is it Fear of rejection?.. now what next..

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I have noticed a trend with myself over the last few years that I feel has stopped me from achieving my online marketing goals.

I would always get a sudden burst of inspiration, and spend days working on a project, pouring everything I had into it at the time anyway. Then it seems when I get to the crucial last step to really put the project out there, I stall.

I am not a shy person by any stretch.. in my other life I'm a wanna be rapper who club hops and rips stages...

But for some reason.. I start to think the whole thing is just "corny"
What do I really have to offer? they won't be interested.. no one will get it. I'm stupid for even wasting my time...

IT all rushes in and slowly I find myself abandoning the project with the perfect distraction.. well look.. there's this other project I could work on that now all of a sudden makes way more sense and seems more lucrative...

Well I've decided to put a stop to that by completing a project I was first inspired to start 2 years ago.

I built this website from scratch ( well microsoft visual studio ) and even taught myself to program in order to do so because I liked the idea so much, but had no money and it's an unconventional type of forum.

Its a system I've used for years to prepare for debates where I would define each key fact and chart them out in supporting and negating relationships. and then try to tie them together in a web.

By going through and rating the key points and their relevance to the discussion I always got a wide angle so to speak grasp of the topic.

I figured I could turn that idea into an online relational encyclopedia that collected facts from users and mapped their relationships to each other.

I wanted to know what you think will help me attract users and contributors to this website.

I tried to make the pot sweeter by allowing links in posts and all members got dofollow links.

I have a lot of traffic, but not a lot of new members and contributors..

Any ideas would be great. the link is in my signature
#fear #rejection
  • Profile picture of the author Julius Minor
    Great looking site.. Have you done a Press Release?.. Do you still "Rap"?
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    • Profile picture of the author therealfactoid
      yeah. .press releases and backlinks were my next step.. and yest I still rap.. I'm using what I learn through Im to promote my group.
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  • Profile picture of the author sanhal
    Looks like a great idea and site.

    Maybe people don't get what's in it for them.
    Perhaps you could explain this on the home page and more of the fact that they get a dofollow link.

    I'm going to give it a try.

    Sandy
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  • Profile picture of the author vickybabe
    It is called procrastination. Most of us go through it. Honestly, you are the only person who can snap you out of it. You just gotta get it out there and see how it goes.

    As for your idea, i think it is great. To gain more members, i would increase your social efforts in promoting your website, maybe add an incentive for people to join etc.

    Just keep at it, success will come with hard work.
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    • Profile picture of the author Julius Minor
      Originally Posted by vickybabe View Post

      It is called procrastination. Most of us go through it. Honestly, you are the only person who can snap you out of it. You just gotta get it out there and see how it goes.

      As for your idea, i think it is great. To gain more members, i would increase your social efforts in promoting your website, maybe add an incentive for people to join etc.

      Just keep at it, success will come with hard work.
      I agree.. Create a Facebook fanpage, Tumblr and StumbleUpon as well..
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  • Profile picture of the author SurrealPSD
    I would argue you have a sharper mind than 98.5% of the users on this forum. The fact that you have coded such a useful tool really seperates your skillset. Keep pushing, and don't be shy - this is the kind of stuff that hits off big time.

    All the best 8-)
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    • Profile picture of the author substance
      If this is your first site, it is very good and I like your idea.
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  • Profile picture of the author mikeac
    Your site looks good man! Like everyone suggested start working on getting traffic to it through various methods and you will be on your way
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  • Profile picture of the author Neil Morgan
    Ah yes, the little voice of doubt.

    It never, ever goes away!

    Why?

    Because success isn't guaranteed and yes, you can never please all of the people all of the time.

    But you don't need to. You just need to satisfy whatever number you need to reach your business goals.

    That voice never goes away but you learn to live with it and sometimes it has words of wisdom so don't shut it out completely.

    Cheers

    Neil
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  • Profile picture of the author ymest
    I'd do press releases and social media! I'd also write long "pillar" articles to drive traffic to it! The site looks great, congrats!

    As for the "fear" thing it's most probably procrastination and OVER THINKING!!! In you mind, you're trying, probably in your unconscious, to make it perfect....and this will never happen!

    Just go ahead, jump and see what happens! Then tweak, change things, improve, work more!

    I know, I have been there!

    Good luck

    Yoan
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  • Profile picture of the author Malcolm Thomas
    Your site looks great. All that you really need to do is focus on driving more traffic to your site.
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