The Ultimate Secret to Lifelong Wealth

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Almost every useful product about money or success hammers on the fact that your mindset is what needs to change first. We're all tired of hearing it.

Yet, when you look at the amount of money-making strategies out there, available to anyone who's willing to get it, you have to wonder why more people aren't wealthy yet.


After spending almost 2 decades studying money, marketing, and wealth from some of the best minds on the planet, I keep seeing one secret being repeated by almost every top performer and super successful individual. (I'm talking about millionaires, and multi-Billionaires.)

What's absolutely crazy is that many of us here have already heard what this secret is. It's mindblowing to me that we're living in a time where all this powerful information is so easily available to us.

Of course, the danger in that is that a lot of the truly powerful knowledge gets dismissed because there's SO MUCH info out there, and also because we've heard some of it repeated often.

This secret remains to be a secret because so few of us actually use it, so few of us live it.

And, if we really start living it, our lives can be transformed. Wealth in every form can come to us easily.

The secret is... Gratitude.


Sure, we 'hear' it all the time. Some of us have heard it so often that it's annoying to hear it again.

Yet, how many of us can honestly say that most of our day is spent being in awe of just how amazing our lives are and how grateful we are for everything...including our loved ones, friends, the endless supply of knowledge freely available to us (like this forum,) all the opportunities surrounding - and beckoning us - at almost every moment?

Those of us who spend even half a day (heck, even an HOUR each day) being truly grateful are already wealthy. And I don't just mean mentally. More often than not, these are the people that also become money magnets.

If you can spend just 5 minutes, once or twice per day, to stop and focus completely on how much you already have and how grateful you really are for all of it...if you really get those feelings to well up each time you do this 'exercise,' I promise that in just a few months time, you'll start seeing some incredible things happening in your life, including the amount of wealth that gets drawn to you.

Hey, I know that it's easy to get caught up in - even overwhelmed by - the negative stuff around us.

Even in this incredible forum, it's sometimes very easy to focus on what's NOT going right - on the negative. Those of us who have been Moderators here know this all too well. ;-)
Sometimes, you just have to walk away from it, for a while.

Yet, at any given moment in time, if you can just stop and think about ONE good thing in your life, and really start to realize how lucky you are to have that, your entire day can change.

We all have that power.

In the USA, many of us celebrate Thanksgiving this week.

It shouldn't be celebrated for just one day or one week.

No matter where you live, if you can feel gratitude for all you have every single day, and really experience it, I GUARANTEE that by this time next year, you'll be amazed at how wealthy you've become.

Plus, you'll enjoy the side effect of just being a heck of a lot happier every day.

I can also guarantee something else...that those of us who read this and roll our eyes, or say "B.S." are either struggling with our finances, or are just barely getting by. Or maybe we're doing alright, but are nowhere near where we'd really like to be. Both emotionally and financially.

Coincidence?
;-)

In the end, it's your choice what kind of life you want to live, and what you want to spend the rest of your life focusing on.

But, if almost every multi-Billionaire is telling us that gratitude is the big secret, maybe there's something to it, right?

By the way, I've seen this work in my own life, so I know it to be true. If you don't yet believe its power, try it for the next month or two. Heck, try it for a week and see what happens.

This forum is a great one to start with. Just look at how much powerful wisdom we have at our disposal.

I can't quite put to words how grateful I am that we have this forum, and all the amazing knowledge and opportunities that it provides us all.

I'm also extremely grateful for all the great friends I've made here.

Thank you all.

Bryan
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    • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
      Bryan,

      Check that out. Strong and Hope agree with you on Gratitude.

      For those who might wonder if Bryan's got a point, look at Dylan Loh's post today about his 22nd birthday. Classic example of the principle in real life.


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      • Profile picture of the author Bryan Kumar
        Hey, Paul!

        I've been meaning to write to you about your recent gift, "Need to Know."
        Killer stuff, man! I'm not done reading it but plan to finish it this week.

        Every Warrior needs to get a copy of it.

        Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

        Check that out. Strong and Hope agree with you on Gratitude.
        I love it! ;-)

        Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

        For those who might wonder if Bryan's got a point, look at Dylan Loh's post today about his 22nd birthday. Classic example of the principle in real life.
        Haven't seen that yet. Will go check it out. Thanks!

        Bryan
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        • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
          Hey, Paul!
          Hey, Bryan!
          I've been meaning to write to you about your recent gift, "Need to Know." Killer stuff, man! I'm not done reading it but plan to finish it this week.

          Every Warrior needs to get a copy of it.
          Sssshhhhhhh. In time. It's all part of my sinister plan to take over the world. I don't want Floyd or Michael to find out before I trigger it. They might beat me to the punch.


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      • Profile picture of the author Steven Wagenheim
        People wonder why I work so hard.

        What they don't understand is that I am just so grateful to wake up each
        morning. If you knew the life I've had, you'd understand why.

        Bryan, thank you. Maybe that truly IS why I am as successful as I am. I
        don't take anything for granted and try to give back as much as I have
        received.

        Yours may have been the most important post made at this forum all year.

        Thank you...from the bottom of my heart.
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      • Profile picture of the author WritingMadwoman
        Bryan, this is one of the best posts I've ever read on this forum or any other. While I do enjoy the strategic, "how to" posts, posts like yours really get to the heart of the matter because sometimes no matter how much action you take you simply won't get anywhere with a backwards state of mind.

        I've seen the true power of gratitude in my own life and it absolutely makes everything flow super-smooth. Not to mention making the whole journey a lot more enjoyable too!

        Thanks for this post, I'm going to print it and save it.

        Wendy
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        • Profile picture of the author Steven Wagenheim
          One more thing I'd like to add, if I may.

          Just recently Andrew Bourland (hope I got the spelling right) put up a blog
          post about his recent struggles. It was posted here by another member.

          This is a man fighting a battle for his life. I had tears in my eyes just
          reading what he was going through, at the same time realizing how lucky
          I am.

          And then, this man, who doesn't know me from Adam, emails me to thank
          me for my prayers.

          How gracious is that?

          If you think you have it hard, take a look at a man who is fighting the
          most frightening battle any of us will ever face and how he does it with
          such dignity and grace.

          Puts a lot of people to shame when you see them complaining about the
          pettiest of things. And yes, I'm as guilty as the next guy sometimes. But
          I never go through my day complaining that I have to work or that things
          are too hard and making money is a grind and blah, blah, blah.

          Hell, I woke up today.

          And let me tell you my friends...that is 99% of the fricken battle.
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      • Profile picture of the author FlightGuy
        I agree with you wholeheartedly, Bryan. The reason I agree is because I can attest to your entire post. But here's the thing...

        Someone can't just decide, "Hey - I'm going to try being grateful and hopefully success will come!"

        It's got to happen because you are truly thankful for what you do have. My moment came a few months ago... I was driving to a a job site for my offline business, and was just so unhappy with how much things slowed down for me and my income. I was frustrated that I couldn't pick a niche and apply all this newfound IM education to a project that could make me some money. I was just mad at almost everything going on. As all these negative thoughts were going through my head, I pulled up to an intersection at a red light. There was a bum on the median.

        Usually, something like this doesn't strike me too hard as I know a lot of these guys (and ladies) do it for alcohol or drugs. But this guy was different. He didn't look up at me or any of the other cars, he was just looking down at the ground and I could just tell that he was alone, sad, and extremely depressed. I gave him the last 5 dollar bill out of my wallet and he was reluctant to take it.

        I drove off and that was my turning point.

        I still had my health, my car, my house, my wonderful girlfriend, my family, my friends, my pets, their health, my pilots license, and a plan for life. This guy might not have had half of these things, if even any at all.

        I know this is a sappy story, but it's true and I believe that if people really looked around them when they feel at their worst point, they'll realize that there's always worse out there. The secret, like you said, is to have gratitude for all the things that make your life happy, successful, and meaningful.

        Since this day... actually, since that MOMENT, my life has been on an upward slope and I'm so much happier. Money has come in, I did some great things with IM, made some great friends, and can't imagine what else is to come.

