Do You Like To See Other People Succeed?

by Jonathan 2.0

Posted: 15 years ago 32 replies

INTERNET MARKETING

A) Yes
B) No
C) I'm A Liar

Generally speaking (and on this forum) I love to see other people succeed. And I pretty much always have done. I don't get jealous or competitive because I'm busy creating an amazing life for myself. Often seeing other people succeed gives me great inspiration. I'm not perfect though. Sometimes I get a twinge of insecurity however it never manifests into anything external because I know what it's like for people not to be happy for you when you're succeeding.

For me there's nothing better than reading an "underdog" or "rags to riches" story where someone overcame great challenges and created an amazing life for themselves. In fact that reminds me - I'm going to start collecting stories like that.

Unfortunately I know that many people are different. I've even seen people on this forum who are like that. It's often very subtle and it makes me feel disappointed because I hoped that people on here would be different than the average person. I don't expect many people to answer the poll truthfully unless they're like me and really do love to see other people succeed.

I suppose it was the make a point more than anything.

So do you like to see other people succeed? Are you genuinely happy for them? And what's your opinion on people who are jealous, insecure, and competitive? Are they less likely to succeed at the amazing game of life?

#people #succeed

R Hagel 15 years ago

Are you genuinely happy for them?

Absolutely. There's no reason I shouldn't be genuinely happy. My next answer will further explain this...

And what's your opinion on people who are jealous, insecure, and competitive?

Couple reason why people might feel that way:

1) Anger can be useful (for a moment) to show us what we SHOULD be doing. So anyone who gets momentarily angry can allow that feeling to guide them to what they need to be doing.

Example: if "Jack" reads that "John" made $100k in one day and that post makes Jack angry, then that's an indicator that Jack should start taking action towards making $100k per day.

(Of course Jack needs to let the anger go after he realizes its source, because anger just eats folks up.)

2) Sometimes people get angry at themselves more than anything. Again, a big indicator that they should be taking action towards some specific goal.

3) Sometimes people get angry, competitive and jealous because they don't have an abundance mindset. Jack thinks that if John is making a boatload of money, that somehow John's enormous income is cutting into Jack's income.

(This is also related to responsibility -- people place blame for their own failings on everyone and everything else... but themselves.)

That mindset happens if people see income as a "pie" with only so many pieces. Jack sees John take a bigger piece than is his "fair share," so Jack thinks that means he'll therefore get a smaller piece because there's not enough pie left.

What Jack doesn't realize is we can just bake another pie... and he can have as many pies as he wants.

Those are just a few ideas.

Cheers,
Becky
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- Bai_Mike 15 years ago
  
  Truthfully, no.
  
  It is difficult to say at the first glance that there isn't an immediate amount of jealousy. It is after all, moral. Heck, if I didn't first see success that others are getting, I would not have wanted to do so and it would be good enough to stay mediocre (which is not bad).
  
  The best however, would be that to be just passionate in what you do, and nothing else matters, not even money or other people's success. Just that at times, you are really required to make money besides passion too.
  
  Those that really like to see other people succeed can become teachers, which I feel is a good move to teach and actively help others succeed once you have gotten success yourself.
  
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TLTheLiberator 15 years ago

Why not?

There's plenty of room for successful people when it comes to conducting and online based business.

Over the last 2 years I have had 6 figure success in niches that have nothing to do with showing people how to make money online.

I'm seriously sad for people that get caught up with mlm and the other recruiting people stuff that never make any money.

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- ShayB 15 years ago
  
  I love success stories!
  
  However, given my preference, I would rather hear the smaller success stories than the huge ones.
  
  To me, the joy you hear in threads that talk about their first $100 or $200 day, etc., just jumps off of the screen! You can feel the excitement!!!
  
  I enjoy hearing the huge amounts, too, but the excitement (for me) is not the same.
  
  I also love to watch the progress of members - their first $10, their first $50 day, their first.....whatever it might be. To me, that is so exciting!!!!
  
  So, yes, I really do feel happy for people when they post about success!
  
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ryanman 15 years ago

I love it...In fact I personally guide people to succeed. And NO I am not lying.
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TheRealDomainer 15 years ago

In absolute YES.
Note: If you are a creative Internet Marketer, You give out what you create in exchange for money to live life.

If you see money as the ultimate why you create product and succeed, there is going to be a problem with you soonest.

But if you have the desire for people to succeed as your first focus, then there will be overflow.

Now, it is healthy to be jealous for those who want to be. But being possitevly jealous will spur a jealous man to be like a success too.

Negative jealousy breeds anger. And this will not lead to anywhere.

The truth is that we are all blessed with creative elements and anyone can be successful by implementing what is a blueprint.
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- Jonathan 2.0 15 years ago
  
  Such a brilliant collection of responses. I've never thought about people using jealousy as motivation for them to accomplish more however I think that's excellent. It's the people who deliberately try and keep other people down (because they don't want them getting a head) which sometimes annoys me. Then again I suppose if you don't piss someone off every day you're doing something wrong! Thanks for the great responses so far, particularly you, Becky, because that was very insightful.
  
