by tpw
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I promise you that it is not my fault...





If we cannot blame the guru's, the newbies, or me, who can we blame?

Whose fault is it?

The reality is that when people fail, they look for someone to blame.

And when they succeed, they always take credit for what they have done.

Disconnect!!

Do you do that too? Do you accept credit for success and pass the blame for failure?

LOL

Either we are in control of our lives, or we are not in control of our lives...

If you are not in control of your life, shouldn't someone else be responsible for your failures and your successes?

And vice versa...

If you are in control of your life, shouldn't YOU be responsible for your successes and your failures?

It has been my experience that success always comes to those who "accept responsibility" for all of their outcomes, both positive and negative.

So, are you committed to accepting responsibility for your life, your actions, your successes AND your failures?

Or are you going to continue passing the buck to others?


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  • Profile picture of the author sal64
    Frankly, I blame your parents.
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  • Profile picture of the author Suthan M
    I was looking at it just now, and was saying to myself "what an irony both the threads are beside each other". :-)

    Great thread Bill :-D
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  • Profile picture of the author Rach72
    I was just going to start a thread along the same lines!

    Cut it out people!

    If you are tired of people not taking responsibility for their actions then don't answer the thread

    If you don't want to be lambasted as a newbie along for the ride, do some research in the forum first

    If you don't like a WSO then don't buy it

    Grow up and grow a pair - the rest of us are trying to work.

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  • Profile picture of the author mikemcmillan
    It's a matter of bad genetics, Bill.

    I've got an extra chromosome floating around, rearing its ugly head now and again--wreaking havoc on my plans for ultra-success.

    Seriously, the gurus feed the newbies exactly the red meat they crave. It takes a while, but sooner or later they catch on. It's a symbiotic relationship: the gurus need the newbies to survive and the newbies need the gurus to fuel their dreams.

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  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    Sorry, bill, just skimmed it - did you say you need a buck???

    I blame the 200+ threads in the main section that tell us everything from MySpace to IM is "dead". Well, ok, they were right about MySpace...but....

    I blame the dead things.
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  • Profile picture of the author Rod Cortez
    By default, Bill, I always blame you.

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    Great post, might send this out to my subscribers! Thanks man
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  • Profile picture of the author tigerwar
    AAAAAAH...I understand

    If they knew that he knew that we knew what he knew and others knew that he knew he didn't know that they Knew that he didn't know what he thought he knew. then they are obviously to blame....


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  • Profile picture of the author azmanar
    I blame Sal64. No one else.
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      I blame the academics. :p

      Originally Posted by azmanar View Post

      I blame Sal64. No one else.
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      • Profile picture of the author azmanar
        Originally Posted by sal64 View Post

        I blame the academics. :p
        hahahaha ... you sure have a good memory about our previous conversations.

        Since, you're an academic, you're blaming yourself.
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        • Profile picture of the author sal64
          Originally Posted by azmanar View Post

          hahahaha ... you sure have a good memory about our previous conversations.

          Since, you're an academic, you're blaming yourself.
          Incorrect... I am an entrepreneur.

          Ok, so we register a domain name like PutTheBlameOnMe.com

          We set up a small site where people can have a rant and blame me for $1.00.

          They get to vent on line for whatever they want to... just to get it off their chest.

          Go figure.

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            • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
              Originally Posted by Frank Donovan View Post

              I blame it on the boogie.
              Since one of my sites is BoogieJack.com, I don't think I like your comment, Frank.


              Seriously though, despite all the jokes in this thread, that's a good post, Bill. Until people own their failures, their successes are likely to be very limited and/or far between. Failures are instructive, and in many ways, a shortcut to success.

              A failure to own your failures is another failure.
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    Originally Posted by tpw View Post

    I promise you that it is not my fault...


    That's hilarious.
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  • Profile picture of the author Aaron Doud
    Sadly we live in a world where people do not take personal responsibility. I wish people did. I think we all know someone who treats everyone around themselves like crap and then they wonder why people don't like them or call them on it.

    In my years of management I will even say that people don't always take responsibility for the good either. Especially when they don't know it is good. For example someone put candy in a bucket with a sign on the register. It helped sales and weas a great idea. I asked who did it and no one said they did till I mentioned i loved the idea and even then they came forward tentitively. People simply like to fade into the background.

