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Ever Afraid to Unsubscribe Because it Looks Rude?

by kindsvater
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Every once in a while I will get double-subscribed to a mailing list since I use unique email addresses for every signup. So I'm getting two copies of every newsletter.

But if I unsubscribe one address I wonder if the sender will see I unsubscribed, and think I'm no longer interested in their product, service, or what they have to say. Wouldn't want to lose a friend or customer from an unsubscribe.

Am I just a pansy? Or is this an issue for others too?

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#afraid #rude #unsubscribe
  • Profile picture of the author timpears
    I have had it happen to me. If it is the same email, I write to the list owner and tell them to fix it. Or I just unsubscribe ans say the hell with it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Meaney
    If he's anything like me, he won't take any notice of who unsubscribed - let alone take personal offense to it.

    If he does take offense to it, he needs to learn the difference between personal and business relationships.

    You could remain double subscribed and see how he split tests.

    Or just email him and tell him you're double subscribed but would like to remain on his list.
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  • Profile picture of the author Joseph Robinson
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    Originally Posted by kindsvater View Post

    Every once in a while I will get double-subscribed to a mailing list since I use unique email addresses for every signup. So I'm getting two copies of every newsletter.

    But if I unsubscribe one address I wonder if the sender will see I unsubscribed, and think I'm no longer interested in their product, service, or what they have to say. Wouldn't want to lose a friend or customer from an unsubscribe.

    Am I just a pansy? Or is this an issue for others too?

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    If it's a situation where feelings can be hurt, can't you just add an explanation with the unsubscribe? I was under the impression that most services gave that option.
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  • Profile picture of the author Luuk Terhorst
    I don't think they will lose any sleep over you (or any other person) unsubscribing

    Like Mick said, I doubt they will even notice!
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    • Profile picture of the author Vikky B
      Originally Posted by Luuk Terhorst View Post

      I don't think they will lose any sleep over you (or any other person) unsubscribing

      Like Mick said, I doubt they will even notice!
      Agreed.
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  • Profile picture of the author FreeMeal
    Yep, You're a pansy!

    I unsubscribe from lists all the time (usually the ones that message me more than twice a week).
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  • Profile picture of the author Cali16
    Originally Posted by kindsvater View Post

    Am I just a pansy?
    This, from a lawyer?? Sorry, Brian, couldn't resist!


    To answer your question, no, I don't worry about it. But I usually don't personally know the person who owns the list. If I did, then I might feel differently about unsubscribing. It would depend on the situation.
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  • Profile picture of the author The Great Gordino
    You're probably not being a full on pansy, maybe just a little pansyesque?

    Ha!
    No, don't worry about it, just unsubscribe and pat yourself on the back that you had the consideration to even ask about worrying about it!

    Cheers,
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  • Profile picture of the author David Keith
    I don't mind clicking the unsubscribe links in emails much, but leaving a skype room is a bit daunting to me. You know everyone gets to see the message that you left the room and don't really have interest in talking to them any more.
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  • Profile picture of the author Rod Cortez
    You're a pansy Mr. Kindsvater.

    In all seriousness, that reason for not unsubscribing has never entered my mind.

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    The successful list owners don't see or care.
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  • Profile picture of the author Fraggler
    It would be great if a list owner had such a relationship with their customers that they felt a bit offended or concerned when one of the customers unsubscribed. If they really cared they'd chase you up, maybe with a feedback form while unsubscribing, finding out what or if there was a problem.
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  • Profile picture of the author Nytshade
    I always unsubscribe if someone is not providing value, whether they feel disappointed or not. I do see unsubscribers on my list but never go through all of them to see exactly who unsubed.

    Same thing happened to me today, but I finally unsubscribed from someone's list as they were sending me the same link everyday(salespage) and not giving me any reason why I should stay. Telling me I'm a WUSSY haha...
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  • Profile picture of the author Don Schenk
    Maybe I'm different, but someone unsubscibing from my list is no big deal. There are folks on this forum who have unsubscribed from mine, and I still consider them as friends.

    Anyone who gets his knickers in a knot about an unsubscribe from his list (or her list - Do women wear knickers?) needs to start working on developing a harder skin. An unsubscribe is not personal.

    :-Don
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  • Profile picture of the author Adevictus
    I'm never afraid to look rude on the internet
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  • Profile picture of the author tpw
    You are just a pansy Brian.

    I know that people might end up on multiple lists of mine, and I don't think anything ill of anyone unsubbing one of my lists, because chances are good that they are on another list of mine.
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  • Profile picture of the author Elmar
    I think you have a serious case of a nice guy syndrome. You need to read this book

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  • Profile picture of the author Leila Atherton
    Hi all,
    Let's face it, some of these marketers have thousands on their lists. To follow up on every unsubscriber would simply not be worth their time. Much more effective to work on getting more subscribers. It's a shame though. I'd love to think that if I unsubscribe from someone's list, that they would miss me! Guess that could be possible with beginner marketers, or people with small lists. The smaller a list, the more valuable each subscriber is. But, as the general aim is to grow a list, it would eventually become too difficult to follow up on each unsubscriber.
    Leila.
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  • Profile picture of the author bwh1
    Do those marketers have time to check who unsubscribed?

    AND worry about?

    I even don't find time to unsubscribe the emails I get.

    Think I have to get a VA, "my personal unsubscriber".

    G.

