Why does everyone want something for free?

by AFI
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I got a message today pretty much like "no thanks I don't need your services, but can I steal the buttons off your site and use them on my own?"

Really? I mean seriously you have the nuts to ask me that after you turn me down? What is wrong with some people!
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  • Profile picture of the author sitecrawler
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    Now, that was rude, If you have a blog try to put the copyright plugin so he cannot steal your button.
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  • Profile picture of the author Theory5
    ouch, thats not very nice. Its sort of like a slap to the face. But I prefer to get stuff on a shoestring because I never really have a lot of money. I usually get free programs for my computer instead of buying ones unless I really need to.
    I have this theory that people are worse online because you cant see them and they can't see you. Therefore they don't really consider what things sound like because they don't receive immediate feedback, its the same reason why people consider email or texting to be below calling or meeting someone.
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  • Profile picture of the author SevnSins
    Not buying an affiliate product after receiving a free ebook or similar is one thing, but stealing is completely different. I'd slap their site with a few spam bots, and call it a day. after a few hundred thousand messages saying "don't steal my buttons", they won't ever do it again.

    d@mn thieves.
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  • Profile picture of the author roley
    Because people are people. No one likes paying for anything in this world. Hence the reason sales and giveaways do so well.

    We only pay because we have to
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    • Profile picture of the author Michael Shook
      Originally Posted by roley View Post

      Because people are people. No one likes paying for anything in this world. Hence the reason sales and giveaways do so well.

      We only pay because we have to
      This is not true.

      Many people love paying for things because that makes them feel good. And increases the value of what they bought in their own mind.

      People also love getting good deals on things that they really want. That is why sales work.

      Giveaways (if you are referring to those listbuilding events) don't work so well, because the givers try to give something that is really junky to people who only want everything for free anyway.

      That pretty much makes for a lose/lose situation.
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Shook
    I thik ther are a lot of people who think that if it is on the internet, it "should" be free. And there are a lot of people who think you owe them something, if you have a website.

    And like King Shiloh says, IMers have been giving away stuff for a long time and it is just kind of expected.

    You didn't say that your site was in the IM niche, but I am assuming that if this klonk wanted to use your buttons that he/she was doing some sort of marketing.
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  • Profile picture of the author JHC81
    It's pretty sad what people will do to not do any work them selfs, from stealing articles, to stealing buttons....
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    • Profile picture of the author AFI
      Originally Posted by Amy Garrison View Post

      It's pretty sad what people will do to not do any work them selfs, from stealing articles, to stealing buttons....
      This is what I really meant. Make your own damn buttons! Especially after you turn down my services and then have the gall to ask me can you take the buttons off my site?
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      • Profile picture of the author Michael Shook
        Originally Posted by AFI View Post

        This is what I really meant. Make your own damn buttons! Especially after you turn down my services and then have the gall to ask me can you take the buttons off my site?
        People only know what they see when they show up at your site. They do not know your history or what you have gone through to get where you are now.

        And they want to be successful like you are. And since you obviously are successful, you "should" be willing to give them what they want for free.

        This is kind of like the "tax the rich more" mentality.

        I am in no way sticking up for this behavior. I worked for many years with people who believed they were entitled to whatever anybody else had.

        Nothing kills personal initiative quicker than a sense of entitlement.
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        • Profile picture of the author jamawebinc
          There are people who are indeed just looking for free info. The thing is, you do not want to target these people. Don't worry about them and don't spend so much time trying to convince them to become a buyer.

          Man, I just wrote an article about this too.

          Most people online are looking for information. They aren't looking for a course on how to do X. Of course...some people are and you should do all you can to convert those people because they have qualified themselves as a buyer by the keywords they use in a search.

          It is possible the person who stole the buttons, plain and simple, doesn't have enough money to buy anything - not someone you should be targeting.

          Plenty of people will pay for information and those are the people to target.

          Other people are looking for good information and these people can be converted to a buyer mindset later on.

          Other people are doing what I call - "answer seeking" and they just want to find the answer to a question. Don't waste your time with them. Although they may provide you money by clicking contextual advertising links.

          Be self-aware when you are online searching for something and not doing "business stuff", I'll bet you are not in a buyer mindset either.
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  • Profile picture of the author JohnCalvinII
    I'm sort of amazed that he ask, rather than just taking them.
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  • Profile picture of the author Chris Sorrell
    That's the problem with the internet age. Everyone wants things for free.
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  • Profile picture of the author tfos4941
    At least he asked i suppose instead of just taking them. I think most people wouldnt have asked.
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  • Profile picture of the author Archeon
    My response would simply have been:

    er....no
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  • *Sigh* Kids these days...
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  • Profile picture of the author Cataclysm1987
    I think people are cheap. Survival causes humans to draw towards negative assertions and focus on scarcity.

    And thus they want stuff for free! Look at all the free opt in craziness marketers use to build lists.

    It's dumb but it works.
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  • Profile picture of the author websolution08
    in my opinion you have been TOO polite replying him...i would have trashed his message right away!
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  • Profile picture of the author daangertenaar
    Originally Posted by AFI View Post

    I got a message today pretty much like "no thanks I don't need your services, but can I steal the buttons off your site and use them on my own?"

    Really? I mean seriously you have the nuts to ask me that after you turn me down? What is wrong with some people!
    I'm sorry to say, but there will allways be people like this, hopefully the next time someone messages you something similar, you don't get as upset as you do now!

    I wouldn't even answer on a message like that.
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    • Profile picture of the author AFI
      Originally Posted by daangertenaar View Post

      I'm sorry to say, but there will allways be people like this, hopefully the next time someone messages you something similar, you don't get as upset as you do now!

      I wouldn't even answer on a message like that.
      I never said I answered him this way. I was very polite to him and told him that the images were not my copyright and if he wanted to use the buttons, he would have to buy the premium theme.
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      • Profile picture of the author Dave Rodman
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        Why do people drive 45 in a 65?
        Why do people park in 2 spots?
        Why do people ask 1000 questions and never buy?

        Who knows....and who cares. These people are outliers (hopefully). You'll always have people like this, so I wouldn't spend time worrying about their thought process. Worry about the other 99 people that didn't buy from you.
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        • Profile picture of the author Devid Farah
          People don't want pay anything,they want all FREE.

          "can I steal the buttons off your site and use them on my own?"

          What? CAN I STEAL???

          Thanks for making me laugh so much.
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      • Profile picture of the author daangertenaar
        No, I meant this topic, you were upset right (the smiley tells me )

        And that was very clever of you to approach him that way, but I wouldn't reply, you're way too polite!
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  • Profile picture of the author Shazia Mirza
    Humans are greedy, it is just the way we work!
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  • Profile picture of the author ClicksorCS
    Stealing is bad, but asking before stealing? At least everybody here was civil about it
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  • Profile picture of the author smartalex4
    That's pretty ballsy...but polite that he acknowledge he was going to take your buttons from you.
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