Here is Why You're Not Successful in IM

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If you want to learn marketing, if you want to make money online, why aren't you focusing on that?

If your focus is on finding fault with how other marketers conduct their business, what will that result in? We get that all the time here, and all that leads to is finding more things to find fault with. Creating your own little black clouds of self-pity aren't going to take you where you want to go.

What you focus on expands.

Those aren't my words. Self-made millionaire T Harv Eker wrote that in Secrets of the Millionaire Mind.

If your focus is on how EZA, or Facebook, or Squidoo is doing you wrong, guess what you get? More things to complain about because more things will go wrong, or you'll perceive things that way, which makes it your reality just the same.

What you focus on expands.

If you compare yourself to someone else in IM, disparaging over how far ahead of you they are, guess what you get? A continuing gap between you and them. If you believe others are just lucky and you're not, you'll keep having a lack of luck.

What you focus on expands.

If you focus on what you lack, what do you get? More of what you focus on...more lack! If you're not making money and that's your goal, why are you focusing on things that aren't going to help you reach your goal?

We also get a lot of what I'd call "socializing" type questions here. Those are questions designed to start a discussion but which are not likely to evoke responses that are useful to doing business. When you learn to ask better questions, you'll get back better information.

What you focus on expands - but it goes deeper than what our conscious mind envisions. What we really look for is often determined by what lies deep in our subconscious. It lies in our long-term attitudes and patterns of behavior.

I'm not going deep into psychology here, but I will say that any significant change we want in our external world often means making a change in our attitudes and ways of habitual thinking.

If we keep thinking like we've always thought, and keep doing what we've always done, we'll get the same results over and over. It's foolish to walk the down the same path every day and expect to come out in a different place. If you want different results than your getting, you have to do something different.

I like how Jim Rohn put it, "If you want more than you have, become more than you are."

One more psychological point: If you see rich people or successful people as bad, then you will self-sabotage your efforts at becoming rich and successful.

Why?

Because deep down most of us want to be and believe we are a good person, but by equating rich with being bad, your subconscious desire to be good will win out and overrule your conscious desire to be rich in order to eliminate the internal conflict. Guru bashing is a dangerous game, not to them, but to your own wealth.

Not making it? Take note of what you've been focusing on and you'll likely discover why you're not making it, because what you focus on expands.

Next, look at what distracts you from keeping your focus on your goal and you'll discover where you need to make changes. Here are some common things that go wrong:

- too much television
- too much random surfing on the net
- too much game playing
- too much partying
- too much negative thinking (you ever met a rich, happy pessimist?)
- lack of self-discipline
- lack of clearly defined goals
- lack of self-motivation
- lack of self-worth/self-esteem/self-respect
- laziness in thought and action
- anything that veers you off course

When you learn to better focus your thinking and actions toward a worthwhile goal, you'll start to realize the results you want. Be grateful for any positive results no matter how meager they may be, for what you focus on expands.

What are you focusing on?
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  • Profile picture of the author Andyhenry
    Wise words.. not much to add really so I won't.
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    • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
      Originally Posted by Andyhenry View Post

      Wise words.. not much to add really so I won't.
      Coming from someone who very often imparts wise words for the benefit of others here, I appreciate the compliment.

      On the other hand, if it doesn't leave much room for discussion, it will probably be a thread that dies fast.
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      • Profile picture of the author Karomesis
        Great post Dennis

        sometimes the truth is hard to listen to, but that doesn't change the fact that it's the truth
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        • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
          Originally Posted by Karomesis View Post

          Great post Dennis

          sometimes the truth is hard to listen to, but that doesn't change the fact that it's the truth
          ^-- and that's the truth! --^
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  • Profile picture of the author Conrad Stuart
    Good post, tough advice but alot of us need to hear it
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  • I have seen a lot of of "This is why you suck" type threads over the years. Most people who start those threads themselves, have no clue. This thread however is the ONLY one on this topic that has weight to stand on.

    Good Job writing that out Dennis.
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      Excellent message. Excellent motivation.
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    • Profile picture of the author RentItNow
      Originally Posted by Charles Montgomery View Post

      I have seen a lot of of "This is why you suck" type threads over the years. Most people who start those threads themselves, have no clue.
      What is funny is I am actually running tests on "This is why xyz formula sucks" in ezine and it is creating a huge click thru rate compared to other "Here is What You Should Do" articles. I don't get it. Do people strive on negative? Do they learn more from it? Think about Webpages that suck concept. Good design thru knowing what not to do.

      I personally cant stand articles like it but hey, the numbers don't lie!
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      • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
        Originally Posted by RentItNow View Post

        What is funny is I am actually running tests on "This is why xyz formula sucks" in ezine and it is creating a huge click thru rate compared to other "Here is What You Should Do" articles. I don't get it. Do people strive on negative? Do they learn more from it? Think about Webpages that suck concept. Good design thru knowing what not to do.

