Is it good to have an Accountability Partner? How to select one?

by kumar
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Hey Guys,

I've been lately feeling that I am taking my work too casually
and spending more time 'sitting' on it than actually doing it.
Heck, when I made a brutal self-assessment, my productive
time came to less than 4 hrs. a day (and I don't really have
too many family responsibilities).

Do you think getting an Accountability Partner helps in becoming
more productive? Someone who can help keep me on track
towards achieving daily and other periodic goals (and of course,
I would help him achieve his goals). If you had/have such a partner,
please share how this arrangement benefited you. How did you
work it out with him to start with (exchange daily goals,
communication channels etc.)? Any tips you'd want to share on
how to select an accountability partner? Any pitfalls to be avoided?

All suggestions are welcomed. Thanks!
#accountability #good #partner #select
  • Profile picture of the author john17
    Is this a trick question?

    Of course it is great to have an accountability partner.

    So long as they actually keep you accountable and are not intimidated to tell you the truth.

    How about you publicly proclaim what it is you are going to accomplish to the entire Warrior Forum. Then, all-of-sudden, you are essentially held accountable by every single person who reads your affirmations.

    Tell your friends and family the goals that you are going to achieve.

    No one wants to tell all of their friends that they are going to do something and then end up not doing it.

    Public affirmations have the potential to change your life.

    A like-minded accountability partner though is a huge help in my opinion.

    Someone who shares similar goals as you and will not be afraid to tell you the truth is a must. You could probably find an accountability partner right here in the Warrior Forum.

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  • Profile picture of the author Shannon Herod
    Not only is it good to have an accountability partner, I would say it is essential for success.

    Trying to do everything yourself without someone to bounce ideas off of will drive you crazy.

    Trust me, I know this from experience. It wasn't until I decided to finally get out of my Batcave and start talking to other people that I started to make money.

    Once I finally started reaching out and seeking the advice of my peers my business started to explode. And I'm not talking about in the Internet marketing niche. I'm talking outside of the Internet marketing niche.

    It is just now after running a very successful business for years that I've decided to wander into the IM niche.

    But, I would not be doing that either if I did not have people to bounce ideas off of and get ideas from.

    Talk soon,

    Shannon Herod
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  • Profile picture of the author LynnLewis
    Just joining the November thread for newbies has helped me to be more focused. I set a goal for this month and I want to be able to report to the others that I was successful.

    Start a thread or just ask for one other person to partner with you. You surely aren't the only one who needs a little nudge.
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  • Profile picture of the author IdeaLady
    Yes, an accountability partner is essential.

    One thing I do is very simple: At the end of the day, I send an email to a friend telling her what I accomplished that day. Simple.

    I do not want to send an email that says, "I didn't get anything done," so I make sure I have accomplishments to report.

    Another thing that works for me is publishing goals to a group to which I belong. At the beginning of the week, I post several things I plan to accomplish. Then at the end of the week I post again to say how I did on each goal.

    The threat of public humiliation can be motivating. ;o)
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    • Profile picture of the author kumar
      Thanks guys.

      I'll look for a partner in the forum and elsewhere.
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  • Profile picture of the author jazbo
    I say definitely yes! I have several of my site members who were all fired up with enthusiasm initially in their emails, we make plans and then the emails drop off and the excuses start. So I chase them up daily, asking where they are etc. It works and helps them.
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  • Profile picture of the author henkz
    Is possible to have a good partner, i had that several time, and i discover that one need to clear up his mind from all this worry.And move ahead with business.
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  • Profile picture of the author joadcrank
    A partner is very important because were are two people, the power is more big and the job is more easy.
    Each partner has something to do and that mean the job is divided.
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  • Profile picture of the author profitsforall
    I have an agreement with a colleague at my day job.

    We agree on something I'm going to achieve that week and if I don't achieve it in that time I buy his coffees for a day.

    He's not an internet marketer and he only drinks 2 coffees a day but just wanting to avoid buying them has motivated me.

    Silly thing is I'll be buying him a coffee on monday as a thank you, even though I met the target as a thank you
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    • Profile picture of the author Gemini9
      An accountability partner is extremely important - to bounce ideas off of, set concrete goals and stay on track.

      I have a non-Warrior Forum partner that I regularly communicate with and who helps keep me on track and moving forward.
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  • Profile picture of the author DeborahDera
    Originally Posted by kumar View Post

    Hey Guys,

    I've been lately feeling that I am taking my work too casually
    and spending more time 'sitting' on it than actually doing it.
    Heck, when I made a brutal self-assessment, my productive
    time came to less than 4 hrs. a day (and I don't really have
    too many family responsibilities).

