How do you find a mentor?

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I'm sure this has probably been discussed in some ways before, but can someone explain to me the process for finding an online mentor for IM...?

How do you find one and what is the process like...? I have no clue how that all works.

Thanks in advance for any tips or advice.
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  • Profile picture of the author Tim Franklin
    A lot depends on what your looking for in terms of goals, from your signature I would say that you have an excellent business already, not sure what a mentor could do for you, of course again it all depends on what you want to do.
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  • Profile picture of the author ashloren
    I just do some freelance work for the company in my signature. I don't own it and I'm not an employee.
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  • Profile picture of the author ashloren
    Also, if it helps...

    I am mainly a writer. That's my strongest skill...so I would be interested in finding someone who could help me develop that, I suppose.
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    • Profile picture of the author travlinguy
      Originally Posted by ashloren View Post

      Also, if it helps...

      I am mainly a writer. That's my strongest skill...so I would be interested in finding someone who could help me develop that, I suppose.
      Despite the fact that many people want to pay writers with old, stale candy bars, content is the driving force behind the Internet. Nothing happens without it. That puts the smart writer in an excellent position to prosper in any number of ways.

      The trick is, as it is with everything, to figure out what you're going to be happy doing. I often comment that finding your passion and pursuing it is the most important ingredient in making it. People sometimes argue that finding an untapped, profitable niche is more important. But the "untapped niche" thing is a myth. There's competition everywhere.

      The reason I harp so much on doing something you at least like is because you're going to be up close and personal with it every day. There are many threads here asking for advice on how to stay motivated or focused. That all starts with your original plan. If you can pick something you're passionate about you aren't working, you're engaged in something you love and motivation isn't a problem. Pretty simple but not all that popular, at least not here.

      There's a book I read recently titled Crush It - Cash In On Your Passion by Gary Vaynerchuk. It's one of the best business/motivational books I've read in years. The guy's personal success story is amazing. Essentially, he talks about doing what you love and the money will follow. That's not a new idea but this cat breathes new life into the whole thing while explaining how to do it. It's caused me to rethink a lot of what I've been doing. I highly recommend it.

      I'd suggest that until you figure out what you want to do, what you were born to do, that you might consider holding off on getting a mentor. There are lots of ways to turn a profit writing. Spend some time exploring those.

      Good luck.
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  • Profile picture of the author Andy Fletcher
    Originally Posted by Alice in Wonderland

    Alice: Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?
    The Cat: That depends a good deal on where you want to get to
    Alice: I don't much care where.
    The Cat: Then it doesn't much matter which way you go.
    Alice: ...so long as I get somewhere.
    The Cat: Oh, you're sure to do that, if only you walk long enough.
    Finding a mentor isn't an end result. It's a means to an end.

    First you need to work out where you want to go. Then you can find someone to help you get there.
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  • Profile picture of the author Tim Franklin
    OK, now that you can work with, writing, here is a website that I am developing for a client, actually two different websites concerning healthcare which is a hot topic, my current client is learning how to do research find hot keywords then write articles to draw in traffic.

    Women's Health and healthcare pain
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  • I found my mentor on Youtube actually.
    There were 2 companies fighting for me, I was set with company A, have been using their products for a year and a half. I go to google to see a VS. and then my mentor why I left company A for company B.
    So glad I found her.
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  • Profile picture of the author mogulmedia
    Yeah I suppose it depends on what you want to find a mentor for... What are your goals and targets etc?

    Then I think you'll need your friend Google and a bit of luck! If you want help with IM then probably your best bet is right here on WF...

    Good luck
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  • Profile picture of the author Elizabeth Fee
    Taking the time to connect with others, getting to know those that are experts in the skill sets you seek to improve, building relationships, etc are all part of the process. I think it's just as important for you to be as selective on who you want as a mentor as many of the mentors are on who they are willing to mentor.

