This one is for the lady warriors...

by Kim Standerline 54 replies
Call me sexist, and I'm sure I'll get some indignant replies from the chaps but after having a rather stressful Sunday, I got to wondering how other women who are Internet Marketer's actually manage to juggle everything.

So far today (and it's 15.30 at time of writing), I've
  • hoovered the bedrooms
  • checked my emails
  • Cooked lunch
  • Worked on my membership secrets page
  • Answered more emails
  • Polished in the living room
  • Mucked the bathroom out
  • Answered more emails
  • Checked the forum
  • Cleaned out a cupboard
  • Written a testimonial for someone
Oh yeah and I've got my 2 year old grand daughter here with me who needs entertaining

Hubby
  • Went into town to have a browse, (who then whinged because I rang him to bring in some milk)
  • Sat and watched TV
  • Ate lunch
  • Watched more TV
  • Walked to the end of the garden to check his fish pond
  • Now gone for a nap because he's tired!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Is there any wonder I want to batter him at times

I'm going for a nap as well, only thing is, I think I deserve one

Kim
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  • Profile picture of the author Frank Ayres
    Why dont you hire a cleaner then that would be less to do
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    • Profile picture of the author Martin Luxton
      Kim,

      You are so thoughtless.

      You forgot to take your hubby a cup of tea in bed.

      Honestly, housewives these days just don't know how to take care of their hubbies.

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    • Profile picture of the author Kim Standerline
      I like to do my own housework. (I used to have a cleaner and she broke stuff).

      I'm not whingin about the cleaning (well only a tad cos I like to be a martyr),

      The question I was asking (maybe obtusively) was how do women (who maybe couldn't afford a cleaner) manage with their IM business plus housework, child rearing etc.

      lol Martin he did bring me a cup of tea up this morning

      Kim
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      • Profile picture of the author Kim Standerline
        Originally Posted by BIG Mike View Post

        Kim,

        We went to the beach yesterday and got home really late - dumped everything in the hall and the kids in bed.

        This morning our youngest woke us up crying for milk and my wife was exhausted. So I got up, fed her, did the dishes and then checked my email over coffee. With the kids help, we put all the beach stuff away, tidied up, hoovered the livingroom and bed rooms, and got the swimsuits in the washer.

        In between, I answered email, PM's and worked on a script. Since my wife left the ironing board out with a pile of closthes on it, my oldest daughter and I took turns ironing the towels and easy stuff (we're not allowed to do the fine work, LOL).

        Then I loaded the kids into the car and took them off to the relatives so she could sleep in - finally got up at noon.

        It might sound like I'm bragging, but next Sunday is my turn to sleep in
        Aww Mike

        You're lovely

        Mary it needed mucking out, the kids had been playing in there

        Sarah tell him to get his finger out. (time us women sorted those men out)
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    • Profile picture of the author Sarah Harvey
      Surely you are a super warrior lady ^__^

      So far I have made lunch for me and my husband, and then some snacks, checked the forums, thought of some interesting things and all this while he is playing a game.

      Oh, he said he will make tea in a bit. I guess that excuses him from everything lol
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  • Profile picture of the author Mary Gallivan
    Hi Kim

    I know how you feel but I am a bit concerned about the state of your bathroom if you have to 'muck it out'. Hubby not house-trained yet?

    I don't know whether it's a good thing or not but I can't sit for too long at my computer (leg problems) so I do some work on the computer, then do some housework and alternate most of the day. Also have to have a few sessions of putting my feet up to get the circulation flowing so tend to read or get ideas then.

    It's just me and 2 cats. They're a bit like teenagers - wake in the morning and have breakfast. Go outside for 10 mins then back in for a second breakfast. Back to bed and sleep until mid afternoon. Get up, feed etc....

    I wouldn't know what to do with myself without the computer - there's only so much housework you can do.

    I'm a firm believer in the saying 'There's more to life than housework'.

    Best wishes

    Mary
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    • Profile picture of the author Marie Pugh
      Boy Kim - listening to your story makes me sound like I wrote it myself!