        I personally cant stand articles like it but hey, the numbers don't lie!
        Don't know if Charles will revisit this thread, but I'll take a stab at answering your question. I'm sure there are many reasons why that kind of headline works. Here are a few that come to mind:

        - Some hope to find an answer to a problem they have.
        - Some want to feel relief, as in, "Well, that's not me. I don't have that problem."
        - Some hope to find fault with the article so they can feel superior to the author.
        - Some hope to find understanding, empathy, or sympathy for their plight.

        Curiosity, I'm sure, plays a big part, but I'm guessing most hope to learn something from the article. Those are my best guesses off the top of my head. What are yours?
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  • Profile picture of the author raj5
    Brilliant post Dennis, Simple concept, I think a lot of people new to the internet marketing world overlook the importance of FOCUSING.
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    • Profile picture of the author Phillips Pierce
      Originally Posted by raj5 View Post

      Brilliant post Dennis, Simple concept, I think a lot of people new to the internet marketing world overlook the importance of FOCUSING.
      I think most of us realize the importance of focus.
      The important question for many is HOW to focus?

      It's easy to point out the disease, it's an altogether different thing to cure it.

      For many, including me in the past, focus doesn't just come automatically. It takes a lot of internal work to build it up.
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      • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
        Originally Posted by Phillips Pierce View Post

        I think most of us realize the importance of focus.
        The important question for many is HOW to focus?

        It's easy to point out the disease, it's an altogether different thing to cure it.

        For many, including me in the past, focus doesn't just come automatically. It takes a lot of internal work to build it up.
        Phillips, I think you may be either over-thinking this or confusing focus for concentration.

        Focus, the way I'm using it, is simply what you pay attention to. So, what you pay attention to expands. If you look for reasons why something won't work, or why something is bad, you're setting yourself up for things not to work, or to have bad things happen to you.

        However, if you pay attention to what is beneficial to your goals, you'll find that too. People will say they want to succeed then look for all the ways they might fail. As a result, they find what they looked for, a way to fail.

        When I started my first online business I'd never heard of internet marketing. I was earning a full time living from that site before I'd ever heard of IM. How could I do that? I brainstormed ideas. I paid attention to the results I got from implementing my ideas. I repeated what worked and tried something else in place of what didn't work. I didn't dwell on the failures, I kept my mind toward the positive and toward my goal.

        Failures are the learning bridges we all cross to find success on the other side. As someone else aptly put it, failures are nothing but feedback. When we stop the complaining, stop the fault finding, and stop feeling sorry for ourselves and take 100% responsibility for all our outcomes, then we begin finding what works because we started paying attention to the right things.

        Anyone can complain. Successful people don't waste their time and energy on unproductive habits. Successful people are driven by their goals, unsuccessful people are driven by...other things.

        Your analogy of a disease and cure is an interesting one. Following that line of thought, the disease is personal, as is the cure. The problems and the answers lie within, and we only have access to our own inner world. Others can help us in the self-discovery process, but each of us must do our own heavy lifting.

        Hope that helps.
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    Great post Dennis! It makes me take inventory of things!
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    • Profile picture of the author Tina Golden
      Best post this year, Dennis. It will take a lot to top that.

      I'm printing this one out to post right next to my computer.

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      • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
        Originally Posted by Tom Brimeyer View Post

        Bam! You hit the nail on the head.

        Most people are so limited by their subconscious beliefs whether they realize it or not that it completely hinders their ability to succeed.

        The truth is that most people are brought up to believe that those who make or have a lot of money are bad in some sense (rich snobs for example). So there is an inner conflict between "wanting" to become rich and the subconscious belief that if/when you become rich the you will become the "bad".

        So failure is inevitable until you can learn to clear all that nonsense garbage that your parents and other unfulfilled people have driven into your brain throughout your entire life.

        Only then can you take action and will that action get you to where you want to get in life.
        A lot of people overlook the role their subconscious beliefs play in their life. They dismiss it as nonsense or new age fluff, but they can't explain their lack of success either. Seems to me a person might want to keep an open mind if they're not succeeding, because if they had all the answers they should be succeeding already.

        It's not new age thinking either, it's been taught far longer than any of us have been alive.
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        • Profile picture of the author gtal
          Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

          A lot of people overlook the role their subconscious beliefs play in their life. They dismiss it as nonsense or new age fluff, but they can't explain their lack of success either. Seems to me you might want to keep an open mind if you're not succeeding, because if you had the answers you pretend to have you would be succeeding already.

          It's not new age thinking either, it's been taught far longer than any of us have been alive.
          A lot of people don't even know their subconscious beliefs are playing a role in their life. They don't know that they will always act upon what they truly, inwardly believe and not on what they say they believe.
          If we're not having success in our lives, it would be well worth the journey to find out what's hiding down in those deep dark recesses. It's not easy to get to, because so much of it was filed away so long ago, we don't remember putting it there.
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          • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
            Originally Posted by gtal View Post

            A lot of people don't even know their subconscious beliefs are playing a role in their life. They don't know that they will always act upon what they truly, inwardly believe and not on what they say they believe.
            If we're not having success in our lives, it would be well worth the journey to find out what's hiding down in those deep dark recesses. It's not easy to get to, because so much of it was filed away so long ago, we don't remember putting it there.
            Good point!
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  • Profile picture of the author Tom Brimeyer
    Because deep down most of us want to be and believe we are a good person, but by equating rich with being bad, your subconscious desire to be good will win out and overrule your conscious desire to be rich in order to eliminate the internal conflict.
    Bam! You hit the nail on the head.

