how much they shout or curse, I get along. Just "like" them for the sake of business.
    That goes back to the comment that the
    Customer is always Right!
    If you want the business you gotta grin and bare it.
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  • Profile picture of the author silvercap
    You don't have to worry about BO online ;-)
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    • Profile picture of the author seasoned
      Originally Posted by silvercap View Post

      You don't have to worry about BO online ;-)
      You DON'T!?!?!? Does that mean you live under a bridge and eat out of the nearest garbage can? Maybe you don't even eat... I mean if being online isolates you from AIR so much, why not everything else? 8-)

      ROTFLMAO!

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  • Profile picture of the author NewbiesDiary
    Nup - not a people person & have a T-shirt that says so!
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    I am, however a Gemini - so... YEP! Sure am a people person - I just love em!
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  • Profile picture of the author valerieSONORA
    I am a total misanthrope.

    And you guys are hilarious
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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      This thread reinforces my personal preferences.

      I like people....in small doses.......well spaced.

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  • Profile picture of the author Jason James
    Originally Posted by thunderbird View Post

    Being a people person is supposedly an advantage in networking. However, that involves "liking people." How can someone like people, even on a theoretical level? People get nasty with little provocation, start wars over useless rocks. Many have bad BO.
    I was NEVER a people person...Always shy and quiet... but I have learned to be because generally its required in the Internet marketing field.

    From my first seminar, to my last (20+ seminars later) i'm probably a different person socially all together. I would NEVER speak to anyone at events, and just sit in the seminar room and takes notes... now I try to meet as many people as possible.

    Not only has it helped my business by leaps and bounds, i've learned to enjoy it and have met some really amazing people.
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    • Profile picture of the author pink sapphire
      Not a people person at all - some people are very nice, but most are annoying. I much prefer cats, but since they don't spend money online, I have to make an effort to relate to other humans. :p Fortunately I find it easy to interact like a normal person from behind a screen, which is why IM is ideal for me.
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      • Profile picture of the author webwriter
        Originally Posted by pink sapphire View Post

        Not a people person at all - some people are very nice, but most are annoying. I much prefer cats, but since they don't spend money online, I have to make an effort to relate to other humans. :p Fortunately I find it easy to interact like a normal person from behind a screen, which is why IM is ideal for me.
        I also prefer cats to people. My four cats' love is unconditional too. And I also agree that most people are annoying. Can't stand them. I like my own company.
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    "I don't know half of you half as well as I should like, and I like less than half of you half as well as you deserve"
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