      I have yet to figure out how to juggle it all. I do know that there are days that I could throttle my hubby too! Especially when I have been working hard to get something done on the computer, and I still have to fold the clothes, make meals, get snacks/drinks for the kids.......while he watches TV or plays on the computer.

      Ahhhhh......it feels good to be able to vent a bit! But, I guess I can't complain - he did make me coffee this morning and empty the dishwasher

      And, I am trying to learn how to not worry about the house being a bit messy - which can be difficult when I have a serious case of OCD. But, with a 3 and 5 year old, there is just no way I can keep up with it. I would never get anything done!

      I look forward to seeing if anyone has any secrets they can share!

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      • Profile picture of the author Heather Bestel
        It really is a constant job keeping the balance.
        We have an 11 year old daughter that we put on the school bus at 8.30 am and pick up again at 3.30 pm.

        The time in between is for running the business - hubby and I both work at home on our little empire. We have our business meetings while walking the dog.

        3.30 pm - 7.30 pm is family time and then our daughter goes up for her shower and bed.

        8 pm onwards we can catch up with emails etc. This is also the time when the housework gets done. This and Saturday morning.

        We have systems set up. Peter is responsible for maintaining the car and the garden and any heavy jobs that I can't do and I do most of the housework. We take turns cooking dinner and Peter's in charge of the dishes and keeping the kitchen tidy and I must say, he does a wonderful job.

        We decided a long time ago that we liked to live in a tidy house, but that it would take both of us working together, to achieve it.

        We moved 200 miles from Liverpool to the middle of nowhere in South West Scotland to downshift and enjoy more time together and I think we are getting there.

        To spend 24/7 together, living and working, we really do have to work as a team. It's really worth it though and we get the balance right most of the time.

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  • Profile picture of the author nursewriter
    Kim,

    I feel your pain....My typical week includes working a full time job outside the home....doing the housework, cooking the meals, doing laundry, paying bills, grocery shopping etc.

    My 15 yr. old daughter does help with the cooking sometimes and she mows the lawn.

    In betweent all of this I am trying to write for others, develop my own websites, research niches to develop my own products etc.

    My hubby spends his day doing quests on warhammer and pvp's. He makes quite a bit of money in his online games...too bad it doesn't spend well in the real world.

    He has told me several times that he wants to get into IM but I have made it clear that the best way to start is to read through the posts on the warrior forum.

    It is frustrating to me because I know he would be very good at it once he got started....

    Now if I could just locate some dynamite to place under his ample derriere.....

    Lucinda
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    • Profile picture of the author ecoverartist
      My husband and I both work from home, and you really do have to work as a team. We don't have any kids, but we do have 2 cats and they're just about like kids...waking you up at 3:30am for food, crying louder than your alarm clock, etc. etc.

      He takes care of the dishwasher, I take care of the laundry and we work together to clean up things and take turns cooking (he is admittedly a better cook that I am!). He also feeds the cats as I can sleep right through their crying/scratching/jumping on the bed.

      I traine--err--put him on a schedule from the first day we were married. We decided we didn't want our place to look like my parent's house - and that was enough of a motivation for both of us!
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      • Profile picture of the author GuruGazette
        I kinda cheated

        About 5-6 years ago we made the decision to move to a remote area for the sake of our kids, and with that decision we knew my husband wouldn't have much in the way of job opportunities (he's not home business material). We wanted to focus on raising the kids well though, and paying full attention to them, so we decided to swap roles. He took on the housework, errands, taxying the kids around, keeping track of them and so on, and I made the money

        So he does the laundry every Monday night, runs the sweeper when I'm sleeping, "mucks out" the bathroom, washes dishes, cooks supper, does the grocery shopping and so on.

        The routine has been modified a little each year because our kids have been growing up and leaving. We've always had chores for the kids to do and there's been a good rotation/sharing amongst everyone (hubby included) from the start. As kids leave, that rotation changes a little. At the moment we're down to just one child at home and she just started her senior year of high school. So he and her rotate dishes, cooking, and trash every other night, and I've started stepping in to help here and there as "practice" for once we're down to just he and I in the house. In return he's been helping me with programming and motivation.