    It's part of the reason why most people are followers and not leaders. A leader will choose his own path even if it means going alone.
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  • Profile picture of the author Ryan David
    Both those threads should end with ".....but don't let them off the hook either"

    I think it was only a matter of time before you get the "Revenge of the Newbie" type threads. Sometimes a newbie needs to get a reality check, but other times it seems like people are just being self-righteous in their responses.

    Like for instance Bill, when you posted your question about "Income Goals" yesterday. Some people chimed in saying "See, if you're thinking about income, then you're not really serious about business". I get the point, but come on...it's a simple question.

    I think sometimes people need to just give the newbies a break. There's always a progression in your business, but sometimes you just need to hustle and get your feet off the ground first. And in the process of hustling, you're asking a lot of questions and trying a lot of things out.
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  • Profile picture of the author timpears
    lordauric is right. No one wants to take responsibility for their actions and results any more. What ever happens to you in life is due to some decision you made earlier. If you don't succeed, it is due to something you did wrong.

    I have been complaining a lot lately about I can't get my sites ranked. I am not sure what I am doing wrong, but it has to be something I am doing as no one else has anything to do with it. I make all the decisions. I will figure it out sooner or later, but until then I will whine and keep trying to do more things to get my sites ranked.

    If you look in the mirror, and be honest with yourself. Do what needs to be done, you will succeed eventually. As long as you don't give up. My wife tells me that I quit before I succeed. I think there may be some truth to this as I get board if I am not seeing any results. I just have to keep on keeping on, until I succeed. Only I am responsible.
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    • Profile picture of the author azmanar
      Originally Posted by timpears View Post

      lordauric is right. No one wants to take responsibility for their actions and results any more. What ever happens to you in life is due to some decision you made earlier. If you don't succeed, it is due to something you did wrong.

      I have been complaining a lot lately about I can't get my sites ranked. I am not sure what I am doing wrong, but it has to be something I am doing as no one else has anything to do with it. I make all the decisions. I will figure it out sooner or later, but until then I will whine and keep trying to do more things to get my sites ranked.

      If you look in the mirror, and be honest with yourself. Do what needs to be done, you will succeed eventually. As long as you don't give up. My wife tells me that I quit before I succeed. I think there may be some truth to this as I get board if I am not seeing any results. I just have to keep on keeping on, until I succeed. Only I am responsible.
      But Tim.. you can always blame Google.

      And why not.
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Mayo
    Originally Posted by tpw View Post

    I promise you that it is not my fault...



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    Bill, actually it is your fault.
    I've tried many times to click the links above and none of them work.

    Well, I guess you're going to blame it on your screen capture program...

    Have a Great Day!
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  • Profile picture of the author user name 666
    If someone took advantage of me psychologically, that would probably be my fault

    If someone used hacking tools or some kind of brute force to take advantage of me, that would probably be their fault.

    the blame game is pointless .
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  • Profile picture of the author PatrickP
    I don't see the need to blame ANYONE.

    Negative actions, posting, thinking etc bring negative results.
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    • Profile picture of the author Frank Donovan
      I blame it on the boogie.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dex88
    It's always better to blame someone else... that way you can remain perfect
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    • Profile picture of the author Bentley74
      My vote:

      Blame it on the rain
      Blame it on the stars
      Whatever you do don't put the blame on you


      That's a little ditty I wrote myself...honest (I can even lip sync it for ya if you ask real nice)
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Shook
    Listening to people tell you it is not your fault is a fabulous way to sell you something that will help you feel better.

    And if folks kind of figured out that it was pretty much their choice about most everything in the world the blaming others way of thinking might shuffle itself off to die a quiet death somewhere.

    With a lot of these threads I read through them and then look at the sig file of the OP. Often (not always, of course) this might contain a clue as to the purpose of the thread in the first place.
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    • Profile picture of the author tpw
      Originally Posted by JMichaelZ View Post

      Listening to people tell you it is not your fault is a fabulous way to sell you something that will help you feel better.

      And if folks kind of figured out that it was pretty much their choice about most everything in the world the blaming others way of thinking might shuffle itself off to die a quiet death somewhere.

