The Absolute, Definite Number One Rule of Internet Marketing

by Allen Graves 33 replies
There are so many rules and concepts and ideas and techniques and tips and tricks and challenges in the ever-changing internet marketing world. So many, in fact, that no single person could actually fathom them all.

But there is one rule that I implement above all. This rule is a constant and will never go away. This rule is of the utmost importance. This rule cannot be overlooked if you stand a chance of keeping any sanity in your hectic life.

And that rule is...

Never forget the most important things.

Your children, your friends, your family, your partners, your colleagues (and even your pets). That's right, the number one rule of internet marketing ,in my opinion anyway, is to take time out to spend with the people you love and the people you love to be with, doing the things you love to do.

Isn't that why you work so hard at your business? Isn't that why we're all here to begin with?

I love 'You've made a sale' emails just as much as the other guy...but 100,000 of those emails doesn't even come close to the feeling I get when my daughter looks me in the eyes and says, "I love you, daddy," before I tuck her into bed at night.

Yes, I just put my daughter to bed. But I thought to myself as I was leaving her room that she (and the rest of my family) is not only the reason that I do internet marketing, but they are the whole purpose for it as well.

So stop every once in a while and think about the most important part of internet marketing. Your computer will be there when you come back. There is no guarantee that the people you love will be there tomorrow.

Respectfully,
Allen Graves
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  • Profile picture of the author Kevin Riley
    Allen

    I so fully agree. My Rieko is the main purpose in everything I do. She knows that she comes before my business. I love my business and could work on it 24/7, but I will take time out to watch a movie with her, go for a walk in the evening, and today I'm shutting down to take her to an art gallery.

    The main reason I run an Internet business is because it gives me that freedom to spend time with Rieko and take her places.
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  • Profile picture of the author sparrow
    Family first for me they are the ones I am doing this for

    you couldn't of said it any better Allen, the innocence from young childern really hit home what matters

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    • Profile picture of the author Lance K
      Amen to that, Allen.

      We're off to the hospital in the morning to welcome baby boy #4.
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      • Originally Posted by Lance K View Post

        Amen to that, Allen.

        We're off to the hospital in the morning to welcome baby boy #4.
        Congratulations to you, Lance. Also, this is a great thread. It is uplifting to see so many people talk about how important the ones they love are to them.
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    Kevin,

    <fist to heart> I feel ya.

    TKO,

    There is nothing worse and I (all of us, I'm sure) wish you the best, bro.

    Sparrow,

    Innocence is bliss, isn't it!

    Lance,

    Best wishes today and for the next 18 years!!!!!

    Hi Angela!

    AL
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    • Profile picture of the author Sandor Verebi
      Hi Friends,

      Excellent thread. Thanks Allen.

      We may not to forgot our family because they are the sense of our life. And we only can thanks to God if they are with us.

      I've readed your kind words and feel that what kind of feeling heart do you have. To this is not what to add. And I'm glad that I may be between peoples like these.

      Lance, congratulate on your newborn and whole family. They deserve all your love.

      Blessings,

      Sandor
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      • Profile picture of the author Allen Graves
        Thanks Sandor,

        I am seeing more and more often that there are a lot of "genuine" people that frequent this forum. It's truly a good place to be!

        Go to any other internet marketing forum and see if you find people like you find here...ain't gonna happen.

        Thanks again,
        Allen
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    Allen, God bless you.

    I don't know what to say. I don't want to be thought off as a sizzy but you almost made me wanna ___

    Well, Almost :-)

    ~Omar
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    • Profile picture of the author naruq
      Great Post Allen! I would also add that make sure you take care of your health so you can be around for your family and friends. Exercise 3 or more times per week and eat healthy!
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    • Profile picture of the author NeelsTheron
      Good of you to remind us, Allen, to keep our priorities in order! And may I add to that list: that we also spend time ploughing back something into the wider community and world we are part of, where people with our skills and resources and commitment are sorely needed in many places
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      • Profile picture of the author Allen Graves
        LOL

        Omar, there's no problem with shedding a ____ every once in a while. It just makes us who we are. Some may not understand, but I don't care.

