Me and My Sad Feelings

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So today is a sad day for me. My moms job let her go today. Just in time for the holidays. My mom is 59 years old. She doesn't really know where to go from here. I want to help her so much but I'm limited. I have my own household that needs me. It's difficult to watch my parents suffer through difficult times. My dad is just starting to get back on his feet...he's a construction worker and he's also getting up there in age...He's been laid off several times over the last 8 years. He just found consistent work and now this hits their household. My mom has had somewhat of a hard life. She's battled cancer, being born in the south when there was a great deal of racial problems...i could go on and on...

I am extremely sensitive to the feelings of others. Especially my family. I help anyone I can. Sometimes, I wish God hadn't made me this way because I feel the pain of everyone who's close to me. I hate to see anyone struggle.

I wish my mom could make some money online....she's a hard worker but she doesn't know anything about the internet. She never comes online. I'm tired of seeing people get laid off or fired...that's why I vowed to never work for anyone again. Destiny is in their hands. I'm truly saddened by this. I wish there was a way I could raise some extra money to give my mom every week.

I'm sorry to post this here but if there's anybody out there who has something that my mom can do from home...please let me know. It has to be extremely simple. Any suggestions at all would be helpful.
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  • Profile picture of the author write-stuff
    I'm very sorry to hear about your parents' problems. I wish you and them the best of luck.
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    • Profile picture of the author Kym Robinson
      I too am very sad to hear about that!

      In australia - people can get manual work at home by approaching production companies.
      This can be anything form putting 3 screws and 2 nuts in a little bag to go with a door handle or similar easy jobs that you can do in front of the TV if you wanted to.

      Maybe you could help her approach companies that use outsourcing for minimal jobs that are available.

      Also here - the people that deleiver the junk mail (into house mail boxes) often have people collect and collate for them as do newspapers etc

      I dont know what its like where you are - but with a bit of effort and research I am sure someone like you who cares - will be able to help.

      Say Hi to your mum for me and tell her - her ozy friend is saying a prayer for her!
      Im sure everything will turn out
      Good Luck
      Kym
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  • Profile picture of the author Writing Warrior
    I'm so sorry to hear about the hard times that your family is going through. I too, am tired of seeing and hearing about bad things happening to good people, but it's important that we don't dwell on the negative for too long...

    Maybe you could point your mom to some freelancing resources so she can slowly get started with working from home.

    Wishing your family the best,
    Gina
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  • Profile picture of the author Iamnotherenow
    yeah I'm going to see what I can do. She's been asking me for something to do online because she didn't really wanna be at her job too much longer. I just feel so bad..because it's the holiday season...my mom loves buying everyone gifts..I don't know if she'll be able to do that this year.
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    • Profile picture of the author clint48
      Hope things work out for your Mom, but it doesn't look like thing will pick up for a few years. Maybe you could put an ad on Craigslist in your area for your Mother to set with an older person. That is what my wife does.

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    • Profile picture of the author Angela V. Edwards
      Originally Posted by Iamnotherenow View Post

      yeah I'm going to see what I can do. She's been asking me for something to do online because she didn't really wanna be at her job too much longer. I just feel so bad..because it's the holiday season...my mom loves buying everyone gifts..I don't know if she'll be able to do that this year.

      Your mom might want to start out by doing something simple, like selling some stuff she doesn't want anymore on Ebay. She could then visit garage sales and flea markets and second hand shops and get some more hard-to-find items to sell. Plenty of people are making a full time living doing this sort of thing.

      Good luck to your mom.
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  • Profile picture of the author bigwal88
    I agree with kym, there are plenty of manual work at home jobs as simple as filling envelopes. I havent explored data entry but maby that is an option?

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  • Profile picture of the author George Wright
    Hi,

    First of all I know you are very fortunate to have a Mom to worry about. I'm sorry to hear the problems and I feel the same as you about being tired of seeing people laid off.

    I don't know what part of the country you live in but I'm sure you have heard of Mystery Shoppers.

    I used to think Mystery Shopper offers were a scam until I asked two friends of mine what they do for a living and they said mystery shopping. I was amazed because as I said I always thought it was a scam.

