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Have you ever felt like leaving WF forever?

by Joshua Rigley Banned
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Everyone goes through rough times sometimes, and we all have bad days. But sometimes, something happens that just really ticks you off. Like a member who is constantly being a jerk to you. Or putting a lot of effort into a thread, only to have it deleted and you have no idea why. Or getting into an argument and having other people "gang up" on you. Sometimes these things make you want to leave and never come back.

I've had experiences like that before, some on this forum, many on others. Sometimes it's not even something that just makes you angry, though. It's things like wasting a lot of time reading threads. Or just getting stuck and not knowing what to do, because there's so many answers and so much information for one simple question.

Have you ever felt this way before?
#felt #forever #leaving
  • Profile picture of the author pdrs
    Unfortunately stuff like that happens on almost every message board everywhere. It's almost as bad as high-school. Worrying too much about people on message boards is like playing pool with a rope - that is to say, fairly useless.

    There are so many great resources here that it definitely outweighs the problems you mention. Although I do know about the "time suck" factor. Just try to limit your time to a few minutes a day, don't get drawn into arguments, and appreciate the good stuff!
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  • Profile picture of the author Matt Morgan
    Originally Posted by Joshua Rigley View Post

    Everyone goes through rough times sometimes, and we all have bad days. But sometimes, something happens that just really ticks you off. Like a member who is constantly being a jerk to you. Or putting a lot of effort into a thread, only to have it deleted and you have no idea why. Or getting into an argument and having other people "gang up" on you. Sometimes these things make you want to leave and never come back.

    I've had experiences like that before, some on this forum, many on others. Sometimes it's not even something that just makes you angry, though. It's things like wasting a lot of time reading threads. Or just getting stuck and not knowing what to do, because there's so many answers and so much information for one simple question.

    Have you ever felt this way before?
    Cyber bullying happens in different forms, even on facebook.

    I find that watching waht you say, not making enemies, helping others with posts + info will help to avoid this. But it depends for each case.

    I was once told, if you don't look for trouble, trouble wont look for you.
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    • Profile picture of the author Joe Stewart
      Originally Posted by Matt Morgan View Post

      Cyber bullying happens in different forms, even on facebook.

      I find that watching waht you say, not making enemies, helping others with posts + info will help to avoid this. But it depends for each case.

      I was once told, if you don't look for trouble, trouble wont look for you.
      This is a great point. There've been times when I've expressed my opinion on a topic where I regretted it afterward, but once it's done, it's done.

      There are always going to be those that think differently and sometimes it can do a lot more harm than good in the long run - especially if you're trying to make friends and/or potential business partners.

      That being said, there are always going to be jerks that attack you first. Some people are just that way. When that happens, do your best to bite your tongue and try to remember these helpful posts.

      Now, I'm off to practice what I preach. lol

      Don't let anyone steal your joy, bro.

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  • Profile picture of the author TiffLee
    Yeah, for the most part just let the negative-nancies go to the wayside. They aren't worth your time and, most likely, their own.

    Just keep reminding yourself what an excellent resource a place like this is and you'll forget the "big shot gurus" who like to put other people down.
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    • Profile picture of the author Joe Stewart
      Originally Posted by TiffLee View Post

      Yeah, for the most part just let the negative-nancies go to the wayside. They aren't worth your time and, most likely, their own.

      Just keep reminding yourself what an excellent resource a place like this is and you'll forget the "big shot gurus" who like to put other people down.
      Hi Tiff,

      I agree with 99.9% of everything you said, except the part about the "big shot gurus" who like to put other people down.

      For one thing I never heard him say it was a "guru" that got to him. If he did, my apologies. I must have missed it. I just know that a jerk is a jerk and it doesn't necessarily have to be a so called "guru".

      Also, I've been to a couple seminars and met some of these so called "guru's". From what I've seen these are just successful men and women that put their pants on one leg at a time just like everyone else. There are DEFINITELY those that are full of themselves and don't have much time for "the little guy", even though you may have paid several hundred bucks or more for admission, but there are others that I found to be polite, patient, willing to help and very down to earth.

