Your best suggestions for dealing with cyber-bulling...

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Hi Folks,

I guess I should be happy that I've made it 12 years online without one hate / spam attack, but finally got it overnight via both my Facebook account, website, and client websites.

Some of the stuff that is being said is jaw-dropping, based on some real creepy stuff that some guy in the US with practically the same name did a few years back... anyway...

Yes, it's easy to block the SOB, I've suggest that friends do the same. I've done what I can to report it to Facebook, and because twirp is in Australia I'm also having a sit down with the police on Friday to report it.... but any other ideas?

This could be a good thread for others to refer back to if they need it.


#cyberbulling #dealing #suggestions
  • Profile picture of the author Michael Oksa
    Hi Paul,

    I may not be able to give a practical solution for stopping the problem, but I hope this helps.

    Remember that bullies are a destructive minority. They touch a few lives in a negative way, while you have touched thousands, if not millions of lives in a positive way (directly or indirectly).

    You have many, many, many more friends and associates that like and care for you. You're one of the good guys. We have your back. Hang in there.

    All the best,

    "Ich bin en fuego!"
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  • Profile picture of the author Joseph Robinson
    I agree with Michael. The steps you've already taken (blocking/reporting to police/warning your friends) seem to be the best things to do. From there you just have to be disciplined and ignore them, and realize that people have your back.
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    • Profile picture of the author rhealy29
      Hired goons work well.

      Seriously though, through your facebook page is easy enough to manage. Just keep on it (these people get bored and burn out) and keep reporting it to Facebook everytime he posts. They will get rid of him.

      On your website, again, it seems like you've already taken the right steps.

      Where I worry is your clients' websites. Is this an open commenting section on your clients' sites? How does he even know who your clients are and what their URLs are? I really don't like the idea of this guy having any kind of interaction on your clients' sites, and if I was your client, I wouldn't either. How did he find them?

      Talking to the police can't hurt, but the reality is that the odds of them doing anything about it are very, very, very small. Unless this guy is threatening you with violence or worse, the police are probably not going to find the time to follow up on an incident like this. It can't hurt to ask though.

      The good part is that, like I said, these people get bored, and they generally burn out pretty quickly. It won't take this guy very long to realize he's spinning his wheels and not getting anywhere, at which point he'll move on and troll someone else (and he WILL, unfortunately, troll someone else).
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  • Profile picture of the author Giftys
    I agree with rhealy. The police aren't going to do anything. You'll always hear, "We don't have the resources." That said, bullies like attention so your number one defense aside from taking measures to block them is to simply ignore them. I once had a competitor call me up at my house at 3 in the morning threatening me and my family. Not sure how they got my home phone number but that was a low point. But I quickly got over it (sometimes it's just a mental game). I had the phone company block all anonymous calls and I never heard from them again.

    Good luck and I hope it gets better for you.
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  • Profile picture of the author PPC-Coach
    The absolutely best route is to not provide them with anything to use against you going forward. You have to pretend they do not exist. Anything you say to them would be adding fuel to their fire and almost legitimizing the stuff they're spreading about you.

    People are very brave online, they say things they would never have the balls to say to your face. That's the downside of the internet. But the good part is you haven't really made it until you've got a hater or two out there.

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  • Profile picture of the author Zach Crawford
    I don't respond.

    Just look at youtube. People hang out on there behind their computer screens bashing people on their youtube videos.

    Most wouldn't have the balls to say in person. People are tough behind their computers because they can say what they really want to say. Most would be terrified of confrontation in person.

    You can't do much more than you already did.

    I've had people bash me on forums, and youtube and I just ignore it and move on. Just look at some of big wso's sellers on here. Some have some horrible reviews when you google their name.

    Does that stop them? Nope!!!!

    They keep making products and crushing it.

    Remember-- You can't argue with an idiot, you will never win.
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  • Profile picture of the author E. Brian Rose
    Many folks get away with saying things online that they would never get away with in person and that should not be the case. I'm not talking about a bad review or even a heated disagreement. I am talking about when it crosses the line into threats, libelous statements, interference with business, or even full blown cyber stalking.

    When those lines are crossed, it is important that action be taken. Those actions can range from reporting threats to local authorities or even the FBI to filing suit for defamation of character, false light, and tortious interference.

    Agree with me or don't, but one thing is for certain... if you do nothing, nothing will change.

    Founder of JVZoo. All around good guy :)

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  • Profile picture of the author Simon Ashari
    Good work with reporting it to police.

    If nothing else it provides a record of what you claim to have happened.

    Any chance of going into more specifics? The more detail you comfortably give us the more we may be able to help.

    p.s. People online are cowards... everyone in cyber space is a 6'4" chiseled jaw ninja. Don't let it get to you.
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  • Profile picture of the author retsced
    It's very important that you decided to take action and do something about this Paul. It's very easy for people to just tell you to ignore this and move on, but as Brian said, if these people are left to do as they please; the web would be far worse for it. I doubt the police will be able to do anything, let's face it, even if this was not on cyber-land, they still would do nothing.

    One twirp in all that time online shows that you are a stand up person who respectably goes about his business in a professional manner. Unfortunately we have no control over the idiots out there mate. Don't let this idiot get to you, you are the one in control...not him.

    Have a great day.
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  • Profile picture of the author Paul Barrs
    A quick update... I spoke with Police about this matter today and it was very profitable.

    They have taken all details and spoken with the individual involved who has since indicated that his behaviors will not continue.

    At this time I have not made a formal complaint, but it was made clear to him that if I were to do so he could be charged with numerous offenses at a federal level, some of which carry possible gaol sentences.

    Hopefully that will be the end of the matter. Time will tell.

    Thanks for your support warriors!

    It's Simple... I don't "sell" IM anymore, but still do lots of YouTube Videos
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  • Profile picture of the author samstephens
    That was "lucky" that the bully was in Australia - did they mention anything about overseas bullying? I wonder if international police departments work together on this kind of thing?
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  • Profile picture of the author tryinhere
    Originally Posted by Paul Barrs View Post

    Hi Folks,
    and because twirp is in Australia
    In Australia (Some) people fix things with a baseball bat and a good knee capping. Seems to work most times.
    | > Choosing to go off the grid for a while to focus on family, work and life in general. Have a great 2020 < |
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