They LIED to you, there is a BIG SECRET! Revealed inside: What the Big Boys don't tell you about IM!

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It's true, they lied to you. There is a secret to all this marketing business, and I'm going to reveal it to you.

Some of you won't be happy though. It may be something you've kind of overlooked all these years. You may not like that it's not as shiny and sexy as you expected. You may not even believe it is a secret at all because you've had access to it from the beginning.

It's not really a "secret" so much as it is a secret weapon.

One of the best things about this secret weapon is that the more you use it, the more powerful it becomes. It's like starting off with a stick match and ending up with a flame thrower!

This secret weapon is so powerful that all kinds of marketers, advertisers, businesses, and individuals try to seduce you away from using it so you'll keep buying from them.

This secret weapon is ... your mind.

That's right. Everything you do starts with a thought. The decisions you make and the actions you take all start off with a thought.

What you feed your mind determines where you're going in this business and in life. If you want to make the most of it, you need to feed your mind with great ideas. The quality and value of your own ideas will increase when you feed your mind the right thoughts.

How do you do that?

Read the great thinkers and motivators. Intelligiants I like to call them. People like Dale Carnegie, Jim Rohn, Earl Nightingale, Zig Ziglar, Napoleon Hill, Og Mandino and others that have stood the test of time.

Go farther back and read people like Claude M. Bristol and Charles F. Haanel; or go more modern and read thinkers and motivators like Tony Robbins and T Harv Ekers.

You will only go as high and far as your thoughts take you. That's why your mind is your secret weapon. It trumps all other success factors.

You think that isn't true? Just look at the history of lottery winners. Nearly all of them end up being back in the same place or worse off than they were before they won. Their old thinking couldn't sustain their new found abundance. Because their thinking didn't change, their reality returned to the level of their thinking.

Think about that one.

When your thinking changes, so will your circumstances. Just make sure your thinking changes in ways that you choose. I'm not telling you how to live, I'm just encouraging you to think about how you live. Those butt-numbing passive hours in front of the television aren't likely to take you anywhere you want to go in life, IMO.

Spend some quiet time alone with your thoughts. You can't improve your thinking if you never practice thinking. For the record, thinking isn't the same as having thoughts. Thinking is what you do after you have a thought. It's probing that thought to see what is hiding inside it. In other words, having a thought is the doorway to actually thinking.

We seldom walk through that doorway though. We instead opt for diversions. Diversions are easy. Thinking is work.

And there you have why people are always looking for the shiny magic button. It's easy. Much easier than thinking.

Do you see my join date for this forum? I've been earning a full-time living online since 1999, long before I discovered the forum. I had no mentor. I had no training. I just did stuff. I thought stuff up and took action. Most of what I did worked.

I didn't say that to brag. I'm just an average Joe. Or an average Dennis, anyway. No, I say that because I want you to understand that you can do that too. You can carve your own path through the IM jungle.

If you're not succeeding now, maybe it's because you keep following others instead of leading your own way. Employees follow. Business owners lead. It might just be possible that you'll think your way to success faster than you'll follow someone else to success.

I'm not supposed to put ideas like that in your head though. You might figure things out for yourself. We can't have that, now can we?

That's the big secret. Now that you know what it is, what are you going to do with it?
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  • Profile picture of the author tpw
    Great post, and right on the mark.

    We all decide our own future, by the decisions we make. And our decisions are always guided by our beliefs.

    Before I learned this secret weapon, I struggled for every dime.

    As soon as I took this secret weapon into my whole being, then success began to follow me, even when I did not always deserve it.
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  • When one lives in their own self created bubble the answers to all problems are readily apparent.
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  • Profile picture of the author scrofford
    Awesome post although a lot of people don't want to take the time to do this because it is a four letter word..."work" But you will never improve your life if you don't work on improving yourself.
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  • Profile picture of the author Danny Cutts
    WOW that post was bang on the button!!

    I dont believe in luck... I am a strong believer that you create your own luck and if you want something bad enough you will do whatever it takes to get there.

    Entrepreneurs get called lucky and I find it quite insulting when someone says "your just Lucky" how does that work then? I created the situation I acted on the situation and I won... thats not luck thats skill!

    Danny
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    • Profile picture of the author Ben Armstrong
      Easily the best post I've read on this forum.

      Thank you.
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      • Profile picture of the author Richnana
        From the mind of Charles Haanel. Per your Post and incredible insight

        Thought is a product of Mind and Mind is creative, but this does not
        mean that the Universal will change its modus operandi to suit us or
        our ideas, but it does mean that we can come into harmonious
        relationship with the Universal, and when we have accomplished this
        we may ask anything to which we are entitled, and the way will be
        made plain.
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      • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
        Originally Posted by tpw View Post

        Great post, and right on the mark.

        We all decide our own future, by the decisions we make. And our decisions are always guided by our beliefs.

        Before I learned this secret weapon, I struggled for every dime.

        As soon as I took this secret weapon into my whole being, then success began to follow me, even when I did not always deserve it.
        That's a key, taking it into your being so to speak. It's one thing to know something on an intellectual level, and another to internalize it so that it's a part of you. When it becomes a part of you, success comes naturally.

        Originally Posted by scrofford View Post

        Awesome post although a lot of people don't want to take the time to do this because it is a four letter word..."work" But you will never improve your life if you don't work on improving yourself.
        Yeah, I know, work is a four-letter word. Your last sentence is right on the money. Trouble is, some folks like to think they're already as good as it gets.

        Originally Posted by Danny Cutts View Post

        WOW that post was bang on the button!!

        I dont believe in luck... I am a strong believer that you create your own luck and if you want something bad enough you will do whatever it takes to get there.

        Entrepreneurs get called lucky and I find it quite insulting when someone says "your just Lucky" how does that work then? I created the situation I acted on the situation and I won... thats not luck thats skill!

        Danny
        Who was it that said, "The harder I work, the luckier I get?"

        Originally Posted by InternetMarketingIQ View Post

        When one lives in their own self created bubble the answers to all problems are readily apparent.
        I'm not sure what you mean.

        Originally Posted by MalceskiFan View Post

        Easily the best post I've read on this forum.

        Thank you.
        You're new here, aren't you?
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  • Profile picture of the author Mike Hlatky
    Using my mind? What a ridiculous concept.

    I'd rather have someone sell me a push button money maker. It would definitely be a lot easier.
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  • Profile picture of the author donnan
    Fantastic post Dennis,

    A thought can be small but it can grow with thinking.

    Place in the mind a seed and it will grow if nurtured and fruit if pursued.
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  • Profile picture of the author I.M.Retired
    Excellent post, Dennis. And so very true.

    Someone posted in a thread earlier this week (I think it was Paul Myers) that when we read too many negative thoughts (or product reviews, or whatever...) we become afraid to move forward and make the choices and decisions that are required to achieve success in our chosen business. Instead, we program ourselves for failure.

    Following our own inner instincts, thoughts, feelings; making tough decisions; choosing to act rather than procrastinate - that's following the high road.

    And as you point out, we will only go as high and far as our thoughts take us.

    Robert Holden in his excellent book 'Success Intelligence' (in the chapter entitled 'Inner Dialogue') points out that modern scientists who study the new physics say that the essential "stuff' of the universe is not atoms, but thoughts. They do not relate to the world as a physical place but rather, as a state of mind.

    Holden quotes Sir James Jeans from "The Mysterious Universe."

    "The stream of knowledge is heading towards a non-mechanical reality; the Universe begins to look more like a great thought than like a great machine. Mind no longer appears to be an accidental intruder into the realm of matter... we ought rather hail it as the creator and governor of the realm of matter."
    Holden also reminds us that the idea that "success is a state of mind" is very old. He is not alone in embracing that concept. Many great thinkers concur. A simple search for that phrase on any search engine will bring up a plethora of results for that statement.