    Do you think getting an Accountability Partner helps in becoming
    more productive? Someone who can help keep me on track
    towards achieving daily and other periodic goals (and of course,
    I would help him achieve his goals). If you had/have such a partner,
    please share how this arrangement benefited you. How did you
    work it out with him to start with (exchange daily goals,
    communication channels etc.)? Any tips you'd want to share on
    how to select an accountability partner? Any pitfalls to be avoided?

    All suggestions are welcomed. Thanks!
    I hate to sound stupid but I've never heard of this concept before - although now I wish I had.

    I could really use that type of motivation to help me along as well.

    I'll partner and swap emails with someone if they'd like...
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  • Originally Posted by kumar View Post

    Is it good to have an Accountability Partner? How to select one?
    No, it's not good to have an accountability partner.

    Why? because you must understand that IM is a business, and only YOU are responsible for YOUR business. If you cannot keep up with your work schedule and motivation, then no-one will be able to do that for you.

    So in stead of searching for an accountability partner, search for stronger working commitments.
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    • Profile picture of the author kumar
      Originally Posted by DeborahDera View Post

      I hate to sound stupid but I've never heard of this concept before - although now I wish I had.

      I could really use that type of motivation to help me along as well.

      I'll partner and swap emails with someone if they'd like...
      Hi Deborah,

      Never too late to try. I think it may be a good idea to find someone
      in your time zone to effectively sync. your communication times.

      You could find a lot of members of this forum living in NJ or Philly.

      Originally Posted by Anonymous Affiliate View Post

      No, it's not good to have an accountability partner.

      Why? because you must understand that IM is a business, and only YOU are responsible for YOUR business. If you cannot keep up with your work schedule and motivation, then no-one will be able to do that for you.

      So in stead of searching for an accountability partner, search for stronger working commitments.
      AA,

      I hear you; my idea of having an accountability partner is to get to that level
      where I stay on track and be at my productive best in my working hours.
      Once it develops into a habit, I think it'll be easier to maintain it, even without
      such an arrangement.

      I do agree, ultimately, it boils down to me and how committed and motivated I
      am for my business.

      It may not work, but I would definitely want to give it an honest try.
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      • Profile picture of the author kumar
        Thanks guys for all your responses.

        Quick question: does anyone have an accountability partner in a different time zone (with a considerable time gap)? How do you work out your communication in terms of reviewing each other's day?
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  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    Hi Kumar,

    It helps.

    I've found my accountability partner: silence. When sitting still I can observe my self-defeating tendencies with greater ease. I see when I chose to watch TV instead of writing a blog post or slept-in when I should have been uploading videos to youtube.

    The blessing of silence is that it reveals you to You. Of course a partner can help you in this arena too but I suggest meditating and building an impressive self-help library to get on the right path.

    All the best!

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    • Profile picture of the author kumar
      Originally Posted by ryanbiddulph View Post

      Hi Kumar,

      It helps.

      I've found my accountability partner: silence. When sitting still I can observe my self-defeating tendencies with greater ease. I see when I chose to watch TV instead of writing a blog post or slept-in when I should have been uploading videos to youtube.

      The blessing of silence is that it reveals you to You. Of course a partner can help you in this arena too but I suggest meditating and building an impressive self-help library to get on the right path.

      All the best!

      Ryan Biddulph
      Wow Ryan! You should use the moniker of 'Zen Warrior' in the forum .

      But honestly, thanks for mentioning a different way to discipline and holding yourself accountable. I should've taken that Art Of Living course I did recently more seriously.
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  • Profile picture of the author flocon
    Thank you for this thread Kumar. I am actually looking for an accountability partner. I think that working with someone else who is interested in IM could be advantageous. When there is no one to report to, I think it can be easier to give less importance to deadlines.
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  • Profile picture of the author pethanks
    Having an accountability partner is great idea. Choose the one closest to you and proven to be your best friend.
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  • Profile picture of the author Marvin Johnston
    Originally Posted by Ken_Caudill View Post

    It's best to have no partner at all. PM my anytime. I will be happy to tell you to get to work for free.
    I think someone who is *only* an accountability partner would be of limited value.

    On the other hand, mastermind groups can serve as accountability partners and much, much more. It is nice to be able to talk to people that understand what I'm trying to do without having to go back to basics on each sentence.

    I've got friends who know my hot buttons that get me back on track quickly ... although sometimes I have to stand up for a while after that .

    Marvin
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