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I don't know if I want to be your friend!

by Neil Morgan
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I honestly don't. Here's why...

Every day I get emails from one social networking site or another saying something like:

"John Doe wants to be your friend and invites you to join [insert site name]. Click here to join"

...or some such.

Most of the time, I've never heard of the person making the request. Of course, that doesn't mean they don't know me. After 10 years online I can't remember everyone's name.

To be honest, there's no way I'll be clicking the link in that email because it could just as easily be some kind of spammy/virus thing. Rule #1 to avoid viruses - don't click links in emails from people you don't know.

So sorry if you thought I didn't want to keep up with you - it's nothing personal.

Cheers,

Neil
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  • Profile picture of the author Gabe77
    Ditto. I only accept invites from people I know personally. Like what you said, the person sending the invite may also be sending a virus. And I definitely don't want the trouble.
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  • Profile picture of the author TheRichJerksNet
    Hey Neil,
    On that note, I sent you a friend request ..lol

    James
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    • Profile picture of the author CPA
      Originally Posted by TheRichJerksNet View Post

      I sent you a friend request ..lol
      Me too.

      Time to start xRummering your email after you accept me

      Just joking!
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  • Profile picture of the author cashcow
    I get friend requests here at the WF (not sure why anyone would want to be my friend?) but I usually accept.

    The thing is, I have no idea what to do with these friends. Am I supposed to be communicating with them in some special way? Maybe taking them out to lunch? I see them when I open my CP but I'm not really sure what being a friend means..

    Lee
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    • Profile picture of the author fattysolo
      Originally Posted by cashcow View Post

      I get friend requests here at the WF (not sure why anyone would want to be my friend?) but I usually accept.

      Lee
      I thought it was only me
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  • Profile picture of the author Neil Morgan
    Hey Guys

    You're making it look like I came on here fishing for new friends.

    But if you want to be my friend - that's cool - you can never have too many

    Cheers,

    Neil
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  • Profile picture of the author TheRichJerksNet
    @ Neil - I just think your cool so sent you the request ...lol

    @ Lee - You can take me out to lunch but your not on my friends list ....

    James
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    @ Neil - I just think your cool so sent you the request ...lol
    Gee thanks James - I didn't know you cared.
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  • Profile picture of the author traces2757
    I'm suddenly getting Twitter friend requests from what appear to be oil lobbyists.

    <Runs away screaming>
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    • Profile picture of the author Blase
      Cashcow, lunch would be fine, are you anywhere near MN?

      What I don't get is why people on Facebook ask if I will be their
      friend, but not give me access to their profile to make that decision.

      If I can see that we have things in common, then maybe.

      The good news is at least on FB you can also delete bad friends,
      which I just did to a well known IM'er that thought I needed him
      to use the "F" word on my wall and in my email.
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  • Profile picture of the author venomous2000
    Ok, i'll take my business elsewhere

    haha joking, I know what you mean
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  • Profile picture of the author Josh Fulfer
    Originally Posted by Neil Morgan View Post

    I honestly don't. Here's why...

    Every day I get emails from one social networking site or another saying something like:

    "John Doe wants to be your friend and invites you to join [insert site name]. Click here to join"

    ...or some such.

    Most of the time, I've never heard of the person making the request. Of course, that doesn't mean they don't know me. After 10 years online I can't remember everyone's name.

    To be honest, there's no way I'll be clicking the link in that email because it could just as easily be some kind of spammy/virus thing. Rule #1 to avoid viruses - don't click links in emails from people you don't know.

    So sorry if you thought I didn't want to keep up with you - it's nothing personal.

    Cheers,

    Neil

    So pretty much everyone that could possibly know you is a regular member at the Warrior Forum and will most likely find this thread?
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  • Profile picture of the author Neil Morgan
    So pretty much everyone that could possibly know you is a regular member at the Warrior Forum and will most likely find this thread?
    No, but that still doesn't mean I'm going to click links in unsolicited emails I receive from unknown senders.

    Cheers,

    Neil
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  • Profile picture of the author gb4biz
    This is what I like about the WF so much. The emphasis is put on helping others or being helped. That is community and that is usually how friends are made. The label of Friend, just to have the privilege to read someone's advertisement instead of a normal request is really a turn off! The little bit of friendly banter I find on this and many other posts is what I would consider "Friendship In Action"... Dear Cash Cow, "Happy Mothers Day"!

    And, In case there is another female behind the names or numbers, Happy Mothers Day to you too!
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  • Profile picture of the author Norma Holt
    Originally Posted by Neil Morgan

    "John Doe wants to be your friend and invites you to join [insert site name]. Click here to join"
    Neil, I don't blame you for feeling skeptical if you get invites from John Doe. Where I live that is usually an unidentified corpse.

    By the way I sent you a friend request to keep you friendly and to prove that I am alive and well.

    God bless

    Norma
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  • Profile picture of the author realityplus
    Hi there,this is all new to me but really do love reading all you have to say and yes we all need friends but i am as most carefull who i chose.
    Happy mothers day to all us mums.
    Regards
    Realityplus
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    • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
      Neil,

      I have a folder with hundreds of those requests from people at sites I've never signed up for. I'm with you... Even if it wasn't mildly risky to start clicking on these unexpected links, I'm not going to join every site someone I don't know wants to promote.

      Hell, I feel weird accepting friend invites from people I barely know HERE, much less some random stranger at WhoseItsFaceSpace.com

      It's cool on Twitter, where there's no implied connection. Gets iffy on Facebook, and downright strange on LinkedIn, where there's supposed to be some professional association. You get them from people who might be subscribers, but you don't even know that much. Just "Join my network on LinkedIn."

      Why? Who ARE you?


      Paul
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      • Profile picture of the author TheRichJerksNet
        Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

        Neil,

        I have a folder with hundreds of those requests from people at sites I've never signed up for. I'm with you... Even if it wasn't mildly risky to start clicking on these unexpected links, I'm not going to join every site someone I don't know wants to promote.

        Hell, I feel weird accepting friend invites from people I barely know HERE, much less some random stranger at WhoseItsFaceSpace.com

        It's cool on Twitter, where there's no implied connection. Gets iffy on Facebook, and downright strange on LinkedIn, where there's supposed to be some professional association. You get them from people who might be subscribers, but you don't even know that much. Just "Join my network on LinkedIn."

        Why? Who ARE you?


        Paul
        Well Paul if that domain name is not registered I bet it will be soon ..lol

        Maybe you should try PaulsNameSpace.com ...

        James
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