    To paraphrase Holden: "Thoughts create actions and results. Thoughts are choices. The people who experience consistent success have learned how to identify with the thoughts that create the best outcomes. As you chose your thoughts, you chose your experience."
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    • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
      Originally Posted by Val.S. View Post

      As you chose your thoughts, you chose your experience."
      You made several good points, Val, but I really like that part of the quote you cited. That one is going into my personal quotation collections. Thanks.
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    • Profile picture of the author Zachmo
      Whata very excellent post. I am also fond of reading books, the best ones I've read are Og Mandino's and Bo Sanchez'. My mom once told me when I was a kid that reading books is more profitable than saving money in banks. I believe in what you've said that mind is the secret I don't believe in luck or destiny, what I believe is everything happens depending on my choices and accomplishments in life.
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    • Profile picture of the author Sonja
      That was an awesome post filled with simple words of wisdom but packed with a massive force of power. It definitely made me have a deep look inside myself.

      It goes to another set of simple words that I have heard over and over again to the point where I wasn't paying any attention anymore: "Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve" by Napoleon.
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  • Profile picture of the author expl0it8z
    thanks for this motivational and inspirational note..well who already watched the secret? mind linking me to the full video..

    thanks
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  • Profile picture of the author E. Brian Rose
    I am reporting this thread to Iguwama, the Internet Marketing Fairy. She will be very upset to know that people like you are preaching her non-existence.
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    • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
      Originally Posted by Zachmo View Post

      Whata very excellent post. I am also fond of reading books, the best ones I've read are Og Mandino's and Bo Sanchez'. My mom once told me when I was a kid that reading books is more profitable than saving money in banks. I believe in what you've said that mind is the secret I don't believe in luck or destiny, what I believe is everything happens depending on my choices and accomplishments in life.
      Your mom was a wise woman. What you believe, that your outcomes are a result of your choices, is actually science. It's called cause and effect.

      Originally Posted by E. Brian Rose View Post

      I am reporting this thread to Iguwama, the Internet Marketing Fairy. She will be very upset to know that people like you are preaching her non-existence.
      Aw Brian, now you did it, you named names. I'm going to have to report you.
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      Originally Posted by Pursuit2Success View Post

      I really HATE liers, why the f*ck do they do that to people?! Makes me mad already just talking about this and all they care about is the money and is selfish...
      Go back to the original post and actually read it. Rid yourself of the negativity before it consumes you.

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      • Profile picture of the author celente
        Originally Posted by ncmedia View Post

        Translation:

        "I'm a lazy marketer just trying to get my post count up so I tend to browse through hot topics and just spew my trigger happy fingers with the first generic bullsh!t I can think of, I'm pretty sure it will work. This is the Pursuit2Success, where all one cares about is money and is selfish".

        At least you greatly illustrated OP's point I guess...
        Man had to read this post twice ...a real classic
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    • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
      Originally Posted by Pursuit2Success View Post

      I really HATE liers, why the f*ck do they do that to people?! Makes me mad already just talking about this and all they care about is the money and is selfish...
      Did you actually read the post?

      Originally Posted by ncmedia View Post

      So does this mean I'm free to think for myself?

      Noble concept.


      .. . .. ..trying it now. .. . .


      Is there a WSO? I still don't get it.
      I can whip one up for you. Get all your credit cards ready, you're going to need every single one.
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  • Profile picture of the author paulie888
    Great post, Dennis. Spending time alone with our thoughts may seem unproductive to the uninitiated, but without doing this you really don't know what is transpiring in your mind, and you're most probably going through life unconsciously without knowing why things are happening the way they are to you.

    Meditation is great for this purpose. Spend just 30 minutes a day really doing this, and you'll see your life change in unimaginable ways. It can be hard to do this consistently in the beginning, but the payoff is immense.
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    • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
      Originally Posted by paulie888 View Post

      Great post, Dennis. Spending time alone with our thoughts may seem unproductive to the uninitiated, but without doing this you really don't know what is transpiring in your mind, and you're most probably going through life unconsciously without knowing why things are happening the way they are to you.

      Meditation is great for this purpose. Spend just 30 minutes a day really doing this, and you'll see your life change in unimaginable ways. It can be hard to do this consistently in the beginning, but the payoff is immense.
      That's all true, Paul. Even if someone doesn't feel ready for meditation, there are always odd moments in the day one can devote to exploring the thought world. Waiting in a checkout line, waiting for an appointment, eating lunch, etc. It may not be ideal but it's a start.

      I see people make posts about being bored. I'm never bored, there's always something to think about. Perhaps boredom is our mind's way of asking us to use it.
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        • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
          Originally Posted by ncmedia View Post

          -snip- "The most precious and valuable thing we own is time, as you can only spend it once, spend it wisely".
          That's a great quote, Norb. Do you happen to know who said/wrote it?
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          • Profile picture of the author E. Brian Rose
            Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

            That's a great quote, Norb. Do you happen to know who said/wrote it?
            I think it's a combination of many different time related quotes. Benjamin Franklin said something similar, but not quite the same. Here is one from Kay Lyons...

            " Yesterday is a canceled check;
            Tomorrow is a promissory note;
            Today is the only cash you have;
            So spend it wisely."

            The one thing that every man has in common is that when your time is up, it's up. Everybody can appreciate time, no matter how much money or fame you have or don't have.
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        • Profile picture of the author halmo
          Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post


          Who was it that said, "The harder I work, the luckier I get?"
          I believe it was Thomas Jefferson.

          Excellent post, Dennis. Thank you. Yes, thinking determines everything.

          Haven't you had (some) people say something like this to you? "You just think too much." And you knew that there was no point trying to explain it.

          Originally Posted by ncmedia View Post


          A quote I like: "The most precious and valuable thing we own is time, as you can only spend it once, spend it wisely".
          This reminded me of a similar quote (don't know the author either): "Life is like a coin. You can spend it the way you want to. Else someone else will spend it for you."

          It's the last sentence in the quote that's really scary.
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          • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
            Originally Posted by halmo View Post

            Haven't you had (some) people say something like this to you? "You just think too much." And you knew that there was no point trying to explain it.
            I can't recall anyone ever saying that to me, but I have had the "deer in the headlights" look before and knew there wasn't much point in going in any deeper. Same difference.
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  • Profile picture of the author robzeeb
    Love your thoughts Dennis. Believe it then see it.
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  • Profile picture of the author MisterRight
    You are right. Our mind is the best secret weapon. We just have to use it.
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  • Profile picture of the author MarkAnderson
    Great post.....

    Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

    I had no mentor. I had no training. I just did stuff. I thought stuff up and took action.
    If somebody wants to be a perfect internet marketer, don't forget this saying.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
    Thanks Norb and Brian...my thank you button is spent.
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  • Profile picture of the author celente
    Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

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    This secret weapon is ... your mind.
    Sure is, but after a big weekend...does monday count. :p:p:p

    The only secret weapon after my weekend is panadol and few barocca's

    Then tuesday its back to using my detoxed secret weapon. LOL
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    • Profile picture of the author paulie888
      Originally Posted by celente View Post

      Sure is, but after a big weekend...does monday count. :p:p:p

      The only secret weapon after my weekend is panadol and few barocca's

      Then tuesday its back to using my detoxed secret weapon. LOL
      What are baroccas? I suppose this is your personal remedy for a bad hangover?
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      • Profile picture of the author celente
        Originally Posted by paulie888 View Post

        What are baroccas? I suppose this is your personal remedy for a bad hangover?
        mana sent from heaven to alcoholics....:p

        so yes you are right! LOL
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        • Profile picture of the author paulie888
          Originally Posted by celente View Post

          mana sent from heaven to alcoholics....:p

          so yes you are right! LOL
          Ok, but what is it exactly?
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          • Profile picture of the author sanssecret
            Are you sure my mind is the secret? I thought it was Paul Myers'. :confused:


            If you're sure it's 'mine', then maybe I could raise some money hiring it out?