        He is also not quite as picky about cleanliness as I am, so sometimes I'll get in a mood and do the polishing, sweeping carpets, decluttering and misc other stuff.

        Some things are just mine though. The front yard maintenance and gardening for example, because he's afraid he'll whack down the wrong thing if he touches that area. He deals with the back yard though, and helps me with problem areas on the sides if I get too far behind.

        I like it alot and I feel quite spoiled with the arrangement
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        • Profile picture of the author rainyclayday
          Well so far today I have checked email, fed the horses, cow, and goat, got the dogs' food ready for their lunch (it has to soak), washed some dishes, and now am working on some articles and having some coffee. In a few minutes I have to feed the dogs, go outside and separate the cow and calf and hike down to the bottom of our property and open the gate so the cow can go out on the 60 acres to eat grass, and I'll then work on my Internet stuff until it's time for me to "work."

          Then am scheduled to work from 3 p.m. to 2 a.m. but in between I have a lot more chores to do plus some breaks of course. And in fact I'll probably work in some more articles during that time, and finish putting up another website. It's my son's birthday today and we already celebrated last weekend but we'll probably do something later when he gets home from work.

          That's my usual day except I only work the day job on Sun, Mon, and Tues, so the other days I spend working on my IM.

          Notice I didn't mention much house cleaning. I hate house cleaning. I used to own the vacuuming job in the house but I slacked too much and my husband has taken that over (yay).

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          • Profile picture of the author Kim Standerline
            Oh heck I feel mean and nasty now

            Hubby isn't so bad honest,

            He can run a mean vaucumn, (he usually does the bedrooms I was making a point today), he often makes me a cup of tea.

            He fills the washing machine (and hangs it out then brings it in), he just needs to suss out the ironing part

            He makes me laugh (that's the important bit)

            He's all upset now cos everyone thinks he's lazy lol, (he's actually got a really demanding physical job so he does like his weekends)

            Kim
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            • Profile picture of the author Michael Oksa
              Originally Posted by Kim Standerline View Post

              Oh heck I feel mean and nasty now

              Hubby isn't so bad honest,

              He can run a mean vaucumn, (he usually does the bedrooms I was making a point today), he often makes me a cup of tea.

              He fills the washing machine (and hangs it out then brings it in), he just needs to suss out the ironing part

              He makes me laugh (that's the important bit)

              He's all upset now cos everyone thinks he's lazy lol, (he's actually got a really demanding physical job so he does like his weekends)

              Kim
              Aw, don't feel bad. We all feel like we are doing more than our fair share at times.

              Besides, I assumed if it was bad enough you wouldn't have referred to him as 'hubby'. Perhaps a few other words would have come to mind.

              I think I'm the better cook, but don't tell my wife.

              It really does come down to teamwork, and even then we can all use a break from time to time.

              ~Michael

              p.s. Now, what was this about a nap?
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          • Profile picture of the author Jenni Mac
            Well I run a part time gardening business and because tomorrow is Bank Holiday here in the UK, I decided that I'd get out and about and get some of my jobs done today Sunday, so I could have Monday off!

            It's just me and my 6yr old, so I dropped her off at my mum's at 8.30 this morning, went off and did 8hrs of gardening for my various clients and now I'm flopped in bed exhausted and shattered!

            Thank the Lord my kid wanted to stay at my mum's for the night when I went to pick her up, I ate dinner at my mum's, another plus! The only question I'm asking myself right now is do I have any energy to seriously do some work on my online projects?
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            • Profile picture of the author GailTrahd
              Instead of listing the forty things I've done this morning (and early afternoon here) I think I'll just chime in and say -

              I leave the housework when I can
              I prioritize the kids home school activities
              I work until midnight
              I get overwhelmed and then remember that I'm not in control anyway
              I hope someday that I meet someone like Big Mike

              As I'm typing this the 5 year old is pulling on my clothes to take her outside, the yard is full of weeds that are dying from the lack of rain this month (growing weeds not grass), the bathrooms need a good mucking out (four children make a mess) and my oldest boy requires constant supervision to get him to finish his summer work for the start of their program this fall - starts August 26th - think that's coming up - right?