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  Paul Myers 15 years ago
  
  Absolutely! I love to see people happy and excited about anything positive.
  
  I was talking to a friend a while back. He was planning a move to New York City, and you should have heard the guy. He was like a kid at a party, and every cultural opportunity was a new gift to unwrap and play with.
  
  That felt like Christmas to me.
  
  Success in something you've worked at is the same way. I love hearing those stories for the same reason.
  
  What makes me mad is when some idiot tries to steal that from another person. That is among the worst things you can do, in my opinion.
  
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Tron2k 15 years ago

i try to help someone each day.
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John Taylor 15 years ago

Other people's success can be a great motivator
in two ways..

1. It can show you the level of success that is
achieveable.

2. It can spur you to do better, to compete, and
the other person's level of success can also act
as a benchmark to aim for.

I'm also quite happy to learn from other people's
failures too! Why re-invent the broken wheel?

John
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- Paul Myers 15 years ago
  
  John,
  
  I'm also quite happy to learn from other people's failures too! Why re-invent the broken wheel?
  
  True. Knowing you, though, I'd bet you try and help them fix it, too.
  
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carlos_a 15 years ago

I enjoy knowing there are other people having success.
Some people stand from the side lines and never get into action.

As long as people know that there is no product, ground floor ,breakthrough
product that is going to make you rich.

You need to have the right mindset,set goals,take massive action, and have the proper knowledge to break through any obstacle.

Those are the success stories I love to hear and read about.
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Daniel E Taylor 15 years ago

Here's a secret that helped enlighten me.

Q. How do you know you've made it?

A. The day you realize that you never
had to make anything. In reality you're already
whole and fullfilled in this exact moment.

You are not lacking anything in this exact moment.

It's all in your mind dreaming about the future that's
always in the future, or the past.

But the truth is in this exact moment is where your riches
lies, where all your hopes live, and what you "think" is the future.

It's not the future. It's right now. As soon as you take the actions
necessary. That's right ACTION. But you can't take action day dreaming
about the future.

Most peoples minds create the illusion of lack and unfullfillment, so
what you think you're manifesting "wealth, health, etc..." you really
aren't. What you are really manifesting is the feeling of not having them
and wanting them.

In other words, you will always be "Chasing your dreams"... Not living them.

The only time you can CREATE is in the now. This moment.
So the secret to taking action is to focus on this moment and
doing what needs to be done, and moving to the next moment by
moment.

Everytime you catch yourself daydreaming about "Future"
come back to the now moment, and take action.

So what does this have to do with this thread?

Well once you figure this out and you realize
you're not your mind but the eternal spirit within
and you can create anything.

You are fullfilled and seeing others succeed it where
you really get pleasure.

And let me say that when I say "you" I have done
no scientific study. I'm just going off of my
own experiences. So this is just my OPINION. not fact.

Daniel
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Charann Miller 15 years ago

I love success stories because it proves that if someone has achieved it, it can be done. I find them inspiring especially if they came from the most desperate of circumstances and defied the odds, it gives me no absolutely no excuses to be as successful.
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lennelljones 15 years ago

Yes, and I try to share what I know and have learned.

My Life's Ambition: I have decided to help as many people as possible and to be a positive influence in their lives. It inspires me when others do well.

However, you have to be careful as some people do not really want help. They would rather you do the work for them so they reap the benefits.
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- Dave Friend 15 years ago
  
  I especially love hearing from people who are succeeding. It not only gives one hope they can achieve the same levels of success, but more often than not there is a lot you can learn from how these people have achieved their independence, and modify their techniques to suit your own styles.
  
  I'm a passionate follow of Zig Ziglar and believe there is a lot of wisdom in his quotes, one of which tells us you can get what you want if only you help others get what they want! What a fantastic philosophy!
  
  I personally love the stories I hear on this forum and I'm genuinely happy for all those who share here. I think the WF is a wonderful community, thank you for having me.
  
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ecoverartist 15 years ago

It's like a big high to me. I love reading other people's success stories. Motivates me to go out there and create one of my own!

I read a great quote the other day that said something like "There is no point in your life where you can say 'I'm successful now, might as well go take a nap.."
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- docudrama 15 years ago
  
  Of course I am happy to see others succeed. First of all, the majority of people are not doers. These people will never do more than be an internet user.
  
  Those who take action and become publishers/contentproviders/whatever will always be a very tiny minority. Therefore there will always be many more marketees than marketers.
  
  The online world is so huge there is room for all of us to prosper. So long as billions USE the net there is opportunity for millions to MAKE MONEY on the net.
  
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Tsnyder 15 years ago

I love reading the small success stories because it
shows me that anyone can do it.

I love reading the BIG success stories because it
shows me what's possible.

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- Hesaidblissfully 15 years ago
  
  Yes.
  
  Part of being successful is identifying with other successful people. If you resent their success, then a part of you will always feel insecure about your own.
  