            No?

            Oh well, it was worth a shot.

            Seriously good post Dennis. Saved to my inspirational swipe file.
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          • Profile picture of the author celente
            Originally Posted by paulie888 View Post

            Ok, but what is it exactly?
            small pill that fizzes when you put in water....absolute god send....

            Just like this post.

            Very informative post bloke!
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      • Profile picture of the author sal64
        Originally Posted by paulie888 View Post

        What are baroccas? I suppose this is your personal remedy for a bad hangover?
        He must be a down under lad???

        Berrocca is a vitamin B supplement / shot.

        It gives you back your BBBBBBB-bounce.

        Take 1, then follow up with a bottle of Lucozade... followed by a few Bloody Marys at breakfast and you'll be good as gold.
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    • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
      Originally Posted by internetsecretbook View Post

      Here are the secrets of successful internet marketing revealed by warriors here:

      http://www.warriorforum.com/main-int...t-us-know.html
      I posted in that thread. I'm not going to reread it, but I don't remember seeing any secrets before. A few strategies and personal preferences, but no real secrets.
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      • Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

        I posted in that thread. I'm not going to reread it, but I don't remember seeing any secrets before. A few strategies and personal preferences, but no real secrets.
        They are secrets revealed by those who knew them and, at last, you knew them because they are revealed, otherwise you'll never know them at all if they remained secrets...
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        • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
          Originally Posted by internetsecretbook View Post

          They are secrets revealed by those who knew them and, at last, you knew them because they are revealed, otherwise you'll never know them at all if they remained secrets...
          If they are revealed, they are no longer secret.

          As I wrote in post #30 in that thread, "If you want to call what you don't know a secret, then keep improving your knowledge and you'll keep discovering secrets. It's not really a secret though ... the information is out there."

          Not to quibble, but...

          What is in that thread is common knowledge and personal preferences. There may be things you don't or didn't know, but because you don't know something doesn't make it a secret. It just makes it something you didn't know.
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          • Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

            If they are revealed, they are no longer secret.

            As I wrote in post #30 in that thread, "If you want to call what you don't know a secret, then keep improving your knowledge and you'll keep discovering secrets. It's not really a secret though ... the information is out there."

            Not to quibble, but...

            What is in that thread is common knowledge and personal preferences. There may be things you don't or didn't know, but because you don't know something doesn't make it a secret. It just makes it something you didn't know.
            "Lol, dont believe all these people that there are no secrets. The real answer is that you will only learn your own secrets by experimenting, trial and error. No one who has a piece of knowledge that gives them a true competitive advantage would give details on a forum! Thats just the reality of real business." - dndoseller
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  • Profile picture of the author Diver's
    Great post Dennis! So very true my friend.

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  • Profile picture of the author NateRivers
    Solid advice. This type of stuff is the hardest for people because most people are looking for someone to show them every exact step... no one that is doing good on their own is gonna show someone else how to do what they've figured out.
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    • Profile picture of the author sanssecret
      Originally Posted by NateRivers View Post

      Solid advice. This type of stuff is the hardest for people because most people are looking for someone to show them every exact step... no one that is doing good on their own is gonna show someone else how to do what they've figured out.
      :confused: So either you're not doing good, or your sig link isn't really going to tell me what you've figured out.:confused:
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      • Profile picture of the author NateRivers
        Originally Posted by sanssecret View Post

        :confused: So either you're not doing good, or your sig link isn't really going to tell me what you've figured out.:confused:
        ....yeah I set myself up for that one... The link in my sig is to free training on the "basics" of IM that will always work that most people skip in favor of trying to get rich overnight. But I definitely don't reveal my current affiliate campaigns or anything.

        Thanks for pointing out my ironic statement.
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    • Profile picture of the author ExRat
      Hi Dennis,

      Great stuff.

      My only complaint is that you didn't go as far back as Confucius.

      'What the superior man seeks is in himself; what the small man seeks is in others.'
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      • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
        Originally Posted by ExRat View Post

        Hi Dennis,

        Great stuff.

        My only complaint is that you didn't go as far back as Confucius.

        'What the superior man seeks is in himself; what the small man seeks is in others.'
        Unintentional oversight, Roger ... I couldn't find my Rolodex.
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    • Profile picture of the author drmani
      Dennis, your post brought to mind my own report from 2004, which I (at the time) distributed with the hyped-up title of:


      The Hard Hitting, Myth Shattering
      WAKE UP TO REALITY
      Internet Marketing Report

      Here's an edited version (removed all self-serving mentions and outdated links):

      "Last Week, I Made $2,519 in Profits- Working Just 7 Hours!
      From Only 127 Visitors to my Brand New Website,
      With NO Marketing at All, Quickly & Easily!"


      How often do you see headlines like this one - making valid, specific, verifiable claims

      ... YET NOT TELLING THE WHOLE TRUTH?!

      Let's dissect it and see:

      What You SEE... And What You DON'T

      #1:

      Last Week, I Made $2,519 in Profits -
      Working Less Than 7 Hours!

      Of course, I first had to spend 6 years
      learning how to do it


      #2:

      From just 127 visitors to my website

      But after weeks of designing, testing &
      tweaking my system, I know exactly
      how to target my ideal prospects


      #3:

      With no marketing at all

      Instead I spent months networking with
      other business-folk, so they endorse my
      work


      #4:

      Quickly & easily!

      But have tons of patience,
      determination and persistence if it
      doesn't work out that way - for you!


      Now, does this look more REAL?

      It's crazy. Yesterday, I got an email from my subscriber, Mary. She had lost a small fortune chasing a dream. Caught up in the hype, she "invested" her little savings account balance in a new, hyped-up product - and now it's cash down the drain.

      She's frustrated. Disillusioned. Unhappy.

      Because she didn't get what she was hoping for...

      Internet Marketing Success - In A Week!

      Just like the ad promised

      Fact: People buy the dream of "Get Rich - Quick & Easy"

      Fact: Folks believe the Internet is "different"

      Fact: Many hope they'll retrace the path of pioneers to make millions - even if
      the rules have changed

      If this describes you...

      Wake UP! Get Real! FAST...

      There's still a vast fortune lying untapped in the platinum mines on the Net! You can create more wealth today - with far less effort - if you act sensibly... and KNOW what it takes.

      It's why I created this short report - to shatter your myths and give you a blue book of Ground Rules To Internet Marketing Success

      Myth #1: Success Will Come Easily...
      Translation: I don't have to work for it

      Myth #2: And Quickly
      Translation: I don't have to wait

      Myth #3: Once I know it all, Nothing Can Stop Me
      Translation: I don't have to learn

      Myth #4: Things will Always be the Same
      Translation: I don't have to change

      Myth #5: I Know Exactly What Works - & Will Work Again
      Translation: I don't have to ZOOM

      Myth #1: Success Will Come Easily...

      Yeah... And pigs can fly!

      Wake Up! It is easy to succeed on the Net. But only after you've put in the hard work first. You will have to work - and work hard.

      There's a difference though. In your regular job, you'll work and get paid. When you stop working, you'll stop getting paid.

      But with your Internet business, you can work once and get paid over and over again - and continue to get paid even after you stop working!

      Myth #2: ... And Quickly

      Rome wasn't built in a day. Honestly!

      Get Real. It takes time and effort to build an Internet business from the ground up. There are many short-cuts and ready-made solutions, power tools and templates to help you get up to speed faster.