    Most people are so limited by their subconscious beliefs whether they realize it or not that it completely hinders their ability to succeed.

    The truth is that most people are brought up to believe that those who make or have a lot of money are bad in some sense (rich snobs for example). So there is an inner conflict between "wanting" to become rich and the subconscious belief that if/when you become rich the you will become the "bad".

    So failure is inevitable until you can learn to clear all that nonsense garbage that your parents and other unfulfilled people have driven into your brain throughout your entire life.

    Only then can you take action and will that action get you to where you want to get in life.
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    So that is what I'm doing wrong....
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  • Profile picture of the author Shannon Spoon
    Nice post, Dennis. You have to believe it before it happens. Thank you.
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  • Profile picture of the author ausslite
    Dennis

    Great post.
    reminds me of FOCUS
    that is Follow One Course Until Success

    thanks
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  • Profile picture of the author Lisa Gergets
    I'm just gonna say thanks because this is such a great post that I can't think of anything else to say.

    And for me, that's saying a lot.
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    • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
      Originally Posted by TMG Enterprises View Post

      Best post this year, Dennis. It will take a lot to top that.

      I'm printing this one out to post right next to my computer.

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      That's a very generous comment, Tina. Thank you.

      Originally Posted by Lisa Gergets View Post

      I'm just gonna say thanks because this is such a great post that I can't think of anything else to say.

      And for me, that's saying a lot.
      LOL - it is, and for that I had to thank you.
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    I feel fortunate to run into this post in the morning.
    Thank you so much!
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  • Profile picture of the author moneyblogger1
    Very well said!
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    Great post Dennis !
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  • Profile picture of the author Rod Cortez
    Fantastic post Dennis. I was going to make a very similar post today, but now there's no need because you've made a great point succinctly. As I continue to learn and grow wiser, I've come to believe that mindset plays an enormous part, not just in monetary success, but in fulfillment as well.

    Our brain can be our best friend or our worst enemy. I talk to quite a few Warriors over the phone and the ones that don't make money don't have the right focus and they also don't focus their efforts on things that produce income (selling, conversions, targeted traffic generation, creating a back-end funnel, etc.).

    I myself didn't make any money in this business until I stopped whining and complaining, took 100% accountability of all my failures and successes, turned off the TV, began actively learning what actually makes money, stopped hanging around negative people and began networking with like-minded, action-minded people, and continually made adjustments until I made it work. Simple formula but it allowed me to quit my job 9 years ago.

    You're dead on with your post. But I guarantee you, the people that really need to read it won't heed it, because they're still looking for that "magic system" or that new CPA offer that's going to make them rich.

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  • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
    Rod, you made a lot of excellent points in those few paragraphs. As you have proven to yourself and illustrated here for others, the choices we make, make all the difference.

    I'm guessing many of the choices you made weren't easy for you at the time. Giving up comfortable habits and giving up friendships, even negative ones, seldom is easy.

    There's one choice you made that you didn't mention that I want to point out for others...you made a choice that success was to become your new priority.

    That's what most people don't do, they don't prioritize what is most important to them, therefore what is easiest, quickest, and most comfortable usually is what gets done.

    Great post, Rod. Thanks for adding it.
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      Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

      Rod, you made a lot of excellent points in those few paragraphs. As you have proven to yourself and illustrated here for others, the choices we make, make all the difference.

      I'm guessing many of the choices you made weren't easy for you at the time. Giving up comfortable habits and giving up friendships, even negative ones, seldom is easy.

      There's one choice you made that you didn't mention that I want to point out for others...you made a choice that success was to become your new priority.

      That's what most people don't do, they don't prioritize what is most important to them, therefore what is easiest, quickest, and most comfortable usually is what gets done.

      Great post, Rod. Thanks for adding it.
      Exactly right. It became such a priority that I broke up with the negative, unsupportive girlfriend at the time, even though we had dated for 5 years. I made a commitment to not turn on the television until I had achieved 3 months of consistent earnings over $1,000 (I didn't watch TV for many, many months). I still have my television, but these days I watch mostly sports, movies, and documentaries on it. I seldom watch TV these days. But that's my lifestyle now.

      I'd rather spend social time with friends and family. I'd rather travel the world and meet new people and have new experiences. I haven't watched TV in weeks, though I did catch some of the final four games (wasn't the final outstanding???). I'd rather be coaching students in the niches I'm involved with and expanding our business operations globally. There are 101 other things that I'd rather do than watch television, which is probably why it's rarely on.

      Michael Hiles also makes a very good point in that there's a lot of inaccurate information in marketing forums like this one where people run with bad information. Just the other day someone posted that "list building is overrated". Any marketer who knows how to build lists knows nothing could be further from the truth. Then there are people who say PPC doesn't work while others consider it the holy grail to profits. Opinions are like left ear lobs, everyone's got one.

