get out more. seriously. Talk to people you don't know. You'll get over it.

FEAR is False Emotion Appearing REAL. And it's not REAL, it's all in your head.

Just out of curiosity... and not to be rude but are you serious,

Or are you just looking to get ideas for a new product on over coming fear?

Because there are probably forums out there dedicated to you "real" problem that you'd find more useful.

otherwise google nlp.

Get into a public speaking or debating club (eg toastmasters) to get over the fear of speaking in public.

Go try and pick up women in nightclubs to get over your fear of rejection.

Look at this way. If you ask for bravery, do you get bravery? Or do you get a situation where you have to be brave?

Not sure what you are afraid of in an interview. You are not going to die or go to jail.

The worst thing that is going to happen is you are going to be judged on what you say. That happens everywhere in life including here. There isn't much difference.

There is nothing to fear when you know your subject well and I would assume if you were to go to an interview it would be about something you know very well.

Imagine your interviewers are naked. That's a general psychological trick to put you at ease. Failing that, don't worry so much. If you're the right person for a job, you've a good chance of getting it, if not, you're trying to blag it.

Do what you do, or find a way of successfully glagging what you don't. From what I've read so far, this forum is really helpful, but not in that way.

It's so normal to have fear but in order for you to overcome it is by talking to someone by opening your problem. They might have great idea on how to help you overcome it.

What is that? I never heard of it before. what does it do?

From what you have written it seems that you are quite self conscious and have a negative self image which are all contractions of the energy field, they drive you further into yourself and fear is the biggest contraction of all.

Learning to relax and be in a relaxed state regardless of what might be happening around you is the most valuable skill you can learn.

Placing your attention out there and observing what is occuring is also helpful and very revealing. And you might be surprised by the things that you will notice.

For instance, the seemingly confident individual standing in front of you, giving forth, turns out not to be so confident at all but has just learned how to project himself beyond his fears.

As for therapies, you could try a good NLP'ist or even take a practioners course yourself.

Take up a martial art. Because everything is physical (yes, even thoughts are things). You will gain confidence in interacting with others at a very deep level which can extend way beyond the the training hall.

And if you find a good instructor, especially in one of the internal arts you will learn how to manipulate your own energies. Very useful!

All the Best

Pete

go with winebuddy's advice above. It does work.

Fear is an illusion...

There are a few great ways to fight it.

Get as much information about the thing you fear as possible.
This will definitely allow you to relax and feel as if
there's nothing that can stop you.

-Igor

This fear is natural, it is a drive to help us prepare to gain desired results. instead of focusing on the fear you currently have, focus on the reason why you want to over come that fear. think about the pleasures gained when overcoming this fear and also think about the pain that may occur if you don't overcome this fear.

now that being said, in theory success = 80% why (your drive/reason) & 20% how

for the how part, google job interview tips, common job interview questions, good job interview answers. and roleplay them in your head or in front of a mirror. this will increase your confidence and probability of success.

Hi Jideofor
Here are a few tips for you that I have picked up over the years of my life's experiences :
Fear only exists in your mind so change your mind. You can do this by choice.
Most peoples fears never materialise e.g. your interview in 2 years may not happen at all, you may win the lotto and have no need for a job and therefore no need of the interview.

If you know feeling inferior and intimidated is really bad for you, stop feeling that way and start feeling good things about yourself.

When you start saying bad things about yourself ask a friend to interrupt you in mid flight and cancel out your bad or negative statements by changing them for good statements about yourself.

As for the dried up mouth and stuck down tongue try keeping your saliva in your mouth deliberately longer than usual to keep it moist and a few deep breaths to help you relax.

A little exercise you could do is to write out your life a bit like this......

Hi Thanks for reading this. I really enjoy interacting with you guys and gals. I will be starting my new job in 2 years time having breezed through my interviews for my first choice career. I was so impressive that the ceo who interviewed me last before offering me the job said "I would be starting on a higher salary than was usual due to my having extremely high qualifications"

Ok so you get the idea. I am not a qualified hypnotist,npler or anything else but I have seen these techniques work over the years for loads of people including myself so just give them a try and come back in 2 years time after trying them consistently and tell us your results.

OH! Congratulations on your new job.
best wishes
vtp

I know exactly how you feel. I had the same problem. I felt intimidated in an interview situation and wanting to ace it made me even more nervous.