        AL

        p.s. My daughter said hello to everybody!
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  • Profile picture of the author Kim Standerline
    I've got my 4 year old grandson Adam stopping with me tonight (He invited himself)

    It was nice to get away from the computer and play a few games, watch some TV etc with him (I also took him for his swimming lesson so it was a chance for him to show off)

    Nothing better than when and his 2 year old sister Jessica sit on my knee fightening over who is hugging me lol

    Thing is, you turn round and before you know it they are all grown up, I'm still not sure where the years went with my daughter, it doesn't seem 5 minutes since she was Jessica's age. (She's 30 now)

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  • Profile picture of the author origalex
    Great post Allen. It can be very distracting when you have chickens, many outdoor cats, dogs and other friends you want to spend time with every day. It demands concentration and I hope eventually it will lead to a richer ($$$) life. And congratulations to Lance on a new addition. We're expecting our fiirst grandchild.

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    • Profile picture of the author Razorblade
      Hey, Allen, thanks for a very refreshing post. I just got out of bed and its great to start the day with a very down-to-earth post just like yours.

      I still have to make my very first sale in affiliate marketing after starting a few months ago, I know the road ahead isn't going to be easy, and sometimes I feel so tired I entertain thoughts of quitting. But I want to be a good provider to my family, I want them to have a good life.

      So I keep going... and keep coming back to sites like WF to learn more...

      Again, thanks for a great post!



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      • Profile picture of the author jcmentor
        I am many miles further down the road than most of you here at this forum. And I will tell you that Allen speaks the truth here with a loud, clear voice.

        All of this stuff here comes and goes, comes and goes throughout the course of a lifetime. But your children and your families are only that for a very short time and you will all be astonished to wake up some day soon, and it will all be past.

        And you will glory in the memories and joy that you are experiencing NOW, or you will be filled with regret for paying too much attention to what "comes and goes."

        What a great privilege it is to share these thoughts with each other here at this forum.

        Sorry, gotta go. My wife is calling me to take a ride in the mountains and watch the sunset.

        All the best,

        Jack
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  • Originally Posted by Allen Graves View Post

    There are so many rules and concepts and ideas and techniques and tips and tricks and challenges in the ever-changing internet marketing world. So many, in fact, that no single person could actually fathom them all.

    But there is one rule that I implement above all. This rule is a constant and will never go away. This rule is of the utmost importance. This rule cannot be overlooked if you stand a chance of keeping any sanity in your hectic life.

    And that rule is...

    Never forget the most important things.

    Your children, your friends, your family, your partners, your colleagues (and even your pets). That's right, the number one rule of internet marketing ,in my opinion anyway, is to take time out to spend with the people you love and the people you love to be with, doing the things you love to do.

    Isn't that why you work so hard at your business? Isn't that why we're all here to begin with?

    I love 'You've made a sale' emails just as much as the other guy...but 100,000 of those emails doesn't even come close to the feeling I get when my daughter looks me in the eyes and says, "I love you, daddy," before I tuck her into bed at night.

    Yes, I just put my daughter to bed. But I thought to myself as I was leaving her room that she (and the rest of my family) is not only the reason that I do internet marketing, but they are the whole purpose for it as well.

    So stop every once in a while and think about the most important part of internet marketing. Your computer will be there when you come back. There is no guarantee that the people you love will be there tomorrow.

    Respectfully,
    Allen Graves

    i totally agree with you
    but now that kinda problem for me, when i need to concentrate on how to pay my bills and the fact i work 9 hours in my day job and the other hours on my online business

    what would you do in my situation ?
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    • Profile picture of the author Allen Graves
      I was in your situation about 4 years ago. Things were pretty bleak at the time. It sure doesn't seem that long ago, though.

      I just kept doing what I had to do. There were times when I had to "ignore" my family in order to get some things done...but budgeting just an hour a day can get you further than nothing at all.

      Just keep going, keep thinking and work smarter, not harder. Spend all of your alone time (driving to work, in the shower, going to sleep at night, etc...) thinking about what direction you need to be going and the most efficient way to get there.

      Suddenly you'll realize that you've got something good and you can go with it. I don't remember who it was, I think it was Anik Singal, but I was in your position and he said to stop going after every opportunity and settle down on the one that is going to make you money. Lo and behold when I did that, things started to work out for me.

      There are a lot of folks here who can give advice to those in your difficult position. Hopefully this will pass quickly for you and you can make the jump into being able to run your business instead of it running you.

      Keep going...it will happen.

      Hope that helps,
      Allen Graves
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      • Profile picture of the author jcmentor
        Here's a nice complimentary quote that arrived in my email this morning from Alan Cohen's "Daily Inspiration". Alan Cohen Website

        "The act of being happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from common things."
        Henry Ward Beecher

        All the best,

        Jack
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      • Profile picture of the author Zeus66
        Alright people, stop the lollygagging and GET BACK TO WORK! Sorry, I could only take so much uplifting and heart swelling.

