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I get some funny ones every once in a blue moon where they're SO offended by something and i just don't get it. I got an unsubscribe one day that said, "The sales pitch crossed the line from merely pushy to actually rude, attempting to use psychological pressure. Nice try - now go away."

I was wondering WTH I had said in an autoresponder that resembled psychological warfare. So I checked and this was the message he unsubscribed on (tell me if it appears I'm trying mind control on you):

Title:

If You Act Like a Duck, You'll Be Foie Gras!

Body:

Hi {!firstname_fix}!

What expectations do you have for yourself?

Do you expect, wish, or hope for your success?

I expect it.

I know I'm capable of doing it, so there's no wishing or hoping or
daydreaming or envy that someone else has it better than I do at
the moment.

I just know I'll be there and I put my nose to the grindstone to
make it happen.

The reason I have this is because I was conditioned for this
throughout my educational years. My mom was heavily involved in my
schooling, always pointing out if I made a less than stellar grade
that it was simply due to a lack of effort and preparation and not
my mental abilities - and she was right.

The school I went to was college preparatory - we were doing some
college level work in 8th grade. My son, in 4th grade at the same
school, is doing some of the same work his 10th grade brother in
public school just completed.

When you go to this school, it's expected that you'll be able to
handle the workload and the pressures. This is known as the
Pygmalion Effect. Patricia Dignan wrote a great book called The
Pygmalion Principle: The Impact of High Expectations on Student and
Staff Achievement.

The public school here gives my other son the exact test beforehand
- they don't expect them to learn on their own - they hand the
answers to them on a silver platter. You'd think this would be
great - all the answers given to you! But you don't build
confidence in yourself that way. You don't have to work for your
grade and so you don't feel as proud when you come home with an A.

This is much like what I've discovered in business.

So many people want overnight instant riches. "Hand me the step by
step so that it's brainless!"

Why do you want brainless? Do you expect it because you believe
that's the only way you can reach your goals?

Being successful shouldn't be too easy. The entire learning process
of making money online weeds out those who have what it takes and
those who don't. If you're willing to GO FOR IT - I mean find those
tough answers, have the balls to reach out to someone with a big
name and ask for a JV, stumble, fall and get back up and charge
forward again - then you're going to succeed long term.

If you expect someone to forcefeed you the information like a duck
about to be turned into foie gras, then I'm sorry to tell you this,
but the competition's going to eat you alive.

There's no silver spoon in the world of Internet Marketing.

It's a battlefield and only Warriors who are fearless and who
believe they will win WILL win.

Think about what the expectations are for you and for those you're
learning from! What do you expect from an Internet marketing how-to
eBook? Have you lowered your expectations because of all the trash
out there?

Maybe if you demanded more from them you'd see more of that in the
marketplace. As the student, we know that unless you're in a
personal one-on-one coaching situation, no one is going to expect a
damn thing from you.

It all rests on your shoulders.

I see too many emails from people ready to give up because they've
spent 2 whole weeks trying to figure it out and are now frustrated!
Two whole weeks? I spent 6 YEARS before I finally got fed up enough
to say, "Forget relying on my guru friends and clients to teach me
this stuff - I'm gonna go out and find the answers myself!"

And that's just what I did.

I just had to remember what was expected of me as Tiffany Dow - my
mother's daughter. Still a student in life. Still and always
learning. Always able. Never afraid.

Think about the Pygmalion Effect. Here's what Wikipedia says about
it: "The Pygmalion effect requires a student to internalize the
expectations of their superiors. It is a kind of self-fulfilling
prophecy, and in this respect, students with poor expectations
internalize their negative label, and those with positive labels
succeed accordingly."

Your superior is YOU.

What's your self-fulfilling prophecy?

See yourself as a failure - and you will be one.
See yourself as a success, and you are!

Tiff "



That was it...no sales pitch that I was aware of, but errr, ok!
Tiff

Sure,

Here's an example (links removed...even though they're
free and non-affiliated )

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Hi,
I don't want to take a bunch of your time today, {!firstname_fix}.

Did you know Guitar Player magazine sponsers their very own online
TV station? This site is absolutely amazing! And from one guitarist
to another - you will like this site.

What's more, it's totally fr~ee...as in speech!

It's simply called "Guitar Player TV." You can get all the details
from this post I wrote here:

[Link Removed]

Take a look. I mean, you can learn Jazz, Blues, Metal...or anything
your heart desires. Or maybe you just want to watch a few 'masters'
of guitar in action...you can.

They even have exclusive hands-on demos of all the latest cool guitar
gear. There are literally thousands of videos to watch.

Pause, rewind, watch 'em again & again. It's a blast!

Have fun, {!firstname_fix}.

Steve Fullman
[Link Removed]

PS - Whether you are new or a veteran guitar player like me, Guitar
Player TV is a site you want to be a part of...
[Link Removed]


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Ordinary, helpful stuff!

Steve

Tiff,

I couldn't find a trace of selling.

Perhaps they unsubbed because you were bold
enough to question their dream of instant, brainless
success.

When you tell some folks there really isn't a magic
pill, they get all hufty.

Maybe.

Thanks for sharing,
Steve

One of my favourite unsub messages lately:

"I've had it with the constant bullshit"

And I did what?
Offered him a chance to join a free list building event...

Well, I`ve had good laughs on these kinds of unsub messages

-Lauri