        So thanks for this post Bryan, it just might have been one of the most valuable pieces of information anyone could read here on the Warrior Forums.


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  • Profile picture of the author John Henderson
    I've just briefly tried this Bryan, and I have to say, it's hard to feel negative about what you don't have when you're feeling grateful for what you do have.

    Thanks for the post, Bryan. (More gratitude! )
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  • Profile picture of the author flnz400
    To add to Wags post, I won't even mention words or my thoughts, just watch the video.

    The only question I would ask is, do you need an attitude adjustment?

    Video - Breaking News Videos from CNN.com
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  • Profile picture of the author Bryan Kumar
    Thanks for sharing the great stories and thoughts, folks! Great video too.

    John, I have a similar story...about my own life...that turned things around for me. I had sent it out to my list once, some years back. Will have to look for it and post it here.

    Bryan
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  • Profile picture of the author FlightGuy
    Gotta bump this up for the night for anyone who missed it this morning.
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  • Profile picture of the author Bryan Kumar
    Hey, thanks John.
    I should have replied to some stuff last night, but wasn't able to.

    Paul,

    Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

    Hey, Bryan!Sssshhhhhhh. In time. It's all part of my sinister plan to take over the world.
    Oops...didn't mean to expose your plan. ;-)
    Sounds exciting! I'll keep an eye on your future mailers.

    Originally Posted by Steven Wagenheim View Post

    If you think you have it hard, take a look at a man who is fighting the most frightening battle any of us will ever face and how he does it with
    such dignity and grace.

    Puts a lot of people to shame when you see them complaining about the pettiest of things.
    I agree, Steven. Sometimes, we just don't realize how much we Do have.

    Originally Posted by FlightGuy View Post

    He didn't look up at me or any of the other cars, he was just looking down at the ground and I could just tell that he was alone, sad, and extremely depressed. I gave him the last 5 dollar bill out of my wallet and he was reluctant to take it.

    I drove off and that was my turning point.

    I still had my health, my car, my house, my wonderful girlfriend, my family, my friends, my pets, their health, my pilots license, and a plan for life. This guy might not have had half of these things, if even any at all.

    I know this is a sappy story, but it's true and I believe that if people really looked around them when they feel at their worst point, they'll realize that there's always worse out there. The secret, like you said, is to have gratitude for all the things that make your life happy, successful, and meaningful.
    John, I couldn't find that email that I sent out to my list a while back.

    But, in a nutshell that story is very similar to what happened to me many years ago.

    Just an inch before I was about to lose my place and end up on the streets, when I was (I thought!) at my lowest, I saw someone who was living in a clearing under some shrubs. This was during Winter! (Very close to this time of year actually, it was a couple weeks before Christmas.)

    I didn't know where my rent and electricity money was going to come from. But seeing that homeless guy made me realize that I had NO reason to feel helpless or scared.

    I realized that there's always someone doing far worse than I am. And, I should be grateful for what I DO have.

    Moreover, I realized that I could actually HELP that other person in some way, despite how bad I 'thought' I was doing.

    I know now that that shift of feeling gratitude, and switching from feeling bad to wanting to help someone, was what got me out of it.

    Bryan

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    • Profile picture of the author WritingMadwoman
      Bryan, that's an important point. Many people think that everything in their lives has to be perfect before they can be grateful. "I'll be grateful when I'm making $100k a year. I'll be grateful when life isn't such a struggle anymore. I'll be grateful when I have more to be grateful about!!!"

      But the gratitude has to come first, and ushers in so much more to be grateful for. Great story about the person in the clearing, it's amazing how fast our perceptions can be changed!

      Today is a good day to bring this thread back up to the top of the forum, more people need to read it.

      Happy Thanksgiving to everyone in the States, and Happy Day to everyone else.

      Wendy
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      • Profile picture of the author Bryan Kumar
        Originally Posted by WritingMadwoman View Post

        Bryan, that's an important point. Many people think that everything in their lives has to be perfect before they can be grateful. "I'll be grateful when I'm making $100k a year. I'll be grateful when life isn't such a struggle anymore. I'll be grateful when I have more to be grateful about!!!"

