What you usually do when you fail 5 times in a row?

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Hi there,

The most important thing about this question is:

not just 5 times in a row in business, but mixed: 1st time in business, 2nd time with you girlfriend, 3rd time with your friend 4th time with your business partner 5th time you lost money in casino or in poker also 6th time on FOREX 7th time you got in Car crash and you was quilty

last time I though: "What a hell is going on? What a magic voodoo people doing tricks with me?"

Is it just happens or I need to change something? I don't think we always need to change something


Such a strange feeling I have never felt.
#fail #row #times
  • Profile picture of the author Gambino
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  • Profile picture of the author Jill Carpenter
    Originally Posted by f5mtadas View Post

    Hi there,

    The most important thing about this question is:

    not just 5 times in a row in business, but mixed: 1st time in business,
    Business fails all the time and can take a few tries to get right.
    2nd time with you girlfriend,
    Relationships fail all the time and can take a few tries (or times) to get right.
    3rd time with your friend
    If they are a true friend you may need to reassess what happened and if the friendship is worth it you'll figure it out.
    4th time with your business partner
    There can be issues with business partners. That's why it's important to work out as many details before going forward.
    5th time you lost money in casino or in poker
    Gambling is gambling.
    also 6th time on FOREX 7th time you got in Car crash and you was quilty
    Forex is like gambling, and as for the car crash I can't help you there as you admitted you were guilty (or is quilty something else? )

    last time I though: "What a hell is going on? What a magic voodoo people doing tricks with me?"

    Is it just happens or I need to change something? I don't think we always need to change something


    Such a strange feeling I have never felt.
    You need to change something.

    Actually you probably need to change a few things but I don't know you well enough to judge.

    All I know is if I had all that happen to me in the course of a week I'd go into hiding for about a week and think about what went wrong.
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  • Profile picture of the author RizeAcademy
    Perhaps it is a sign for a turning point.

    Some of the most successful people in the world hit rock bottom before they find any success.

    It's all about how you react to your situation.

    Give up now and you'll be in the same situation you've always been in. Or keep your head up and keep working hard and at least then you have a chance for success.

    Best wishes to you.
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  • Profile picture of the author IvoryPulse
    Originally Posted by f5mtadas View Post

    Hi there,

    The most important thing about this question is:

    not just 5 times in a row in business, but mixed: 1st time in business, 2nd time with you girlfriend, 3rd time with your friend 4th time with your business partner 5th time you lost money in casino or in poker also 6th time on FOREX 7th time you got in Car crash and you was quilty

    last time I though: "What a hell is going on? What a magic voodoo people doing tricks with me?"

    Is it just happens or I need to change something? I don't think we always need to change something


    Such a strange feeling I have never felt.
    Uh...I'm sorry.

    I believe bad periods strike everyone. It starts with one small thing, then second, then third..and keeps going. Good thing is, it always has to stop and everything WILL be fine at the end.

    Take some time and turn back. See why any of those things happened and learn something. While back there, look at those problems from the other side and find something positive in them. And then just keep going as everything will be alright
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    • Profile picture of the author doggerel
      I struggled in Florida. My foreign wife left me high-and-dry and disappeared into another country after extorting me for money. I sunk into that woe-is-me state of lethargy and don't-give-a-damn. Drank at the bars on the beach every night and let my savings go down the drain of self-pity. I got a job at a firm and went on an unprecedented, historical stretch of 4 weeks of no sales before I let myself go, out of humiliation. I was about to be evicted, and all of that.

      I secured a job back North and rented a room from a friend. I pretty much moved back just for the job and the money.

      And as soon as I arrived, they laid off people and slashed hours. The next week, my bike was stolen. I got my old truck running with the rest of my money, and it broke down two times in two weeks. My savings were depleted. I had a little over 100$ on me.

      The girl I moved in with had a psychotic breakdown just a few nights later (people should tell you that they are "schitzo-effective" when renting to you) and I had to FLEE the house, and my truck broke down the next day, in the rest area in the parkway, where I slept the night before.