      But it won't happen in a day. It could - but more likely won't.

      Keep plugging away at it, though, and you can't fail. It's like the stone cutter who strikes the boulder one hundred times with no impact - and then on the 101st blow, the huge rock shatters into tiny pebbles.

      He couldn't have started at #101, now, could he? Neither can you.

      Myth #3: Once I know it all, Nothing Can Stop Me

      Is today exactly like yesterday? Or will tomorrow be a carbon copy of today?
      Knowledge doubles at a rate faster than ever before in history. New information needs to be processed daily. Sifting the knowledge from the noise is an important task you'll need to master.

      Which means one thing - You can't stop learning - EVER.

      The good news? Knowledge is power. And by learning, you're gaining an edge over
      your competition that nothing can beat.

      Myth #4: Things will Always be the Same

      This kind of thinking will torpedo your business, make it sink like a rock.

      The world around you is in a turbulent state of change. Constant, relentless, endless change. Everything changes. And to stay on top of the game, you'll have to change with it. Change faster so you stay ahead of the curve.

      Study your market. Anticipate changes before they happen. Think about the future, creatively and imaginatively. Look on it as a challenge to be conquered, not a monster to be scared of.

      Change is a constant. Embrace it. Profit from it.

      Myth #5: I Know Exactly What Works

      No one does. No, not even me

      You can test, survey, study, observe and research... but you still will not know.
      Experimenting, trial-and-error, testing and tweaking, must become a way of life for you.

      "Ready-FIRE-Aim" should be your mantra.

      You'll never be fully prepared. But as long as you're ready to change, shift, reposition and revise your strategy and tactics, you'll win.

      Ideas, concepts, plans, dreams, hopes... all are worth nothing without ACTION

      It takes luck, timing, support, skill and a lot of other things to succeed. But all of them are worthless if you don't ACT.

      · Stop hoping for a miracle
      · Stop dreaming of winning the lottery
      · Stop fooling yourself it's too late
      · Stop making excuses and losing focus

      Work Hard
      Be Patient
      Keep Learning
      Embrace Change
      ...And ZOOM AHEAD

      You'll Win. Big Time.

      1. BELIEVE - it'll happen. Unless you do, it won't. "Think and Grow Rich" works. Really.

      2. DO IT - no matter how much you plan, you need action. Try it. Study it. Tweak it. Try again.

      3. GET HELP - you can't do everything alone. It's a hard lesson to learn. But you have to.

      4. KEEP TRYING - Success takes her own sweet time coming. You just need to keep on keeping on.

      5. ENJOY THE JOURNEY - The learning, experimenting, analysis, networking.
      That way, you won't run out of steam - just before you get "lucky"!
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      • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
        Originally Posted by drmani View Post

        Dennis, your post brought to mind my own report from 2004, which I (at the time) distributed with the hyped-up title of:
        Good stuff, Dr. Mani. And to think you wrote all that 7 years in advance in honor of my little old thread here.
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        • Profile picture of the author drmani
          Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

          And to think you wrote all that 7 years in advance in honor of my little old thread here.
          :lol:

          I *always* knew you had it in you, Booj

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          • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
            Originally Posted by drmani View Post

            :lol:

            I *always* knew you had it in you, Booj

            Dr.Mani
            You're a man of vision, my friend, a true man of vision.
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            • Profile picture of the author Shaun OReilly
              Another great post Dennis and so true too.

              Mindset is the biggest success factor in any pursuit -
              including Internet Marketing.

              I love the Thought > Feeling > Action > Results model.

              Most people don't get the results they want because
              either their thinking isn't right, their feelings aren't right
              or they're not taking the right actions to get results.

              I've been feeding my mind with great personal development
              stuff since around 1996.

              Here's some of my favorite related quotes...

              "You become what you think about most of the time"
              Earl Nightingale

              "Your business growth will not far exceed your personal growth"

              Jim Rohn

              "You cannot out-perform your self-image"
              Maxwell Maltz

              Without getting your mindset right, even the best Internet
              Marketing model in the world won't help you.

              Internet success is an inside job.

              "He who looks outside, dreams. He who looks inside, awakes."
              The Buddha

              Dedicated to mutual success,

              Shaun
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    • Profile picture of the author Steven Wagenheim
      Well, the whole IM "secrets" gig is a bunch of bull crap anyway. I figured
      that out after 5 months of believing all the nonsense that was spit all over
      me back in 2003.

      However, I will say this...and it's not to minimize what you're saying Dennis
      because without using your mind, you're nowhere.

      Many years ago, when I was a kid, I had an idea for a TV show. I thought
      it was the most amazing idea for a TV show ever.

      Problem was, at that age (very young) I had no idea how to even go about
      pitching it to anybody. There was no Internet to do research on. I had no
      friends in the TV business. I had literally NO clue where to even begin to
      get this thing off the ground...none.

      Using your mind is wonderful and certainly required to have any TRUE
      success in this world. Otherwise, you're just a clone of somebody else.

      But without knowledge, your mind is nothing more than an active but
      empty shell looking for a place to hatch...nothing.

      I don't care what kind of ideas you have or how amazing and unique they
      are. If you don't have some kind of training, either on your own (if you're
      someone who can be self taught) or through another person, you're not
      going to get very far, even with all the ideas in the world.

      Today, if I had that same idea, I'd know what to do because of several
      factors.

      I've matured and gotten some experience. Yeah, experience sure helps a
      lot too.

      I now have more resources at my disposal. How did I find out about these
      resources? Well, again, experience and some instruction from others over
      the years.

      Basically what I'm trying to say is this.

      There are very few geniuses in this world who can hatch a thought and
      without any prior knowledge, training, direction, instruction, whatever
      you want to call it, in the chosen field or area, who will be able to take
      that thought and fully turn it into a "successful" reality.

      It would be like if I woke up tomorrow and said to myself, "I want to become
      a world class chess player" knowing NOTHING about the game.

      Where would I begin, assuming all I've done is play matches against my
      friends, all of whom stink to high heaven?

      Well, I guess I could look for a chess club in my area. That's a start. Don't
      know how far that'll take me to world class status.

      I could seek out a teacher. But how do I know who is going to be good
      enough to bring my game to the level I want it to be at?

      I guess I could read books. But how do I know which are the best books
      to read?

      I guess I could study matches of the masters. But where would I find these
      matches? Are they even available online to study? (Actually, they are, but
      remember...I know nothing.)

      I could keep going but I think you get the point. Without somebody,
      somewhere, giving you some kind of direction, how far are you going
      to get on just your mind alone?

      Sure, I've done most things pretty much on my own since day 1. But even
      I have had moments where I really needed to go to somebody else for
      help, especially with technical issues. No amount of thought or using my
      mind was going to get me through those days of trying to understand
      why my web page wouldn't load right.

      Yeah, you could say that I had to use my mind to be able to think and
      realize that I did need to go to somebody for help and not waste my
      time on something I clearly couldn't do. But for goodness sake, if a person
      can't do that much, realize when they need help, what prayer do they
      have with anything else?

      So while I get what you're saying, I don't 100% agree with it. No man is
      an island Dennis, and eventually, at one time or another, all of us need
      some kind of help from another person.

      And that's what gets us into the quick sand pit of "who do we trust and
      who do we listen to?"

      And if we listen to the wrong person, it could, depending on the seriousness
      of the issue we're trying to resolve, cripple our business.

      I know...I've been there.

      Yeah...use your mind, but learn to recognize that sometimes you can't
      do it on your own and need the help of somebody with more knowledge
      of the subject than you have.
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      • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
        Originally Posted by ljmatt View Post

        I agree that this is excellent advice, but when you have spent years and I mean years going down blind alleys, spending money you can't afford to lose, and time spent that doesn't result in the promise offered, then one can hardly be blamed for wanting a push button system to do it all for them.