Practice interviewing. Get some friends to be the boss. If you're introverted and don't have friends, good time to get out and make some. Learning to be social helps a lot. Get used to talking to people.

There are quite a few good resources around to help you practice interviews. Google it and find out the kind of questions you may be asked. Being prepared is more than half the battle.

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When you fear something, the only surefire way of defeating it is by facing it head on. Don't shy away from what it is that you fear, but instead of go out of your way to expose yourself to it; take every opportunity you can to stare it in the face.

With repeated exposure and practice, you'll find that the fear will gradually subside. The worst thing to do is inaction, i.e. avoidance of what you fear. By doing that, it'll only make the fear stronger.

There is a concept called comfort zone....It means you will talk freely with your dad or mom...It is the most comfortable zone for talking....then the next level could be your friends....You will talk comfortably....If you think that every others are the same human beings and put them in the same comfort zone, you will not hesitate to talk with them....Then you wont have any problems in talking even if you have appointment with the president of america...

You have had a lot of sound advice offered here and they are things you should think about. A lot of the time we fear the things we keep dwelling on...for example you are not looking at going to a job interview in the next week.

Honestly I don't know you except from what you display here, but if you do need someone to talk to any time, please skype me (I am a trained counselor but I can also be a good friend too)

All the best,
Lisa

You need to face your fear.

There are some advices and techniques on how to handle job interview. Just be yourself. Say the truth and everything will end up right.

Had same kind of problems, sort of. They went away once i became successful . Inferiority will transform in superiority without any effort.

I feel the interview fear is an example of the extent of the
problem with fear.

Unless I missed it, you haven't been back to comment. Good
point about wondering if you're doing research for a product.
But whatever.

I lived most of my life in fear. You have no idea. People can be
callous with their remarks if they've never experienced fear
like the OP (assuming it's for real) may, or I did.

It took a long time to get to a point where there's no fear of
anything. Not being a macho guy about it, either.

I noticed over many years that the very best way to get over
a fear is to squarely face it. It can be completely terrifying. But
I've overcome so many fears exactly like that. The more you do
it, the better it gets and future confrontations with fear are less
fearful.

It works. The first one you face is the worst.

I began my long journey to overcome fear in 1995, I guess. I took
a Dale Carnegie public speaking course. It lasted 3 months, we met
once a week, and had to give a speech every week. There were
about 40 people in the class. We had to give an impromptu speech
the very first class. I about died.

That experience changed me forever. I still had fears about things,
but I began confronting them, as I said, squarely one at a time.

You can talk all you want. Tell yourself anything you want. All the
well-intentioned things. Affirmation, or whatever. But you're still
scared crapless when the thought is in your head of whatever it is
that makes you afraid.

Nothing else matches looking the thing you're afraid of in the eyes
and plowing through it.

But maybe that's just what worked for me. Others may not be able
to do that. I'll say they are able, but if they believe they're not - then
they're not. Right?


Ken

The only way to conquer fear is to be prepare and pray. Before proceed for interview make sure you are well-prepared and blessed by GOD. You can search the engine about various articles to help you with the steps to conquer fear.Goodluck and advance happy graduation.

Whenever fear wants to take hold of you, take a deep breath. If it continues, slap yourself. If it continues, look yourself in a standing mirror and ask yourself, "Is everybody afraid?" The answer is NO. Then tell yourself, "Now, come on change before something worse than fear happens to you."

If you really love yourself and I'm sure you do, you will change.

My own problem is that I don't know how to be afraid. I think I'm highly favored.

I love this quote: "Do it afraid - courage will come later."

As far as your current situation, gear yourself up to think about it a bit differently. Your EMPLOYER should be the one who's nervous. Here is a stellar candidate walking in for an interview and he needs to do whatever he can to get you to join his company.

You're deeply qualified. You have the opportunity to go interview anywhere. So why should you work for THEM?

Go in there with extreme confidence (not to the point where you're cocky) and remember that this truly is a two way street. Yes, you need a job. But they NEED a qualified candidate too.
tiff

Hi Jide, a lot of helpful pieces of advice have been given not just to you alone but to all who may have this life problem of overcoming fears. So i will add my persnal experience to these. When i bought my first car and after some primary driving training i noticed that i could not still drive. I was so terrified that whenever i entered the car , my legs will start shaking and one day a friend of my told me to understand that i was the one in control of the car and not the other way round. And the moment i realized that i was the one in control i just entered the car, turned on the ignition and drove off though not perfectly. So my advice is for you to realize that you are the one in control of your life and will be able to do whatever you decide to do even to overcome any fear.