      People just simply need to point their reticular activating system in the right direction. That's a good start.

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      • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
        Whoa! I thought this thread would be buried by the time I came back to the forum today, but's it's obviously not. Let me try to catch up in one fell swoop...

        Originally Posted by MichaelHiles View Post

        The only caveat is that there's a lot of outright nonsensical BS that gets promulgated on WF, and without countering it to a degree, less experienced marketers have shown their propensity to adopt said offal as some sort of gospel. We would all be remiss as participants in this community if we don't share in the efforts to counter the blatant falsehoods and self-serving misdirections.
        Great point, thanks for bringing it up. I realize you made your point for the benefit of others, so I'm sure you're aware that I'm not saying we shouldn't discuss the negative at all, but there is a striking difference between having an awareness of something and dwelling on it too much.

        Focus isn't about living in denial of negativity or falsehoods, it's about not being derailed by dwelling on them in the quest for success and wealth creation.

        Originally Posted by glassextreme View Post

        Excellent post.
        There's some Law of Attraction going on here...

        I totally agree with the television thing. I am a super couch potato, often going beyond that 5 hours a day TV. However, I've just moved elsewhere where I can't watch my favourite programs, and guess what, I made MORE money in 2 months than in 2 years I've been dabbling in IM.
        The Law of Attraction, as it's being taught by most "gurus" today, is seriously lacking in some fundamental reality. That topic is better left as the subject of another post, I suppose. I just wanted to encourage you to keep doing what you're doing. You replaced a bad habit with a productive habit. A lot of people, when they quit one bad habit, only replace it with another bad habit. You done good!

        Originally Posted by Michael Truong View Post

        Great post Dennis your words really resonate with me.

        I wish I could express myself as articulately as yourself.

        But no truer words have been spoken and I agree with you wholeheartedly.

        The subconscious mind does not know the difference between imagination and reality.

        So whatever you choose to impose on it - will become so.
        That's true to a point, but we all have thousands of thoughts every day. There are two ways our subconscious knows which ideas, among that huge river of thoughts, are important to us.

        1) Through repetition.
        2) Through strong emotional attachment.

        If one of those two factors aren't present than any idea we want to incorporate into our belief system will be mostly indistinguishable from any other thought. That's the "secret" behind the power of affirmations.

        Originally Posted by Simo View Post

        Ka-Boom!!!

        That was Dennis going supersonic with such a good post. Thanks for sharing Dennis. Timely post for many and a great reminder for the rest of us. I have installed some subliminal software on my computer. Its really helpful for affirmations and feeding the subconscious the right "food."
        Is that why my ears are ringing?

        I'm curious, what software are you referring to?

        Originally Posted by tyroneshum View Post

        This is indeed a tough advice and yet this is the REAL THING! People aiming for success should be aware that they are actually making themselves by merely thinking and the way they think negatively (either within self or unto others), still, it deeply affects one's personality to be applying everything worse as it has been thought. The only secret to gaining success is thinking you already are successful and at the same time DOING THINGS that'll make everything happen the positive way.

        Once that's done, interruptions will never get its way to darken minds again.
        Much of what you said is true, but I would offer caution in thinking interruptions will never get in the way again. Our "human operating system" just doesn't function like that. It is always interested in distractions because curiosity is a fundamental component of our nature. Because of curiosity we advance. Distractions will always be present. It's those who master the art of limiting the distractions that pull ahead.

        Originally Posted by Rod Cortez View Post

        I'd rather spend social time with friends and family. I'd rather travel the world and meet new people and have new experiences.
        If you ever pass through Wisconsin give me a shout, I'd love to meet up sometime.
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          Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post


          Much of what you said is true, but I would offer caution in thinking interruptions will never get in the way again. Our "human operating system" just doesn't function like that. It is always interested in distractions because curiosity is a fundamental component of our nature. Because of curiosity we advance. Distractions will always be present. It's those who master the art of limiting the distractions that pull ahead.
          Or the art of discernment as to which distractions merit our attention.

          Some distractions are necessary for some of us as we might neglect feeding our children while we're trying to build our business!
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  • Profile picture of the author Emily Meeks
    What you focus on, expands... I like that.

    It kind of reminds me of what Einstein said about compound interest. Once something gains momentum, it takes on a life of its own.

    Once you overcome that inner inertia and focus, you can do anything.
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    • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
      Originally Posted by moneysoapbox View Post

      What you focus on, expands... I like that.

      It kind of reminds me of what Einstein said about compound interest. Once something gains momentum, it takes on a life of its own.

      Once you overcome that inner inertia and focus, you can do anything.
      It's funny you should mention Einstein, Emily.
      The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking.
      - Albert Einstein
      That's another way of saying what I wrote earlier, "If we keep thinking like we've always thought, and keep doing what we've always done, we'll get the same results over and over. It's foolish to walk the down the same path every day and expect to come out in a different place."

      I learn from the best.
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  • Profile picture of the author LiamMcIvorMartin
    So does this mean that I have to take my new LCD back to bestbuy lol.