        I know I have been too trusting not to mention gullible, but I have put hours and hours of work in and still haven't cracked the code. Maybe it is my age, but something is constantly eluding me and I would love somebody to tell me what it is and help me past the finishing post.

        I was a headteacher before I retired so I am not stupid.
        The years you have spent going down blind alleys, the money you spent, I assume that was following other people's advice since you cited not achieving the results promised and being too trusting and even gullible. That kind of makes my point, doesn't it? You keep following but aren't being led where you want to go?
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        • Profile picture of the author Janet Matthews
          Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

          The years you have spent going down blind alleys, the money you spent, I assume that was following other people's advice since you cited not achieving the results promised and being too trusting and even gullible. That kind of makes my point, doesn't it? You keep following but aren't being led where you want to go?
          Thanks Dennis - yes your right it does make your point and it has certainly given me something to think about. I guess I was just making the point that everyone who doesn't make it in IM isn't necessarily expecting something for nothing.
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          • Profile picture of the author marcuslim
            Great thread! Yes, successful people make their own luck by being in the game. When you are in the game and are out there, you stand a better chance of being lucky. As MJ DeMarco says in his book 'The Millionaire Fastlane', most people see successful people as lucky but don't take the time to consider the process that got them to that point. Process creates events that others see as 'luck'.
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      • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
        Originally Posted by Steven Wagenheim View Post


        Using your mind is wonderful and certainly required to have any TRUE
        success in this world. Otherwise, you're just a clone of somebody else.

        But without knowledge, your mind is nothing more than an active but
        empty shell looking for a place to hatch...nothing.

        I don't care what kind of ideas you have or how amazing and unique they
        are. If you don't have some kind of training, either on your own (if you're
        someone who can be self taught) or through another person, you're not
        going to get very far, even with all the ideas in the world.
        While I didn't cite any technical books, obtaining any knowledge needed is part of feeding your mind. Buying a book to learn how to build a website, for example, is far different from buying a book that purports to teach you how to make $20k a month or whatever.

        I'm not even saying you shouldn't buy those kind of books in the first place. Buy and learn ... but think for yourself. THINK. That's the key. Too many people are trying to build a business by being a follower only. Maybe I didn't make my point as well as I'd hoped, but that's the crux of my post.

        I think you're reading too much into my post based on what is not there. I never said to isolate yourself from others and be an island. Networking is important. Building relationships is important. But I wrote a post about learning to THINK and trying things on your own without having to be told every little thing -- it wasn't an "everything you need to know" course. Learn to think and you'll figure out what else you need to know. Too many people only FOLLOW others and never get beyond that point, so I thought it was an important message. I still do.


        There are very few geniuses in this world who can hatch a thought and
        without any prior knowledge, training, direction, instruction, whatever
        you want to call it, in the chosen field or area, who will be able to take
        that thought and fully turn it into a "successful" reality.
        I'm no genius, but that's pretty much what I did. I don't think it takes genius level intelligence, I think it takes a belief in yourself and your idea, or at least a willingness to fail, and a lot of "can do" perseverance.

        Here's an example. When I started my first mailing list it was just a text file on my computer and I BCC'd everyone. When I outgrew that I did a little research and bought the "Bat" email client because it would manage mailing lists. When I outgrew that I searched for something else and found out about autoresponders. I started with a self-hosted solution. When that got hacked I researched and signed up with Aweber.

        See the progression? From notepad, to an email app with a list function, to self-hosted AR to commercial AR. My THINKING led me to do the research I needed to gain the knowledge I needed. I didn't buy a thing. All the info was found online for free.

        I do wish I would have bought some how-to products earlier in my IM career, I would have shortened the learning curve. I took pride in learning how to do things on my own though, and doing it without spending money. I had more time than money when I started, so I think that's understandable.

        It would be like if I woke up tomorrow and said to myself, "I want to become
        a world class chess player" knowing NOTHING about the game.

        Where would I begin, assuming all I've done is play matches against my
        friends, all of whom stink to high heaven?

        Well, I guess I could look for a chess club in my area. That's a start. Don't
        know how far that'll take me to world class status.

        I could seek out a teacher. But how do I know who is going to be good
        enough to bring my game to the level I want it to be at?

        I guess I could read books. But how do I know which are the best books
        to read?
        You don't have to know best teacher or the best books. The teacher only has to know more than you do. Just start reading and you'll learn. As you learn, you'll also learn how to pick out books that have something more to teach you from the ones that teach what you already know.

        Not to belabor my previous point, but feeding your mind means feeding it what you need, and that includes knowledge. I'm only replying to this part to make the point that you don't have to know ahead of time what the best books are or who the best teacher is. You just have to start somewhere. If you use your mind, you'll learn, and your mind will show you where to go next.

        To minimize the risk of being led in the wrong direction, verify what one book or teacher shows you with one or two other sources. There are always risks though. If a person can't accept that they should probably stick to the 9 to 5 rat race with its illusion of security.


        So while I get what you're saying, I don't 100% agree with it. No man is
        an island Dennis, and eventually, at one time or another, all of us need
        some kind of help from another person.

        And that's what gets us into the quick sand pit of "who do we trust and
        who do we listen to?"
        That's cool, Steven, I don't agree with you all the time either.

        However, everyone trusts the wrong person from time to time. There are no guarantees in anything we do, whether in IM or crossing the street. We have to take acceptable risks. If I were new to this game, buying a $2,000 home study course from Joe Marketer would not be an acceptable risk. Buying a $47 download would be. Everyone has to define acceptable risks for themselves.

        However, if you learn to THINK for yourself, to use your MIND instead of following blindly, you will quit chasing down the blind alleys after shiny buttons a lot sooner.
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        • Profile picture of the author drmani
          Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

          I do wish I would have bought some how-to products earlier in my IM career, I would have shortened the learning curve. I took pride in learning how to do things on my own though, and doing it without spending money. I had more time than money when I started, so I think that's understandable.
          Ditto here.

          Today, I 'buy myself time' by taking shortcuts - which are guided by the 'thinking'
          from those early days.

          All success
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          • Profile picture of the author drmani
            Originally Posted by sloanjim View Post

            some people are lucky and get born clever.

            Some people are clever and get born lucky...


            LUCK plays a role in life for SURE!
            Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

            For SURE? What is your proof then? Or was that just your opinion?
            As a little boy, I watched grandma give alms to beggars
            every afternoon.

            As I grew older, I realized that the only reason I was born on
            one side of the fence (giving) than the other (seeking)
            was sheer chance. Or LUCK.

            Of course, staying on one side or the other has little to
            do with luck, and everything to do with taking self-
            deterministic action.

            But luck (or fortune, serendipity, chance, randomness)
            has a certain place in our magical existence.

            "For SURE"

            All success
            Dr.Mani

            P.S. - "The harder I work, the luckier I get!" - Samuel Goldwyn
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            • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
              Originally Posted by drmani View Post

              As a little boy, I watched grandma give alms to beggars
              every afternoon.

              As I grew older, I realized that the only reason I was born on
              one side of the fence (giving) than the other (seeking)
              was sheer chance. Or LUCK.

              Of course, staying on one side or the other has little to
              do with luck, and everything to do with taking self-
              deterministic action.

              But luck (or fortune, serendipity, chance, randomness)
              has a certain place in our magical existence.

              "For SURE"

              All success
              Dr.Mani

              P.S. - "The harder I work, the luckier I get!" - Samuel Goldwyn
              Um, well, yes, I know what you mean, but ... what may seem like luck for you to be born on the right side of the fence was an effect caused by your parents. Same with the children born on the "unlucky" side of the fence. Being born is an effect.

