by AFI
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Those were the words my spouse said to me when I showed my Amazon stats for December. I made something like $42.00 in commissions. Since my sites are all brand new, I'm not exactly making millions yet so it frustrated me to hear that.

Does anyone else have an unsupportive spouse? :rolleyes:

I'm not gonna let it get me down! I'm gonna keep kicking butt and prove myself.
  • Profile picture of the author Ben Holmes
    Got ya beat... mine was $58.

    But I already have 6 items purchased this month, and today's the 4th.

    You just have to ignore anyone else, and compete against your own stats... My Jan stats will be higher, my Feb. stats will be higher still... etc.

    There will come a time when no-one can ignore your results... (then you can rub it in his face )

    While it would be nice to have support, the only person you really need to motivate is yourself - and only you can really do a good job at that!

    Best of luck!
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  • Profile picture of the author matt5409
    Originally Posted by AFI View Post

    Those were the words my spouse said to me when I showed my Amazon stats for December. I made something like $42.00 in commissions. Since my sites are all brand new, I'm not exactly making millions yet so it frustrated me to hear that.

    Does anyone else have an unsupportive spouse? :rolleyes:

    I'm not gonna let it get me down! I'm gonna keep kicking butt and prove myself.
    I was kind of deflated when my girlfriend said "if I want to buy something from amazon I'll just goto amazon..."

    she doesn't understand user behavouir in any way though, so i'm not too fazed.
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  • Profile picture of the author ArticlePrince
    When he shows you his check in 6 months, just say 'is that all?' I very strongly doubt he'll like it anymore than you did ;-)

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  • Profile picture of the author TurnKey Internet
    That's terrible. Don't let him get you down, and make sure to tell him how hurtful that is! You just keep doing your best!
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  • Profile picture of the author russells
    Originally Posted by AFI View Post

    Those were the words my spouse said to me when I showed my Amazon stats for December. I made something like $42.00 in commissions. Since my sites are all brand new, I'm not exactly making millions yet so it frustrated me to hear that.

    Does anyone else have an unsupportive spouse? :rolleyes:

    I'm not gonna let it get me down! I'm gonna keep kicking butt and prove myself.
    I had this problem when I was just starting out. My Wife would talk about my business and call it 'a project', 'some scheme' or 'dream'.

    It used to annoy the hell out of me. So I went underground for a while not even talking about it until I started to see some growth.

    Don't get me wrong, my Wife is very supportive and always has been, really. She just never used to understand me. But now she's seen some money she's backing me all the way -- even writing content here and there.

    My advice? just apply the elbow grease and prove your spouse wrong. No need to fall out or have tense feeling about it. Just do it and you'll be appreciated when there's something to show :-)

    ~Russ
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    • Profile picture of the author SlightEdge
      Oh I totally understand.. These days and from what I learned being married for 6 years now... I don't mention anything at all(i'm very nonchalant and very vague) about my intentions.. IT's not just the wife but the mom and maybe some friends who don't understand what we are doing.. That's why I don't even mention my business at all, EVERRRR. The moment I bring my ego to the plate, it seems to get jipped l.o.l. I wish I had a supporting wife though but it's not her fault.. She's programmed .. I'll only talk about what I'm into to ppl who are into the same things.. Kinda like this board(a huge Mastermind group).
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    • Profile picture of the author Michael Shook
      It used to be that way for me. Not now.

      It is a good thing, that there is a forum like WF. There might be some issues with a few things in a large community like this, but there are lots of folks who understand what it it like to start up a business and devote your time to it.

      I am sorry your spouse feels that way, and I really appreciate you be willing to post about it. Thank you.
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    • Profile picture of the author thinkahead
      Originally Posted by russells View Post

      I had this problem when I was just starting out. My Wife would talk about my business and call it 'a project', 'some scheme' or 'dream'.

      It used to annoy the hell out of me. So I went underground for a while not even talking about it until I started to see some growth.

      Don't get me wrong, my Wife is very supportive and always has been, really. She just never used to understand me. But now she's seen some money she's backing me all the way -- even writing content here and there.

      My advice? just apply the elbow grease and prove your spouse wrong. No need to fall out or have tense feeling about it. Just do it and you'll be appreciated when there's something to show :-)

      ~Russ
      I had the same problem with my ex-girlfriend - she called my IM business a 'little dream', a 'scheme', even 'a waste of time and effort'! Nice and supportive there! Note that she's my ex-girlfriend, although I swear it had nothing to do with those comments! Getting back to the point, her comments just made me more determined to prove her wrong and, thankfully, I'm sure she's regretting every word, even if I couldn't care less what she thinks now!