    I think you're absolutely right, my personal problem was understanding exactly where I was going wrong and fixing it.

    I would get overwhelmed looking at a failure instead of analyzing each step, picking out what wasn't working and finding solutions to that particular problem. Once I figured out that process I was instantly more successful.
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    • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
      Originally Posted by LiamMcIvorMartin View Post

      So does this mean that I have to take my new LCD back to bestbuy lol.

      I think you're absolutely right, my personal problem was understanding exactly where I was going wrong and fixing it.

      I would get overwhelmed looking at a failure instead of analyzing each step, picking out what wasn't working and finding solutions to that particular problem. Once I figured out that process I was instantly more successful.
      I've got a nice LCD from Best Buy too. It was my "reward" for achieving a goal. I don't watch it much, maybe once a month I'll plop down in front of the TV (or once a week during football season), but it's nice to have.

      The trouble for some people is that the TV is constant companion, a kind of consolation for not getting what they want out of life. I'm all for a little entertainment, but the Council for Research Excellence, formed by the Nielsen Company, conducted a study that found that the average adult was exposed to a little over 5 hours of TV every day.

      That's 1,825 hours of television in a year! Can you imagine how much more successful a lot of those people would be if they spent even half that time trying to better themselves?

      Another way to look at it is that they have watched television 24-hours a day for a little over 76 days each year; or, out of a 10 year period they've spend 2 years and thirty days doing nothing but watching TV.

      That's not how I want to spend my life, being brainwashed by television. Dr. John Nelson has called television a public health problem. I could go on about the pitfalls of television, but that's not really the focus of this thread. It is, however, one of the reasons a lot of people never achieve the success they want. They place more value on being entertained than on achievement.
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    Great thread, really don't have anything significant to add either
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  • Profile picture of the author Zack Lim
    Hi Dennis,

    Excellent post.

    Haha I am guilty of committing some of the "Crime" that I should not be doing :p

    Great reminder on the importance of being Focus and doing productive work

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    • Profile picture of the author Dunder
      This thread is so good it could be turned into a "short report" and sold!
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  • Profile picture of the author MichaelHiles
    The only caveat is that there's a lot of outright nonsensical BS that gets promulgated on WF, and without countering it to a degree, less experienced marketers have shown their propensity to adopt said offal as some sort of gospel. We would all be remiss as participants in this community if we don't share in the efforts to counter the blatant falsehoods and self-serving misdirections.
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  • Profile picture of the author glassextreme
    Excellent post.
    There's some Law of Attraction going on here.

    I see it in another forum I visit. This mummy was super afraid of her family passing germs to her baby, that she totally bans them from visiting her even if one stays with another with some disease that isn't that contagious. She really went all out to avoid that, but right now, she is stuck at home for 3 weeks because someone with a really contagious disease came into contact with her and her baby.
    That's really focusing on the negative thing.

    I totally agree with the television thing. I am a super couch potato, often going beyond that 5 hours a day TV. However, I've just moved elsewhere where I can't watch my favourite programs, and guess what, I made MORE money in 2 months than in 2 years I've been dabbling in IM.

    There are people that I come into contact with, for an affiliate program I'm with, that constantly think that they are going to be scammed out. They asked a lot of questions, and don't take action, while I saw the opportunity and grabbed it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Truong
    Great post Dennis your words really resonate with me.

    I wish I could express myself as articulately as yourself.

    But no truer words have been spoken and I agree with you wholeheartedly.

    The subconscious mind does not know the difference between imagination and reality.

    So whatever you choose to impose on it - will become so.
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  • Profile picture of the author Simo
    Ka-Boom!!!

    That was Dennis going supersonic with such a good post. Thanks for sharing Dennis. Timely post for many and a great reminder for the rest of us. I have installed some subliminal software on my computer. Its really helpful for affirmations and feeding the subconscious the right "food."

    Persistence is a payday

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  • Profile picture of the author tyroneshum
    This is indeed a tough advice and yet this is the REAL THING! People aiming for success should be aware that they are actually making themselves by merely thinking and the way they think negatively (either within self or unto others), still, it deeply affects one's personality to be applying everything worse as it has been thought. The only secret to gaining success is thinking you already are successful and at the same time DOING THINGS that'll make everything happen the positive way.

    Once that's done, interruptions will never get its way to darken minds again.
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  • Profile picture of the author BenAlberstadt
    Are there a couple things which could be added to this list? Perhaps.

    Is it a brilliant post? Certainly!

    Many thanks!
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  • Profile picture of the author prettyboy
    Great post. Procrastination and wasting time is a big reason why many are not successful online. We should all be like Nike and Just Do It!
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  • Profile picture of the author Jon Tees
    This is a fantastic post as countless others have already said. My positive thinking seems to be working as its backed by positive actions. I imagine myself as rich so that I can use the money to help others to help themselves. I imagine myself as successful so that I may use my success as a motivation to others to prove that they do can overcome whatever disadvantages they may have and fulfill their dreams. This outlook has dramatically transformed my business for the better. I used to resent people for not buying what I was selling and feared I would never achieve success, but when I changed my way of thinking everything else changed as well.
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  • Profile picture of the author Cabinfever25
    Thanks for such a great post, I've been lurking around this forum for the past few weeks and your definitely one of the people I've seen that always posts good, relevant information.

