Have you been asked to quit?

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We all know that IM can take a lot of time if you let it.

Has anyone ever asked you to quit? A spouse, friend, parent, etc.?
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  • Profile picture of the author tantivy
    My wife totally support my effort to get this IM business right. We are both doing freelancing on the net and when, luckily, a client didnt paid us their due for a measly 15 dollars for three articles, I said why not use instead my own 15 dollars to build a site as a form of revenge. Planned to use their articles but online ethics prevented us from doing it. So what I did was do the site from scratch and all the postings. The only reminder that I usually get from her is go slowly with it since money really is hard to come when you are starting.
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  • Profile picture of the author Brandon Sean
    Initially when i started back in 2009, Yes! It was very discouraging especially from people close to you.

    The thing about IM, is that everyone thinks you're doing some sort of scam to make money, or that you don't have a proper focus in life. And if you did make money, they think its probably a few dollars selling stuff on ebay

    I generally don't tell many people I make money online. If I had to explain to them, I just tell them i get paid building websites.

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  • Profile picture of the author Andyhenry
    There are 2 main reasons for someone wanting you to stop:

    1 - They're jealous and don't want you to succeed.

    2 - They think you're going to fail.

    Either way - unless it's your wife and she's going to leave you if you don't choose her over yourself/your business then it's irrelevant.

    Mind you - if people close to you think you're going to fail - you might want to consider whether you've given them reason to have that mindset.
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    • Profile picture of the author WebPen
      Originally Posted by Andyhenry View Post

      There are 2 main reasons for someone wanting you to stop:

      1 - They're jealous and don't want you to succeed.

      2 - They think you're going to fail.

      Either way - unless it's your wife and she's going to leave you if you don't choose her over yourself/your business then it's irrelevant.

      Mind you - if people close to you think you're going to fail - you might want to consider whether you've given them reason to have that mindset.
      There have been great posts so far- but Andy, I think yours hits closer to home than the rest. Great share man.
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    • Profile picture of the author ShayB
      Originally Posted by Andyhenry View Post

      There are 2 main reasons for someone wanting you to stop:

      1 - They're jealous and don't want you to succeed.

      2 - They think you're going to fail.
      And IMHO, Reason #1 hurts far worse than Reason #2.
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  • Well not really.

    But I DID have A LOT of doubters and a lot of 'is this really gonna work?' type of lines fired at me a lot until the day I made my first sale a while back. Now they say nothing.

    To be honest, as cold as it sounds, I REMOVE the things in my life that hold me back. Even some people. Plain and simple. I know it's hard for some, especially if they were people who are close. But sometimes, the people we want with us aren't exactly the people who are best for us.
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    • Profile picture of the author Andyhenry
      Originally Posted by Michaelangelo Flores View Post


      To be honest, as cold as it sounds, I REMOVE the things in my life that hold me back. Even some people. Plain and simple. I know it's hard for some, especially if they were people who are close. But sometimes, the people we want with us aren't exactly the people who are best for us.
      That's just one strategy. You only need to do this if you don't have a robust way to keep yourself on track and not be affected by people's negative comments. I don't have any people around me that would tell me to not do IM but if I did their comments would go in one ear and out the other as they would be just a reflection of their thinking and nothing to do with me or my plans and possibilities.

      People only have the impact you let them - so yes, if you let people get to you, you're probably better off getting away from them.
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  • Profile picture of the author Exel
    When I was still in college my parents would often tell me to stop and focus on studies.

    I persevered and never gave up, finished college as well, and am doing well in IM.

    I think this is one the biggest reasons why most people fail. We are surrounded all the
    time with people who will tell you you can't do this or that, or that you shouldn't do it.
    It is so easy to fall into trap and start doubting yourself, eventually quitting and falling
    into the unsuccessful majority.
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  • Profile picture of the author Chri5123
    Interesting thread!

    I can remember my family - when I told them what I was going to do they didn't think it would be a good idea.

    They told me to get a "proper" job - of course with the current events now it looks like there are not that many "proper" jobs left.

    Having set up LTD I now provide the "proper" jobs.

    But think all in all very supportive through the hard times as well.

    Never got so low where they had to ask me to stop.

    Chris
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  • Profile picture of the author aniksari
    My mother asked me to quit my IM carrer and start find a 'Real' job. But when my first amazon cheque delivered, She asked me to quit my 'Real' job and She bought new laptop for me
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  • Profile picture of the author TheArticlePros
    Originally Posted by Justin Stowe View Post

    We all know that IM can take a lot of time if you let it.