    P.S. really wouldn't think too much about it.
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  • Profile picture of the author echelon
    I think I understand what you mean. However, personally I was at a point lately where I was simply getting too many messages per day and I unsubscribed from many lists as a result.

    This being I don't expect every marketer to see exactly who has unsubscribed.
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  • Profile picture of the author Simon Ashari
    I think the OP is underestimating how many contacts people have on their lists.

    If there is no way to identify you (your email isn't your name) then who cares?

    Unsubscribe away.
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  • Profile picture of the author funkynassau
    I dont worry about what they think of me for unsubscribing. If it doesnt interest me, then I'm gone.
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  • Profile picture of the author StanfieldSK
    I guess that I have more concern for myself than to worry about what someone else might think just for removing myself from a list.
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    • Profile picture of the author Offline Doctor
      If you have time to check your unsubscribed list then you're not busy. Start gettin busy!
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  • Profile picture of the author Randall Magwood
    If the info isn't good, the info isn't. You shouldn't feel weird because you're following the normal means of cause and effect.

    Newsletter good... stay subscribed

    Newsletter bad... unsubscribe
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  • Profile picture of the author DianaHeuser
    Originally Posted by kindsvater View Post

    Am I just a pansy?
    This just cracked me up. Brian, a pansy?

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  • Profile picture of the author Resale Rights Ninja
    Um noo.... Why would I feel it is rude. People unsubscribe all the time. It is just part of building a list. A list changes all of the time. People sign up people unsubscribe. It is kinda like the circle of life....
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  • Profile picture of the author bob ross
    I have my lists separated really well and I always check the unsubs for my two lists that are the closest to me. If you were someone on one of those lists I would definitely appreciate something written explaining why.

    For regular ol' subscribers of paid products or free reports I wouldn't care but for anyone on my exclusive lists I would be upset for sure.
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    • Profile picture of the author Karen Blundell
      that you even care about the feelings of the list-owner speaks volumes, Brian.

      I don't like to appear rude either, but if your inbox is anything like mine, you get a ton of email and you have to draw the line somewhere.
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  • Profile picture of the author RedShifted
    Well I must be unique because I'm usually smiling with rage by the time I hit the unsubscribe button. Thoughts like "if you actually had any clue how to write, and make sense in your newsletters, focus on PEOPLE, and NOT come off like such a snake... maybe I'd feel bad". Problem is I NEVER feel bad. I feel relieved everytime I hit that button.

    The fact that some people actually feel bad, makes me consider that much more that I need to start my own newsletter. =]

    Too little time for emotions in marketing, if you're not getting what you want, you sure as hell better unsubscribe and do it fast imo.

    -Red
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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      Doesn't bother me. A good list owner knows an unsubscribe can be for many reasons - changing focus or becoming more advanced can be reasons as well as "too many emails to read".

      If someone is offended because I unsubscribe...probably not someone I want to listen to, anyway.:p

      If I want to leave a list where I'm double subscribed - I always have to unsubscribe twice.
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  • Profile picture of the author MailVictor
    Provides the unsubscribe function means that the owner respects each unsubscriber's choice.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mary Davis
    Newer marketers will be a bit hurt because they are ardently seeking and counting every new subscriber and haven't quite taken to heart what experienced marketers have (and the reason they don't blink at seeing an "unsubscribe") ....

    IT'S A NUMBERS GAME! There are always more fish in the sea ...

    So do what you have to to corral your in-box and take control of your time -- all without a shred of guilt.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jtraits
    I don't have such an issue to be honest .. Rude or not, it's just that I am not interested anymore.. it's like a salesman trying to sell you something.. would you buy it even if you will never use that item just because you feel sorry?
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  • Profile picture of the author Javier Lin
    Originally Posted by kindsvater View Post

    Or is this an issue for others too?

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    Nope never crossed my mind about hurting anybody's feelings.

    People unsubscribe all the time. It's part and parcel of email marketing, list builders get used to it.
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  • Profile picture of the author rob9482
    To be fair I don't think your general list builders take much notice to who unsubscribes so I don't think they are going to take deep offence to it!
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  • Profile picture of the author zerofill
    Want to know the best part...

    On Aweber it says in one of their FAQs that if you send out an email and you have someone on multiple lists, it will only send them one email. Guess what? It sends them multiple ones... Which sucks... cause I used to have people unsub and say they were on a couple of my lists. But they unsub form the one that I wished they wouldn't have lol.

    I am now on GR... so not sure how it will go on there. Hopefully if someone is on multiple lists there, it will only send them one copy.

    But if you put a note in there Brian that says you were on multiple lists of theirs... I am sure they will understand. The notes come through in the unsub notification.

    I actually have an unsub folder setup in my email client so that I can review what the unsub reasons were.
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    • Profile picture of the author cashp0wer
      Honestly, I don't even think about it. If I want to unsubscribe from something I just do it. I really doubt someone will notice anyway. Just unsubscribe from your lists and don't worry about it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Challendge
    You're being a pansy lol let's just leave it at that! Unsubscribe because it's a favor for the both of you. For whatever reason, you no longer want to be on the mailing list and the person sending you the emails should not want to harass someone with loads of emails if they are no longer interested in reading them.
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  • Profile picture of the author Noonaa
    Most people won't even check to see if you've unsubscribed and certainly won't feel hurt. Most unsubscribe lists have a box you can tick to unsubscribe from one list and stay on others.
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