My mother is interested in the IM I'm doing but I don't want to show her my website/niche

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I'm in the 'pickup' artist niche. At the moment I've just told her that I'm promoting general 'self help' products as she knows I've studied that in the past (I in fact plan to do this soon too). At first I was able to play off her inquiries as to what progress I've made by saying stuff like it is only lots of articles not worth seeing or that I haven't got anywhere yet.

The more work I do is the harder it is to hide it cos I want to tell her what I'm doing but don't want to tell her I have a website cos then she will want to see it.

What are some ways around this? I don't particularly want to open the can of worms about me having a 'double life' as a 'pickup artist' especially if she is talking to family as it would spring many awkward questions for me- even if I were to try and say I am just promoting the products indirectly (which is something I thought of initially as a possible alibi) rather than being an active member. I think the website itself would betray that I am 'knee deep' in it if anyone were to read the articles . It's not that it is misogynistic or anything it's just alot of the terminology and general philosophy behind it would seem weird/strange to anyone not in it themselves.

Eventually I plan to have more 'politically correct' niches but until then I want some kind of 'cover'. Maybe I'll just begin making another niche as I have other niche ideas and do a frontpage and point her to that if she asks though it isn't ideal. before I get content up for it, guess it's another motivator for a new niche.

Any other ways to tell her what I'm up to while also circumventing so she doesn't want to dig around and see my stuff?

I think she gets now that you have to have a website so sooner or later she will want to see it. What to do?

I don't want to outright lie and show her some website that isn't mine as that would not feel right either. The best thing for my conscience will be having a 'politically correct' niche that I can show her or anyone else so I might just get on that in the near future since it will be easiest long term I think but what about in the short term?
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  • Profile picture of the author Mohsin Rasool
    Simple! Register a good domain name with Self Help keyword relaevance...

    Install simple Wordpress on it.
    Just take SELF help Articles from EzineArticles and post them on the site.

    You have a great looking site with lot of articles in under $10 and in any hour max

    Regards,
    Mohsin
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  • Profile picture of the author smartdoctor
    Hi,
    There so any niches that you can use as example to divert her attention as you build up something else
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  • Profile picture of the author Kevin_Hutto
    Thats funny, from the headline I though you meant that you didn't trust her and thought she would steal it from you :-)
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  • Profile picture of the author Susanrh
    Hi, If you have the hosting, put up another simple site in an innocent looking niche. Unless your mum is really computer savvy she'll be impressed just that you have a site, she won't care how it works. If you can put some adsense on it and tell her that's how you make money. That should keep her happy. I know it would confuse the life out of my mum!

    Susan
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    • Profile picture of the author steadypay
      Originally Posted by Susanrh View Post

      Hi, If you have the hosting, put up another simple site in an innocent looking niche. Unless your mum is really computer savvy she'll be impressed just that you have a site, she won't care how it works. If you can put some adsense on it and tell her that's how you make money. That should keep her happy. I know it would confuse the life out of my mum!

      Susan
      Lol yeah, she just wants to see something 'concrete' to feel proud I guess and see what I'm up to.

      I saw it making her head spin when I began trying to explain all the different parts of IM such as- traffic, SEO, articles, then link to a domain which goes to the direct link which has the sales page etc. etc.
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      • Profile picture of the author ForeignProfessor
        Originally Posted by steadypay View Post

        Lol yeah, she just wants to see something 'concrete' to feel proud I guess and see what I'm up to.