    My mentor happened to be someone I purchased a product from... and once I proved to him my dedication to learning, he openly wanted to take me under his wing. BUT, he also had to prove to me his dedication to teaching before I was fully willing to take flight under his wing.
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  • Profile picture of the author phoebetabitha
    I found my mentor by asking questions on a forum like this one. The guy was an ex-search engine employee and he has opened my eyes to what I really need to do online to get to #1. I think it's a case of good networking and eventually someone with more knowledge comes along and helps you out.
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  • Profile picture of the author Anoopchawla
    Nowhere days many Mentors are offering their one one one coaching as a WSO, of course that comes with a price tag.

    But there are no free lunches after all.
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  • Profile picture of the author weddiewa
    I have found two mentors that are incredible at selling with their videos. I do not have to do anything except send traffic to their videos and they do all the work for me and I get to keep the money. I have been online for a while now and I have not found anything that has worked as well as this. You can get to know them for free at About Empower Network 101 basic training audios videos | work your way rich online
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  • Profile picture of the author gelderinc
    I am relatively new to internet marketing but I can vouch for the advice give by Elizabeth Lee. My mentor is someone I purchased a product from but it has turned out to be a community of mentors all willing to help..building relationships and finding a quality mentor to work with is key.
    Good Luck
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  • Profile picture of the author Devin X
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    Originally Posted by ashloren View Post

    I'm sure this has probably been discussed in some ways before, but can someone explain to me the process for finding an online mentor for IM...?
    How do you find one and what is the process like...? I have no clue how that all works.
    Thanks in advance for any tips or advice.
    It develops like any other relationship would, although it's all about business networking with the right touch. Meeting other marketers, maybe doing some joint ventures or other work, and connecting "on the level" with them. If they have more experience than you do, and connect with you well, then that can blossom into what you're looking for.
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  • Profile picture of the author Ken Leatherman
    Originally Posted by ashloren View Post

    I'm sure this has probably been discussed in some ways before, but can someone explain to me the process for finding an online mentor for IM...?

    How do you find one and what is the process like...? I have no clue how that all works.

    Thanks in advance for any tips or advice.
    Ash I suspect strongly you will be able to find a mentor who will take you under their wing. I decided to do a little research here on the WF and reviewed quite a few of your post and WSO's.

    You are a talented writer and have the capability of expressing yourself quite well. I also suspect that if you do what Andy Fletcher and several others recommended, "list your goals" in your OP someone will show up.

    Just so you know I wasn't stalking just researching.

    Ken


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  • If you need any help feel free to add me on facebook.. not sure if we can post facebook links on here. please warn me first! lol
    I write blogs and have a huge team call for my company on how to generate leads this month. I can hook you up with an access code let you listen and and introduce you to my mentor if you would like.
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  • Profile picture of the author Randall Magwood
    A good mentor will charge you a hefty fee. They have their own business to run, and they more than likely won't stop to help you unless they're getting alot of money out of it. Do you have the money to hire a consultant or "mentor"?
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    • Originally Posted by Randall Magwood View Post

      A good mentor will charge you a hefty fee. They have their own business to run, and they more than likely won't stop to help you unless they're getting alot of money out of it. Do you have the money to hire a consultant or "mentor"?
      I don't think that's a mentor lol.
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      • Profile picture of the author Nightengale
        Originally Posted by TheOnlineMarketingMaster View Post

        I don't think that's a mentor lol.
        Actually, yes it is.

        I have an AWESOME mentor and I've paid her $8K this year so far.

        To the OP:

        Traditionally, coaching and consulting are defined as paid-for services and mentoring is a free service offered by someone who's taken a personal interest in you and is grooming you for success in an area in which they've also had success.

        However, as business and the English language is always in flux, these definitions change and overlap regularly. Though the language might change slightly, the concepts are the same. And the caveats are the same:

        1. Pick someone who's had legitimate success doing what you want to accomplish. This person is NOT your peer or friend. They're your teacher, an accomplished professional, someone to be listened to and respected.

        2. Pick someone whom you can trust personally. If your intuition is squeaking at all, listen!

        3. Pick someone who personally believes in what you're doing. This doesn't mean they have to be personally involved in your business. But there ARE people who will offer coaching/mentoring who don't always believe in what you're doing. (I just recently heard a story of a business coach offering coaching services to a psychic when they personally didn't believe in psychics.) There needs to be congruency between the coach's beliefs and actions (including who they choose to mentor).