    What I'm trying to say is that I always stop to read what you write when I'm looking at a thread!
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    • Profile picture of the author DLN
      I'm new to this particular forum but love the feel here, so far.

      Loved your post - Vibrational alignment is a good thing !
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      • Profile picture of the author Emily Meeks
        Originally Posted by DLN View Post

        I'm new to this particular forum but love the feel here, so far.

        Loved your post - Vibrational alignment is a good thing !
        There are a great many things to learn here, and plenty of positive people to help you out.

        Welcome to the WF
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    • Profile picture of the author Martin Luxton
      Dennis,

      This post is an example to me of something that will serve people well on the forum and in life - discernment.

      It's the only thread I've read in full this week. Nothing else I saw merited the same allocation of time.

      Posts by people like you, ExRat, Michael Hiles, Paul Myers, Alexa Smith, Amy Brown, globalpro, Josh Anderson, Rebecca Hagel, LMC (and others) act as my "discernment filters" - a shorthand clue about which threads have something of interest.

      I pretty much ignore the 'thanks' count as well unless some of the people on my 'hot' list are there. Of course this means I'll miss some good info along the way. Tough titty. Time is too precious to worry about that.

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  • Profile picture of the author Medway1
    People tend to focus on themselves to much, the right mental attitude is vital for true success. Most look at money and their desire to earn more of it but the prime driving force behind success is not the desire to make money.

    What really drives the most successful people, Branson, Gates etc is a deep desire to make a real difference in the lives of others.
    In business, as in life, giving is a great experience. Most businesses wait until a client or customer gives them money before they start adding value to that customer's life. Why wait? Start adding value now and the customers will come to you.

    Try it out for ten days and see what happens. It's the most powerful business growth concept on earth and yet it will cost you absolutely nothing. Decide for the next ten days that the prime purpose of your business is to add incredible value to the lives of others. For a few days, forget about the struggle for money and profits. Forget about you and just focus on them. Step into their shoes and do whatever you can to enhance the quality of their lives. Surprise them. Shock them. Make them laugh. Give them something they weren't expecting for free. Brighten up their day. Send them a gift...anything that lets them know that their well-being is your top priority.

    The result is that you will differentiate yourself so massively from the mass of mediocrity out there.

    If there is a secret to your success it is to stop worrying about your success and start thinking about the success of your customers and potential customers.
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    • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
      Originally Posted by dave147 View Post

      Great post Dennis, a bit like the universal law of attraction?
      Dave, my answer to that is, not so much. At least, not the way the law of attraction is being taught by most people these days. The way I see the LOA being taught makes it sound like wishful thinking and waiting for the universe to make magic happen.

      I think it's more like, you know how, when you buy a different car, suddenly you start seeing that model all over the place? I think it's more like that. If you focus on the negative crap you get more negative crap because that's what is in your mind. However, if you look for what is uplifting, and useful, and beneficial to you, you'll find those things because that's where your mind is at. Make sense?

      Originally Posted by Medway1 View Post

      What really drives the most successful people, Branson, Gates etc is a deep desire to make a real difference in the lives of others. In business, as in life, giving is a great experience. Most businesses wait until a client or customer gives them money before they start adding value to that customer's life. Why wait? Start adding value now and the customers will come to you.

      Try it out for ten days and see what happens. It's the most powerful business growth concept on earth and yet it will cost you absolutely nothing. Decide for the next ten days that the prime purpose of your business is to add incredible value to the lives of others. For a few days, forget about the struggle for money and profits. Forget about you and just focus on them. Step into their shoes and do whatever you can to enhance the quality of their lives. Surprise them. Shock them. Make them laugh. Give them something they weren't expecting for free. Brighten up their day. Send them a gift...anything that lets them know that their well-being is your top priority.

      The result is that you will differentiate yourself so massively from the mass of mediocrity out there.

      If there is a secret to your success it is to stop worrying about your success and start thinking about the success of your customers and potential customers.
      Good post. Adding value to your customers' lives is something I emphasized in this thread. As Zig Ziglar says, "You can have everything in life that you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want."

      I like the idea of your 10 challenge. T Harv Eker, who I mentioned in the OP as having written, "What you focus on expands," offers a challenge at his seminars that I think would do us all a lot of good to take up. He challenges people not to complain for a week. Not out loud, not to yourself in your head. That will be a real challenge to many.

      The idea, he says, is to get you back to neutral so you can move forward to success. Successful people don't waste time on unproductive activities like complaining, they are goal orientated and use their energy to move toward those goals, not to whine about what has passed.
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      • Profile picture of the author Emily Meeks
        Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

        The way I see the LOA being taught makes it sound like wishful thinking and waiting for the universe to make magic happen.