      With a lot of these threads I read through them and then look at the sig file of the OP. Often (not always, of course) this might contain a clue as to the purpose of the thread in the first place.

      LOL

      So what did you learn when you read my sig file?

      And what purpose did you decide I had for creating this thread? :p
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      • Profile picture of the author Michael Shook
        Originally Posted by tpw View Post

        LOL

        So what did you learn when you read my sig file?

        And what purpose did you decide I had for creating this thread? :p

        Well, I only said "a lot" of threads, not all of them.

        I really kind of had in mind the threads that took the place of the "most burning question" threads from a couple years back.

        The ones that are more like "what is your biggest problem with . . ."

        or "the death of . . ."

        or the ones about " what is your best . . ."

        those last ones are getting so most of the good ideas are already used up, so you start seeing a bunch of secondary things like "what is your best mouse pad cleaning cloth - give your opinion now"

        I just figure that someone has launched a new program somewhere about telling people to start asking questions in forums to find out what products to create.

        And sometimes there is something in their sig file, and sometimes there is nothing at all in their sig file, just a big blank space where it looks like something could go.

        Those kind of questions kind of put me in mind of some experience from my past. I had a guy working for me once who was a 6th grade teacher. His kids were not doing so well with their writing grades, so it was my job to help him help his kids learn to write better.

        So I asked him why he thought his kids didn't write so well. There were a ot of things he could have said, like the majority of his students were learning English as their second or even third language. That the kids really needed remediation in their basic skills or that there needed to be more time during the day for critiquing their writing.

        But what he told me was, it was their pencils. More specifically the erasers on their pencils. The pencils were cheap and the erasers were plastic instead of rubber, so when they kids made mistakes, they often tore their paper with the erasers and became so discouraged they just quit writing.

        And he was dead serious when he told me this.

        I see threads and question in forums that remind of things like that.

        Not a majority of threads by any means. Sometimes they are questions from people who really don't know what they are asking, but they are stuck and don't know where to begin. And thank goodness they ask questions because it is usually the case that a whole bunch of other people have the same question. I know I have been in tht situation a whole lot of times.

        But sometimes, I just look at some of these threads and I just wonder why if they really had that question, why they just didn't go search for it somewhere else and get their issue fixed immediately.

        But mostly, I think everybody has a right (within the structure of the forum anyway) to ask questions for any purpose they want. And my opininion don't make no never-mind nohow anyway. But its just nice to talk about stuff sometimes.
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        • Profile picture of the author Jill Carpenter
          I'll show you whose to blame:

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            Originally Posted by Jill Carpenter View Post

            I'll show you whose to blame:

            whahaha...cool

            pity on you doggy
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        • Profile picture of the author tpw
          Originally Posted by JMichaelZ View Post

          Well, I only said "a lot" of threads, not all of them.

          I really kind of had in mind the threads that took the place of the "most burning question" threads from a couple years back.

          I knew that, but the way you constructed your original post, I just could not resist asking the question.

          Man that story of yours is so amazing to me.

          It makes you wonder how that person was ever considered qualified to be a teacher. /shaking head in disbelief/
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          • Profile picture of the author Michael Shook
            Originally Posted by tpw View Post

            I knew that, but the way you constructed your original post, I just could not resist asking the question.

            Man that story of yours is so amazing to me.

            It makes you wonder how that person was ever considered qualified to be a teacher. /shaking head in disbelief/
            You scamp, you.

            I taught and was an administrator for 20 years in schools and a maximum security prison. If I had been in the business world I would have charitably been called a turn-around specialist.

            I had the Welcome Back Kotter classes in the Welcome Back Kotter schools in the Welcome Back Kotter districts. Until about 2 years ago I had the distinction of being the only administrator to have taken away a gun from a student in any of the 3 districts where I live.

            On the other hand, that is the kind of experience I compare things like learning how to set up an SEO optimized WP blog to. Gives an interesting idea of perspective in the world.

            That guy with the eraser idea actually turned out to be an alright guy, with a little bit of guidance.
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    • Profile picture of the author Michael Shook
      Originally Posted by BIG Mike View Post

      Be sure to grab my new WSO - The Death of Blame
      <sigh> Ahh, Mike.