    I asked them a lot of questions and it turned out that they are sent to eat at McDonald's, shop at Circuit City and to Movie theaters. The list goes on.

    They not only get reimbursed for their movie tickets, fast food and small items they buy at Circuit city they get paid $20 to $35 dollars for each trip they make.

    The lady I know can do 3 or four visits a day, easy. She also has a full time job and could do more but she only goes out in the evening and on weekends.

    The Lady only works for one company but the man went online and signed up with all the mystery shopping services that looked interesting to him, he works for several but I don't know how many.

    From the mystery shopping company came another assignment, that is, setting up those 3D cardboard displays you see in the movie theaters. He gets $35 for each setup.

    By the way if they don't want to watch the movie they don't have to stay. Their assignment is to view the trailers before the movie and fill out a report on them. They can stay for the movie if they wish.

    At first the lady I'm talking about only got $15 or $20 for each visit but she just told the company she needed more money and they give it to her so it seems if they like you the pay can increase.

    Hope this helps,
    George Wright
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    • Profile picture of the author Angela V. Edwards
      That's a good idea, too. For 20 years, I've worked for companies that use Mystery Shoppers, so I know they exist and are real.

      Originally Posted by George Wright View Post

      Hi,

      First of all I know you are very fortunate to have a Mom to worry about. I'm sorry to hear the problems and I feel the same as you about being tired of seeing people laid off.

      I don't know what part of the country you live in but I'm sure you have heard of Mystery Shoppers.

      I used to think Mystery Shopper offers were a scam until I asked two friends of mine what they do for a living and they said mystery shopping. I was amazed because as I said I always thought it was a scam.

      I asked them a lot of questions and it turned out that they are sent to eat at McDonald's, shop at Circuit City and to Movie theaters. The list goes on.

      They not only get reimbursed for their movie tickets, fast food and small items they buy at Circuit city they get paid $20 to $35 dollars for each trip they make.

      The lady I know can do 3 or four visits a day, easy. She also has a full time job and could do more but she only goes out in the evening and on weekends.

      The Lady only works for one company but the man went online and signed up with all the mystery shopping services that looked interesting to him, he works for several but I don't know how many.

      From the mystery shopping company came another assignment, that is, setting up those 3D cardboard displays you see in the movie theaters. He gets $35 for each setup.

      By the way if they don't want to watch the movie they don't have to stay. Their assignment is to view the trailers before the movie and fill out a report on them. They can stay for the movie if they wish.

      At first the lady I'm talking about only got $15 or $20 for each visit but she just told the company she needed more money and they give it to her so it seems if they like you the pay can increase.

      Hope this helps,
      George Wright
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  • Profile picture of the author Gail Sober
    This is really sad and I'm sorry for your mom, you too because it obviously affects you also.

    The way the economy is, maybe someone local needs some affordable baby sitting?

    Maybe she can check the free category on Craigslist and gather up enough things there to sell at the flea market. Sat & Sun people want you to haul off their garage sale leftovers. Free merch., can practically give it away and still make money.

    Sounds like she would have some interesting stories to tell about her life, her health battles, her growing up in the south with the racial diversity. Set up a blog for her and show her how to post. Could very easily become a popular read.

    I wish her and you the best!
    Gail
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  • Profile picture of the author cloudchaser22
    Hey sorry about what happened. We all go through tough times. Just make sure you guy's keep your head up and have a positive outlook!
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  • Profile picture of the author Shaun OReilly
    I'm sorry to hear about your Mother's situation and how it's
    affecting you and the rest of your family.

    Though it may seem that way just now, this may just be one
    of those events that your Mother looks back on as an important
    turning point in her life - and yours.

    Especially as you've mentioned that she didn't want to be at
    her job too much longer anyways.

    This is an opportunity for your Mother to find something that
    she does enjoy.

    Often, it's life's moments of greatest turmoil and distress that
    lead to the largest breakthroughs.

    A number of years ago I attended a conference in Spain where
    a presenter from Chile shared the following quote:

    "When life gives you a gift, it doesn't normally come wrapped
    in gift paper."