        But the gratitude has to come first, and ushers in so much more to be grateful for. Great story about the person in the clearing, it's amazing how fast our perceptions can be changed!
        That's exactly it, Wendy.

        You can't wait for something to happen outside of you in order to feel grateful or happy.

        We've been taught to think that's how things work. But, actually it's the exact opposite of how life really works.

        Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

        Bryan
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        • Profile picture of the author JackTheLad
          It's amazing the amount of people who spend years trying to figure out 'the secret' to making money online (or offline), but miss out on the valuable information that you've just shared!

          People who are solely in business for the money that it can bring, are strangely, usually the one's that see the least of it.

          It is those few who are truly greatful for the oportunity to enrich other peoples lives that are rewarded, time and time again.

          Thanks for sharing

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  • Profile picture of the author Adam Carn
    Bryan, I was wondering where you are these days. Haven't read your post since the old forums. I was going to actually create a thread calling out to you. I've always enjoyed reading your stuff, your posts are very inspirational and make a lot of sense.

    Good to see you again and I agree with you about being grateful. It's something we overlook and don't pay any attention to. It's much easier to look at the negative stuff but negativity is a big time blocker, preventing you from moving forward in any way.

    Thanks
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    • Profile picture of the author Bryan Kumar
      Adam,

      Originally Posted by Adam Carn View Post

      Bryan, I was wondering where you are these days. Haven't read your post since the old forums. I was going to actually create a thread calling out to you.
      You mean, if I had held out just a little bit longer, I'd have a whole, entire thread dedicated to me?! Ah man, talk about bad timing on my part! LOL

      I'm kidding, of course. But thank you. I appreciate that. :-)

      Originally Posted by Adam Carn View Post

      I've always enjoyed reading your stuff, your posts are very inspirational and make a lot of sense.
      Thanks!
      I've been around. I come in to moderate when I can. But, haven't been able to post much here lately (or read much for that matter.)

      Am planning on making up for it soon.

      Originally Posted by Adam Carn View Post

      Good to see you again and I agree with you about being grateful. It's something we overlook and don't pay any attention to. It's much easier to look at the negative stuff but negativity is a big time blocker, preventing you from moving forward in any way.
      That's true. It is a huge time blocker, waster.

      Bryan
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      • Profile picture of the author WritingMadwoman
        I don't think Bryan is encouraging people to do nothing but feel grateful.

        If you can spend just 5 minutes, once or twice per day, to stop and focus completely on how much you already have and how grateful you really are for all of it...if you really get those feelings to well up each time you do this 'exercise,' I promise that in just a few months time, you'll start seeing some incredible things happening in your life, including the amount of wealth that gets drawn to you.
        That to me sounds like being grateful in addition to what you're already doing, your normal business activities, providing value, etc.

        Someone said that just feeling grateful won't cause money to come flowing into your life - but my own experiences have definitely shown otherwise! Of course action is necessary, but here's the funny thing. There have been times when I took massive, ongoing, long-term action and saw very little results from it. This has happened over and over in many different situations, different business models or even jobs I've held.

        In every single one of those cases, it was my own negative attitude that kept everything blocked.

        Once I learned to control my thoughts and feel truly grateful, the money DID just start rolling in. Sales picked up, great opportunities came my way, and everything generally happened much easier for me.

        And it continues like that to this day. If I start feeling too stressed or burned out, my income drops. If I start complaining or focusing on what's going wrong in my life (or the world in general), my income drops. Not to mention my health starts suffering and everything else seems to crop up with one problem or another.

        If I focus on loving what I do and providing as much value as I can and being grateful for all I have, making money is effortless. It just comes rolling in, as another poster said.

        I call it the Law of Attraction, but I know that term really irks some people. LOL Call it what you will, it works.

        Wendy
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  • Profile picture of the author J. Barry Mandel
    Bryan,

    Your hearts in the right place. But, this is not correct.

    FEELING graditude will NOT bring you wealth.