              You could argue you could have been born to other parents, but then, you'd be someone else, not you. There's another direction I could go but it would cross into subject matter that's close to religion, and that could get the thread killed.

              Anyway, the thread is kind of straying now, but this: "...staying on one side or the other has little to do with luck, and everything to do with taking self-deterministic action." ...is right on the money.
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              • Profile picture of the author Marcus-1
                Hey Dennis, great inspirational thread.
                We are all one with our source, that source being the Creator. If we are part of the creator, that most mean that we ourselves are creators and therefore able to create our existence, by way of proper thought. It is a hard concept to embrace for most, but in fact a truth.
                It is difficult to maintain a "right thinking mind" for most of us. I for one try on daily base, and I have my moments. The difficulty is that we are under constant attack with negative thoughts that surround us on a daily base. Friends, family, radio, TV I'm sure you know what I mean.
                When we learn how to distance ourselves from these negative feelings, and in fact tend to the seeds that we planted (thoughts) that is when we become creators, masters of our destiny, children of God. We can all achieve this state but first, our field must be properly fertilized. Our mind must be tended to, like the greatest garden you'll ever own. Plant the proper thoughts and you will receive an over abundance of that fruit. Plant Garbage and it will give you an over abundance of garbage.
                In closing friends...
                Good thoughts in, good fruit out. Garbage in, garbage out!
                God Bless you all!
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              • Profile picture of the author Marcus-1
                Sorry,
                I forgot something that is a great help to me when all those negative thoughts attack me.
                I say to myself out-loud, if I can or quietly " I am worthy and deserving of prosperity, abundance and love" try it! God loves us all. the truth!!
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    awesome thread
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  • Profile picture of the author Colin Palfrey
    I was always able to bring myself to full consciousness while asleep. It was only recently that I discovered I could do the same while awake.

    Great post, Dennis.
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    • Profile picture of the author paulie888
      Originally Posted by Colin Palfrey View Post

      I was always able to bring myself to full consciousness while asleep. It was only recently that I discovered I could do the same while awake.

      Great post, Dennis.
      Colin, when you say that you're able to bring yourself to full consciousness while asleep, are you referring to lucid dreaming?

      Paul
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      • Profile picture of the author Colin Palfrey
        Originally Posted by paulie888 View Post

        Colin, when you say that you're able to bring yourself to full consciousness while asleep, are you referring to lucid dreaming?

        Paul
        Hi Paul,

        Yes, I was always able to do it. The concept of being in a dream that I couldn't control is not one I wish to dwell on.

        Relatively recently I started to wonder whether that was exactly what real life was, and whether control could be taken in exactly the same way. So far so good.

        Cheers,
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        • Profile picture of the author paulie888
          Originally Posted by Colin Palfrey View Post

          Hi Paul,

          Yes, I was always able to do it. The concept of being in a dream that I couldn't control is not one I wish to dwell on.

          Relatively recently I started to wonder whether that was exactly what real life was, and whether control could be taken in exactly the same way. So far so good.

          Cheers,
          Colin Palfrey
          I know, it's terrifying to be in a dream you can't control, don't you think? I am able to do lucid dreaming at times, but not on demand. I think I'm starting to get a lot better at it with practice, though.

          I agree - with real life, far too many people go through it unconsciously, as though they were sleepwalking. It's high time we take back the reins and dictate our own destiny.

          Paul
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  • Profile picture of the author KatieWilliams
    Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

    It might just be possible that you'll think your way to success faster than you'll follow someone else to success.
    Great post, this sentence especially!

    I've finally given myself permission to go after the business and success I have *secretly* wanted for years and have put to one side while I buy into other people's ideas - thanks for the great reminder and reassurance that I can do this by being authentic to my own goals.

    Perfectly timed post (but then, we see things when we are ready to, right?)

    Katie
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  • Profile picture of the author MalBryc
    Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

    This secret weapon is ... your mind.

    That's right. Everything you do starts with a thought. The decisions you make and the actions you take all start off with a thought.
    ---
    If you're not succeeding now, maybe it's because you keep following others instead of leading your own way. Employees follow. Business owners lead. It might just be possible that you'll think your way to success faster than you'll follow someone else to success.

    I'm not supposed to put ideas like that in your head though. You might figure things out for yourself. We can't have that, now can we?

    That's the big secret. Now that you know what it is, what are you going to do with it?
    Great advice. Thanks for sharing this.

    I always have believed that mind-set and how you think affects how you approach the world and in turn the success you achieve. It's finding the right influence on your thoughts. As today, there is too much negative influence which in-turn creates negative thinking which all adds up to a seemingly negative world. (ie. 'Recession' etc.)
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  • Profile picture of the author BarberShop
    Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

    It's true, they lied to you. There is a secret to all this marketing business, and I'm going to reveal it to you.

    Some of you won't be happy though. It may be something you've kind of overlooked all these years. You may not like that it's not as shiny and sexy as you expected. You may not even believe it is a secret at all because you've had access to it from the beginning.

    It's not really a "secret" so much as it is a secret weapon.

    One of the best things about this secret weapon is that the more you use it, the more powerful it becomes. It's like starting off with a stick match and ending up with a flame thrower!

    This secret weapon is so powerful that all kinds of marketers, advertisers, businesses, and individuals try to seduce you away from using it so you'll keep buying from them.

    This secret weapon is ... your mind.

    That's right. Everything you do starts with a thought. The decisions you make and the actions you take all start off with a thought.

    What you feed your mind determines where you're going in this business and in life. If you want to make the most of it, you need to feed your mind with great ideas. The quality and value of your own ideas will increase when you feed your mind the right thoughts.

    How do you do that?

    Read the great thinkers and motivators. Intelligiants I like to call them. People like Dale Carnegie, Jim Rohn, Earl Nightingale, Zig Ziglar, Napoleon Hill, Og Mandino and others that have stood the test of time.

    Go farther back and read people like Claude M. Bristol and Charles F. Haanel; or go more modern and read thinkers and motivators like Tony Robbins and T Harv Ekers.

    You will only go as high and far as your thoughts take you. That's why your mind is your secret weapon. It trumps all other success factors.

    You think that isn't true? Just look at the history of lottery winners. Nearly all of them end up being back in the same place or worse off than they were before they won. Their old thinking couldn't sustain their new found abundance. Because their thinking didn't change, their reality returned to the level of their thinking.

    Think about that one.

    When your thinking changes, so will your circumstances. Just make sure your thinking changes in ways that you choose. I'm not telling you how to live, I'm just encouraging you to think about how you live. Those butt-numbing passive hours in front of the television aren't likely to take you anywhere you want to go in life, IMO.

    Spend some quiet time alone with your thoughts. You can't improve your thinking if you never practice thinking. For the record, thinking isn't the same as having thoughts. Thinking is what you do after you have a thought. It's probing that thought to see what is hiding inside it. In other words, having a thought is the doorway to actually thinking.

    We seldom walk through that doorway though. We instead opt for diversions. Diversions are easy. Thinking is work.

    And there you have why people are always looking for the shiny magic button. It's easy. Much easier than thinking.

    Do you see my join date for this forum? I've been earning a full-time living online since 1999, long before I discovered the forum. I had no mentor. I had no training. I just did stuff. I thought stuff up and took action. Most of what I did worked.

    I didn't say that to brag. I'm just an average Joe. Or an average Dennis, anyway. No, I say that because I want you to understand that you can do that too. You can carve your own path through the IM jungle.

    If you're not succeeding now, maybe it's because you keep following others instead of leading your own way. Employees follow. Business owners lead. It might just be possible that you'll think your way to success faster than you'll follow someone else to success.

    I'm not supposed to put ideas like that in your head though. You might figure things out for yourself. We can't have that, now can we?

