Do your friends and family support your goals?

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I dunno bout the rest of y'all , but most people around me think i'm crazy for trying to make my living online

people don't outright discourage you, but they give you that second handed support.. or try to tell you about why it can't work because if it was that easy everyone would do it.

of course here we know its not easy.. and that is why most fail at it.. just wish people would support it get behind my projects like they would if i said I was going back to school.. seems thats all people care about these days.. school and military

when you actually work to carve out your own path and take a chance in life.. everyone almost turns their back on you..

or maybe im thinkin too hard about it..
#family #friends #goals #support
  • Profile picture of the author Gonzosan
    I don't really tell people about my goal to make money online. Usually when I do it's very vague because 99% of the time they have no clue what I'm trying to make money with to begin with. I tell my wife and I tell my mom but again they don't know so I usually just keep it to myself.

    Just stay true to yourself and try to interact with others who are on the same path. It's hard to keep going forward when you see everyone doing the normal things society expects of them while you're trying to go the other way to live a life you want.

    Don't get it get you down, just keep focusing on what you want to accomplish. By the way I'm in the military, it's not all it's cracked up to be.
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  • Profile picture of the author RKeele
    I agree most people in general won't support your making money online goals, if you simply tell them you are doing an online business to make money online (or something similar to that.)

    However, I find if you explain what you do in the simplest terms for them to understand, then it makes sense to them and they will support you. What I mean by this is... I too am an internet marketer, and I concentrate on affiliate marketing.

    I explain it to my family and friends as follows. I am a salesperson for different companies, and when I make a sale I get paid a commission. However instead of going door to door, cold calling on businesses or consumers, telemarketing via phones calls, or attend networking events, etc. to get clients and sales, I do all of my marketing to potential customers through the internet. That way I can market to potential clients 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. This also allows me to work from the comfort of my home which saves me time, gas, and all the other expenses I had from a typical sales position with a local company.

    Most people understand the word "salesperson" (or at least they think they do), and most people know at least one or several people that are in sales. Unfortunately they usually don't realize the people they know or work with, are effectively salespeople. To explain that to them I usually use the following examples.

    Do you have insurance of any kind? Example car, life, dental, etc. If so, then you know a salesperson. Why? Well your insurance agent sold you the insurance didn't they? They are a salesperson. Do you have a checking or savings account? Why? The teller or customer service person at the bank sold you they type of checking or savings accounts to suit your needs didn't they? They are a salesperson for your bank. Have you ever bought a new or used car? Well the person that sold you that car was a salesperson. Have you ever bought a house? Well, the realtor you used to find and purchase the house was a salesperson. Do you now realize that all these professions are in sales and are effectively salespeople, whether you realized it before or not? Of course there are hundreds more professions that are sales related as well.

    The only difference between what they do and what I do, is that they are a salesperson for that one individual company that they are employed by. I can be a salesperson for as many companies as I want. I am not limited to just one. I am effectively an independent contractor that can sell for multiple businesses. The tools I use instead of the other traditional forms of advertising such as newspapers, radio, TV commercials, marketing flyers, etc. to gain business, is the internet. Most of the advertising I do to gain customers on the internet is free, or a very minimal expense compared to traditional advertising, plus I get the tax advantages of being an independent contractor (having my own business.)

    Try this approach next time you are explaining your career path to someone, and I bet it will be well received, and you will find that your friends and family will be more willing to truly support you, instead of trying to convince you to get a "real job."

    I hope this approach helps you the way it helped me.
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  • Profile picture of the author pranav7designer
    Hey Bro... I got your thread. It's all about patience which is paid off against all odds if you are not depressed but confident and consistence..
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  • Profile picture of the author jakejoh10
    I don't tell many people because I then get bombarded with a bunch of questions and comments that I don't feel like responding to. Sounds bad, but it's the truth.

    My parents don't even know that I run a fitness site!

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  • Profile picture of the author GailTrahd
    I'm a single mother with two kids at home. I tell people that I'm a freelance writer - which more or less fits just about everything I do - but my biggest challenge is because I work at home people think I can do whatever I want during the day! When they wouldn't think twice about asking a 'dad' to take off during the day to do something, they ask me.

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  • Profile picture of the author Stuart Walker
    People always think you're crazy (or lazy and trying to avoid a 'real' job) when you try and do something like this. Everyones convinced everything on the internet is a scam or that it's not possible to make money because if it was everyone would be doing it.
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    • Profile picture of the author teqqy
      Been through the same thing as you, family doubting my goals and what not, but believe me that all changes (at least for me) once you show them how much you are earning. The thousands of questions about what exactly I do get old, however.
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    • Profile picture of the author Sue McDonald
      Originally Posted by RockingLastsForever View Post

      People always think you're crazy (or lazy and trying to avoid a 'real' job) when you try and do something like this. Everyones convinced everything on the internet is a scam or that it's not possible to make money because if it was everyone would be doing it.
      Yes I have had this reaction from a few well meaning friends telling me to go and get a real job but they know that I am determined to do this now and they have begrudgingly stopped telling me get back and get a day job.