      I thought God had it out for me.

      I was at the end of my rope, as they say, and standing at the intersection where success and defeat cross each other, and life and death.

      I could write a whole book just on the emotional roller coaster that the next 24 hours were. It was like I lived out a whole lifetime of emotional experience in one day.

      I got up the next morning and went to church, and thanked God for this life, for every second, for existence, for everything-- good or bad.

      I decided to accept what had happened. I couldn't change it. It was just life. And if it gets any worse, I'll just write a book about it. I thought.

      And I'm glad, in a way, that it all happened the way it did. Because something I didn't need was taken away from me during that time.

      You need to figure out what was taken from you, that you didn't need anyway, but just did not know it.
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      • Profile picture of the author f5mtadas
        Originally Posted by doggerel View Post

        I struggled in Florida. My foreign wife left me high-and-dry and disappeared into another country after extorting me for money. I sunk into that woe-is-me state of lethargy and don't-give-a-damn. Drank at the bars on the beach every night and let my savings go down the drain of self-pity. I got a job at a firm and went on an unprecedented, historical stretch of 4 weeks of no sales before I let myself go, out of humiliation. I was about to be evicted, and all of that.

        I secured a job back North and rented a room from a friend. I pretty much moved back just for the job and the money.

        And as soon as I arrived, they laid off people and slashed hours. The next week, my bike was stolen. I got my old truck running with the rest of my money, and it broke down two times in two weeks. My savings were depleted. I had a little over 100$ on me.

        The girl I moved in with had a psychotic breakdown just a few nights later (people should tell you that they are "schitzo-effective" when renting to you) and I had to FLEE the house, and my truck broke down the next day, in the rest area in the parkway, where I slept the night before.

        I thought God had it out for me.

        I was at the end of my rope, as they say, and standing at the intersection where success and defeat cross each other, and life and death.

        I could write a whole book just on the emotional roller coaster that the next 24 hours were. It was like I lived out a whole lifetime of emotional experience in one day.

        I got up the next morning and went to church, and thanked God for this life, for every second, for existence, for everything-- good or bad.

        I decided to accept what had happened. I couldn't change it. It was just life. And if it gets any worse, I'll just write a book about it. I thought.

        And I'm glad, in a way, that it all happened the way it did. Because something I didn't need was taken away from me during that time.

        You need to figure out what was taken from you, that you didn't need anyway, but just did not know it.
        Well I like people with such experience, because mostly they are not empty and can give good advices. My business authorities were lived on extreme life situation like yours. I believe that people who lived on extreme can give great unique value to this world - writing books, live coaching, mentoring and so on, we can see similar life situation like yours is Tony Robbins, Robert Kyosaky and some more, also in other
        sphere - movies stars were lived too. Rise up your nose and move forward
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  • Profile picture of the author serryjw
    Think about what Steven Jobs went on to achieve AFTER he was fired from the company he started...It would be nice if success was a straight line but it's not ...that is the beauty of life, you never know.
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    • Profile picture of the author MarketMaster13
      Giving up in life is not an option to me,this are the times you need to reorganize yourself and think where did you go wrong.
      Failure should be taken as a challenge for you to work on your weaknesses and turn them to strengths
      Challenges are good signs that you are almost achieving your goals so keep working towards achieving you set goals no matter what comes your way.
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  • Profile picture of the author Joe_Chuck
    Get back the horse.

    I failed a couple times in all those category's before I was succesfull (except Forex) and Car Crashes.. I only have 1 car crash I'm guilty of.
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  • Profile picture of the author pizzatherapy
    Very inspiring doggeral.

    I think I played the same song, but in a different band...

    Accept what happens, be grateful for what you have and move on...thank God for your life and your ability to make choices...

    It really is not what happens to you...it's how you deal what with what happens to you...

    and so:

    I decided to accept what had happened. I couldn't change it. It was just life. And if it gets any worse, I'll just write a book about it..
    So where's the book?