        I saw it making her head spin when I began trying to explain all the different parts of IM such as- traffic, SEO, articles, then link to a domain which goes to the direct link which has the sales page etc. etc.
        To be honest dude, I've never understood why people say stuff like "SEO" or "Clickbank" or "traffic" or "domain" to people who are not net savvy. Just say you write stuff online and get paid by big companies. That's all there is to it. Point at clickbank.com (or whoever you're promoting) and say you write for them if your ma wants a specific website.
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        • Profile picture of the author steadypay
          Originally Posted by ForeignProfessor View Post

          To be honest dude, I've never understood why people say stuff like "SEO" or "Clickbank" or "traffic" or "domain" to people who are not net savvy. Just say you write stuff online and get paid by big companies. That's all there is to it. Point at clickbank.com (or whoever you're promoting) and say you write for them if your ma wants a specific website.
          Right, well it's kind of good and something I'm encouraging (in terms of telling her what I'm doing) cos it's giving her something to see I'm doing (as I was kind of 'aimless' in her eyes for a good while) so want to go into some detail but not TOO much.

          I mean once I give her a good general appraisal of it, inc. a basic website I think she'll then be satisfied and I can give more sparse updates.
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          • Profile picture of the author Doug Wakefield
            Two simple options.

            Option A - Simply create a secondary affiliate site now and get the ball rolling. This obviously needs to be in a different niche, but you can easily make it a related vertical niche. Relationships are huge, no reason you have to leave the broad niche... work in a related niche.

            Option B - Show your mom what you do from the ground up. You can do something you both like, something she likes... or even combine it with A.
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  • Profile picture of the author steadypay
    Ah yea, I was thinking it wouldn't take much time to get another WP up now I know how to do it but the 'borrowing' of other peoples content would save alot of time too.

    This wouldn't be frowned upon so long as I wasn't selling anything would it?

    I mean rewriting the content kinda defeats the object since I only want a cover while I build a legit one- probably I'll use the same one and gradually replace the ezine content with my own good content as I get to writing it and make it a legit niche.
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    • Profile picture of the author Mohsin Rasool
      Originally Posted by steadypay View Post

      Ah yea, I was thinking it wouldn't take much time to get another WP up now I know how to do it but the 'borrowing' of other peoples content would save alot of time too.

      This wouldn't be frowned upon so long as I wasn't selling anything would it?

      I mean rewriting the content kinda defeats the object since I only want a cover while I build a legit one- probably I'll use the same one and gradually replace the ezine content with my own good content as I get to writing it and make it a legit niche.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    Are you serious?

    Your problem is your mother may want to see your website?
    And your niche is "pick up artist" where you write about how to pick up women. Nothing like the voice of experience...

    Amazing, simply amazing.
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    • Profile picture of the author steadypay
      Originally Posted by Kay King View Post


      Amazing, simply amazing.
      Why thank you. I often have been told I'm special.
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    • Profile picture of the author ForeignProfessor
      Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

      Are you serious?

      Your problem is your mother may want to see your website?
      And your niche is "pick up artist" where you write about how to pick up women. Nothing like the voice of experience...

      Amazing, simply amazing.
      I haven't seen his specific website, but I've seen one or two other pickup artist websites. And they go into *detail*. About their pickups. I don't want to get crude, but it can involve a book store leading to 3 people in one room.. and.. so on.

      Now whether it's true or fake, I definitely would not like to show my mother that kind of thing. I'm a chaste (married with child) virgin. And my mother will never know any different. And I'm not even a pickup artist.
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      • Profile picture of the author steadypay
        Originally Posted by ForeignProfessor View Post

        I haven't seen his specific website, but I've seen one or two other pickup artist websites. And they go into *detail*. About their pickups. I don't want to get crude, but it can involve a book store leading to 3 people in one room.. and.. so on.

        Now whether it's true or fake, I definitely would not like to show my mother that kind of thing. I'm a chaste (married with child) virgin. And my mother will never know any different. And I'm not even a pickup artist.
        You get the idea

        She is happy (very in fact since I was a very late bloomer hence my personal involvement in the niche ) to hear when I'm seeing a girl but doesn't wanna know all the technical details of what went on under the hood to get her .
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  • Profile picture of the author Floyd Fisher
    So help her start something of her own...so she can see what you're doing without revealing the niche you're in.

    Or tell her the truth....you're keeping it secret...so nobody copies you.
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