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.

~Bene Gesserit Litany Against Fear (Frank Herbert).

Ji,

Feel the fear and do it anyway. Fear is a result of anticipating the future, and basing it off of what happened to you in the past. All you have is the "NOW".
If there is one thing you need to know in this world, it is the fact that You are Sufficient. Always. In this moment you have the talents and abilities you need to carry you forward into the next moment. You will be amazed at where time takes. You will be well.

~Red

Just free your mind .... and think that you are alone speaking in the front of mirror

1. GET EXPERIENCE - No matter what it is, find some kind of experience doing something that you can talk about. Even if it is IM or college sports, do something besides video games and JO.
2. BE REAL - Don't pretend to be someone your not just to get a job. I am procrastinator but I WILL NOT MISS A DEADLINE. I just got a new job and I told this to my interviewer. "I never miss a deadline" If you miss deadlines reassess your self.
3. NO BIG DEAL - Go on lots of interviews for practice. If you don't get offers, you get free practice and its no big deal. Worst case scenario you are in the same position your in now.

I love those 3 Frank Herbert novels... read them all 2 or 3 times.

Fear IS the little mind killer. IGNORE it. Don't believe it. Pretend it's a press release by the government.

Hi,

I've used hypnosis effectively for several situations that made me fearful. I highly recommend you find someone local to work with.

Bonnie

you can overcome your fear when you challenge it. fear is not real its just a decoy to not get things done and feel sorry for yourself!

I also had the same problem few years before. This is the method, I used to overthrow it. Face to the moment and seriously think.......... NOTHING I've to do NOW except doing this. Really, it worked for me.

Why do you want to get rid of the fear? Fear gives you adrenaline, which makes your victory even more prescious. It is a great and unique feeling when you do something that you are afraid to do.

Just FACE your FEAR but what if your FEAR is your FACE? lol

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself. People aren't afraid of the thing, they're afraid of the fear.

When you look at it logically, there is zero to fear in an interview. Unless the interview is with someone you need to convince not to kill you. Then you've got something to fear.

Change your perspective. When I was going on job interviews, my biggest fear was in not getting a job. If i didn't get a job I would have to live with my father and step mother. And if they wanted to kick me out, I could be homeless. I can go on about all the fears I had if I didn't get a job.

The point is to leverage the fear to force yourself to have no choice but to pass any interview.

On what you can do to get better at it; go buy 'how to win friends and influence people'. I have it on CD and listen to it over and over.

Get audio CD's by some of the great sales people like Zig Ziglar. He's awesome. I used to write out his stuff and read it into a recorder trying to imitate him.

Someone mentioned Toastmasters. Great advice.

Take an acting class. if you're in school, jump into a class.

hope that helps

All fear comes from thinking too much about the future. Concentrate on living in the present and your you will feel fear so much less.

I used to spend nearly all my day thinking and worrying about the future. When I started learning to quieten my mind and live in the present, my life changed so much. I find that the less I think about the future, the better things always seem to work out.

I know this may sound crazy if you've never thought about it before but the present is waaaay more important than the future (because it's real). Exploring meditation and spirituality can help a lot. Just a deep breath is all you need to clear your mind - no huge effort required.

Here's the thing, nothing in life is what it appears to be, even your thoughts or feelings. Try and think about yourself in the 3rd person...i.e. instead of using "I am already scared of job interview" speak, "my mind is scared of the job interview". Just changing the words you think and speak will do something profound. Eventually it will create detachment from the problem... which is your way of thinking. Then you won't be controlled by it anymore. Try it for 7 days and see what happens. I promise it will bring peace and relaxation to your life as the only problem we have is identification with our problems.

Food for thought.

All I can say as a person who use to be in a hiring position there are more people who want to see you succeed the fail even if they appear to be strangers. They have accepted you as a potential hire and just want to see if you have a pulse and a personality.

The pulse is a give me and just lay it on the line with personality and try to think of them as family and friends when you go in.

If you have made it to an interview they really think your are a possible team member .... !!!