    FEELING graditude does change your mindset as to how wealthy all of us really are in so many ways - wealth not even being of a financial nature.

    But, just the action of having or feeling graditude will not cause benjamin franklins to roll in your way.


    Originally Posted by Bryan Kumar View Post



    No matter where you live, if you can feel gratitude for all you have every single day, and really experience it, I GUARANTEE that by this time next year, you'll be amazed at how wealthy you've become.

    Bryan
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  • Profile picture of the author Louis Raven
    If you can spend just 5 minutes, once or twice per day, to stop and focus completely on how much you already have and how grateful you really are for all of it...if you really get those feelings to well up each time you do this 'exercise,' I promise that in just a few months time, you'll start seeing some incredible things happening in your life, including the amount of wealth that gets drawn to you.
    Nonsense.

    I've heard it so many times from Brian Tracy and other so called psychologists. Think you're happy, imagine being rich and you'll become rich.

    It's crap IMHO. I tried it and although it made me a better person and I thank these "gurus" for lifting me higher. The money will not come rolling in by having these feelings. You need a solid plan to follow with loads of hard work.

    JUST MY OPINION. I DON'T STATE THIS AS FACT AS EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT.

    Although.. Thanks for cheering me Bryan.

    Louis
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    • Profile picture of the author Adam Carn
      Originally Posted by Louis Raven View Post

      Nonsense.

      I've heard it so many times from Brian Tracy and other so called psychologists. Think you're happy, imagine being rich and you'll become rich.

      It's crap IMHO. I tried it and although it made me a better person and I thank these "gurus" for lifting me higher. The money will not come rolling in by having these feelings. You need a solid plan to follow with loads of hard work.

      JUST MY OPINION. I DON'T STATE THIS AS FACT AS EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT.

      Although.. Thanks for cheering me Bryan.

      Louis
      Being thankful alone won't make you money if you don't actually take any kind of action. It's part of a system combined with other things to make a "whole." It's the attitude to have in order to succeed. After all, attitude is as important as action.

      Think about it, if we become negative when we fail it will most likely refrain us from trying again. If we don't try again how would we succeed? If on the other hand when we fail we have the "gratitude" attitude, we will try learning from the failure and actually see it as a lesson learnt. Learning from our mistakes we would then pick ourselves up, move forward and become better the second time round.

      Thanks
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    • Profile picture of the author Bryan Kumar
      Thanks for those cool responses, folks!

      I haven't had a chance to address the negative comments yet. Will try to do that soon. Although I might not have to anymore after the great stuff already posted above, especially that excellent explanation by Paul...

      "You get pretty much what you expect."
      Nailed it. :-)

      Originally Posted by Louis Raven View Post

      Nonsense.

      I've heard it so many times from Brian Tracy and other so called psychologists. Think you're happy, imagine being rich and you'll become rich.

      It's crap IMHO. I tried it and although it made me a better person and I thank these "gurus" for lifting me higher. The money will not come rolling in by having these feelings. You need a solid plan to follow with loads of hard work.
      Well, Louis, here's all I'll say for now...

      Over the years, I have interacted with a lot of people that have tried Internet marketing. And many of them actually did put a lot of hard work, time, and money into it.

      You know what though? Many of them, some that even put in 3+ years into it, now believe that the idea of making any money online is... nonsense.

      Am I saying that they're wrong? That they didn't try hard enough or long enough?

      No. I actually believe them. I believe that they did make an earnest effort. And I believe that online marketing didn't work...for them. (Most of the time, they were missing just one little piece of the puzzle.)

      Of course, many of us here, who have experienced different results with online marketing know different. Our reality is different.

      So, when you say that all this gratitude stuff is nonsense, that it didn't work for you, guess what, I believe you! I believe that it didn't work...for you.

      Just something to think about...

      Originally Posted by Louis Raven View Post

      Although.. Thanks for cheering me Bryan.
      Anytime. ;-)

      Bryan
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      • Profile picture of the author Steven Wagenheim
        Originally Posted by Bryan Kumar View Post

        Thanks for those cool responses, folks!