        I think it's more like, you know how, when you buy a different car, suddenly you start seeing that model all over the place? I think it's more like that. If you focus on the negative crap you get more negative crap because that's what is in your mind. However, if you look for what is uplifting, and useful, and beneficial to you, you'll find those things because that's where your mind is at. Make sense?
        I couldn't agree with you more. I see the LOA at play all the time in my life, and not because I sat around "wishing" for it.

        Even though some people do horrible, nasty things, I believe the vast majority who come into my life are good people. So far, it's worked out well for me.

        By default, almost every day is a good day.

        I am always looking to grow physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally. When I finally got some extra money, I bought a few new books that proved to really teach and inspire me. I also have a greater grasp on conserving mental and emotional energy, and have gotten better at meditation.

        It seems that most teachers of LOA portray it as this mystical law of the universe that gets you everything you want by consciously thinking hard about it... but really, the Law of Attraction Is. Just Is. It's everything to do with the energy you put out in the universe through your unconscious mind, and nothing to do with clicking your heels three times.
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        • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
          Originally Posted by moneysoapbox View Post

          I couldn't agree with you more. I see the LOA at play all the time in my life, and not because I sat around "wishing" for it.

          Even though some people do horrible, nasty things, I believe the vast majority who come into my life are good people. So far, it's worked out well for me.

          By default, almost every day is a good day.

          I am always looking to grow physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally. When I finally got some extra money, I bought a few new books that proved to really teach and inspire me. I also have a greater grasp on conserving mental and emotional energy, and have gotten better at meditation.

          It seems that most teachers of LOA portray it as this mystical law of the universe that gets you everything you want by consciously thinking hard about it... but really, the Law of Attraction Is. Just Is. It's everything to do with the energy you put out in the universe through your unconscious mind, and nothing to do with clicking your heels three times.
          The little piece of reality that most LOA teachers omit is the taking action part. Of course, there are reasons they conveniently leave that part out...most notably, they'd sell less product if they admitted there was actual work involved in getting what you want in life.

          Speaking of books, Emily, don't forget about libraries. We don't have a great library where I live, but they're connected to a state-wide network of libraries. I can look for books at some of the biggest libraries in the state from my home computer, and request them. If there's no waiting list for it I'll be able to pick it up at my local library in 2-3 days.

          There aren't very many books I can't get that way. Of course, you can also get older books that you won't find in your local bookstores without special ordering them. What I really like about it is that I never get stuck with a clunker. When I come across a book I want to read again, then I'll go buy it so I'll have it for my personal library. It's a great way to save money and ensure you only buy great books.
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          • Profile picture of the author Emily Meeks
            Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

            The little piece of reality that most LOA teachers omit is the taking action part. Of course, there are reasons they conveniently leave that part out...most notably, they'd sell less product if they admitted there was actual work involved in getting what you want in life.

            Speaking of books, Emily, don't forget about libraries. We don't have a great library where I live, but they're connected to a state-wide network of libraries. I can look for books at some of the biggest libraries in the state from my home computer, and request them. If there's no waiting list for it I'll be able to pick it up at my local library in 2-3 days.

            There aren't very many books I can't get that way. Of course, you can also get older books that you won't find in your local bookstores without special ordering them. What I really like about it is that I never get stuck with a clunker. When I come across a book I want to read again, then I'll go buy it so I'll have it for my personal library. It's a great way to save money and ensure you only buy great books.
            Indeed - especially when it comes to making money online, which we should all know by now all you have to do is buy a system to make it instantly work

            Libraries are a great resource... I used to go all the time when I was younger, but it's been awhile so I'll probably have to get a new card. Definitely thanks for the reminder, though

            I'm not sure if this chain is nationwide or not, but down here we have a Half Price Books... pretty much as the name sounds, you can get a really good selection of books for half the price (sometimes better selection than Barnes & Noble - nothing against B&N, the one we have here is a great place to relax even if you don't buy anything). Most recent one I bought was $2.98

            I know we kinda went off on a tangent there, but I think the moral of the story is that it's not enough to just wish for something, your actions have to reflect your thoughts. If your mindset isn't in its right place, your actions will fall short.
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            • Profile picture of the author gtal
              Originally Posted by moneysoapbox View Post


              I know we kinda went off on a tangent there, but I think the moral of the story is that it's not enough to just wish for something, your actions have to reflect your thoughts. If your mindset isn't in its right place, your actions will fall short.
              I don't think this is off subject at all and I think this is the nugget behind the premise of what you focus on will expand. I think this is the reason it and the LOA works. If you have your mind focused on something, then consciously and subconsciously you will think, make choices, and DO things that bring you in that direction.

              You can see the physical manifestation of this "law" when you drive a car or when you walk. Have you ever looked over your shoulder or to the side and found yourself steering or walking in that direction?

              Have you ever focused on someone's really annoying habits and found yourself acting the same way? This one is easier to see in someone else than in ourselves.
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    really fantastic post. Nothing to add really
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  • Profile picture of the author dberen
    Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post


    When you learn to better focus your thinking and actions toward a worthwhile goal, you'll start to realize the results you want. Be grateful for any positive results no matter how meager they may be, for what you focus on expands.

    What are you focusing on?
    GOALS
    ACTION
    FOCUS

    That's THE Secret!