    I'm working on mine...

    Get crackin'

    And never ever ever give up.
    That is not an option!
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  • Profile picture of the author Fazal Mayar
    You need to try again and if its been 5 time its because you are doing something wrong thats it.
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  • Profile picture of the author mrgoe
    Life is all about moving forward.. and always learn from experiences.. even if there are 7 of them that look the same..
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  • Profile picture of the author joseph7384
    Seems like you have had a run of some mojo voodoo!

    To reverse the spell you would have to gather a few items. The first thing would be to get the eggs of the infamous Squalicorax and some hair clippings of a Capuchin monkey. Mix them together in a bowl and smear the paste all over yourself while gazing in a mirror singing knock three times by Tony Orlando & Dawn and then get on a chair and do just that, knock three times on the ceiling.:p
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    • Profile picture of the author Michael D Forbes
      Originally Posted by joseph7384 View Post

      To reverse the spell you would have to gather a few items. The first thing would be to get the eggs of the infamous Squalicorax and some hair clippings of a Capuchin monkey. Mix them together in a bowl and smear the paste all over yourself while gazing in a mirror singing knock three times by Tony Orlando & Dawn and then get on a chair and do just that, knock three times on the ceiling.:p
      Don't forget to rub it on the horse, or all is for naught.
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      • Profile picture of the author joseph7384
        Originally Posted by Michael D Forbes View Post

        Don't forget to rub it on the horse, or all is for naught.
        Why certainly! A horse is a horse, of course, of course, And no one can talk to a horse of course. That is, of course, unless the horse is the famous Mr. Ed
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    • Profile picture of the author f5mtadas
      Originally Posted by joseph7384 View Post

      Seems like you have had a run of some mojo voodoo!

      To reverse the spell you would have to gather a few items. The first thing would be to get the eggs of the infamous Squalicorax and some hair clippings of a Capuchin monkey. Mix them together in a bowl and smear the paste all over yourself while gazing in a mirror singing knock three times by Tony Orlando & Dawn and then get on a chair and do just that, knock three times on the ceiling.:p
      You scary me I have had many conflicts with many people. several years ago one guy said will go with my pic to voodoo
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  • Profile picture of the author Steve Fleming
    I NEVER fail at anything 5 times... I give up after the 1st attempt!

    Seeing your subject line reminded me of a classic Homer Simpson quote...

    If at first you don't succeed... give up!
    As others have said above... life is full of set backs and you have
    two choices...

    You can either curl up in a ball and concede defeat or brush it off
    and just keep on moving forward.

    Good luck!

    Steve
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    • Profile picture of the author Friedmett
      Fail 5 times in a row?

      Somehow it does not ever feel like that. If I have the burning desire to do it then I will do it until I get it.

      As for love I also keep at it but figuring out what I needed to learn in order to get succes and it works brilliantly these days.

      Life is a learning curve most of the time and you just have to accept it.
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  • Profile picture of the author onlinejules
    I'm a big believer in the Law of Attraction. If your setbacks (failures as you call them) get in your head and cause you to start feeling or focusing on the negative, the energy you are giving off just propagates the negativity. It's a vicious cycle. My dearest friend is going through exactly that right now.
    My suggestion, motivational CD's. Every day for at least 30 mins. Harv Ecker, Zig Ziglar, Jim Rohn, someone along those lines. I have found anytime i quite reading and listening to motivational materials I see a noticeable drop in my income. Strange but true. The universe responds to your energy. At least, that has been my experience. Hope this helps.
    Best of luck to you!
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  • Profile picture of the author usfemail
    I think we have all failed before at more than one thing, at least I know I have. You have to just keep pushing forward.

    Eventually, you will get the results you want.
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    • Profile picture of the author ajbarnes777
      I know what you're going through. In fact, I was thinking the same thing today! This whole year has been a mess!

      1.) First someone stole my trailer that contained all of my equipment for my offline business.

      2.) Then my grandfather passed away 2 days before my family and I was finally going to travel and see him after a long time.