    That's the big secret. Now that you know what it is, what are you going to do with it?


    I thought the BIG SECRET / Lie is that to make money online, you have to be a guru and teach how to make money online, then blast their email inbox with promotions of their friend's products.

    Your post is inspirational and I would pay money for it if you elaborate some more of this concepts in a few pages. I'd buy your ebook if you launch it. Thanks again. Worth reviewing from time to time.
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  • Profile picture of the author supersonic
    There is a very positive energy in your post.
    Yes, I am also like you. Never mentored or advised. I always did whatever my mind told me to do.

    "Use your mind"... So simple! Great post! Keep it up!
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  • Profile picture of the author darkwizgemz
    Great post. Indeed no one will always stand with us throughout the way, we must face things ourselves and show them what we've got.
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  • Profile picture of the author Janet Matthews
    I agree that this is excellent advice, but when you have spent years and I mean years going down blind alleys, spending money you can't afford to lose, and time spent that doesn't result in the promise offered, then one can hardly be blamed for wanting a push button system to do it all for them.

    I know I have been too trusting not to mention gullible, but I have put hours and hours of work in and still haven't cracked the code. Maybe it is my age, but something is constantly eluding me and I would love somebody to tell me what it is and help me past the finishing post.

    I was a headteacher before I retired so I am not stupid.
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  • Profile picture of the author ydsimple
    I do agree with you 100%. One man said: " The best investement in your life is YOU " !
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    • Profile picture of the author JohnMcCabe
      Originally Posted by tpw View Post

      Great post, and right on the mark.

      We all decide our own future, by the decisions we make. And our decisions are always guided by our beliefs.

      Before I learned this secret weapon, I struggled for every dime.

      As soon as I took this secret weapon into my whole being, then success began to follow me, even when I did not always deserve it.
      Agreed, on all counts...

      I think one of the things people struggle with is accepting the responsibility that comes along with the idea of self-determination.

      Standing alone on that island of responsibility and accountability can be a very scary and lonely experience. A lot of people can't handle it, so they turn their faces away from the light and look for a graven image to worship, be it guru or government.

      It's like you say, though, Bill. Once you accept and embrace this secret weapon, things start to unfold in wondrous ways...
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  • Profile picture of the author WD Mino
    Hi Dennis,

    I remember 11 yrs ago when I first was learning web design. I didn't know I was supposed to have a sales page or a email list or even that I had to have a brand. I just made money. I had a customer list. I took action and found sites that needed reworking and landed clients and made money.

    I have never been one to follow someone I do things in my own way and I am happy to say I am getting good success with it. Never rely on someone else to springboard you,don't look for the magic bullet because in all honesty it is between your ears.

    Dennis.Cheers my friend
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    • Profile picture of the author Steven Wagenheim
      Dennis, after your explanation and clarification (well explained by the way)
      I do agree with you.

      Yes, I probably read more into it than I was supposed to.
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      • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
        Originally Posted by WD Mino View Post

        Hi Dennis,

        I remember 11 yrs ago when I first was learning web design. I didn't know I was supposed to have a sales page or a email list or even that I had to have a brand. I just made money. I had a customer list. I took action and found sites that needed reworking and landed clients and made money.

        I have never been one to follow someone I do things in my own way and I am happy to say I am getting good success with it. Never rely on someone else to springboard you,don't look for the magic bullet because in all honesty it is between your ears.

        Dennis.Cheers my friend
        -Will
        Will, thanks for posting (my thanks button is depleted). You are proof that my experience wasn't just a fluke, that we can blaze our own trail in this IM jungle.

        Originally Posted by Steven Wagenheim View Post

        Dennis, after your explanation and clarification (well explained by the way)
        I do agree with you.

        Yes, I probably read more into it than I was supposed to.
        Steven, I should thank you too. Your post allowed me to make some clarifications that others may have needed. So, thanks.
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  • Profile picture of the author LetsGoViral
    Of course it starts with the mind. Then again, everything does. But remember, there is always the element of luck.
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    • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
      Originally Posted by LetsGoViral View Post

      Of course it starts with the mind. Then again, everything does. But remember, there is always the element of luck.
      James, luck has very little to do with success, in my opinion. I'm not even sure if I believe in luck. I do believe in cause and effect though, and I believe success is the result of cause and effect.

      A thought causes you to take an action. The thought is the cause and the action is the effect of the cause. The action is also a cause that has it's own effect. The effect of the action is the results you experience for having taken the action.

      I attribute what appears to be luck to the results of unknown causes.
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      • Profile picture of the author Steven Wagenheim
        Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

        James, luck has very little to do with success, in my opinion. I'm not even sure if I believe in luck. I do believe in cause and effect though, and I believe success is the result of cause and effect.

        A thought causes you to take an action. The thought is the cause and the action is the effect of the cause. The action is also a cause that has it's own effect. The effect of the action is the results you experience for having taken the action.

        I attribute what appears to be luck to the results of unknown causes.
        A lot of people will say, "Yeah, well you got lucky because you bumped into
        so and so at that seminar."

        Had I not gone to that seminar in the first place, I wouldn't have had the
        chance to bump into that person.

        There is no such thing as luck. Yes, there is random chance, such as
        when you gamble, but even there...if you're not in it, you have no chance
        to win.

        You have to play the game to win. Then, the law of probability, not
        luck, determines if and when you win.

        And even then, knowing when to quit will determine if you get to keep
        your winnings.

        Luck? I have no idea how that word ever got created because it's
        something that doesn't exist.
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      • Profile picture of the author paulie888
        Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

        James, luck has very little to do with success, in my opinion. I'm not even sure if I believe in luck. I do believe in cause and effect though, and I believe success is the result of cause and effect.

        A thought causes you to take an action. The thought is the cause and the action is the effect of the cause. The action is also a cause that has it's own effect. The effect of the action is the results you experience for having taken the action.

        I attribute what appears to be luck to the results of unknown causes.
        Dennis, this is probably one of the most destructive myths around, that 'luck' can change everything for you in an instant. It accounts for the lottery mentality that many seem to have.

        It can be a major contributing factor in letting our potentially fruitful thoughts go to waste, because a 'luck' mindset typically results in inaction. All our constructive/beneficial thoughts will be for naught if we do not take action on them, and this issue seems to be particularly endemic to the IM niche.
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        • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
          Originally Posted by paulie888 View Post

          Dennis, this is probably one of the most destructive myths around, that 'luck' can change everything for you in an instant. It accounts for the lottery mentality that many seem to have.

          It can be a major contributing factor in letting our potentially fruitful thoughts go to waste, because a 'luck' mindset typically results in inaction. All our constructive/beneficial thoughts will be for naught if we do not take action on them, and this issue seems to be particularly endemic to the IM niche.
          Yes, if taken too far, you're right. The entitlement mentality that is so prevalent today is just as bad. Just think how much needs to be undone with a person who has both of these attitudes.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jaysmyne
    I couldn't agree more, yesterday I had this thought which then became a strategy I could implement into my marketing tactics. Now the only thing that will seperate me from the big boys is to:

    1) Forget

    OR More Likely

    2) Not ACT!
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  • Profile picture of the author Dennis-White
    excellent post, everything starts within the mind...
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  • Profile picture of the author sloanjim
    some people are lucky and get born clever.

    Some people are clever and get born lucky...


    LUCK plays a role in life for SURE!
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    • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
      Originally Posted by sloanjim View Post

      some people are lucky and get born clever.

      Some people are clever and get born lucky...