    Has anyone ever asked you to quit? A spouse, friend, parent, etc.?
    I have never had a venture that I was successful at where people didn't ask me to quit or tell me I was stupid for doing it. When I had my retail store, which was doing 6 figures a year in sales, I had people always coming up to me and asking me why I didn't get a real job instead of working in a mall all day. I just looked at them and smiled and then sold them something.

    With my article writing, it's the same way. People don't believe that you can make money by writing web content. I play WoW in my spare time, and a lot of my WoW buddies ask me how to make extra cash so they can pay for next month's game card...so I tell them about vWorker or Fiverr or even about my own site. 10% of them want to know more, so I'll talk to them through Yahoo IM and explain how it works and I'll even help them setup accounts and all.

    And I've yet to have even 1 person who gets that far keep at it past Day 1. Every single one of them comes back and accuses me of scamming them. Apparently I own vWorker, Paypal, and Fiverr, and I just scam people online all day. ROFLMAO!!!

    So I just load up my account and laugh because that's one less person I have to compete with.

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  • Profile picture of the author sfx1971
    luckily I started IM in my late 30s so the only person that I yad to convince was my wife. But she is used to my scheming and gave me her full support. I often come home from work and disappear into the office for a few hours and she is cool with that. As long as I know that I have her full support then everything is a little bit easier


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  • Profile picture of the author gentryliving
    No one! Instead they encourage me to work harder to become successful.
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    • Profile picture of the author cashp0wer
      No one has ever suggested that I quit this business. Instead they have been completely encouraging about it.
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    • Profile picture of the author tantivy
      Originally Posted by gentryliving View Post

      No one! Instead they encourage me to work harder to become successful.
      Same here. Besides my wife, no one really knows what I do on the net so no one get a chance to discourage me. I dont tell my beer buddies what's my online plans since they have no idea what the business is all about. Sometimes it is easy not to try to please and explain to everybody what you are doing. Just show them you can support yourself and that's basically okay with them.
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      • Profile picture of the author Horny Devil
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        I feel like quitting all the time . . . and I haven't even started.
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  • Profile picture of the author stews
    No one has asked me to quit but myself. However, I haven't thrown in the towel yet because I find it so fantastically educational. That could be a problem if you spend too much time learning and not enought time taking action. Everyone has to find a comfortable balance.
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  • Profile picture of the author The SEO Kid
    When I started my offline seo/web design company lots of people doubted me and discouraged me.Mainly I think it is a new concept to them and they don't really know how it works.

    Since i'm only 17, I was looked down on and treated like I was dumb for dropping out of school by all my mate's parents.But they didn't really grasp the concept of IM. I remember one day my mates mum asked how I was paying for the outsourcers to come and live in australia.That made me laugh.

    but im laughing now since I earn just as much as them and more.And in coming months predicted to be earning a lot more.

    Trying to explain seo to someone who just uses the web for watching youtube videos and facebook is not the easiest thing.
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  • Profile picture of the author Caprica
    My family telling me that I should just stick to my real job...that's the safety
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  • Profile picture of the author rmolina88
    My family's the same way: Stick with your "real" job for security.

    In this economy, there's no real security.
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    • Profile picture of the author Karen Blundell
      it happened once. I said no, I'm never quitting.

      end of story.
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  • Profile picture of the author Karen Blundell
    Originally Posted by Chris Kent View Post

    Women are hardwired to look for resourcefulness and stability, whether as a wife or as a mother wanting "the best" for her sons. Earning "potential" is OK but up to a point. I think women struggle to cope with a man doing anything outside of "the norm", what society views as "stable", when in fact the vast majority of people are but minutes away from losing their only income source.

    hmmm, careful, not all women are like that. I'm certainly not.
    There are a lot of female entrepreneurs in this forum who will agree with me, I think.
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    • Profile picture of the author Shadowflux
      I've had people tell me to quite almost everything that I've done at one point or another.

      People said I should stop "chasing my dreams" and get a "real job".
      People have told me that I should quit my "real job" to pursue my dreams.
      People have said I should get into one field or another.
      They've said I should get out of those same fields later on.

      The one thing I've learned is that "people" don't know what they're talking about and I refuse to listen to them. The only thing that really quiets the nay sayers is showing them how much money you make doing what you do.
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  • Profile picture of the author talfighel
    People want you to fail because they were programed all their life to be an employee. When they see you take on the path of financial freedom and hopefully quitting your job, they become jealous.

    I have been asked to quit many times by people in my life. I had people laugh at my face.

    You just have to do what is in your interest and no one else.

    I see it this way, whether you are building an online business or an offline MLM business for example, people will always try to put you down and hope that you fail. If you want to be like them in life then take their advice. If you want to be successful like your mentor then follow their advice.

