Is my tone too harsh?

14 years ago

To answer this question, "Is my tone too harsh?"

...I don't think you were too harsh in this post, but that's the only one I can comment on. I can see where a few might not like the part you typed in caps. Some don't like being told what to do, no matter how you preface it.

You seem like a nice guy though, based on your offer to help others. Perhaps you just need to give folks around here time to get to know you and your style of communicating.

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ACGroup1

14 years ago

Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill

To answer this question, "Is my tone too harsh?"

...I don't think you were too harsh in this post, but that's the only one I can comment on. I can see where a few might not like the part you typed in caps. Some don't like being told what to do, no matter how you preface it.

You seem like a nice guy though, based on your offer to help others. Perhaps you just need to give folks around here time to get to know you and your style of communicating.

Thanks Dennis, I will ease people into it. Good advice and I really appreciate the feedback.

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MassiveMarketer

14 years ago

I don't think you're being too harsh here. I agree with Dennis to give time for people to know your style and how you communicate. It also depends on how people will interpret what you say. You seem like a straight forward person and just want to relay your message loud and clear without having to beat around the bush. Some people are cool with that, some aren't.

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ACGroup1

14 years ago

Originally Posted by MassiveMarketer

I don't think you're being too harsh here. I agree with Dennis to give time for people to know your style and how you communicate. It also depends on how people will interpret what you say. You seem like a straight forward person and just want to relay your message loud and clear without having to beat around the bush. Some people are cool with that, some aren't.

Thanks MassiveMarketer, I will ease people into my message. I just really want everyone to understand that, while this is much better than a 9 - 5, sometimes you have to work harder and the only structure you have in this business is your own self-discipline. Thanks for the feedback.

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reynoldscorb

14 years ago

I definitely do not think you are being too harsh.

Sounds like we are like-minded. I think all my success goes down to the fact that I am self motivated.

"Get to Work!" is something I tell myself everyday!

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ACGroup1

14 years ago

Originally Posted by reynoldscorb

I definitely do not think you are being too harsh.

Sounds like we are like-minded. I think all my success goes down to the fact that I am self motivated.

"Get to Work!" is something I tell myself everyday!

We would definitely get along well. Thanks!

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Joseph Then

14 years ago

Harsh? I think John Reese's ending words (maybe signature) in every post is:

"Get Back To Work!"

Harsh enough?

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ACGroup1 14 years ago

Originally Posted by Joseph Then

Harsh? I think John Reese's ending words (maybe signature) in every post is:

"Get Back To Work!"

Harsh enough?

Precisely! thanks for the feedback!
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abugge

14 years ago

i can see how potentially sensitive people might view it as harsh - but objectively or to anyone with a brain, no!

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E. Brian Rose

14 years ago

I have thousands of subscribers to a list called "Internet Marketing for Losers". I remind my readers a few times a week why they are losers and then proceed to tell them how to turn it around.

I have only had one person email me to tell me that he thinks I am a jerk and that I should tone down my emails. I responded back to him explaining that he was not only a loser, but also an irritating nansy pansy.

Telling people to "get back to work" is hardly harsh in my book. Now if you ended your emails with "I hope you get the plague and die", that may be crossing the line a little.

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Joe118

14 years ago

Originally Posted by E. Brian Rose

I have thousands of subscribers to a list called "Internet Marketing for Losers". I remind my readers a few times a week why they are losers and then proceed to tell them how to turn it around.

I have only had one person email me to tell me that he thinks I am a jerk and that I should tone down my emails. I responded back to him explaining that he was not only a loser, but also an irritating nansy pansy.

Telling people to "get back to work" is hardly harsh in my book. Now if you ended your emails with "I hope you get the plague and die", that may be crossing the line a little.

Love it. I wish I could send some advice to your list on how to become less "loserly"

I'm sure I could generate quite a few emails to you that say essentially "man, don't let this guy ever email to me again, I was so depressed by being called a loser, I cannot take it". Sounds like just the kind of therapy I could use

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abednego

14 years ago

You are far from too harsh.