      If this is going to start a new trend, we know who is going to get the blame for that.
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        • Profile picture of the author Michael Shook
          Originally Posted by BIG Mike View Post

          Blame it on the dog...it works for me

          Looks like Bill already figured out how to do that in post #49.
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  • Profile picture of the author Alex Kage
    I think we're going to blame the Internet Police soon enough.
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    • Profile picture of the author sanssecret
      You can blame if it makes if you feel any better. My kids do it all the time.

      Heck, you can blame me even if it doesn't make you feel any better. I'm used to it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Fazal Mayar
    good post, the blaming game is easy but in IM you cant really blame someone else then yourself as you just model on people but you do the work yourself
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  • Profile picture of the author Geeked Labs
    I blame the sky people. It's always the sky people.
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  • Profile picture of the author J Bold
    Not everyone fits in the categories of newbies or gurus, so just blame everyone else in between!

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    • Profile picture of the author tpw
      Originally Posted by redicelander View Post

      Not everyone fits in the categories of newbies or gurus, so just blame everyone else in between!


      Good point.

      Of course, I am out of Thanks buttons again...
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  • Profile picture of the author paigelee
    Unfortunately, there are just some people who just can't accept failures so they blame it to others. Pathetic as it can be...
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    There's no one to blame...


    gonna hear this
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    • Profile picture of the author Alan Ashwood
      For the carnage in the house:

      I blame the baby sitter
      She blames my 7 year old
      She blames the new puppy
      The new puppy doesn't blame anyone - just wants a tummy rub.

      For everything else - We blame the Welsh.
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      • Profile picture of the author tpw
        Originally Posted by Alan Ashwood View Post

        For the carnage in the house:

        I blame the baby sitter
        She blames my 7 year old
        She blames the new puppy
        The new puppy doesn't blame anyone - just wants a tummy rub.

        For everything else - We blame the Welsh.

        Being a parent is fun.

        We used to have a Jack Russell Terrier that lived in the house with us.

        He was the kids favorite buddy.

        Now and again, one or both of the older boys would do something wrong, then they would both deny their participation in the thing that was done.

        I would get so frustrated trying to get them to tell me the truth.

        One day it hit me.

        I asked for them to fess up about five times, and I was livid that someone was continuing to lie, because I knew for a fact that one of them had done it.

        So I stopped, then turned to the dog and started hollering at the dog for having gotten the chips off the counter, the chip dip out of the fridge, spilling the chips on the floor at tramping through them, then smearing chip dip all over the couch.

        I just stood there and sternly spoke to the dog about his bad behavior, while wagging my finger at him, and I kept telling the dog how I would not tolerate that kind of behavior from him any more!!

        The dog just sat there tilting his head to one side, looking at me, with confusion in his eyes.

        I continued to speak to the dog in my most stern voice...

        And then it happened...

        The boys started defending the dog...

        I turned to them and told them to shush when I was getting on the dog, because as I told them, since they did not do anything, the dog was the only one left in the house who could have done it.

        They attempted a second defense of the dog.

        I told them to be quiet, and continued disciplining the dog verbally.

        Then they broke...

        The younger came and pulled my arm... And then said, "Dad, it was me. I did it."

        Then the older boy said, "It was me too."

        The dog was always useful like that.

        We don't have the dog anymore.

        Now the cat gets in trouble for things those two older boys do.

        It works miracles every time!!

        If your kids are young enough, you might try it out some time...


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  • Profile picture of the author dark witness
    Can I blame the people who started this blame mentality ?

    No matter what I do, they tell me it's not my fault...
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    Thank you for making the sincere attempt to discuss this. I feel fairly strong about it and
    would like to read more. If it’s OK, as you learn more in depth knowledge, would you mind adding more posts similar to this one with more information? It would be extremely helpful and useful for me.
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    If people didn't have an insane need to blame others, they wouldn't allow their dogs to sit under the table when playing poker.

    It's the Government's fault - everything is the government's fault. Everyone would be wealthy, healthy, and happy if we didn't have governments.
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    If people didn't have an insane need to blame others, they wouldn't allow their dogs to sit under the table when playing poker.

    It's the Government's fault - everything is the government's fault. Everyone would be wealthy, healthy, and happy if we didn't have governments. Or is it testosterone? I keep getting the two confused.
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