    It is up to you.
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  • Profile picture of the author ShayB
    Originally Posted by Chris Kent View Post

    My mother has asked me to quit, though not in so many words.


    It's my honest belief that there are evolutionary explanations for all this.


    Men are hard-wired to try to make more money. In my view, this is also why so many fall victim to gambling addictions. They are fulfilling their urges, just in the wrong way.

    Women are hardwired to look for resourcefulness and stability, whether as a wife or as a mother wanting "the best" for her sons. Earning "potential" is OK but up to a point. I think women struggle to cope with a man doing anything outside of "the norm", what society views as "stable", when in fact the vast majority of people are but minutes away from losing their only income source.
    I disagree, but I don't want to debate it in this thread and derail it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Motley
    Yes.
    But if this is what you want to do, and you know you're doing it to the best of your ability, and you can see things coming down the road that others cant see because they aren't in your position, then it doesn't matter what anyone else wants.
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  • Profile picture of the author ProAffiliate01
    I have been told similar things as all of you mention above. Sometimes it's also just hard for people to understand I have work to do in general and that I don't just sit around all day.
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  • Profile picture of the author xinhaozhai
    yes, many times since i am still a newbie.
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  • Profile picture of the author Alex Copeland
    I answered no... but I have been told to go and get some work that pays definite money while I chase for untold riches....
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  • Profile picture of the author vivi62
    No never been asked but my hubby has always said if it makes money for us do it,
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  • I got asked to quit all the time back in the early days when I was spending 30+ hours a week on the computer and making diddly squat.

    Now I do the same thing (except I actually work less) and no one has a problem with it.

    Its kind of like the difference between a person with a gambling problem and a person who makes a living from gambling: if you gamble frequently and lose more than you win you have a gambling problem and naturally everyone will want you to quit.

    If on the other hand you are one of the select few who gamble frequently and win more than you lose few people will have a problem with your gambling.
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  • Profile picture of the author knish
    Thank God I've not been asked yet to quit. I'm grateful for the supportive people in my life.
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  • Profile picture of the author ericbryant
    Try to keep it on the down-low until you make it, that's my advice and approach.
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  • Profile picture of the author Aditeo
    No one told me to quit , my friends are encouraging me same as m family
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  • Profile picture of the author AKCasinoKnights
    I have just started my IM and there are so many doubters out there! And my theory is 'oh well I know it works and I am happy. They will join me when they are ready '
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  • lol. Yes. When I first started I knew nothing and it took me 3 months to set-up my first website. I worked on it all the time and my wife/girlfriend told me to quit. So I said I would. I was totally bummed out by quitting. I remember being totally depressed about it and pulling weeds in the rain because I didn't have anything better to do. Quitting didn't last long, probably only a couple of days.

    When I first started my girlfriend didn't get it at all; she thought I was just surfing the internet, even though I had explained what I was doing. She now fully supports what I do (thank god).
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  • Profile picture of the author AlexTylor
    Well, I always get encouragement from my wife to do IM.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jim Nariel
    I keep my cards close to my chest when it comes to dealing with People offline. My family are aware and I like build my business when they are all in bed

    Looking forward to dealing out fat pay checks shortly
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  • Profile picture of the author SirStanley
    Try and surround yourself with people that support you, no matter what.

    You can spend a lot of your spare time trying to make IM work, so if you have a partner I suppose it's a balancing act.

    However, if your partner or friend demand that you pack in totally and it's against your wish, then you have a hard decision to make.

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  • Profile picture of the author WebPen
    Wow- I'm amazed at how evenly split this poll has been.

    As far as surrounding yourself with only people who support you- I agree with that to an extent. But sometimes you'll have people that just don't understand, but you love them and don't want to leave em
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  • Profile picture of the author Tadresources
    Thankfully no, and I credit that to my ability not to let work overtake my life any more, which was a problem when I was younger. The freedom that IM offers doesn't hurt either
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  • Profile picture of the author PPC-Coach
    I've had more people then I can count tell me it would never work, or that I'm crazy for even trying. But no one has told me to quit. They know that would just be used as energy to prove them wrong even more.

    If you tell me I can't jump over a mountain, I'm going to spend all day trying to figure out how I can. I'm stupid like that.

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  • Profile picture of the author harryhumph
    lol, if anyone ever tells you that just get their phone number.. Once you make your first 100k, call em up and show them your earnings... I can GUARANTEE that you will resent the sh*t out of them..

    Theyre gonna be extremely jealous
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  • Profile picture of the author cybernetuk
    I think once the money is rolling in anyone will be greatful they stuck to it!
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