      At the end of the day, the only person who has to believe in you is you. You are doing this for you, not for anyone else. The tallest trees grow from the smallest seeds - work hard and the rewards will come
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  • Profile picture of the author jonibravo
    Some people think they can earn billions in just few years. It is impossible all depends on your efforts and abilities. As far as your spouse is concerned discuss with her in detail that earning a lot of money will take time. Cheers!!
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  • Profile picture of the author rmoore
    I'm convinced, that the general population simply doesn't get it.

    * I was able to quit a job that I hated, due to internet marketing.
    * I make much more online than I ever did working for a company.
    * I enjoy what I do now and have free time to travel.

    ...but many people simply believe I'm goofing around, when they hear what I do. It doesn't have the same credibility factor as being a doctor, lawyer, going back to get a masters, etc.

    That being said, I love where I am at and I'm past the fact that most people don't get it.

    Hope that helps...it isn't just your husband,

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  • Profile picture of the author AFI
    Originally Posted by Factum View Post

    It's not about generating profits out of your product, it's about adding value to it, the rest comes by itself. It may seem like a little to begin with, but it's not about that anyway.

    If you could just automate that $42/day, you will end up with $15,330 by the end of the year.
    I'm getting there! I've only been doing this about 3 months. Rome wasn't built in a day. Trust me, a year from now things will be different.
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  • Profile picture of the author JohnMcCabe
    If your husband is into baseball at all, do a comparison. For every Steven Strasburg (pitcher for the Washington Nationals) that comes out of college and signs a big money deal that lands him in the majors in his first year, there are a lot more that start in the minor leagues and work their way up.

    Your sites are merely working their way up. You have a check, that makes you a pro...
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  • Profile picture of the author Richard Van
    Originally Posted by AFI View Post

    Those were the words my spouse said to me when I showed my Amazon stats for December. I made something like $42.00 in commissions. Since my sites are all brand new, I'm not exactly making millions yet so it frustrated me to hear that.

    Does anyone else have an unsupportive spouse? :rolleyes:

    I'm not gonna let it get me down! I'm gonna keep kicking butt and prove myself.
    Jen,

    I'd just kick his butt/ass/bottom or whatever it is and tell him to do the washing up for a change.

    Onwaaaaardssss.
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  • Profile picture of the author winds
    Originally Posted by AFI View Post


    Does anyone else have an unsupportive spouse? :rolleyes:

    I'm not gonna let it get me down! I'm gonna keep kicking butt and prove myself.
    Yeah, my first month that I made $35 I got more or less scolded for not doing something more effective with my time...

    Although the second month, when I brought in $95, I reserved that information for myself, bought her flowers, took her out to an expensive dinner, and then told her I payed for all of it with my profits. Charming, I know, but come on - as a marketer you should know as well as anyone, it's all about how you present the information, not necessarily the true value of it.

    You've clearly got the right attitude, though. Nothing is better than blowing off negativity and pushing yourself harder to beat it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Rod Cortez
    Jennifer,

    Just remind your spouse that a traditional business can take years (sometimes longer) before they show a healthy profit.

    I'm not married, but I've had my share of unsupportive girlfriends. I made it very clear to them that part of the criteria for staying with me was to be supportive, otherwise what kind of team were we?

    In fact, I just gave one the boot because she thought it was selfish of me to attend a weekend long seminar, even though I had spent the previous two weekends with her. No way I need that kind of drama in my life right now. Nothing stands in the way of my goals. N-o-t-h-i-n-g.

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  • Profile picture of the author Chris Worner
    Tell him he can cook his own dinner from now on

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    • Profile picture of the author Bill Farnham
      Tell him/her/it you're taking him/her/it out to dinner with your $42.00 and it's on you.

      He/she/it just hasn't seen the 'benefits' yet.

      He'll/she'll/it'll never be able to throw that jab out again after that meal.

      As Ron White would say, "That'll shut him/her/it up."

      ~Bill

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  • Profile picture of the author Alfred Shelver
    Wow Jen, I think that is fantastic..... I cannot believe how naive a statement that is from hubby..... Make him sleep in the dog box.

    You made $42 on amazon in your first few weeks that is amazing.

    I love following your success
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  • Profile picture of the author mattbaehr
    Just keep cranking. I don't think I even did $42 in December. But since this isn't my full time gig, I don't even bother telling the wife.
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  • Profile picture of the author tamalanwar
    This is the time when we all get together and hug each other, we all belong to the same tribe.. I wanna cry!!

    Is that all??
    Only 3 words but very painful. You are in the early stage and you did very well. You should get along with him sometimes and tell him this is not an easy task, but before that work hard and make yourself worthy.

    if I want to buy something from amazon I'll just goto amazon...
    Matt, my uncle once told me something like that, he thinks no one clicks on banners. He is a jerk.. he insulted me the most about my work and later I was able to reply back.