              We all have challenges - but it sure looks greener on the other side of the fence sometimes - doesn't it!
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      • Profile picture of the author Treece
        I got up at 4:00 am and answered email. Dug through dozens of forums trying to figure out how to get my Zen Cart & Authorize.net shopping cart working for international payments.
        Drove 2 girls to volleyball & then to the grocery store. Packed 30 orders to ship on Monday, then created 40 pieces of technical art for a math textbook I'm working on in my real job. Did two loads of laundry and weeded the front garden.

        Sounds like a regular day here - can't comprehend doing it without a supportive husband that continually asks, "What can I do to help you?" He cooks, he cleans, and yeah, he has his own business, too.

        I think your post shows why a lot of work-at-home women hang out in their own forums.

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        • Profile picture of the author Jillian Slack
          Kim, you have more energy than I seem to be able to muster on a lazy Sunday.

          My theory is since it's all too much for one person to handle, something has got to slide so it ends up being a good portion of the house work.

          I"d rather spend any extra time with my son, so that's the priority.

          I'm not too frazzled by clutter in a corner. And he's old enough to make himself something to eat when he's hungry (snack or during the summer, which is drawing to a close since school starts here tomorrow).

          Sure, I'd like to have an organized, clean house. But it's not the priority right now. Call me a slob, but at least I'm a happy one.
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  • Profile picture of the author Rod Cortez
    Kim,

    You definitely deserve a nap! I think I'll take one too.

    Rod
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    • Profile picture of the author WritingMadwoman
      Kim, I can sympathize, no one in this household lifts a finger to clean except me, so I have plenty of moments when I feel sorry for myself. ;-) Basically, my recipe for balancing everything is, "I'll get to it as soon as I can and if one person dares complain about a mess, they will be handed a mop and a dishrag pronto." (hmm, no one ever complains...)

      I've relaxed my views about neatness in the past few years. I do love a nice clean orderly house, but I just don't have time to keep it that way. Since no one else will help, I just do what I can. My priority is my work because if the bills don't get paid there are more severe repurcussions than a sink full of dishes could cause. :-) If I know we're having company I'll do a whirlwind clean up so the place looks presentable. If we get unexpected drop ins, they get what they get, no apologies. LOL

      P.S. Big Mike, please send me a sample of your DNA so I can clone you. If your clone could smack my hubby around and teach him a thing or two about teamwork, I'd be ever so grateful.

      Wendy
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      • Profile picture of the author RobinSkeen
        Just reading all the work that's going on makes me want to take a nap.

        I was up at 7:00 a.m. Started and completed a clickbank submission, 3 websites, answered e-mail, tracked my cousin who is driving from Arizona to Ohio to make sure she's safe, tracked my mom who is driving from Tennessee to Ohio to make sure she's safe, loaded the dishwasher, fed the cats, scooped the litter boxes, made about a dozen other phone calls, surfed another forum for the answer to a really aggravating questions about DLG, swept the cat hair out of the living room, did a load of laundry (oops, there goes the buzzer on the dryer), checked into WF and sent a couple of PM's and answered a couple of posts, smoked way too many cigs and drank too much cola. Still to do today: finish 2 more web pages, testimonial page, start on some articles from a client, upload said web pages.

        Hubby: slept until noon, showered and headed to his mom's for a cookout. Alrighty then.

        Back to work. Oh, and I work full time at a J.O.B. Loads of fun I'm having. Truly.
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        • Profile picture of the author dbh
          Well, I'm not exactly a lady warrior (last time I looked anyway), but.....

          Beautiful Wife and I have been married for 20 years. No kids in the house 'cause BW can't have any. Anyway, I do all of the housework, always have. She cooks most of our meals, although I am a capable cook too and do it sometimes.

          BW has 2 heart conditions, which she insists are no big deal. I don't agree so I don't let her do anything which may strain her heart.

          I get plenty of time to work on my IM interests, maybe too much . To the point where I get bored with it sometimes. BW works 2 hours per day at an outside job just to keep her from going stir crazy.