I'm not sure about countries outside of the USA - but I think its horrid how we're raising children these days to be so damn passive aggressive... especially in a world thats so abrasive.

Its a shame that assertiveness and honesty are seen as negative things; when people put unfounded emotions ahead of actual honesty and constructive criticism.

Be as direct and open as humanly possible. Stand out from the crowd.

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14 years ago

I think that you only like to get your points straight, that's not harsh. Harsh would be something like if you are lying and using offensive language.

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Will Edwards

14 years ago

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Lol - now that's what I call 'harsh'!

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14 years ago

No I would not say you are being harsh. A lot of people need that push to keep them focused anyway.

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ASCW

14 years ago

You don't seem too harsh or out of line in anyway.

But if you gave an example or a post that you were thought maybe you went too far it would be easier to judge.

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ninjawarrior

14 years ago

How concerned are you that people might think you to be harsh or abrasive, Leny?

If you're that concerned, then learn to adjust to the way they want to be talked to, or perhaps compromise your straightforward "style" with their possibly "break it to me gently" preferred way of receiving your messages.

Or you can simply tell them to frickin' take it or leave it.

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Kevin Phillips

14 years ago

Hey Leny

I take no offence from your writing .... Be yourself .... we all have different personalities

Now don't take offence but: .....

GET BACK TO WORK!

All the best

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MichaelHiles

14 years ago

Who cares if a particular person thinks you're too harsh.

If that's how you are, then be yourself. Better to be authentic.

Not everyone is going to like you anyway, so find the people who do like your style and sell to them while not worrying about pretending to be something that you're really not.

Some people have said that I am an arrogant @ick because I refer to my business wins in the past and I draw from my experience in talking about marketing.

I am who I am.

If someone doesn't like the fact that I call stupid "stupid" and that I've got experience and success to back up my statements, I'm not losing any sleep over the person who got their feathers ruffled.

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sabun

14 years ago

No you are not harsh ... you are just jotting down the reality and truth is always bitter ... probably that's the reason why some people are offended by your posts.

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seobro

14 years ago

I do not think you are harsh at all. As they say -
Losers have excuses.
Winners have success.

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DanielCW

14 years ago

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DanielCW

14 years ago

Leny.

I think the fact that you actually took the time to write a post questioning yourself says a lot. Some people are timid, some are assertive and then some are well...some. So I ask you this

"If someone brings you a present and you do not accept it, to whom does the present belong?"

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P.P.S Sometimes a kick in the .... is exactly what I need. GOING BACK TO WORK

P.P.P.S Commercial first, then work

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bigbrian 14 years ago

Everybody has their own way of explaining things and conveying their message to others. You are not too harsh, but sometimes it's hard to emphasize your emotion when saying the message to people through text on the screen.

At least you have taken the time to explain yourself and what you mean by what you say. There is something to be said for that right there.

So... Keep making money man!

... and - Get To Work! ;]

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- JohnMcCabe 14 years ago
  
  One of the challenges with written communication is that we lose the nuances of facial expressions, body language and vocal inflections. What might sound perfectly reasonable orally might come off as harsh when all you have is a string of capital letters and exclamation points. Which I'm sure you are aware is generally accepted as shouting.
  
  If you're worried about posts here in the forum, there are a number of things you can do, primarily avoiding the all caps. You'll notice also that several posters added various smilies when reflecting your own call to action back to you.
  
  As for the message itself, I'm with Mike Hiles on this one. Be yourself.
  
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Diana Lane

14 years ago

It's likely that anyone sensitive enough to be offended at just being told to go back to work would benefit from the experience anyway if it helps them to grow a thicker skin, otherwise they won't last til lunchtime in business. By helping them to toughen up in this way, you are empowering them with the ability to cope with the really traumatic events that occasionally beset an internet marketer - like discovering that the Warrior Forum is temporarily down

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