        Great thread, Allen ::: mumble, grumble ::: Slackers. SORRY. Sorry, see how I am?

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      • Originally Posted by Allen Graves View Post

        I was in your situation about 4 years ago. Things were pretty bleak at the time. It sure doesn't seem that long ago, though.

        I just kept doing what I had to do. There were times when I had to "ignore" my family in order to get some things done...but budgeting just an hour a day can get you further than nothing at all.

        Just keep going, keep thinking and work smarter, not harder. Spend all of your alone time (driving to work, in the shower, going to sleep at night, etc...) thinking about what direction you need to be going and the most efficient way to get there.

        Suddenly you'll realize that you've got something good and you can go with it. I don't remember who it was, I think it was Anik Singal, but I was in your position and he said to stop going after every opportunity and settle down on the one that is going to make you money. Lo and behold when I did that, things started to work out for me.

        There are a lot of folks here who can give advice to those in your difficult position. Hopefully this will pass quickly for you and you can make the jump into being able to run your business instead of it running you.

        Keep going...it will happen.

        Hope that helps,
        Allen Graves
        that was inspiring my friend

        thanks for the good words
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  • Profile picture of the author offthegrid
    Take the time out for family and friends...
    I remember one time I didn't, and my grampa died 2 weeks later. I could have gone and seen him, but I had so much work to do, and the kids wanted to go home, and a hundred other excuses, and..
    The bottom line is that... the bottom line is not the most important thing.
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  • Profile picture of the author James Schramko
    Allen great point. I thought it was going to be "turn up".

    Family is why I do it too. The other day I loaded all the photos off my mobile phone from when I quit my old office job. I realized I have spent more happy moments with my wife and kids since then than many years prior. It is a life changer.

    We play guitar hero on the playstation and ride bikes in the bush...
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  • Profile picture of the author tommygadget
    My friends who live in Europe make fun of me for this very thing. They say that I as an American don't take the time to live life. They say you should work to live, NOT live to work. I laugh at them and tell them that they are a bunch of slackers. What they don't know is I have my own business because I want to live my life on MY terms, not that of an employer who does not care about me. Hats off to you Allen for pointing out something that should be most obvious (but isn't) to all of us.

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    • Profile picture of the author Joe Russell
      Hey Allen, thanks for the kick in A$$ I needed that.

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    Thanks for sharing. It is so important for me to continue to cultivate good habits including eating right, exercise, and get out and do things with my wife. Today we are going to visit the art museum. Thanks for the reminder!
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  • My 10 year old daughter just called
    me out about this one.

    She came up with a little contract between
    the two of us - we both had to sign it.

    Smart kid.

    It listed things like I would give her
    at least 10 minutes of alone time every
    day for girl talk.

    What a wake up call!

    My own child had to remind me that there is more
    to being a Mommie than just payin' the bills.

    I've been working so hard on providing for their
    basic needs ie. roof over our heads, food on the
    table, clothes, transportation - I let their emotional
    needs slip a little.

    NEVER AGAIN!

    I CHOOSE TO FIND A WAY TO BALANCE IT ALL!
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    • tell it to my wife
      soon she will pop me out of my house
      with my laptop
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      • Profile picture of the author Allen Graves
        Originally Posted by articlerelated View Post

        tell it to my wife
        soon she will pop me out of my house
        with my laptop
        Yea, you're going to have resistance from your wife. I did too. We seem to have a lot in common.

        I caught her in a good mood one day and explained to her everything I was doing and then physically showed her on the computer.

        Once she knew I wasn't chatting with hot chicks, gambling or anything like that, she was OK with it and even supported me more. Of course, when the checks started coming in the mailbox, she was even more supportive.

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  • Profile picture of the author TLTheLiberator
    Your darn right!!

    We should work hard and smart so that we can get to the point where - most everything is outsourced and we own our time and are still making big bucks!

    Automation and the internet makes this possible.

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  • Profile picture of the author Dick Doe
    Thanks for another valuable post, Allen. Sometimes we internet marketers forget that we have a family that is much more valuable than our business.
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  • Profile picture of the author AskJesusLeon
    Great Post, we must all remember to disconnect from time to time and spent time with the people we love and cherish
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