    What he meant by that, was that it's usually the pains in your
    life that give you the greatest breakthroughs.

    So, although times may be tough for you and your Mother right
    now, remember that this too will pass.

    And hopefully you'll all look back on it as a real turning point.

    Respectfully yours,

    Shaun

    P.S. In your original post you said:

    I wish there was a way I could raise some extra money to give my mom every week.
    If you really want to achieve this, then connect to powerful
    reasons such as the one you've stated to give you the emotional
    drive to find a way.

    Once you have powerful reasons for why you're doing your
    Internet business, you'll find a drive inside that will keep you
    going to find a way.

    You'll have no problems to keep that drive alive.
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  • Profile picture of the author rosetrees
    Originally Posted by Iamnotherenow View Post

    I wish my mom could make some money online....she's a hard worker but she doesn't know anything about the internet. S
    I have an internet course in my siggy. Nothing to do with IM, just my beginners' courses that I use with my own students. It might help your mum, especially if you could work through it with her.

    Also, as it's coming up to Christmas, could she make some decorations or other items to sell at craft fares?
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    • Profile picture of the author AmberX5
      Sorry to hear your story ... more sorry for your mom. The feeling of helpless is terrible . Try to give her your mental support.
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  • Profile picture of the author Iamnotherenow
    Well I know my mom is an excellent cook, maybe she could sell holiday cakes at this time of year. Maybe I could even sell some online for her.
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    • Profile picture of the author John Henderson
      Originally Posted by Iamnotherenow View Post

      Well I know my mom is an excellent cook, maybe she could sell holiday cakes at this time of year. Maybe I could even sell some online for her.
      Now THAT'S an excellent idea! Combine the skills and equipment that your mum already has with the skill and equipment that you have to begin a little business with very low start-up costs. It's gotta be worth a try, fella!
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    • Profile picture of the author joblythe
      Originally Posted by Iamnotherenow View Post

      Well I know my mom is an excellent cook, maybe she could sell holiday cakes at this time of year. Maybe I could even sell some online for her.
      Great idea!

      I know you asked in a previous post about your girlfriend too - so why don't the three of you join forces and make a real go of it. You seem to want to succeed - that can only be good for you!

      All the best!
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    • Profile picture of the author todd wetzelberger
      Originally Posted by Iamnotherenow View Post

      Well I know my mom is an excellent cook, maybe she could sell holiday cakes at this time of year. Maybe I could even sell some online for her.

      I was going to put quick post for mom to take stock of what her skills, interests, strengths are and put some thought to how to combine these into profitable venture. If she loves to cook, gets compliments, etc. that's excellent idea.

      Do you have a ready network to sell into ? (i.e. neighbors, civic group, church group, etc) where she is already known? This will shorten the credibility curve and will build some quick testimonials.

      I know this is a bit "big picture" but the short term plan could leverage into the long term plan. Nothing helps the mind/ spirit get in gear better than working toward something you enjoy/ desire.

      This could be a short term and potential long term venture as well. Wally Amos, Debbie Fields, etc and many others have come before here working out of their kitchen in the beginning.

      This is a bit off topic but really ties in. Find a copy of Think and Grow Rich for your mom. I have hundreds of great books/courses but I come back to this one every few years just to read a few pages here and there to remind myself to bring as much value to others as possible. It's helpful to keep your mind strong/ positive.

      If she made it through cancer, she has the strength to do a lot of things, remind her of that.

      hope this helps
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  • Profile picture of the author Talltom1
    Hey there IamNotThere...

    I'm also really sorry to hear about your mom's situation. And its heartwarming to see that you care so much. A couple of things that are important in this situation. First, your mom is going to struggle for a while with a really negative outlook on life. This is normal and it needs to run its course. But don't let it become a way of life for her.

    Secondly, the economy is clearly restructuring itself. about a week ago the founder of LinkedIN made a comment that 'every individual is becoming their own small business'. The concern I have is that the older people are (like your mom), the less adaptable they are going to be. She's going to need you to help her identify the things (some good ideas here) that she can do each week to earn some money on a regular basis. And frankly, she will need to rely less on traditional 'jobs', than in the past. Since you are younger, you will best be in a situation where you can help her make that 'career transition'.