        4. Pick someone whom you personally resonate with. You can have two mentors who offer nearly identical services, are both great at what they do have the track record to back it up, have integrity, etc. But you may not resonate with one because of personal style or whatever. Be careful of signing up to coach with someone who truly just rubs you the wrong way. You might end up with a bad coaching experience.

        Just some thoughts!

        I adore my mentor! Not only do I love what she does, I love the WAY she does it. I also admire and respect her personal values. (She's built a 7-figure business while raising 4 kids.) She's all about using leverage in business, yet growing businesses gracefully. I wanna be like her when I grow up!

        I also love her style and personality. She's soft-spoken and VERY feminine, which I love! (It's just a personal quirk, but I'm turned off by women with masculine qualities: i.e. super-short, masculine haircuts; women who pepper their speech with profanity; etc. I love to be feminine and admire women who are super successful while maintaining their feminine edge.)

        I paid my mentor $7K for 6 months of coaching in Jan and that just concluded. (I normally don't have that kind of money, but I received an unexpected lump sum.) I just signed up for another 6 months for just $1K. (MUCH better! )

        You might think I'm crazy, but it's worth it. Like most of us, I KNOW more than I need to. Training and education is no longer a problem for me. (Information overload!) I KNOW the how-to's. Now I need structure, accountability, someone to point me in the right direction when I get off-track or have questions and don't know which direction to go. Someone to talk sense into me when my fears and doubts threaten to choke the life out of me. (Mindsets!)

        (This just recently happened on a group coaching call about 2 weeks ago. I felt stuck and my fears were growing by the minute until I felt paralyzed. I was terrified! Though I didn't say so in so many words on the call, she heard it in my voice. And she promptly went off on a tangent about how I was NOT alone and how I needed to keep moving forward. I nearly cried with relief.)

        As you know, when you're starting a business, you generally can't talk about the details with just anyone. Especially the specifics of MONEY. Your run-of-the-mill friends, family and colleagues just don't "get it." Yet we need an outlet, someone we can talk to and get good feedback from. That's what a coach is for.

        Also, AND THIS IS IMPORTANT: in the beginning, when you're just getting started, you're often worried and impatient, wondering if this is "really gonna work." The time between when we start the business and when the money starts coming in can be torture as you worry, doubt and second-guess yourself. Your mind WILL play games with you, no matter how much research you've done.

        A coach is good to have at this point, because she'll keep you on track and moving forward during this crucial period. (Too often, we don't give our business and efforts enough time to do their job before giving up or moving to the next thing.)

        You've already received a lot of good advice here about how to find a mentor. So I just decided to offer a different perspective.

        Hope that helps!

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    • Profile picture of the author housewarrior
      Oh, I dunno about that. Not ALL mentors carry massive fees. And some that do are a waste of money...big money.

      My ears (eyes) kind of perked up with the reference to Mentor...Ha!

      Now, I suppose it comes down to what it is you need mentoring on. Find the right person that's willing to help, not break the bank, and actually cares. Experience in whatever it is you need help with might be helpful also.

      The first thing to do is to contact the target mentor, feel him out, and when you decide to take the plunge, stick with your choice. Mentoring is a two way street, after all, if it's genuine! Money is nice, but it can't be the primary motivation of the mentor... And as for the student, if the mentor fits the bill, pay the bill gladly, since it's money well spent.

      Norm



      Originally Posted by Randall Magwood View Post

      A good mentor will charge you a hefty fee. They have their own business to run, and they more than likely won't stop to help you unless they're getting alot of money out of it. Do you have the money to hire a consultant or "mentor"?
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    i think i already have one.............
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  • Profile picture of the author bigslamgyrl
    I stumbled on my mentor (tiffany Dow) by accident after about 2 years of following everyone that everyone else recommended. If i had it to do over again I would offer services to start making money while figured out what I wanted to do to make bigger money and then look for the best people who do that thing. Ex: offline consulting, affiliate marketing, etc.
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  • You have to be careful when finding a mentor.