          So my time is about 50% IM, 50% housework & other stuff.....

          - Darrell
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          • Profile picture of the author Kim Standerline
            Originally Posted by dbh View Post

            Well, I'm not exactly a lady warrior (last time I looked anyway), but.....

            Beautiful Wife and I have been married for 20 years. No kids in the house 'cause BW can't have any. Anyway, I do all of the housework, always have. She cooks most of our meals, although I am a capable cook too and do it sometimes.

            BW has 2 heart conditions, which she insists are no big deal. I don't agree so I don't let her do anything which may strain her heart.

            I get plenty of time to work on my IM interests, maybe too much . To the point where I get bored with it sometimes. BW works 2 hours per day at an outside job just to keep her from going stir crazy.

            So my time is about 50% IM, 50% housework & other stuff.....

            - Darrell
            You sound lovely Darrell
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            • Profile picture of the author Patty Gale
              Let's see. My husband is an aspiring chef, (wants to attend culinary school), so he does all the grocery shopping, meal planning cooking in our house.

              He also does the vacuuming (hoovering), laundry and the yard work.

              I dust, make our bed, tidy up the bathrooms and straighten up clutter, although now that our house is on the market, there isn't too much clutter around.

              Emily (7 year old) is responsible for feeding the dog, making her bed, tidying up her room and helping clean up after meals.

              Yes, my DH works a full time job (for now, we're working on getting him home full time, too).

              It's definitely a team effort in our house.
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              • Profile picture of the author KristenArnold
                I love all the stories! I have four kids under the age of 8 and my husband works 6 days a week so I find that I end up having to get most of my "work" done between 1 and 4 in the morning when the house is quiet and I can actually hear myself think.

                I thought that this would pass but after reading everyone elses posts it looks like it just "changes" and you just have to learn how to adapt.
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    Originally Posted by Kim Standerline View Post

    Call me sexist, and I'm sure I'll get some indignant replies from the chaps but after having a rather stressful Sunday, I got to wondering how other women who are Internet Marketer's actually manage to juggle everything.

    So far today (and it's 15.30 at time of writing), I've
    • hoovered the bedrooms
    • checked my emails
    • Cooked lunch
    • Worked on my membership secrets page
    • Answered more emails
    • Polished in the living room
    • Mucked the bathroom out
    • Answered more emails
    • Checked the forum
    • Cleaned out a cupboard
    • Written a testimonial for someone
    Oh yeah and I've got my 2 year old grand daughter here with me who needs entertaining

    Hubby
    • Went into town to have a browse, (who then whinged because I rang him to bring in some milk)
    • Sat and watched TV
    • Ate lunch
    • Watched more TV
    • Walked to the end of the garden to check his fish pond
    • Now gone for a nap because he's tired!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Is there any wonder I want to batter him at times

    I'm going for a nap as well, only thing is, I think I deserve one

    Kim
    Exactly why I won't get married LOL
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    Okay, look, I am housebroken and I always put the potty lid down when I am done. What do you expect... miracles?
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      Kim, I feel your pain. LOL Housekeeping is definitely not Hubby's strong suit.

      However, Hubby is cute and makes me feel all tingly inside, so I'll keep him.
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      • Profile picture of the author valerieSONORA
        If you're gonna clone someone, it should be Rob, Bev's husband. Someone said in another thread he gives 2 hour foot massages and serves breakfast in bed.
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        • Profile picture of the author VegasVince
          Originally Posted by annoyedgirl View Post

          If you're gonna clone someone, it should be Rob, Bev's husband. Someone said in another thread he gives 2 hour foot massages and serves breakfast in bed.

          Bev's old man is whipped.


          xxxVegas Vince
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          • Profile picture of the author tommygadget
            Originally Posted by VegasVince View Post

            Bev's old man is whipped.


            xxxVegas Vince
            This thread is about to take a nosedive...

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            • Profile picture of the author Kim Standerline
              Originally Posted by tommygadget View Post

              This thread is about to take a nosedive...