        I haven't had a chance to address the negative comments yet. Will try to do that soon. Although I might not have to anymore after the great stuff already posted above.


        Well, Louis, here's all I'll say for now...

        Over the years, I have interacted with a lot of people that have tried Internet marketing. And many of them actually did put a lot of hard work, time, and money into it.

        You know what though? Many of them, some that even put in 3+ years into it, now believe that the idea of making any money online is... nonsense.

        Am I saying that they're wrong? That they didn't try hard enough or long enough?

        No. I actually believe them. I believe that they did make an earnest effort. And I believe that online marketing didn't work...for them.

        Of course, many of us here, who have experienced different results know different.

        Just something to think about...


        Anytime. ;-)

        Bryan
        I'm going to add my 2 cents to this.

        I have argued this for many years and have gotten a lot of slack for it,
        so I don't push the issue any longer. I truly believe not everybody can
        be successful with their own business. I'll leave it at that.

        When I started, I had to make it work. I had no choice. I was out of
        work and close to being homeless. For me, failure wasn't an option. I don't
        know, maybe for some people, that's what it has to come down to, pure
        desperation.

        Point is, I wouldn't allow negativity to enter my thoughts. And even though
        the first 5 months were a total disaster ($28 income) I wasn't about to
        give up or say "This doesn't work, it's all BS". I was convinced beyond any
        doubt that I would be successful and that someday I would make more
        money than I ever made at my "job." That day came last year when I
        almost tripled my job days income.

        My next goal is 250K and yes, I will make it. There is no question in my
        mind.

        I don't have the answers why some people succeed and some fail. I can't
        even tell you the real reason why I have succeeded.

        All I know is this.

        When I was making $28 in 5 months of marketing, I was making bets with
        people as to what date I'd have my first $1,000 month.

        I did it in month 8.

        Most people thought I'd die first.
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  • Profile picture of the author DougBarger
    I share your sentiments regarding the forum Bryan and am thankful to Allen, you and all the others who have contributed on this journey.

    One of the reasons I believe thanksgiving is so powerful in freeing up energy, is that when we acknowledge we are thankful for what we've already received,

    it shows we can be trusted with more and prepares us to make room and receive the deposit.

    Inspirational insights from you as usual Bryan.

    Wishing you the best this holiday season.
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    • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
      Louis,

      As has been pointed out, feeling grateful by itself won't do anything. However, there is something that looks like magic in it.

      It's like the difference between dealing with someone who really likes other people, and someone who doesn't care one way or the other. One of those people will always get a better response from folks.

      I am a genuinely social critter. I really like people, including complete (or even incomplete) strangers. Dealing with people face-to-face, that shows. I get very good to incredible service everywhere I go, and I can talk with almost anyone, anywhere, and have a good time at it. Even when I'm in a bad mood, or feel like ribbing folks.

      I have a friend who just really doesn't like people much. Still, he's consistently polite and smiling, because that's how he was raised. He gets mediocre to crappy service almost everywhere, and he has the Devil's own time getting strangers into a conversation, on those rare occasions when he tries. To him, that's proof that people suck.

      We're each creating the people we meet, based on what we expect of them. And we can get the consistently different responses we expect even when sitting at the same table, dealing with the same people.

      Same with gratitude. A large part of it is appreciation. If people feel appreciated, they respond to that. If they feel like they make a difference, or that they matter, they respond to that as well.

      Along with that is the desire people have to deal with successful folks. If you're grateful, you give off an air of success. If you're whining, you give off an air of failure, of being out of control.

      If you're grateful, you treat people differently than if you're resentful.

      There's nothing mystical about any of this. It's simple.

      You get pretty much what you expect.


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      • Profile picture of the author Steven Wagenheim
        Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

        Louis,

        As has been pointed out, feeling grateful by itself won't do anything. However, there is something that looks like magic in it.

        It's like the difference between dealing with someone who really likes other people, and someone who doesn't care one way or the other. One of those people will always get a better response from folks.

