What do you do to motivate yourself after failing over and over again?

I've learned that it's much easier to stay motivated if I regard any "failures" as a learning experience - anything we can learn from isn't really a failure. That mental shift, or "reframing", works wonders! (And that applies to all areas of life, not just business. )

I always ask myself first, "What am I doing wrong?", then reasses the situation.

Will usually try different things.

You know the old saying, the definition of insanity is doing the same things the same way over and over again, and expecting a different result every time.

It's like A/B Split Testing, just change one variable at a time & see what changes come about.

Good in theory, but in reality, I can be quite impatient, so might change a few things at a time...

Have you ever heard of the Gordian knot? :rolleyes:

Thank you Erica!

IMO, this is a fantastic piece of advice for anybody who is struggling online. They should read and re-read this several times, then set out to accomplish it.

If you manage to accomplish this with your websites, then you are well on your way to success.

When you are down and failing, it is easy for despair and frustration to come in. But keeping a distance from these negative emotions, you will see that it's part of the process. If this business is easy, too easy that you can make a million in just a matter of month's work, then everybody in the world will surely jump on the bandwagon. But it's not, definitely. It's a lot of work and a lot of frustration comes along with it too. It will make it easier it you keep a mindset that you choose this and you have to do this anyway.

Most of times, it is good to treat this as a challenge or a child's play. You do it because you want to do it.... The only thing that mess up this play is when it's time to pay the bills and with no enough incoming revenue things get complicated. But surely, you know you're doing great because you can still get up the next morning doing the stuff.

It's not true about Donald. He has filed bankcruptcy once in the past. He is a tough player but you know I don't respect him. I've seen him played golf with his people and he uses his "position" to leverage his games and was a sore loser. Sportmanship is everything to me. win or lose you do the right thing because it's the right thing.

For me personally I motivate beyond looses because it's in my blood. It's something that I love .. Internet Marketing. So I will get up even I fail many times. I just "know" I will make it ...this I can't really explain.

Pretty good businessman? When did you form this opinion? Was it before or after his fourth bankruptcy in 2011?

Better share the pic when you do!

Which reminds me of a post here a long time ago that mentioned putting a picture of something motivating to you on your computer desktop background. Every time you log in to work, you'll be reminded of why you're working so hard.

One day you will be able to buy one of those. You might even pay CASH for it. You never know.

I love to hear that.

This is a great way on how to in break negative thinking patterns.

As long as you are hungry and the vision is big enough, you will continue to keep going.

I most certainly advice visualizing every day.

Awesome!!! that's what happens with 90% of the newbies
So Really never stop.

I love this. Especially because I am just starting out. This is a great, motivating thread.

I don't have to try to stay motivated. It is just not in me to quit.

I've tried business after business, year after year. Most of them went nowhere. And not just nowhere, but really nowhere, with an exclamation point. I still have a number of businesses that lose money every month, but I work on them and gradually improve them the best I can.

And even some of those projects that had limited success hit some big roadblocks along the way. For instance a few years ago I invested several hundred thousand dollars into land development. And with only half of it sold the real estate market crashed. So now I wait another 10 or 20 years until it's time to sell the rest.

But one or two things I tried, against the odds, did finally work out. I worked on one project steadily for over 12 years, without a penny of income and many expenses. It ended off paying quite well, and now I don't have to worry about money.

By the way, of all the things I tried, my most successful project is the one that does most for other people. And that is the thing that is sadly missing from a lot of threads on this board.

It is seldom that money motivation alone will lead to long term success. Take a look around and you will see that service to others and production of items of value are the surest ways to fulfillment and success.

And what about "how do I make money quick"? That almost always goes nowhere.

When I start doubting myself, my business model, my practice, my abilities or my faith in success - I think about the people in my life I admire.

I admire my brother. He did not do well at school. We had some difficulties in our childhood. But he worked hard as soon as he left school. My brothers wife was killed when she was 29, he has picked himself up and has an amazingly successful business. He has had numerous set backs and had to practically start again. He never gives up and has never ever felt sorry for himself. He has one of those minds that just seems to know where to target his energy. He focuses on success and doesn't allow himself to think about failure. If things don't go well, he works out what to do to improve them. His motivation is his children. His eldest children whose mum died, are also people I admire, they are so determined and really wonderful people.

My mother has worked like a trojan her whole life, she is a fantastic supporter in every member of her family and has instilled in me a belief that I can and should always do what I WANT to do. She has run pubs which is back breaking work, she's at last retired but has some annoying 'wobbly' disease, she wont however let that ruin her life and she will not feel sorry for herself either.

My eldest son hates violence but was horrifically stabbed (5 times in the back) a few years ago, just a couple of weeks after his 21st birthday. He was out with some friends in the town and they'd just left a nightclub and were heading home. My son was being a good samaritan and trying to help out a lad who was unconscious but still being attacked by a gang. My son survived physically but I was deeply concerned about the lasting mental affects. But my son is a born optimist, his mates were in such distress whilst they waited for the ambulance that he made jokes to encourage them to calm down - yet at the time he told me later, he had no idea how serious the injuries were and nor did the medics. He could have gone into deep depression and become agoraphobic, instead before his stitches were out he moved to London and started University and continued to entertain and make people laugh. He now has a successful job working in media meeting jolly famous people in the music industry on a daily basis.

My daughter has dyslexia and dyscalcula (thats the wrong spelling lol) which meant she had to work harder than others to achieve her grades. She is intelligent, hilarious and is now a Junior School Teacher. She is their absolute favorite teacher as she is 'herself' aswell as an educator. She spends all her time coming up with innovative ways to teach the kids and is in tune with all those who have educational differences (pc phrase is special needs but I hate that). She has a laugh with her students, now they don't teach you how to do that or why that's so important at uni but she instinctively knows that the kids will want to learn because they enjoy their time at school. If one is a bit grumpy she sings 'turn that frown, up-side down...' and they cant help but laugh.

So you can see, there are a lot of people around me who've had some struggles and pain but they are ongoing successes, I just look at them, think about how they think and then I get out of my pity pot and get on with it again!

Laugh at yourself sometimes, laugh at how silly being negative is, and remember this 'if not you then who' - there is no-one out there with the gifts that you have to offer

what keeps me going, even after failure is the challenges, the adventures, and ability to grow and fullfill my dreams to the end.

birdi

Hi,

Define failure please.

Proper planning prevents poor performance.