      I can understand where you're coming from...to a point, but it really doesn't seem fair to classify every successful person that way. Does that make sense?

      By the way, I do NOT mean to offend. lol

      Peace,

      Joe :-)
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      • Profile picture of the author TiffLee
        Originally Posted by Joe Stewart View Post

        Hi Tiff,

        I agree with 99.9% of everything you said, except the part about the "big shot gurus" who like to put other people down.

        For one thing I never heard him say it was a "guru" that got to him. If he did, my apologies. I must have missed it. I just know that a jerk is a jerk and it doesn't necessarily have to be a so called "guru".

        Also, I've been to a couple seminars and met some of these so called "guru's". From what I've seen these are just successful men and women that put their pants on one leg at a time just like everyone else. There are DEFINITELY those that are full of themselves and don't have much time for "the little guy", even though you may have paid several hundred bucks or more for admission, but there are others that I found to be polite, patient, willing to help and very down to earth.

        I can understand where you're coming from...to a point, but it really doesn't seem fair to classify every successful person that way. Does that make sense?

        By the way, I do NOT mean to offend. lol

        Peace,

        Joe :-)
        No offense taken. I'm sorry if I came across as lumping "gurus" together into one big jerk community.

        Most people who come down on another, especially in a forum setting such as this, usually have an ego problem though.
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        • Profile picture of the author Tom B
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          I like to take time from posting when the negativity gets to me.
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          • Profile picture of the author Michael Mayo
            Originally Posted by Thomas Belknap View Post

            I like to take time from posting when the negativity gets to me.
            Thomas, Don't get me started! :rolleyes:

            Here, let me Help.



            Hurry...and I'll set it back on the hole.

            Have a Great Day!
            Michael
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  • Profile picture of the author Roaddog
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    Hang in there Joshua, give it a couple of years and you'll be laughing at that stuff


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    • Profile picture of the author Resale Rights Ninja
      Group hug!
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      • Profile picture of the author Michael Mayo
        Originally Posted by Resale Rights Ninja View Post

        Group hug!
        Dude, Get your hands off of me!

        Have a Great Day!
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      • Profile picture of the author Sheryl Polomka
        Originally Posted by Resale Rights Ninja View Post

        Group hug!
        lol

        I have had these moments too Josh and found that it's best to turn off the computer and get away for a while. Take a break, go for a walk and try not to let things get to you personally. It's difficult, but it's possible

        Try not to worry about what other people think or say, as long as you believe in what you are doing then just take the best advice people give and brush off the rest. Sometimes it's just best to walk away and just let it go.
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        • Profile picture of the author Michael Mayo
          Originally Posted by Sheryl Polomka View Post

          lol

          I have had these moments too Josh and found that it's best to turn off the computer and get away for a while. Take a break, go for a walk and try not to let things get to you personally. It's difficult, but it's possible

          Try not to worry about what other people think or say, as long as you believe in what you are doing then just take the best advice people give and brush off the rest. Sometimes it's just best to walk away and just let it go.
          And after you hit it big THEN, come back and crush their arses in every niche they get involved in...lol...Muhahahah J/K

          Sorry, Couldn't resist the temptation...

          Have a Great Day!
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  • Profile picture of the author Marvin Johnston
    I've gotten to the point where I can give out at least as much as I receive ... assuming I get properly motivated .

    That (getting into a p**sing match) doesn't apply to deleted posts/threads here though ... that is a function of the forum rules/mods and best not tick them off!

    But in general, you will find that it is just not worth it. One of the best ways I've heard of for handling such things is to consider the source as "what an interesting creature ... and it can type too" ... and then ignore it .

    Marvin
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  • Profile picture of the author Mike Grant
    Probably at least once per month
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  • Profile picture of the author JTzor
    Hey Man

    You wanna hear something funny?

    I posted a thread on here maybe a week ago. I Posted a Question as the title of the thread - it was "Does Sex Really Sell?" or something very similar.