        I am a genuinely social critter. I really like people, including complete (or even incomplete) strangers. Dealing with people face-to-face, that shows. I get very good to incredible service everywhere I go, and I can talk with almost anyone, anywhere, and have a good time at it. Even when I'm in a bad mood, or feel like ribbing folks.

        I have a friend who just really doesn't like people much. Still, he's consistently polite and smiling, because that's how he was raised. He gets mediocre to crappy service almost everywhere, and he has the Devil's own time getting strangers into a conversation, on those rare occasions when he tries. To him, that's proof that people suck.

        We're each creating the people we meet, based on what we expect of them. And we can get the consistently different responses we expect even when sitting at the same table, dealing with the same people.

        Same with gratitude. A large part of it is appreciation. If people feel appreciated, they respond to that. If they feel like they make a difference, or that they matter, they respond to that as well.

        Along with that is the desire people have to deal with successful folks. If you're grateful, you give off an air of success. If you're whining, you give off an air of failure, of being out of control.

        If you're grateful, you treat people differently than if you're resentful.

        There's nothing mystical about any of this. It's simple.

        You get pretty much what you expect.


        Paul

        Paul, you bring up an interesting point. I agree. I always considered myself
        a people person, and as a result, especially at my church, people just
        gravitate to me. I am asked to be involved in just about everything there
        is to do with the church and even when I say, "I'm sorry but I'm swamped
        right now" I still get the most wonderful reception. If anything, people are
        always asking me what they can do to help.

        I never understood why this is so. I'm really just a regular guy. I'm not
        all that good looking and I'm by no means the best speaker in the world.
        Sometimes, I don't even know what to say to people, I'm so tongue tied
        because I'm made to feel so cared about.

        My mother had this saying..."To thine own self be true." I never really knew
        what she meant when I was younger, but as I got older, I got it. If you
        try to be somebody you're not, it's going to come across as phony. That's
        why people here will see me joking one minute and mad as hell the next,
        because that's the way I am. I wear my heart on my sleeve and if you
        stomp on it, you're going to get an earful. I've never "tried" to be polite
        to folks just because it was "expected." I treat everybody equally, including
        my wife and kid. If they tick me off, trust me, they know it.

        But this way, everybody knows what to expect and as a result they know
        that if they need me for something, I'm there...if I can do it. Sometimes I
        can't and I tell them I can't and why.

        I get asked for about 20 JVs a day. It's almost a full time job replying to
        everybody. I'd like to do more of them, but I can't. I don't have the time.
        But I don't tell people one thing and then do another. I'm up front with
        them. They at least know the truth.

        You're probably wondering what this has to do with thinking positive and
        being grateful.

        It has everything to do with it.

        When you're grateful for what you have you also realize that the reason
        you have it is because you're being true to who you are. If you were to
        try to "force" yourself to doing everything for everybody, you'd be
        miserable, because nobody can do it. As a result, you would begin to be
        resentful. As the resentfulness builds, you begin to feel less and less
        grateful.

        By keeping balance in your life (something we all have to do) you are then
        able to continue to be grateful because your life truly is wonderful.

        And that's mostly because you are in control of it.

        The day you let others control your life, the gratitude stops.

        That's why I am a firm believer in "do things that you want to do and not
        because you feel you have to do them."

        Otherwise trust me, you're going to be one miserable soul.
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  • Profile picture of the author richfit
    Absolutely! Gratitude is one of the principles of the Science of Getting Rich...

    Actually just read that chapter today!!

    Gratitude is essential in the accumulation of wealth and happiness!

    Massive Action is another essential ingredient : )

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    • Profile picture of the author spressnell
      Thank you for the reminder. We need to be grateful every day--not just at Thanksgiving time.

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  • Profile picture of the author Careygee
    How true !
    No matter how much we have, we will not be happy -- because we will always want to have something else or something more, if we are not grateful.
    We should all learn to train ourselves never to put off the word or action for the expression of gratitude.
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  • Profile picture of the author Bryan Kumar
    Oh, one more thing...

    If you're trying to feel gratitude only in the hopes of attracting wealth into your life, there's a good chance that it won't work for you.