    It is hard to keep things on your own, you have to tell others sometimes, but just wait for the time to come. Jennifer, it's not too long when you will be able to take your spouse on vacation with your IM income, he will feel sorry about his behavior.

    I don't have a partner but I have a family, they support my work right from the beginning. You can say I am lucky. Even those people who insulted me before now come to me to learn how I work online, things change.. just stay strong.
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  • Profile picture of the author tamalanwar
    Tell him he can cook his own dinner from now on
    When he shows you his check in 6 months, just say 'is that all?' I very strongly doubt he'll like it anymore than you did ;-)
    I'd just kick his butt/ass/bottom or whatever it is and tell him to do the washing up for a change.
    If you really want to take revenge on him, do what my mom does when she wants to take revenge on anyone ->

    First you earn enough money from IM to support your family, bills, expenses. Then cook good food for him, go out with him on dinner, pay the bill. Buy stuff for him. Give him great presents.

    My mom calls it SWEET REVENGE -it's opposite of what they did to you. This makes them feel really bad on inside.
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    • Profile picture of the author Michael Shook
      I think it is interesting that folks are assuming that Jennifer does the cooking.

      She is a self-employed entrepreneur who is making great strides on her online business. I don't think there is any reason to assume she is doing this in between cooking breakfast and doing the wash and stuff like that.

      Keep on kicking butt, Bannerchick.
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      • Profile picture of the author AFI
        Originally Posted by JMichaelZ View Post

        I think it is interesting that folks are assuming that Jennifer does the cooking.

        She is a self-employed entrepreneur who is making great strides on her online business. I don't think there is any reason to assume she is doing this in between cooking breakfast and doing the wash and stuff like that.

        Keep on kicking butt, Bannerchick.
        HAHA indeed I don't cook actually. I especially love how everyone assumes my spouse is a "he".
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        • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
          Originally Posted by AFI View Post

          HAHA indeed I don't cook actually. I especially love how everyone assumes my spouse is a "he".
          Since "spouse" has historically referred to a married partner, and marriage is still between a man and a woman, it's not an illogical assumption.

          Back on the topic of your original post, just keep scaling up, you'll have the last laugh.
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          • Profile picture of the author AFI
            Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

            marriage is still between a man and a woman, it's not an illogical assumption..
            Not in my state.
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            • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
              Originally Posted by AFI View Post

              Not in my state.
              What is it, one out of fifty that has recently changed? It's still a logical assumption.
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              • Profile picture of the author AFI
                Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

                What is it, one out of fifty that has recently changed? It's still a logical assumption.
                Yes it is a logical assumption even though it's incorrect.
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                • Profile picture of the author JuliannaW
                  Originally Posted by AFI View Post

                  HAHA indeed I don't cook actually. I especially love how everyone assumes my spouse is a "he".
                  Oh, then go buy yourself a new diamond tennis bracelet with your Amazon money and she what she says then...

                  Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

                  Since "spouse" has historically referred to a married partner, and marriage is still between a man and a woman, it's not an illogical assumption.

                  Back on the topic of your original post, just keep scaling up, you'll have the last laugh.
                  Oh, is it now?
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                  • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
                    Originally Posted by JuliannaW View Post


                    Oh, is it now?
                    I think the assumptions make that quite obvious.
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        • Profile picture of the author Michael Shook
          Originally Posted by AFI View Post

          HAHA indeed I don't cook actually. I especially love how everyone assumes my spouse is a "he".

          Good on you. My state still goes back and forth.
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        • Profile picture of the author Richard Van
          Originally Posted by AFI View Post

          HAHA indeed I don't cook actually. I especially love how everyone assumes my spouse is a "he".
          Apologies Jen,

          I wasn't thinking. Indeed, I was being typically male.

          I wondered why I didn't get any response from what I thought was quite a funny response.

          I'll re-phrase for you.

          ....I'd just kick her butt/ass/bottom or whatever it is and tell her to do the washing up for a change. Biatch! and the effing dinner too, etc etc etc...

          That should do the trick. I hope.
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  • Profile picture of the author JuliannaW
    ...or, you could just get rich from your Amazon sites and buy yourself a new husband! :p
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    • Profile picture of the author 82ana
      Originally Posted by JuliannaW View Post

      ...or, you could just get rich from your Amazon sites and buy yourself a new husband! :p
      lol! I'd do that. A pretty, young one too.

      My boyfriend is a little too intimidated by me to make such remarks. So, even when he thinks/feels like i'm slacking, he decides to be "politically correct" about it and ignore it.

