To fight depression changing the way we see it
Depression is common among us, we probably encountered in some moment of our life, some people suffer it chronically through their lives and others suddenly get deppress when they least expect it. Therefore, it is important to learn strategies to help us fight depression.
When we are depressed we feel helpless by something in our life, like the death of a family member, losing a job, loneliness, and even for internal reasons, such as thinking that your life has no value.
Strangely enough besides feeling bad about a situation in our life we also get depressed by being depressed, that is, when we realize that we are depressed the feeling becomes more severe because we interpret it as our life is worse for having depression, we now have another bad thing that affects us, we have a problem to solve, finding mental stability which can be a difficult task, typically we proceed to search a therapists, the meaning of life, we make positive affirmations or we use evasion mechanisms to avoid the negative feeling.
The act of thinking about your feelings and thoughts is called metacognition, when we think of our depression we see it in a way that makes us feel worse. Being depression a serious problem it is important to fight it in every aspect, even in the metacognitive, And if the way you think affect you that much it is better to use that kind of thought to attack depression.
A positive way of looking at depression is that it is a mental alarm that is activated for ignoring something in your life that needs to be changed, when you ignore something for too long the mental alarm "depression" is activated for you to change the undesired condition that makes you feel bad. Alarms are uncomfortable by nature, it makes you alert to something that you have to do, and if it is not activated you will ignore the obligation of doing something.
If we look it with this point of view it is good to get depressed, your mind is telling you to act now and is not going to turn off until you fix the problem. How nice it is to have that kind of mechanism, it is better to be aware of a problem to do something about it than to ignore it and never do anything.
We have the mechanism of avoidance, when something makes us feel bad we tend to evade it. for example the case of a person with a bad eating habit, when he realizes that he is getting fat he feel bad and then evade the issue by not taking responsibility. Instead of exercising and dieting, he continues his poor diet and physical inactivity, but later when he notice that he is too fat he get depressed the mental alarm gets activated saying to him that he must act now and he ignored for too much time his problem. In this case he has two choices to act for changing his situation taking depression as motivation tool or to ignore it and continue to evade his responsibility.
If you can't change a problem you definitely can change the way you see the problem, when you have the "mental alarm" and you are not able to do something about the problem, as the case of the death of a relative, you can change your view. This is not to say that one should never feel bad about anything, because the sadness of the death of a relative is a healthy feeling because it is the consequence of losing someone who you had a lot of affection, but if the negative feeling persist (depression and not sadness) then there is a conflict in your mind that needs to be resolved and it existed before the the event that caused the depression. in this case you must work to adapt your perception of things to reality, to build positive beliefs against these unfortunate events.
To fight depression is better to see it in this way, so do not let yourself get defeated by this emotion and instead use it to motivate yourself with what you tell yourself, you have to make the effort to see it in this way because otherwise it would be harmful, try to get to the point where you say that it Is great to be depressed, because this is the best kind of motivation you can have, your mind is showing you with pain that you have to do something.