      3.) Then both my offline and online business took a nose dive that ended up setting me back quite a bit.

      4.) Then I got a blood clot in my leg, then that blood clot moved to my lung and caused a life threatening pulmonary embolism... which put me in the hospital for 3 days, and I now have to take medication to basically "keep me alive".

      5.) Because of the medical issue, that ended up causing more setbacks with both of my businesses.

      6.) And because of it all, my anxiety symptoms have increased!

      It sucks, and I mean, it SUCKS BADLY! However, I'm still standing, I'm still working hard, and my wife and I are pushing through whatever get's thrown at us.

      Bottom line, crap may happen, and it may happen in a consistent sequence that makes you think someone cast a freaking spell on you, BUT, if you persevere through it, the reward on the other side is always greater than the hell you've been through.

      Keep your head up.
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  • Profile picture of the author Teddy T
    Take a break, buddy.

    Clear & replenish your mind well before getting up and going again. Remember to review your life strategies and action plans before you get started again though...What have you done well/not so well? What can you improve on so that your life gets better? Be sure to learn from any mistakes you might have made. Seek out inspirational material/people that could change your life.

    There's still plenty in life for you to grasp and enjoy

    Cheers!!
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  • Profile picture of the author JasonBennet
    The feeling is really frustrating when things are not going as well as plan. Although it might sounds cliche, but the most practical approach is to just get over it and start again. I believe that God will help those people that keep on trying and never give up.
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  • Profile picture of the author jvjoe
    Take a break...
    Pick yourself together and keep trying
    You just need to keep trying to make things right...
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  • Profile picture of the author DTGeorge
    Originally Posted by f5mtadas View Post

    Hi there,

    The most important thing about this question is:

    not just 5 times in a row in business, but mixed: 1st time in business, 2nd time with you girlfriend, 3rd time with your friend 4th time with your business partner 5th time you lost money in casino or in poker also 6th time on FOREX 7th time you got in Car crash and you was quilty

    last time I though: "What a hell is going on? What a magic voodoo people doing tricks with me?"

    Is it just happens or I need to change something? I don't think we always need to change something


    Such a strange feeling I have never felt.
    Stop focusing on failure and start focusing on success.

    Tiger Woods has lost more tournaments than he's won.

    Michael Jordan has missed more shots than he's hit.

    By every account, Edison failed thousands of times in making a successful light bulb.

    Do you think that they sat down and got sad whenever they failed?

    Or did that push them to succeed even more.

    Every "failure" is a learning lesson. Use that to become successful.

    That's just my 2 cents
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  • Profile picture of the author articlesarthors
    Mixed? Don't let it get to you. You should only be concerned if you fail five times in a row at one thing in particular. I think right now, karma is just catching up with you and it looks as if you are going to get a restart soon since you got beat up so much.
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  • Profile picture of the author williamtan
    1) Remove the word "Fail" from the dictionary.

    2) Do it, keep doing. (Personal slogan on my site)
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    • Profile picture of the author Plugin Profits
      5x in a row? It's called momentum. Goes in both directions. Spirals...

      You can reverse the spin, though you have to go against the negative instinctual feelings and against the current that is pushing you further downstream. It's natural to want to react to negative things with more negative feelings, though it's counterproductive.

      That means doing things that seem counterintuitive or that you have to find creative ways to do differently to get past many catch 22s that stand in your way. The losses of faith and losses of leverages you had.

      It's easiest to go with the current pushing you to further destruction. I don't know what the story is of why you had so many falling outs with people in your life, though negative feelings and stress feeds on itself and then is expressed in our relationships with others. Including the feelings that led you to be more careless and unaware when driving.

      Destructive emotions that get increased with each new consequence are why one bad choice often leads to a series of bad choices.