    There are some people you can find here but some of them will be phonies and the others might be trying to get you into thier network marketing scheme.]

    be careful.
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  • Profile picture of the author Igal Zeifman
    Looks like you`ve found one (or more)...
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  • Profile picture of the author anthonysong
    Hi Ash,

    I would say find someone who can connect with you, and expert in the field that you are going into.

    Besides, they would be able to find time to answer your questions and hand hold you throughout your marketing process.

    Thanks

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    • Profile picture of the author Birdi
      well from my own experience ...

      when I was researching for a mentor, at first I wasn't sure what direction I wanted to go and searched up some mentors on google, it wasn't the best of experience as your spoilt for choice.

      Only when I came into this forum i checked out the threads mentioned above, and thats when I firstly asked myself a question what direction do I wish to head... So I decided where I wish to start and researched for a mentor in that field and went for it.

      Since then I have realised at different stages of my business I will require mentors for various things...

      Birdi
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  • I like to see them talk first so at seminars, workshops and networking events. Then you can see if they can work with you before you approach them.
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    • Profile picture of the author Cheryl Low
      A mentor is simply a person who has succeeded in an area you want to achieve success in and who can help you get there. My mentor said to me - if you hang around with 9 successful people, you'll be the 10th successful person.

      Saying that, to me, a mentor is also someone who cares about your progress and makes an effort to guide you along the way. You may find someone who is where you want to get to, but that doesn't mean he cares to get you there too. Someone you pay to coach you is obliged to provide the lessons you paid for - but that doesn't make him a mentor. It makes him an instructor.

      So paying for a mentor is not a solution. Hang around with successful IMs (say in this forum) and hopefully you'll make a connection with someone who is willing to take you under his wing.

      Good luck!

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  • Profile picture of the author jpsween88
    My suggestion is to find a thread about article marketing or copywriting and read through them. You will be able to find out who is an expert and who is simply just commenting. You can learn almost everything you need to know by following the the threads, and expert sig links. Granted it may take some investment, but usually all sales have a 60 day money back so its great to suck the info dry in those 60 days if you are scraping by for cash like I was.

    Other than that, keep posting until you can PM the expert warrior and maybe they will or will not get back to you. I've gotten A LOT of help and FREE TRAFFIC simply by asking.
    *Most people remember how hard it was to get started - They are more willing to help than you think*
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  • Profile picture of the author williamk
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    Getting a good mentor can be tough. But I see Brian already gave some excellent threads on it. If you go through it then you will surely find your answer.
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  • Profile picture of the author michaeljcheney
    Finding a mentor can be tough unless they come to you and purely, through fate and you happen to cross paths on a forum thread at the right time :-)

    Seriously though look for:

    1. Proven track record across different industries
    2. Countless case studies and happy customers
    3. Peer praise
    4. Personable and gel with your personality
    5. Reachable and not afraid to put themselves out front
    6. Do what they preach
    7. Regularly provide valuable forum posts in form of short lists and interesting signatures...
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  • Profile picture of the author Jimsarmy
    It will probably take longer than you expect to find a mentor. From what I've seen, mentor relationships usually evolve and don't start out as full-blown mentorships. Coaches, however, can be had sooner and at some cost. Both can be great at a getting a career moving forward.
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  • Profile picture of the author sriram rajan
    The simplest way is , assuming you have got some WSO's , which one you feel has given you the greatest of values , then check on the seller , his Wso's and that should lead you to some one good.

    My recommendations Peter Garety .. other i have learned from have moved away from the warr forum ..
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  • Profile picture of the author phoebetabitha
    I paid my mentor $400 for his 121 coaching. Within 3 months my sites that were set up with his help were ranking on page 1 of Google and generating $1100 per month in sales. OK, it's not the best income in the world, but it allowed me to quit work and live the dream. The best $400 I spent. (of course it does help that my mentor is an ex 'G' employee )
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