              TomG.
              Hmm my thoughts exactly, Trust Vinnie to lower the tone lol
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              • Profile picture of the author sevenish
                I inherited an 8-year-old and a 5-year-old due to some deaths in my family last year. I'm divorced now and have not been a parent previously.

                Yikes.

                It's complicated and exhausting some times, but joyous and exhiliarating too. Helping these children overcome their adversity and pain and then continue on their path to becoming who they are meant to be is the most rewarding effort I have made toward anything.

                I don't clean my house, I hire that out so that it's spic-and-span once every 2 weeks. I just can't deal with "hoovering" my own house yet. For now, it makes sense to spend my time thinking and working on my business (and my current JOB) rather than cleaning my house. That may change, I just haven't found my way out of it yet.

                They're starting school again next week. I'll work on moving them out of NYC after the school year ends. It's just one step at a time right now.

                So no, I don't have a slovenly husband about whom to complain. But yes, keeping children's schedules going along with a JOB and a home business is quite difficult. I'm working on it.

                Edit: I really appreciated reading your rants above.

                Best,
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                • Profile picture of the author Johnny Slater
                  Ok.. I'm gonna bite here...


                  It isn't always the women who do the housework. There are loads of us men who are stay at home fathers while our wifes work full time.

                  My wife works in the medical field and after I had neck surgery 6 years ago and lost the ability to work offshore we made a decision for her to work since she could bring in the largest income.

                  I stay at home and do the housework and get the kids off to school and deal with them when they get home.

                  Even with keeping the house clean, managing the kids, dealing with getting the trash out, cutting the lawn, and keeping the cars running I still manage to put in quite a few hours a day writing code, dealing with support issues, reading the forum, and answering emails.

                  No it's not easy but it is worth it.
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                  • Profile picture of the author preets
                    Hi Kim ,

                    I know how difficult and exhaustic it is ,but it is also very entertaining.
                    We have one 3 year old daughter and 5 month old TWINS. I and my wife never had a good sleep since my twins birth.I woke up at 4 AM and go to kitchen to prepare some Ayurvedic medicine for myself (I have to take those medicine empty stomach), then I go for for a walk and after that do some YOGA.In between if my twins started crying I have to make milk for them and feed them.At 5:30 I make tea for my wife and parents and take bath.
                    My wife prepare breakfast for me and I left the home at 7 AM for Office.

                    My wife also working with me so she came to office at 11.30 AM after doing all the household work and handover the childrens to maid.She works here till 5 PM.

                    I reached the home at 9 PM and when I play with my kids my all tiredness & stress vanished and I feel very energetic. The innocent smile of my kids does the Magic.
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                    • Profile picture of the author adamv
                      Hi, Kim.

                      I can't tell you how the lady warriors do it but what I can tell you is that this stay at home dad of a 3 year old daughter does it by only sleeping 4 hours per night.

                      I try to get work done during the day, but when I'm on the computer it takes 3 to 4 hours to do 1 hour worth of work. Even on weekends it's hard to get much done unless my wife and daughter are asleep. That's the only un-interuppted time I have. So I work as much as I can from 9pm or 10pm until 2am or 3am. Then I'm up at about 7am or 7:30am to start all over again.
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                    • Profile picture of the author GailTrahd
                      We have twins too - 16 now. I remember those days - or actually I don't! I don't think I slept at all for the first three months. Their father wasn't a real team player so to speak.

                      I do remember one night when they were very young - about 3 weeks old. I had fed one and I heard crying again. I asked my husband to go in and see who was crying. Boy/girl twins and at night I used pink and blue blankets so he could tell them apart. They were in the same crib - not rolling yet - on separate ends of the bed.

                      The baby quieted almost immediately so he came back to bed. I asked him which one it was (had to figure out if it was the one I'd just fed or if I was going to be up in 30 minutes to feed the next one) and all he could say was "It was the one by the window".

                      Maybe you just had to be completely sleep deprived to appreciate that one
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            • Profile picture of the author VegasVince
              Originally Posted by tommygadget View Post

              This thread is about to take a nosedive...

              TomG.

              Yeah...you're probably right....Tommy. But sometimes reality....trumps a warm and fuzzy thread that comes across as a 12 step program. Capiche?