      Seriously though, don't take it to heart. You'll come out on top soon enough.
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      Originally Posted by JuliannaW View Post

      ...or, you could just get rich from your Amazon sites and buy yourself a new husband! :p
      Yeah, Definitely time for a new spouse!
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  • Profile picture of the author scrofford
    I talk to a lot of people who don't have a clue about buying and selling on the internet. Some are very ignorant, stupid people and some are well educated and just don't understand. As far as your spouse goes, I am not saying he is stupid at all. What you should do is sit him down and explain that internet business is kinda different, and that it IS a business, and that a business takes time to build.

    Most people don't understand that building a business takes time...could take many years, and money isn't made overnight. So many people think that just because you start a business you should be rolling in the dough within a couple of months. Although that has happened, the majority of businesses that start take a couple of years to get out of the red and into the black making a profit.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dave Rodman
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    I'm always surprised when you see threads saying parents/friends aren't supportive about their IM career. If you have a full-time job, I don't know why you are even telling people you are doing IM. It's not like they are going to send you referrals or something so just work on your stuff and tell them when you make money (if you feel so inclined).

    If you're unemployed, then still don't tell people. Just look for a job and do IM on the side. When someone asks, tell them you're looking for work.

    As far as spouses go, I think it's all about expectations. If you talk about IM constantly, if you talk about how much you can make, and if you work non-stop...then they probably will say "Is that it?" when they see a $50 check. I think you're far better off telling them it'll likely take 6 months, but the payoffs could be good so you'll devote some time to it.

    Personally, I didn't even tell my wife that I was doing IM until I hit $500/month. She went to bed earlier than me and I worked for about an hour a night..plus some time at my 9/5
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  • Profile picture of the author EA
    AFI I have a supportive girlfriend but you know what AFI you have a mindset of a WINNER and I know you will prove yourself and nobody can kick YOU down
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    • Profile picture of the author Devid Farah
      $42 is a great start with amazon.

      You could thrown it back to your spouse and ask them how much commission they made online in December :-)
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      • Profile picture of the author JohnMcCabe
        Originally Posted by AFI View Post

        HAHA indeed I don't cook actually. I especially love how everyone assumes my spouse is a "he".
        Statistically, that gives the best chance of being right. Not a guarantee, obviously, but the smart bet...

        I used to write a column for a newsletter online, and I would get occasional complaints that I was being sexist for using gender-specific pronouns and not balancing the references when one person was in a superior position to the other.

        My standard reply went something like this...

        "Having been born with this Y chromosome, that's the viewpoint I write from. I find the whole he/she, him/her construction clunky and distracting, so I don't use it. As for the common practice of putting male characters in the superior position, that's more of a generational thing. When I was growing up, that's how it was, and the habit stuck."

        In this case, same-sex spouses is such a recent phenomena for me that I habitually still assign marriages dual genders.

        Whatever plumbing your esposa carries, I wish you luck with them...
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  • Profile picture of the author kurtoneil
    Sometimes it's best to keep your actual income a secret in the beginning, until you reach a level that demands respect.

    But now that the cat is out of the bag, just use her criticism as motivation to not give up until you reach a level that makes her envy you.
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    • Profile picture of the author SlightEdge
      Originally Posted by kurtoneil View Post

      Sometimes it's best to keep your actual income a secret in the beginning, until you reach a level that demands respect.

      But now that the cat is out of the bag, just use her criticism as motivation to not give up until you reach a level that makes her envy you.


      I'm at that stage now too.. My wife was what i was reading and I sarcastically said "Rachel Ray's new recipe" then I winked at her.

      Keep it a secret(nonchalant/vague) in the beginning.
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  • Profile picture of the author Charlotte Jay
    Hey, I hear you. Mine is even worse because I started with the evil MLM and lost $5k buying product and doing advertising. Just waiting on the day when I can present him with his dream Royal Enfield paid in full. This is what he wants by the way: Royal Enfield Classic - The Classic is Reborn I think I can manage that
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  • Profile picture of the author Wayne-JJ
    Originally Posted by AFI View Post

    Those were the words my spouse said to me when I showed my Amazon stats for December. I made something like $42.00 in commissions. Since my sites are all brand new, I'm not exactly making millions yet so it frustrated me to hear that.

    Does anyone else have an unsupportive spouse? :rolleyes:

    I'm not gonna let it get me down! I'm gonna keep kicking butt and prove myself.
    I know what you mean, IM can be a really lonely path to take...so stick in there fellow warrior, we can do this and prove the doubters wrong!
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  • Profile picture of the author Brukhar
    Everyone always asks about earnings, if you aren't earning a lot, they laugh at you, if you're earning a lot, they ask for proof, if you give it, they nag you for secrets. Being an IM sucks sometimes.
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