Why 95% of People Fail (and how to stop failing!!!)

Some great advice here.

I had an uncle that was a brick layer. His name was Uncle Vinnie. All day long that's all he use to do was build walls. Brick walls. Day in and day out. Wall after wall. That was his job.

One day Uncle Vinnie got laid off. There was no more work for him. No more walls to build.
He didn't know what to do with himself. He sat around moping most of the day. He mostly watched Oprah and ate bonbons and felt sorry for himself. He sat around for about 4 years watching TV and eating bonbons.

To me that was Uncle Vinnie's personal wall that he had to get around. And for a man that had spent most of his life building walls it was a tough thing to do.

Then one day an idea came to him. The idea was to build brick fire places. Short walls. And he took the idea and ran with it. He opened his own business and it took off.

It was the smartest thing he ever did.

Though I wonder, if Uncle Vinnie had been in demolition instead of brick laying, would he had got around his personal wall a lot quicker?

I have to agree.. I think that we all tend to believe that the way that we perceive the world is reality, but there is a big difference between reality and our perceptions of reality

Certainly something to think about. For me the problem is usually finding the rope or the shovel. I have the desire to break through the wall, I just haven't found the tools yet.

Interesting about the bricklayer, an expert at building walls, and was able to build one that couldn't be beaten for 4 years.

@donlester
maybe it is people you need? (rather than tools) Maybe you need to meet the right people that can help you with your wall.

How about walking away from the wall? That is a solution.

Something about this makes me feel really good.

Brilliant, Peter

Exact reason why I always think outside-the-box.. I do things alot different than most in my business and some are surprised.

I never follow the shadow in front of me, I learn from that shadow, add my own kick to it, tweak it and move on ...

James

There is no wall

Great stuff but the vast majority if online business failures are because they were tricked into using the worst net business model of allllll time and won't change.

It is mlm and the recruiting people model.

That's where the vast majority of the scams and failures are.

TL

When you become enlightened you will realise the turth.

And that truth is young master...

There is no wall.

The only walls are the ones we invent. They only exist because we make/allow them to exist.

The greatest reason for failure is not realizing that you are the answer you've been looking for....

Ken

"there is no wall"

Isn't that supposed to be, "there is no spoon"?

Jokes aside, I had a revelation recently while reading the book, 'The Magic of Thinking Big'.

When I look beyond the walls to my goal, the walls become stepping stones for me to skip across, aiding me rather than hindering.

There are no limitations bigger than the ones we set for ourselves.

People fail coz they have no plan or they havent done any research, if they do those things first then they will have success

Guys the reality is we can think what we want and it normally filters through in how we feel. The hard facts and why 95% of people in MLM fail is not because of their way of thinking - as I feel that everyone who steps into this arena has some leadership skills in general but ultimately you need the right tools and system to help you stay afloat right? So wall or no wall - I would have to say that your destiny is determined by your tools and skills of those around you? Up for discussion!

Because 85% don't do anything. The other 10% either do it wrong, or let failure stop any further action.

Of course percentages vary... but it's safe to say that the majority of people do not take action.

I totally agree...the keyword is simply CHANGE...

That is part of our human nature that is toughest to break through.

You can't go it alone...share in joys and sorrows with others and then move on!!!

Yep, networking is a great tool for success and it has helped me make a ton just because I know people who can help me increase my business.

Again, you need to learn just the 'recipe' to make it happen rather than doing lots of things that confuses you.

Most importantly, action action action. If it doesn't work, find someone who's done it and just follow his exact 'recipe'

The wall is just an illusion

Continually banging against the same wall is similar to the conditioned response story of flea training.

Fleas have an amazing ability to jump. But if placed in a covered jar or box (that they could easily jump out of if there were no cover), they will bang into the cover for a period of time and then become conditioned to no longer jump so high. At that point you can remove the cover and the fleas will not jump out.

When you keep beating against the same wall you eventually wear out, get frustrated, and then quit. All the while you should be following the advice of this post and looking for a way around the wall. There are always options and other ways of achieving results.

Education and a willingness to ask for and accept help can be your wrecking ball to crash through the walls that are holding you back from your dreams.

This is the most critical area for success of any kind! I am a big reader and one of the best books I ever read was The Power of Impossible Thinking by a couple of Wharton professors.

This book really challenged me to constantly be looking at circumstances from different angles which leads to me doing things which previously were impossible for me.

Since you are going to play the game, you should definately play to win which is becoming the best you personally can be.

Not all walls are bad... they keep some people out who should probably not be let in.

That is so true about anything. Most people focus on the problem and not the solution. And some try one solution and give up without trying another one.

My wall is full of unnecessary graffiti..

talk about vandalism...

Nizzura

Great motivation here! One page and a bunch of ways to deal with hurdles in your life.

Good analogy. And over time the wall seems to get more formidable and you just give up. But the ones who succeed enjoy the fruits of their labour. It's that mindset thing again.

Sadat

Nice posts, i think the 'ask someone the other side of the wall' will work for most

Also 95% of those who read the original post succeeded in overlooking the fact that there is no #13 either!

Good thinking, love your options ! You are right, I have noticed that most people are afraid of changing their lives. Somehow THE CHANGE is scary. Why ? Even people who are in most difficult situations don't seem to find the courage to do anything to change that. I am talking from experience here. In my marriage I was "captured" in violence. I was with this man for 10 years and the violence was there. Not all the time, but too many times over those years. Yes, of course I realised I should leave, but for some reason I was frozen. Until I took my life into my own hands and walked away. No, it wasn't easy. But what happened ? The Change was definately for the better. I found Me.
In any situation, most of us are afraid of the unknown, what comes AFTER, the Unknown, if we dare to change anything. Most of us don't realise the power we actually do have to make what we want of our own lives. We are too many times "under" somebody else's power, that we don't dare to try. Sometimes I have been called selfish to think like this, but hey... Who is the most important person in your life ? No, it's not your son, daughter, husband, wife, mother... IT'S YOU. You have to care of yourself first. If you are not ok with yourself, you CANNOT give anything to anybody around you. A Fact. You can try, but very soon you drown...
So, dream, believe in yourself and keep trying. If something doesn't work, change it. Life is too short to "keep banging your head against the wall..."
Stay active, don't be lying on the road to be driven over. Enjoy yourself, appreciate yourself. Love yourself ! Then you can enjoy, appreciate and love others !
Have a splendid day people.