    Thanks for the great post. Well said!
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  • Profile picture of the author Medway1
    dbren I agree, but how many people actually set a goal, a real goal I mean. One they have written down and not just imagined in their head, it doesn't have the same affect.

    People take action but let's be honest their action is really procrastination. They do not do the things that move their business forward but stay in their "learning comfort zone" buying product after product, jumping from one thing to the next. STOP choose one marketing method and go for it, what have you got to lose?

    If setting goals is a problem then why not start by setting yourself a to do list each day. Write it down and tick each item off when you have done it. You will be amazed how much you get done and the result your business moves forward as if by magic.
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    • Profile picture of the author YseUp
      Originally Posted by Phillips Pierce View Post

      I think most of us realize the importance of focus.
      The important question for many is HOW to focus?

      It's easy to point out the disease, it's an altogether different thing to cure it.

      For many, including me in the past, focus doesn't just come automatically. It takes a lot of internal work to build it up.
      I just thought I'd point out that you can train your mind and the way you focus it.

      Meditation is a good place to start.

      I also don't like calling it the Law of Attraction because it also seems to much like wishful thinking. But there is a lot of hard mainstream science to back up the benefits of being positive and imagining positive results.

      I'd also point out that one of the worst things about TV is not only that it sucks up your time but also that it brainwashes you.

      Read up on Mirror Neurons: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mirror_neuron

      ...and then consider the consequences of watching, for example, sit-coms about lovable losers, who never quite seem to grow beyond their mediocrity.
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      • Profile picture of the author Rod Cortez
        Originally Posted by YseUp View Post

        I just thought I'd point out that you can train your mind and the way you focus it.

        Meditation is a good place to start..........
        Amen to that. If you would have told me that ten years ago I would have laughed. Today I am a HUGE believer in meditation. It's lowered my blood pressure, enhanced my sex life (think tantric baby), it's aided in helping me focus, but above all else, it's kept me centered.

        In fact, I meditate to Eckart Tolle's audio book THE POWER OF NOW about once a week now, 30 to 60 minutes at a time.

        One of the sayings that I dislike is "you can't teach an old dog new tricks". Science has shown this to be untrue. Meditation has aided me in helping me retrain the way I think and to help me create new habits. I've even got a t-shirt that says "meditation rocks". It's a great shirt to wear at clubs and bars, let me tell ya......

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      • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
        Originally Posted by YseUp View Post


        I'd also point out that one of the worst things about TV is not only that it sucks up your time but also that it brainwashes you.

        Read up on Mirror Neurons: Mirror neuron - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

        ...and then consider the consequences of watching, for example, sit-coms about lovable losers, who never quite seem to grow beyond their mediocrity.
        Rod addressed the other part of your post, but I wanted to add a note about this part. The concept of mirror neurons is a perfect explanation for mob behavior. People will do things in a mob or even a small group that they would never do on their own. Especially vulnerable are people without a well-defined or well-established moral code. Sometimes when people say, "I don't know what came over me," they may be telling the truth.

        That's no excuse for doing wrong, but it does explain how an average person can get so caught up on the moment that they act outside of their normal thought and behavior patterns.

        Good post, thanks for adding it.
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    I would like to say nice post. Keep up the good work.
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  • Profile picture of the author Nicholas Kemp
    I agree. Focus and mindfulness will get you amazing results.
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  • Profile picture of the author Simo
    @Rod

    Thanks for the tip on mediation. That sounds really good.

    Another great book related to this thread is The Winners BibleThe Winners Bible (no aff link). The big hint here is Amazon categorizes the book under "Personal Health"

    Here's the home website if you want to learn more: The Winners Bible

    And a 60 minutes documentary discussing what he does and some of his clients including Lewis Hamilton (Formula 1 Driver).

    http://www.3news.co.nz/Winning-Ways/...1/Default.aspx

    I own this book and love what Dr Spackman teaches.

    Cheers,

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    Like I say, We get what we expect!
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  • Profile picture of the author Jimian
    The power of FOCUS... It's kind of like doing your taxes... You have to SHUT OUT everything else... and concentrate on ONE main issue at hand; your taxes.

    Same thing with whatever goal you're trying to accomplish, whether it's writing your own ebook, making a website, blog, etc... SHUT OUT everything else -- even the Warrior forum, ha-ha -- and FOCUS on the issue at hand!

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  • Profile picture of the author userlogsin
    That was inspiring and inspired by your post I will frame a good question (may not be that good for all).

    What do you do online?
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    • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
      Originally Posted by userlogsin View Post

      That was inspiring and inspired by your post I will frame a good question (may not be that good for all).

      What do you do online?
      Make money.

      Seriously, I'm into a lot of things. You can follow the links in my sig file if you want to get a glimpse into some of the ways I make money online. I'm not going to lay out a laundry list here, it could be construed as self-promotion and get the thread deleted.

      PS - I'm glad you were inspired by my post. Thanks for letting me know.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dital
    good reminder
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    Wise words. I think I publish it to my blog. I'll make sure to give the proper attribution.
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