    Inside the thread, i wrote that the thread would not be about sex selling, instead I wanted folks to go to the Kim Winfrey thread to help him with his kidney transplant.
    I had about 50 or so views total. I go back to check it, and it was gone.

    That kinda sucked, since I was just trying to help a fellow warrior who was in need.

    What can you do - sometimes the mods do what they want to do - can't fault them and cant get angry - just move on and enjoy what matters - words can never defeat you my friend, only you can - dont psyche yourself out.

    From the looks of things the power and energy you are sharing with friendly warriors trumps the negativity of some bozos

    Warmest Regards,

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    • Profile picture of the author Alan Petersen
      We all get crabby and say/post things we regret.

      But if you're having these issues on other forums dunno... maybe you need to take a look at how you're coming off. Maybe it's you.

      I've been slapped around here before but after a cooling down period, I was like damn, I deserved it.

      And to answer your question. Forever? No. But I have taken time off.
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  • Profile picture of the author mikeroosa
    I often feel like I spend too much time on here and not enough time working.
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    • Profile picture of the author Michael Mayo
      Originally Posted by mikeroosa View Post

      I often feel like I spend too much time on here and not enough time working.
      Mike, Go with your gut feeling...

      Have a Great Day!
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      • Profile picture of the author panduari
        Originally Posted by Michael Mayo View Post

        Mike, Go with your gut feeling...
        yea.... go with your feeling...
        and don't quick-tempered in doing business
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  • Profile picture of the author healingoasis
    I often feel like that, but then I feel I will miss it too much...
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  • Profile picture of the author Mark Jordan
    Yes, I have those moments but still the benefits outweighs the troubles/disadvantages. And it is on those moments that I try to be productive on other things instead of letting those stuff affect me.
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  • Profile picture of the author Tsnyder
    Hey... it's all just pixels on a screen... no need to take any of it personally.

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  • Profile picture of the author clever7
    I never had any sad experience at the Warrior forum. However, I'm not a marketer. This helps me have a neutral position. I’m only a business owner. I give a few lessons about internet marketing, but I’m not in a position of someone who comes to this forum to teach something smart to everyone else. If I know something, I help someone. Otherwise, I read other posts. My position here is neutral.

    However, whenever I visit forums about my topic – mental health – I’m attacked many times. I always answer to all attacks, maintaining a dialogue. There are too many people in many forums. People with sick minds, people who don’t think about being at least polite, etc. We cannot expect to be respected in forums. Some people are very offensive.

    I love the warrior forum because this forum is about making money, and not about curing serious health problems. For me the atmosphere here is nice and light. Everyone is very friendly, and everyone treats me well. Nobody is judging my work, nobody is criticizing my words, and nobody is afraid that I could be a spammer or something like that. In my field whatever you do is considered as ‘spam’. Ads and links are not allowed, and there are many other complications…
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  • Profile picture of the author CDarklock
    Originally Posted by Joshua Rigley View Post

    Sometimes these things make you want to leave and never come back.
    Grow up.

    Seriously, that's my advice. Yeah, I've been there. When I was about half my current age, which would have made me about your age.

    I trashed my reputation on a lot of forums I'd now really like to still be on today. After all, I was leaving and never coming back. I burned the bridge. In retrospect, not a good idea.

    Always remember: this, too, shall pass.

    Originally Posted by Joe Stewart View Post

    except the part about the "big shot gurus" who like to put other people down.

    I took the quotes to mean they're not big shot gurus, but would like to pretend they are. And the problem isn't that they're gurus (which I believe she's suggesting they're not, anyway), but that they like to put other people down.


    And under that interpretation, I can get behind that sentiment. There are a lot of non-gurus trying to "fake it till they make it" and claim they are gurus. (Certain people think I'm one of them.) Many of them are haughty, dismissive, belligerent, and don't know their arse from their elbow. I don't like those people.
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  • Profile picture of the author algarve
    Know how you feel, But some people join these forums as nothing better to do , I am on other forums and notice those that cause trouble have loads of posts to there name but little or few threads, this tells you they are out for trouble, just ignore them they soon go away. and pick on someone else, all the best
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  • Profile picture of the author peteuniverse
    I'm totally new here so i can't say any of that happened to me...
    generally my best advice to you is to try and stay positive and disregards mean people or bad things... i know it's not easy but it is the only proven method to stay productive and happy.