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ericthered 15 years ago

I love reading about newbie success stories, first sale or whatever, because I haven't gotten there and it encourages me to KEEP on TRYING !
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ryon1 15 years ago

I like to hear people's success story.
It inspire me to work harder.
But I have to admit, sometimes I feel jealous as well.
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Roderick Armstrong 15 years ago

It is a very thought provoking question because there are clearly people who don't want to see others succeed for one sad reason or another.

The reason I do like to see others succeed is because it serves as further encouragement that we can all succeed and more importantly help others who want to better their lives.

So, put me down as a solid and enthusiastic "yes".
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BrianMcLeod 15 years ago

In order to be a truly great musician, you must first and foremost, be a genuine lover of music and a great FAN of other players.

For reasons I will never fully comprehend, far too many newbies and even people who post regularly right here on the warrior forum reveal themselves to have an inherent disdain for successful marketing... WTF?

They are relegating themselves to being the never-was guitar player at the back of the club watching the band onstage with his arms crossed, whispering to his buddy.

If more people approached marketing like playing music, they'd realize that it's not only OK to be excited by others' great performance, it's NECESSARY for you to become the best marketer you can be.

Brian
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- Paul Myers 15 years ago
  
  Brian,
  
  Music always makes for an interesting analogy.
  
  Suppose you're a fan of Miles Davis or Travis Tritt. How likely are you to appreciate gangsta rap? Much of what is done in marketing these days is closer to the latter than the former.
  
  Style matters. Matching it to your market matters more.
  
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  BrianMcLeod 15 years ago
  
  Originally Posted by Paul Myers
  
  Brian,
  
  Music always makes for an interesting analogy.
  
  I think so too. : )
  
  Suppose you're a fan of Miles Davis or Travis Tritt. How likely are you to appreciate gangsta rap?
  
  Gangsta rap has plenty of innovative and creative musicians and producers who push the envelope and should be paid attention to if you love making great sounding records like I do.
  
  Dr. Dre is perhaps one of the most successful producers EVER. You don't have to even LIKE rap music to understand and appreciate his genius.
  
  Do you play music, by the way? I thought I spotted a 6 string in the background of one of your photos once upon a time...
  
  Much of what is done in marketing these days is closer to the latter than the former.
  
  Style matters. Matching it to your market matters more.
  
  Paul
  
  I won't argue with that but I will say that there is something to be learned from all successful marketing -- if even just to understand how and why it works in a given market.
  
  Thanks, Paul. Your brain is maybe my most favorite around these parts...
  
  Happy New Year, pal.
  
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  Paul Myers 15 years ago
  
  Brian,
  
  Perhaps I wasn't clear. I am not the market for songs about killing cops and beating women, and that's a lot of what I consider gangsta rap to be.
  
  Is some of that music innovative? Absolutely. So was Charlie Manson. That doesn't mean I am going to appreciate it. Appealing to baser drives is almost always a profitable approach.
  
  On the flip side, if you'll pardon an old guy pun, is stuff like Jay-Z's, "American Gangster." A very different thing. The same story, but a different telling.
  
  Most of the real innovation in music these days seems to come from the hip-hop scene, which is a much broader and richer world than just the violent crap. As a genre, hip-hop artists are better at telling a story that connects with their audience than anything outside of country music.
  
  Reading this thread, I think I may be an oddity. I don't find inspiration in someone else's success. I just enjoy it because it's there. I like to see people deservedly happy, and I enjoy the beauty of almost anything done well.
  
  When I see 3 or 5 successive OTOs' with buttons at the bottom that read like, "Yes, I know I'm a moron to pass up this life-changing opportunity," I don't consider that good marketing. I consider it casual rudeness, and disdain for the customer who just trusted you with their money.
  
  I don't see that as something to admire.
  
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  PS: No, on the guitar playing. I think you're remembering someone else's picture. I had a sword in the background of one. Does that count?
  
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ebizza 15 years ago

Yes. It's all great to see others succeed and see that we can all take a piece of the pie.
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Johnnyboy83 15 years ago

Yes I love to see people succeed because it motivates me to get my act together and stop procrastinating. Even though sometimes I'll feel a little bitter inside, Like why am I not seeing that much success.
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whitewindow2009 15 years ago

Honestly my answer cannot be given in Yes or No. I am a normal person with normal feelings and truth is no matter how big my heart is, but if someone is succeeding more than me in my own field then i do feel jealous from that person. I appreciate the hardwork and the intelligence with which people attain success and I learn from every person around me but at the same time if there is someone specifically in my area of interest or in my work field who is at a higher level than me but is of same age, i do feel how, when and where about that individual.
Hence i would say, I always have mixed feelings. I feel happy and lucky that i got a chance to meet someone like him and learn from him but simultaneously within myself i also have this desire of outnumbering him and achieving much more than him.
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Scott Ames 15 years ago

Is it possible to be happy to see someone succeed yet be jealous at the same time?
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write-stuff 15 years ago

Count me in with the group that loves to see other people succeed (unless they're competitors). I have purely selfish reasons for reveling in the success of others. It proves that innovative ideas and techniques can still pull success out of the ether. And that is great news for everyone!

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