      I believe that you have to have a single purpose that you want to follow online. Finish one thing before you start the next.
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      • Profile picture of the author SEOAiko
        I'm proud and happy to say that my family is with me every step of the way. Some close friends know about my chosen career and they're fine with it. In fact, some of them wanted to be a part of my online endeavor. at some point, their biggest concern (perhaps, mine as well) is the stability and growth of the career. Is it here to stay? Can this support me financially even after 10 years? With the ever changing world, we'll never know until then... All I know is that I enjoy my job and as long as I have the perseverance and dedication to move forward, I'll have a fair share of online success story.
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  • Profile picture of the author betterwtveter
    This may sound personal, but my whole family was into mlm type of busiensses their whole lives until they finally drained the life out of them because of it.
    I was never interested in it until 4 years after my siblings stopped doing this. Because it is in our blood, once I got involved in marketing, I was addicted to it, but have failed in many ventures and succeeded in others.
    Today I do pretty well making an honest living online, but my family are still against my motives due to either their jealousy, or thinking that it will probably fail.
    I never let anyone stall me from success in any venture I am in, even if it be my family because it is my wife alone that supports me in my success that makes it all worth it.
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    • Profile picture of the author Beatrice
      My sister doesn't believe that I am going to make it in IM and I regret telling her about it. I have learnt to ignore her "sarcasm" but I won't be telling anyone else about it until I have at least achieve some of my goals.

      I hope I will be the one laughing then...
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      • Profile picture of the author therealfactoid
        yea, there was actually a pretty good TED talk i seen recently about how if you tell people your goals, you are less likely to achieve them and that its better to actually work on it alone until you've achieved some success.

        seems to be a lot of science backing that up too..
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        • Profile picture of the author robestrong
          My friends and family totally back me up and believe that I can make it, I end up doubting myself more than anyone else.
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        • Profile picture of the author Brian John
          Originally Posted by therealfactoid View Post

          yea, there was actually a pretty good TED talk i seen recently about how if you tell people your goals, you are less likely to achieve them and that its better to actually work on it alone until you've achieved some success.
          seems to be a lot of science backing that up too..
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  • Profile picture of the author nicholasb
    They all thought I was crazy until I reached all of them, now they still think I'm super crazy for the next set of goals I set, but I personally don't care what others think, cause I don't need there validation.

    I chose to be successful, and that is what I will be. Doesn't matter what others think.
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  • Tell yourself that they are being less than enthusiastic because they love you to pieces! :-) Hec even if its not true in every case it will make you feel better lol

    Next keep in mind that your in good company because pretty much every person that was ever told it can't be done was very much on the right path!

    Good luck to you, I am just starting my online career as a virtual assistant and I will not let a few well meaning people stop me from achieving my goals.

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  • Profile picture of the author MarkBrook
    I think there is not much jealousy but a thing they ask from you time which is hard to get for every person who is working online with any type of stuff.

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  • Some relatives think it isn't possible to make money online. But other think that I can do it. It really doesn't matter what they think. What matters is what I think. My cousin and I now work together to make money online.
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  • Profile picture of the author jentheray
    Others have already put it very well, but here’s my two cents. Most people have no idea what we actual do in the IM world, and honestly that is a good thing. The less people who know the better. I am a mother of two and I don’t tell friends or family what I do. They know that I am a homemaker and they are aware of my husband’s career and it’s simpler that way. Just tell your friends and family you’re in web design, it’s all the same to them and not technically untrue…
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  • Profile picture of the author x3xsolxdierx3x
    Forgive me for keeping secrets from my family, but I gave up trying to explain IM and my goals to them. After last months earnings, I finally got my wife to buy off on helping me with some aspects of the business. She's really getting into. I stopped trying to explain it to my parents, etc.
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  • Profile picture of the author Sushiman1111
    Yeah, in the beginning it's not very common for people to be supportive, but then once you achieve some success the tune changes.

    My wife went from "Why are you wasting your time on this?" three years ago to "Thank god for your online empire" just a month or so back when she had some unexpected expenses come up. We joke about the "empire" part (all of four or five websites that are earning money at the moment) but the extra couple thousand dollars a month comes in very handy.

    The thing is, it's going to take months, or more likely a few years, before your work really starts to pay off. That's a long time to put up with negativity, so I wouldn't tell too many people about what you're doing until it's up and running. (And then tell them on your way to Tahiti. )
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  • Profile picture of the author retsced
    No one I know has ever doubted that I'd succeed making money online. In fact, I hear people complaining that they don't have the support of their friends and family. I have to say that it would probably have been far easier and much more motivating to have a lot of doubters in my life. Believe me, it can be just as difficult when you have people in your life who are expecting you to succeed.
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    • Profile picture of the author anton343
      I get full support from my family but I think the main reason is I do not neglect them whilst building my IM business. It is important to have the right balance in life.

      I suspect it becomes an issue when you neglect your family for your own dreams

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  • Profile picture of the author WeavingThoughts
    The herd only believes what it sees. Show them the results and they will believe you. Best of luck!
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    • Profile picture of the author jbyte
      I just tell people I make websites and host websites for a living - technically it is what I do.

      I gave up convincing family it can bring in some decent if not full time income.

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  • Profile picture of the author sarahAttkinson
    Mostly I hear: ”and you do that for that little money? It is such a waste of time and energy for nothing...”
    But I do not listen to them, because I know someday it will be worth it :-)
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  • Profile picture of the author Richard Miller
    Mostly, but sometimes they don't like it...)))
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