How Do You Feel When you help and...

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...the person asking for help don't answer to any of the responding warriors providing help. Worst yet, not saying tank you to no one?
I noticed this tendency getting very common here.
Am I too sensitive, too polite, old fashion or all of them?
Meharis
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  • Profile picture of the author Jacqueline Smith
    It happens. It seems some people just want to post for the sake of it or just like to hear themselves talk! Fortunately, most people on this forum are here for the right reasons. Don't let the others get you down.
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  • Profile picture of the author ReachOneMedia
    Originally Posted by Meharis View Post

    ...the person asking for help don't answer to any of the responding warriors providing help. Worst yet, not saying tank you to no one?
    I noticed this tendency getting very common here.
    Am I too sensitive, too polite, old fashion or all of them?
    Meharis

    I totally understand.... can be frustrating sometimes to deal with "takers"
    But i found that to be a very small percentage of all the people...

    Continue to help him/her anyway. you could offer to do a live chat with that person also.
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  • Profile picture of the author LeeLee
    Some people are shy. Others know there are a lot of big players here and they feel self conscious talking to them. Hero worship.

    Not everyone is ungrateful. Some just don't feel like equal participants. This can happen in any forum. Most develop cliques of the cool kids and outsiders feel like... well outsiders.
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    • Profile picture of the author dayanthan
      Originally Posted by LeeLee View Post

      Some people are shy. Others know there are a lot of big players here and they feel self conscious talking to them. Hero worship.

      Not everyone is ungrateful. Some just don't feel like equal participants. This can happen in any forum. Most develop cliques of the cool kids and outsiders feel like... well outsiders.
      very well said. Great point about the cliques and the incrowd. I really notice that in some places and the loyalty to their buddy overrides the content of what they may have said in their post. I have never been one for herd mentalities.
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    • Profile picture of the author Meharis
      To the rest of Warriors:
      Jacqueline Smith
      LeeLee
      ReachOneMedia
      dayanthan
      Thank you for your response. I really appreciate it.
      Meharis
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  • Profile picture of the author ReachOneMedia
    Communicating via email makes it very difficult sometime to really get what the other person is thinking... Personally I can't communicate via email with my wife because I always feel that she's angry at me even if she's telling me the opposite.

    Just be careful before judging
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    • Profile picture of the author Meharis
      Originally Posted by ReachOneMedia View Post

      Communicating via email makes it very difficult sometime to really get what the other person is thinking... Personally I can't communicate via email with my wife because I always feel that she's angry at me even if she's telling me the opposite.

      Just be careful before judging
      I suggest you read my posting again. There's was no judging at all.
      Furthermore, I did ask:"Am I too sensitive, too polite, old fashion or all of them?"
      Where is the judging?
      Meharis
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    • Profile picture of the author Meharis
      Originally Posted by ReachOneMedia View Post

      Communicating via email makes it very difficult sometime to really get what the other person is thinking... Personally I can't communicate via email with my wife because I always feel that she's angry at me even if she's telling me the opposite.

      Just be careful before judging
      ReachOneMedia,
      Forgive me. You were not referring to myself. I'm very sorry.
      Meharis
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  • Profile picture of the author esterm2010
    Hi Meharis,
    Please don't take it too personal. At least when we can help others with our knowledge, we know that we should be proud of ourselves.
    Cheers up and let's continue sharing, we don't share only for some thanks and respect, right? We share because we enjoy to do it.

    Enjoy your day Meharis
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    • Profile picture of the author Meharis
      Originally Posted by esterm2010 View Post

      Hi Meharis,
      Please don't take it too personal. At least when we can help others with our knowledge, we know that we should be proud of ourselves.
      Cheers up and let's continue sharing, we don't share only for some thanks and respect, right? We share because we enjoy to do it.

      Enjoy your day Meharis
      easterm2010,
      I refuse to stop helping when ever I can. I'll be ignoring the bad apples and wont help them the second time around.
      I made the posting to see if I was out of context.
      Thank you for you answer.
      Meharis
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  • Profile picture of the author Kevin Riley
    Originally Posted by Meharis View Post

    ...the person asking for help don't answer to any of the responding warriors providing help. Worst yet, not saying tank you to no one?
    I noticed this tendency getting very common here.
    Am I too sensitive, too polite, old fashion or all of them?
    Meharis
    I always think that folks like that weren't brought up correctly. Nothing old fashioned about saying "Thank you". It's just good manners. And, to those who don't show appreciation, don't expect help next time.
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    • Profile picture of the author Meharis
      Originally Posted by Kevin Riley View Post

      I always think that folks like that weren't brought up correctly. Nothing old fashioned about saying "Thank you". It's just good manners. And, to those who don't show appreciation, don't expect help next time.
      Kevin Riley,
      I agree with you 100%. I was starting to think that rather than old fashion, I was getting old...
      Thank you for making me feel younger.
      Meharis
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  • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
    My thought on it is simple: Someone besides the original poster needed that info. If it helps them, it's worth the time to answer the question.

    Never forget how many people could end up reading what you write. It goes far beyond the folks you think you're talking to...


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    • Profile picture of the author Luis Medilo
      Well, we can't do anything about it. Some people will just read the replies to their posts without saying thank you, but it doesn't necessarily mean that they're ungrateful. Maybe deep inside their hearts, they are grateful to you for the advice or help you gave, but probably they just don't know what to say. This forum can be intimidating sometimes, especially for newbies, and people don't want to write something dumb or stupid. Less talk, less mistake.
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