              Why would one ever want to inject humor into a thread that gives "victims" a chance to vent.

              Sort of like handin' over 10K to a dead beat friend, capiche?

              Fact is.....we all got lives...men..women.....and those in between.

              Deal with it. Dont' play the martyr card...and the victim role.....cuz there are those out there sufferin' more then most of you'se bitchin' about your hard "schedules."

              Aint no sympothy or condolences comin' from me....just cuz someone has to get milk for the baby...much less go out and buy it....while tryin' to figure out what the hell an RRS FEED is. Sorry...aint no love comin from me for that..cuz that comes with the game.

              That's life.

              We all got problems and issues......and let's not decide that joe blow is less then Suzy Q...cuz she's doin' the diaper gimmick while sellin' on Ebay. Cuz that's wrong. And vice versa....a woman who busts her ass with her kids..and trys to make a livin' deserves the same respect.

              But none of you'se deserve some puple heart. Male or Female!

              Sorry.....you'se don't. Suck it up...raise the kids...and go sell something....cuz sympothy aint gonnna pay your bills.

              Stop lookin' for the proverbial shoulder to cry on.....and that includes some of you'se dudes too.

              xxx Vegas Vince
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              • Profile picture of the author Kim Standerline
                Originally Posted by VegasVince View Post

                Yeah...you're probably right....Tommy. But sometimes reality....trumps a warm and fuzzy thread that comes across as a 12 step program. Capiche?

                Why would one ever want to inject humor into a thread that gives "victims" a chance to vent.

                Sort of like handin' over 10K to a dead beat friend, capiche?

                Fact is.....we all got lives...men..women.....and those in between.

                Deal with it. Dont' play the martyr card...and the victim role.....cuz there are those out there sufferin' more then most of you'se bitchin' about your hard "schedules."

                Aint no sympothy or condolences comin' from me....just cuz someone has to get milk for the baby...much less go out and buy it....while tryin' to figure out what the hell an RRS FEED is. Sorry...aint no love comin from me for that..cuz that comes with the game.

                That's life.

                We all got problems and issues......and let's not decide that joe blow is less then Suzy Q...cuz she's doin' the diaper gimmick while sellin' on Ebay. Cuz that's wrong. And vice versa....a woman who busts her ass with her kids..and trys to make a livin' deserves the same respect.

                But none of you'se deserve some puple heart. Male or Female!

                Sorry.....you'se don't. Suck it up...raise the kids...and go sell something....cuz sympothy aint gonnna pay your bills.

                Stop lookin' for the proverbial shoulder to cry on.....and that includes some of you'se dudes too.

                xxx Vegas Vince

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                Hey Vinnie

                I think you lost your sense of humor somewhere between your brain and your pen.

                My original post was very much tongue in cheek, as most of the replies were.

                Nothing wrong with venting, even when done humorously. Capiche!

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                In fact I think this thread shows the fortitude that many people have when it comes to dealing with their online business, (some of the posts make me feel quite humble).

                No whingin on here, just folks tellin it like it is...
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                • Profile picture of the author VegasVince
                  Kimmy.....I aint got no beef with you'se, girl. You and me are cool for real.

                  The bridge between my brain and sense of humor is probably being obscured via too much to drink tonight...so my apologies.

                  My point is that I've seen threads like this turn into 12 step programs for sheep......and to me....that's a real nose dive...to quote Tommy G. Capiche?

                  I hate threads that even open the door for victims to vent....cuz this aint the place to do it.

                  And I "get the thread"..and I get the fact that various tongues were inserted into various cheeks etc...

                  It's all good...I guess.


                  xxx Vegas Vince
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                  • Profile picture of the author SarahMcHarry
                    I've been married for a long time, to the same man, and I still call him 'my first husband'...

                    I operate on the principle that there is no point in doing housework unless he witnesses me doing it. Otherwise my efforts go unoticed and unappreciated. So, today I will do a load of laundry, change the beds, and ostenatiously muck out the bathroom by singing along as I work. He will notice all of this.