    But, let her have her 'emotions' for a few days, help her keep her chin up, and then make it your job to provide some counseling about new things she can do to generate income.

    I'm from the Detroit area, and we have an entire region that is devastated right now, and getting much worse by the minute. So, adapt, or die.

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  • Profile picture of the author aspiepower
    Sorry to hear that, it is harder when you get older to find any form of employment as there are younger/better looking people available

    I think your best bet is to concentrate of "real life things" she can do. Such as the cakes. But do check the legality of that, where I live you'd need your kitchen inspected and to have taken a Food Hygiene Course.

    Perhaps you could get a list of things she could do and then sit and brainstorm ideas with your mom. You could help her by sourcing anything she needs cheaply online.

    Other things she could do are: babysitting, child minding a suddenly sick child (off school with a cold for a day or two), dog walking.

    I hope she finds something.

    Good luck!
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  • Profile picture of the author Kate Carpenter
    My mother inlaw (78yo) takes care of an 88 yo man. Mostly cleaning and driving him to appointments and company. She does it 3 days a week for %18/hr. She gets these jobs through word of mouth...mostly through her church. With the high cost of assisted living facilities, a lot of families are looking for alternative solutions when the person is mentally and physically pretty much OK but just needs some help and company. Have her start asking around about it.
    There's also cleaning, either startup on her own or go to one of the agencies.
    Good Luck and it's great she has a son like you!
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    • Profile picture of the author Glenn Newsome
      Iamnotherenow,
      Glad to see someone who cares for their parents like they should. I am going to sort of second the motion of care of elderly patients that Kate said above. You can even target the hospice type patients.

      Now, with the hospice type patients still wanting to pass at home, you have to be able to "take it" as far as emotions go.

      With just elderly, you can get a very decent wage if you include things like shopping, cooking, cleaning etc. Most of the time just keeping a check on them and watching tv with them or something.

      It may even pay as much or more than she made once she gets known for offering this type of service. You can call or place ads with hospitals, hospices, nursing homes, local papers and any health related business (like medical supply stores, etc)..

      Now, on a related but slightly off topic discussion: Many of us in here help newbies or claim to and many even state how easy it is to learn.. If this is the case, then why can't we help our own folks when in need? Are we overstating what we offer?


      Iamnotherenow, maybe your Mom could catch on to the internet thing quicker than you think. We all like to think "our folks" couldn't do what we do. I tend to disagree somewhat.

      They are only gonna do what you show them how to and nothing more until you say so. They tend to be focused and you don't have the problem of information overload many of us went through.
      Just my thoughts and good luck with your mom,

      Glenn

      P.S. if she does elderly sitting, she can bake those cakes and pies at the same time. Also, guess what, elderly folks who like them will know plenty of friends in the same shape who also want them.

      Just be sure to ask or include that when you accept taking a sitting job. Most, if not all will be ok with the use of the oven while there.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mike McBride
    Come on, man. First it's your fiance who needs to make some money. Not it's your mother. Why don't YOU do something for them.

    I mean, what about your claim of making a "solid income online for 7 years now" in this thread: http://www.warriorforum.com/main-int...g-regrets.html

    Or how about teaching them to "Make A Killing On Myspace" as YOU teach in YOUR WSO here: http://www.warriorforum.com/warrior-...-hot-item.html

    Or teach them to use your "top money making strategies" that you write about here: http://www.warriorforum.com/main-int...trategies.html

    Or do we have different definitions of "making a solid income" and "money making strategies" or "making a killing" when it comes to money?
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  • Profile picture of the author Ben_Curtis
    I agree with some of the posts that note this could be the chance for you mom and fiancee to pull together and maybe take in some kids whose parents are having trouble affording day care. You know, some of the best triumphs have come out of the worst situations. Put your heads together and pool everyone's talents. Don't talk negative, don't let fear control you: take action, little steps at first while your mom and fiancee gain confidence, and this could end up being a very fruitful time for you all. You may learn talents about each other you never knew where there!
    Good luck.
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