    Why? Because if you're 'trying' to feel any feeling, there's a good chance that you're not really doing (feeling) it. :-)

    You either feel gratitude or you don't. There's no in-between. There can't be.

    Have you ever 'tried' to fall in love, or 'tried' to feel angry? ;-)

    When you're actually feeling gratitude, when you're fully immersed in that feeling - or ANY feeling, there's no way for you to stop and doubt it or say "is this working?" or do much else. Because you'll be too busy being consumed by that feeling.

    If you're really feeling it, that's all you'll be doing, in that moment. And when you walk around with that feeling, that's when you'll see some incredible shifts happening.

    I should be careful when I use the word 'try.' That can sometimes get us in trouble.

    A wise man once said that "trying is lying." In many cases, that phrase is very appropriate.

    Of course, when you're in a really tough spot, or a dark place in your life, there's no other way to start to get out of it but by 'trying' to feel something else, to shift your focus and current state of mind.

    It can be tricky. But it must be done.

    As mentioned in the original post, if you just stop and focus on one thing that's good in your life (remembering that no matter where you are right now, someone is far worse situation,) you can start to get out of the previous mindset, and start to build up on the new one.

    Bryan
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    • Profile picture of the author Alibubble
      Originally Posted by Bryan Kumar View Post

      Oh, one more thing...

      If you're trying to feel gratitude only in the hopes of attracting wealth into your life, there's a good chance that it won't work for you.

      Why? Because if you're 'trying' to feel any feeling, there's a good chance that you're not really doing it. :-)

      You either feel gratitude or you don't. There's no in-between. There can't be.

      Have you ever 'tried' to fall in love, or 'tried' to feel angry? ;-)

      When you're actually feeling gratitude, when you're fully immersed in that feeling - or ANY feeling, there's no way for you to stop and doubt it or say "is this working?" Because you'll be too busy consumed by that feeling.

      I should be careful when I use the word 'try.' That can sometimes get us in trouble.

      A wise man once said that "trying is lying." In many cases, that phrase is very appropriate.

      Of course, when you're in a really tough spot, or a dark place in your life, there's no other way to start to get out of it but by 'trying' to feel something else, to shift your focus and current state of mind.

      It can be tricky. But it must be done.

      Bryan
      So there it is. The only way to become grateful if you are not already is to make yourself be grateful. I think that needs to have been pointed out earlier.

      It is extremely easy for people to just say "have gratitude and you will attract wealth", as if just thinking about being grateful makes you grateful. Nope. Doesn't work like that.

      If you haven't already been indoctrinated to feel grateful for what you have, the only way to achieve that is to try and make yourself feel that way. It won't just come out of the blue just because someone told you it will make you wealthy.

      And as other people have said, this "gratitude" thing only usually applies to people who are already taking action. If you are lazy, "gratitude" isn't going to make you rich.
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  • Profile picture of the author Eric Stanley
    I was made aware of this technique through "The Secret" quite some time ago (Law of Attraction).
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  • Profile picture of the author Anthony Smith
    Gratitude is loveee
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  • Profile picture of the author Aussie777
    Hi Bryan.

    Thanks for such an inspiring post.

    I'm off to give the kids a big hug.

    Kind Regards

    Brett.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jeannie Crabtree
    Thanks for those thoughts Bryan. Gratitude is such an nice antidote to much of what ails us on many levels.

    Many people operate from Helplessness and Hopelessness. They learned it as such a young age, it is just a part of how they see life. Those buttons get pushed often, when things get tough or do not work out.

    Gratitude applied to helplessness assists one to see where one is powerful, and that a difference can be made.

    Gratitude applied to hopelessness assists one to have more faith, hope, assurance and begin to believe that the ability to pull out of what ever it is can be accomplished.

    Anthony Robbins (I think it was him) suggests a journal to do every day.
    One of the things was to mention what you were thankful for. I have been thinking about getting back to that myself.

    Jeannie
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  • Profile picture of the author Jason Gazaway
    Thank you for such an incredible read!

    Excellent as usual Bryan

    Take care,
    Jason
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