    Cheers to you!!
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  • Profile picture of the author BIG Mike
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    Except for spammers and certain troublemakers, I don't think anyone leaves the WF forever. I don't spend anywhere near the amount of time here that I used to, for a variety of reasons - I think in the last year I've posted maybe 7 or 8 times.

    I suspect if you feel that way you need to take a break away from it and then limit the time you spend here in the future. Bear in mind it's not the WF that's causing you to feel that way - it's specific members.

    Why punish yourself by giving up the WF (assuming it's helping you) because some members are jerks?
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    • Profile picture of the author affilcrazy
      This

      Originally Posted by BIG Mike View Post

      Why punish yourself by giving up the WF (assuming it's helping you) because some members are jerks?
      And this!

      Originally Posted by CDarklock View Post

      I burned the bridge. In retrospect, not a good idea.

      Always remember: this, too, shall pass.
      I'm sure pretty much everyone has had days where they want to curl up in a ball and blow away any named forum or online community into oblivion. Unfortunately, it's just a fact of life.

      Some people act differently online to the way they do in "real life", and decide it's in their best interest to be far more obnoxious. Others need to have an opinion on just about anything, and of course their opinion is always right, and everyone else must be wrong!

      There are people who love to troll, argue, pick a fight, etc. (and they may even act like this in the offline world). And then we have people who take everything that is ever said personally. If the WF is helping, enhancing or improving your business, then definitely don't "burn your bridges" (thanks Caliban). People are just different...what may seem like perfectly normal behaviour to one individual is outrageous and uncalled for to another.

      Take some time out, relax, chill, rise above it, and don't take it personally. And above all, it is simply an online community (a great one at that), there are far more important things to worry about/concentrate on in life!

      Cheers
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  • Profile picture of the author Raydal
    Some perspective: What's the divorce rate in America?

    You mean people who promise in writing and before God
    to love each other walk away many times hating each
    other instead.

    What can you expect from a bunch of 'strangers' hanging
    out in cyberspace? Sometimes we expect too much and
    so get hurt in the process.

    WF is not very different from life anywhere.

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  • Profile picture of the author webjedi
    This is the best forum I have seen and ever bothered to be a functioning member of.

    The value of this forum is vast vast vast, leaving this forum would be like taking your title tag off your money site hahaha

    There are going to be jerks everywhere, even in the coffee shop or grocery store.

    Getting overwhelmed with info happens ready for this-> DAILY for me on here. Step back, add some backlinks to your sites... watch a youtube.. kiss your significant other.. then come back to WF.

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    • Profile picture of the author MandoThrasher
      There are probably many frustrated and desperate members on this site. I can see how that might contribute to occasional hostility.

      I started a music-related forum several years ago and it grew to over 10,000 members. I was always amazed at the way "adults" intentionally annoyed each other. I bet I got at least one email a day from someone that had their feelings hurt by another member. So, I put it back in the members hands and wrote a system that let members vote other members off the board. That worked well for a little while :p I ended up selling the site to get rid of the headaches.

      I found that if someone personally attacks you, it's best to let it roll off your back. Sometimes the other members will even come to your defense. Another problem with this form of communication is that the tone is often misinterpreted. I suppose that's why they invented smilies
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  • Profile picture of the author Larkrise
    sometimes my lovely (that is said in Essex speak not old lady speak) - you need to speak kindly and confidently to yourself and drown out the noise of others - when the voice inside your head is usually positive, you wont even hear them

    so first I sort your own head out and second, if someone attacks you ask yourself what is making them so unhappy in their life, imagine something terrible has happened to them and they just cant help themselves - pat them on the head and move on - if people gang up on you

    well, they are revealing that they are the really sensitive bunch - they dont have the emotional power to stand alone so they wait until a group emerges and join in - sad really
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