FEAR:

Forget
Everything
And
Relax

Seriously.....you just need to relax and be yourself. Don't make yourself into someone you are not.....someone the interviewer wants you to be. It takes FAR more energy to put a Fake shell than it does to just be yourself. Trust me, being yourself shows how genuine you are....which will leave nothing left to fear.

Best of luck,
Brian

As soon as you can, grab yourself a copy of Joel Osteen's book, "How To BEcome A Better You" and a highlighter and read a chapter every niight before bed...soon, you will develop habits that will allow your mind to overcome and face any fear facing you.

With Action.

Thats the only way.

What i feared most in the past was to call to a company before even getting a job interview. So just asking if they needed someone for a job would freak me out.

I don't really know how I overcame that? I know I had a big issue with my self esteem.
The way I handled that was indeed to go out and face my fears. Sometimes a few beers would help me in that. I would not encourage that, also not to take amphetamine, cos it could lead to an addiction and that leaves you much worse than you where before.

The best way is just to go out and do the things you fear most. Do this together with someone you trust. A best friend would be great for this, also if he/she knows your problem. And than you will have a mayor growth in just a few weeks of practicing this.

That is the way I overcame my fears, and it is the hardest but also most quickest way possible. And afterwards you will laugh at all those silly fears you've got before.

Hope to be of good help to you.

thank u all

I agree with public speaking. Take some classes and look into toastmasters. The sooner you start working on this problem the better because if you plan on moving up in your career you're going to have to learn how to communicate with people. Good luck!

Life does not exist without fear, it all depends how it manifests in your life.
Overcoming a fear will make you a better person and improve your overall lifestyle

Set your plan and then take action on it daily, no matter what or how much... just do a little something each day putting you forward. You will soon find that fear is just bogus road block of the mind and you can overcome it.

Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway. Hey, that would make a good book title!

Ya, I know it already is, relax.

Fear is always there. Everyone has their own fear, and to overcome that fear, you must have to face that fear. Basically, the concept of fear is all psychological. People are too afraid to do things simply because they have in their mind that they cannot do it and are too afraid to experience failure when they want to do something. As a result, they will have to decide to shy away from the task and chooses to do nothing to avoid failures and committing mistakes. These kinds of people will never reach their goal because of fear. Fear got the best in them, and in their panic, they will do nothing. Facing fear is a challenge that one has to experience. Without experience, people will not learn from it and will always be afraid to do things on their own.
It was in this article that said, man's greatest fear is fear itself. The idea of fear in your mind will always be there if you do not face that fear. An acrophobic will definitely overcome his fear of heights if he faces that fear by challenging himself that he can go to these heights. In this manner, he would overcome that fear by doing things he is very afraid of.
If your present lifestyle is what you say is giving you this "fear", change your mind set on how to face people. As what I have read also, change your mind, and you will definitely change your life.
Just try, nothing is impossible.

Try to talk with people. Be in confidence while talking with others. Never get nerves in your life. When go for interview rifer to your books and general knowledge. When you talk to the interviewer that time look into his eyes and be sure never show the your nervous. Be brave in life. There are many thing in life that u have handle alone. So be confidence and brave.

All the best for your feature

From which side of the desk?

Stop putzing around, worrying about things that are 2 years in future!

Concentrate on building your business and I guarantee you won't have any problem! Even as a student you can find two or three hours a day for that without it having any impact on schooling or your GPA! Hopefully, the less time you have, the less tempted and less tolerant you'll be about wasting it. (That usually takes the better part of a lifetime to learn, BTW, and you heard it here free!)

Besides, all the economic forecasts are pretty damned bleak for the next couple of years (probably read that as 'the rest of this decade'), so your best prospects are in your own business - not any entry-level job!

go to youtube and watch about interview tips. i used to have problem , until i start to talk rubbish in an interview

Don't ride the fearcoaster! Go with the loveboat

Don't see you fear as a problem, rather face it as a challenge to overcome. Face it, accept it, rationalize it and WIN BIG!

The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle helped me to get out and triomph were I am now. You should read it, it will give you a unique new perspective on life in general.

you need to tell yourself over and over again, untill you finally believe it that you are the best. You need to develop an ego and confidence in yourself. Find the mentality of "i can do anything i want" and make it happen. If you want something, dont grovel and ask for it, do what you can to get it yourself. Make your life your own, and get everythign you want in life.