      LUCK plays a role in life for SURE!
      For SURE? What is your proof then? Or was that just your opinion?
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  • Profile picture of the author JackTriggs
    Lots of folks think that there is only one way to succeed online, but if you bring a good work ethic and belief then you can write your own cheque from several avenues.
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  • Profile picture of the author mrcleanandfresh
    I would have to agree. I think that if we have to be shown every step of the way what to do, it hampers our creativity. We need to get inspired by certain things, but at the same time learn our own way.
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  • Profile picture of the author capone2009
    Great post. It's right that you have to find your own way to go. At first you might need to follow some people to get the skills you need but when you have the knowledge and skills you need to get independent and do what you think is right and best for you. I had trouble with that myself and it is a very important step, at least for me.
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  • Profile picture of the author PaulMark
    Great Thread!

    Mindset is so critical, but don;t try selling it to someone new. No takers. Folks feel it's about a tactic or trick, but without the proper frame all the magic beans are worthless.

    A few weeks ago I was talking with a client who was knocking it out of the park. I asked, "How is it that you are able to do this so fast and other don't/can't?"

    She answered, "Two things. One, I believe. I have confidence in myself and believe I can do it. Second, I do what you say. I don't question or go looking for alternatives. You give me instruction and I go do it. The people I see failing are the ones who have their heads filled with fear and then when they get direction they question it and do nothing."

    That's a great mindset and it's no wonder she's doing well. And it's NOT my coaching. Anyone with online business success could show her the way. It's her willingness to take confident action that makes the difference.
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    • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
      Originally Posted by ljmatt View Post

      Thanks Dennis - yes your right it does make your point and it has certainly given me something to think about.
      I think I remember you writing that you were a teacher before. You can understand then, that the part I bolded in your reply is like music to my ears given the subject matter of the OP.

      Originally Posted by timyang View Post

      Great thread! Yes, successful people make their own luck by being in the game. When you are in the game and are out there, you stand a better chance of being lucky. As MJ DeMarco says in his book 'The Millionaire Fastlane', most people see successful people as lucky but don't take the time to consider the process that got them to that point. Process creates events that others see as 'luck'.
      Dang it! I was at Barnes and Noble yesterday. I knew there was a book I wanted to read but couldn't remember the name of it -- that was the one.

      Originally Posted by PaulMark View Post

      Great Thread!

      Mindset is so critical, but don;t try selling it to someone new. No takers. Folks feel it's about a tactic or trick, but without the proper frame all the magic beans are worthless.

      A few weeks ago I was talking with a client who was knocking it out of the park. I asked, "How is it that you are able to do this so fast and other don't/can't?"

      She answered, "Two things. One, I believe. I have confidence in myself and believe I can do it. Second, I do what you say. I don't question or go looking for alternatives. You give me instruction and I go do it. The people I see failing are the ones who have their heads filled with fear and then when they get direction they question it and do nothing."

      That's a great mindset and it's no wonder she's doing well. And it's NOT my coaching. Anyone with online business success could show her the way. It's her willingness to take confident action that makes the difference.
      The OP will make the most useful to those are ready to hear it, and will make the most sense to those who have already reached the point I'm pointing at. There's nothing wrong with learning tactics, strategies, tricks, whatever you want to call them ... that's all part of feeding your mind. Just sure you're thinking for yourself at the same time.
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      • Profile picture of the author Rhiannon Beckham
        Where's that damn 'like' button when I need it..
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  • Profile picture of the author Robert Puddy
    if you put 50 people through the same coaching class you get varible results

    and the reason why some go on to make a success is their ability to take something they learned and bend it to their situation, the ability to look at it and say ok this is great but where can I apply this

    When I am given a tasty bit of info my mind immeadiatly tries to place it context to my stuation, I can usually find 4 or 5 different ways to utilise the same piece of information,

    Most people cant do that...And its the one thing you cant teach people to do on a consistent basis. Hence the variable results from information products
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  • Profile picture of the author Manic Marketer
    This is a great post, one of the best I've read on this Forum.

    Also for the fact that it is away from the usual "run-of-the-mill" subjects.
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  • Profile picture of the author Tweety76
    Regardless of what types of expertises, there is no master in this world who will teach u everything that he/she knows. If he teaches u everything that he knows, u may overtake/replace him by doing better than him.
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  • Profile picture of the author roosevelt
    I agree with everything you said. If your core is jacked up, no matter how much money you have or knowledge you have, your creation won't be able to sustain it. Like my man Anthony Robbins says, get wealthy first and then get rich. Another way to say this would be, get rich in your mind and the reality will shift as well . Basically, start living like how you would live if you already had the money. Spending is only part of it, there's a whole pattern of thinking you need to master.
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  • Profile picture of the author phpnetpro
    Nice post Dennis and well said.

    Ryan


    Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

    It's true, they lied to you. There is a secret to all this marketing business, and I'm going to reveal it to you.

    Some of you won't be happy though. It may be something you've kind of overlooked all these years. You may not like that it's not as shiny and sexy as you expected. You may not even believe it is a secret at all because you've had access to it from the beginning.

    It's not really a "secret" so much as it is a secret weapon.

    One of the best things about this secret weapon is that the more you use it, the more powerful it becomes. It's like starting off with a stick match and ending up with a flame thrower!

    This secret weapon is so powerful that all kinds of marketers, advertisers, businesses, and individuals try to seduce you away from using it so you'll keep buying from them.

    This secret weapon is ... your mind.

    That's right. Everything you do starts with a thought. The decisions you make and the actions you take all start off with a thought.

    What you feed your mind determines where you're going in this business and in life. If you want to make the most of it, you need to feed your mind with great ideas. The quality and value of your own ideas will increase when you feed your mind the right thoughts.

    How do you do that?

    Read the great thinkers and motivators. Intelligiants I like to call them. People like Dale Carnegie, Jim Rohn, Earl Nightingale, Zig Ziglar, Napoleon Hill, Og Mandino and others that have stood the test of time.

    Go farther back and read people like Claude M. Bristol and Charles F. Haanel; or go more modern and read thinkers and motivators like Tony Robbins and T Harv Ekers.

    You will only go as high and far as your thoughts take you. That's why your mind is your secret weapon. It trumps all other success factors.

    You think that isn't true? Just look at the history of lottery winners. Nearly all of them end up being back in the same place or worse off than they were before they won. Their old thinking couldn't sustain their new found abundance. Because their thinking didn't change, their reality returned to the level of their thinking.

    Think about that one.

    When your thinking changes, so will your circumstances. Just make sure your thinking changes in ways that you choose. I'm not telling you how to live, I'm just encouraging you to think about how you live. Those butt-numbing passive hours in front of the television aren't likely to take you anywhere you want to go in life, IMO.

    Spend some quiet time alone with your thoughts. You can't improve your thinking if you never practice thinking. For the record, thinking isn't the same as having thoughts. Thinking is what you do after you have a thought. It's probing that thought to see what is hiding inside it. In other words, having a thought is the doorway to actually thinking.

    We seldom walk through that doorway though. We instead opt for diversions. Diversions are easy. Thinking is work.

    And there you have why people are always looking for the shiny magic button. It's easy. Much easier than thinking.

    Do you see my join date for this forum? I've been earning a full-time living online since 1999, long before I discovered the forum. I had no mentor. I had no training. I just did stuff. I thought stuff up and took action. Most of what I did worked.

    I didn't say that to brag. I'm just an average Joe. Or an average Dennis, anyway. No, I say that because I want you to understand that you can do that too. You can carve your own path through the IM jungle.

    If you're not succeeding now, maybe it's because you keep following others instead of leading your own way. Employees follow. Business owners lead. It might just be possible that you'll think your way to success faster than you'll follow someone else to success.

    I'm not supposed to put ideas like that in your head though. You might figure things out for yourself. We can't have that, now can we?

    That's the big secret. Now that you know what it is, what are you going to do with it?
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