                    Years ago I fell down the stairs while vacuuming so he does the floors. Our vacuum cleaner is noisy to the threshold of pain so while he does that I go behind dusting and tidying. When he's finished, I finish.

                    I hardly ever iron anything.

                    He goes out for the day twice a week and while he's out I do nothing except work at my computer.

                    We share cooking as we both like doing this. He likes to shop for the food and that's OK by me - it means I get time to answer a few emails etc.

                    It works out most of the time ;-)

                    Sarah
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                • Profile picture of the author Aurora9
                  Hi Kim,

                  Ever since I've gotten into IM, I've become a bum in other departments The house is a bit messy all too often and I've become a big fan of quick meals.

                  I also cut down on my social life/rather didn't make any new contacts but I've realized that that isn't really good in the long run. Focus is alright but that tends to get you very isolated especially if you live alone like I do.

                  Do now I make time for friends and I try to cook healthier. As for the mess part, I'm trying to do a bit of mini-cleaning each time I pass the messy location so it gets cleaned in little increments

                  I do wish I had a gourmet chef and some hard-working house-elves though!

                  Lakshmi
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                • Profile picture of the author CarolStep
                  Thanks Kim for keeping this where it should be -- light but a chance to vent.

                  I have just started posting because I don't like to deal with less than friendly replies. There seem to be several of those around here.

                  My mother taught me: If you can't say something good about someone don't say anything at all.

                  I am not in the same boat as all of you. I am a single mom of an adopted son who is now 34. So my time is my own. Problem is, I have always been a care giver so I want to continue that (I consider this a gift).

                  About a year ago I had just negotiated the rocky road around the toughest trials in my life. But involving myself in as much as I can and developing my online skills has gotten me to this point -- almost 68.

                  Want to know what I have enjoyed most in this thread? It is the fact that so many women have voiced their opinions -- all in one place. If any of you are involved in an active and supportive women's group, could you please PM me the details.

                  Carol
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                • Profile picture of the author Christie Love
                  It may just be lack of energy. I get up at 4:30 am, meditate, workout, work a full-time job and every chance I get I work on my IM business, go to the gym on the way home, clean the house, cook dinner and my lunch for the next day and work on my IM busienss again until I go to bed.

                  It's doable. I think that the determination to follow my dream and having no option to leave things messy pushes me through. I don't worry or complain about it although I know that it would be much easier to just work on my IM business instead of working full-time as well.

                  Exercise and wholesome/ organic food is the key for me. If you don't already, try it out, after a couple of weeks you should have you spunk back. You'll be amazed at what you can do.
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                • Profile picture of the author Glenn Newsome
                  Hey biotchhhhhhhs, get me a beer! While you're at it, hand me the remote to the TV.
                  Don't wake me up from my nap until dinner sitting on the table and/or you got your Victoria's secret garb on!

                  Hey, Hey, (while ducking) I was just kidding!
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        • Profile picture of the author dbh
          Originally Posted by annoyedgirl View Post

          If you're gonna clone someone, it should be Rob, Bev's husband. Someone said in another thread he gives 2 hour foot massages and serves breakfast in bed.
          Even after all these years I still give my lovely wife foot massages but the silly girl doesn't like breakfast in bed cuz she doesn't eat breakfast at all!! I've been thinking about sneaking an IV in there somewhere.....

          - Darrell
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      • Profile picture of the author Kim Standerline
        Originally Posted by Shay60654 View Post


        However, Hubby is cute and makes me feel all tingly inside, so I'll keep him.
        Yeah well they have their uses, (tingly, what's tingly)? After 30 years of marriage I forgot lol

        Kim
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        • Profile picture of the author ShayB
          Originally Posted by Kim Standerline View Post

          Yeah well they have their uses, (tingly, what's tingly)? After 30 years of marriage I forgot lol

          Kim
          LOL....we have only been married 5 years. The tingles are still there.
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    • Profile picture of the author Kim Standerline
      Originally Posted by Chris W. Sutton View Post

      Okay, look, I am housebroken and I always put the potty lid down when I am done. What do you expect... miracles?
      Well if your puttin the lid down, tis a miracle! (Men just don't do that normally)

      Kim
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