      Take some time out from your next endeavor and work on letting go of your bad feelings and to recover from your losses. Your mental/emotional health is most important. Then when you feel better and clearer, learn from the past and find your inspiration again for a new direction and start new. You'll find your motivation again.
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  • Profile picture of the author tolaskool
    Someone once told me you will fail 100 times and thats why that 1 success you have will dwarf all your failures and fill you with happiness, good luck
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  • Profile picture of the author paulie
    Start by learning to regard negative events as positive learning experiences. Whether good or bad they are all valuable and will help you to succeed. Sure it will take time. As others have said on this thread keep trying.
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  • Profile picture of the author Sarevok
    If I've only failed 5 times?

    I've had a slow week.

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    • Profile picture of the author f5mtadas
      Originally Posted by Sarevok View Post

      If I've only failed 5 times?

      I've had a slow week.

      I figure it out that those failures that happened this month - August paralized me emotionally and I can't do good choices I need some time to refresh my minds, my soul, my brain
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  • Profile picture of the author Nicola Lane
    I would suggest two things:

    1. Find out why you keep failing - address that.

    2. Don't take up skydiving or live hand grenade juggling right now.
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    You can't know success without knowing failure.
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  • Profile picture of the author MKCookins
    Simple, never give up! There is a great saying that every day is the start of a new beginning -- it is up to you to make it a good one or bad.

    Also Here is a great quote from my mentor Chris Farrell I think you may like....

    In 1928, when Walt Disney was only 26 years old, he was on the train from
    New York back to Kansas, when he drew a cartoon of a mouse on his
    sketchpad. Convinced that this drawing had the potential to be a success, he
    decided that he wanted to use it in a new form of film that had started to
    emerge called animation.

    In 1926, silent cartoons were still the only form of cartoon being produced,
    but Walt had a dream that he wanted his mouse to feature in the first cartoon
    which featured sound. In order to achieve this, he needed to raise
    approximately $15,000. In today’s money, that would be about $1 million.

    Now put yourself in the shoes of a New York bank manager sitting at your
    desk opposite a 26 year old lad who is asking you for a $1 million loan in
    order to make a new type of film - which doesn’t even exist yet - and involves
    a mouse.

    Walt’s bank manager laughed him out of the bank.

    Undeterred Walt popped along to another bank to present his plan. He
    received a similar reaction. The same happened at another. And another.
    And another…

    How many banks would you have visited, receiving a mixture of negative and
    hostile reactions, before giving up? One? Two? Ten? Twenty?

    Walt Disney visited 305 banks before he found one prepared to take a chance
    with him.
    It
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  • Profile picture of the author williamtan
    That's why they say "entrepreneurs are those that fail more and faster than anyone else".
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  • Profile picture of the author troy23
    You may not have failed.
    It could be there have been successes of sorts, although you may consider them failures. Even minor achievements are a sign of progress and you should build on that.
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  • Profile picture of the author lowelly
    I'm sorry to hear about your trouble, but you cannot give up. You have to learn from your mistakes and move on. Perhaps you can start by apologizing to your ex, friend and business partner and start anew. Life never gives us more than we can bear!
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  • Profile picture of the author HamzaW
    This quote is apparently attributed to Edison:

    When Thomas Edison invented the light bulb,
    he tried over 2000 experiments before he got it to work.
    A young reporter asked him how it felt to fail so many times.
    He said, “I never failed once. I invented the light bulb.
    It just happened to be a 2000-step process”.

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  • Profile picture of the author Monja
    you can't always be unlucky - breath deep, clean your mouth and go on. chances are good that you'll have luck in future
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  • Profile picture of the author technocomsoftso
    it calls life you have only mentioned about the bad experiences i think you would have seen some good time too. it happens in everyone's life
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  • Profile picture of the author HorseStall
    I think its more about what you learn from each failure. If you keep repeating the same mistakes over and over its time to change something. If each mistake is different and you adept its still progress.
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  • Profile picture of the author laracoates28
    All the time you failed actually you earned a lot of experiences. Now it's time to move on.
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  • 100% of the people who quit, fail.

    100% of the people who persevere are successful.

    Period.
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