Would you tell your Grandmother exactly what you do?

by Vid Yo
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When I tell people what I do for a living, I always get questioned further. My first response is never good enough. I used to think it was because people were genuinely seeking understanding but im beginning to think it's more skepticism and with a raised eyebrow.

You all know that we have a reputation that's not always positive. I'm curious:

How proud are you about what you do online?

How honest are you with what you do?

Have you ALWAYS been proud and honest...from day 1?
#curious #do online #grandmother #honest #proud
  • Profile picture of the author Steve B
    I see this as a 2-sided coin . . .

    Do people genuinely not understand what you do? . . . or . . .

    Do you not communicate what you do so that others can easily understand?

    Every business owner ought to be able to say exactly what their business does in 15 seconds or less. Can you meet this test?

    In answer to your questions: Extremely , Completely, and Yes.

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    • Profile picture of the author Vid Yo
      Originally Posted by Tsnyder View Post

      It seems to me that you have a lack of pride in what you do.

      You should find a way to deal with that or do something else.
      Hhmm...I'm not really sure how you came to that conclusion when I never said I was dishonest or not proud of what I do, because I am. Perhaps you're saying IF i was proud, i should have no problem getting family to understand what i do immediately without them being concerrned about things being legit??

      Btw, you didn't answer any of the questions.

      Originally Posted by travlinguy View Post

      Why would anyone feel the need to justify or go into some deep explanation about what they do? Why does it matter what others think?

      Try this. Next time someone asks you what you do tell them you broker human organs on the black market. Then, after they recover from the shock tell them you sell stuff online. All of a sudden being an Internet marketer will take on a huge air of respectability.
      Ha! Love it! Not sure I could say that to granny, but I do love it.

      Originally Posted by Steve B View Post

      Every business owner ought to be able to say exactly what their business does in 15 seconds or less. Can you meet this test?

      In answer to your questions: Extremely , Completely, and Yes.

      Steve
      Thanks for answering. You're right. I'm almost certain it has less to do with my audience and more to do with this ^ ^ ^

      Steve I also think it has something to do with the perception people already have of IM...I mean before we even open our mouths to tell them what we do.

      Does it sometimes feel as though you have to reverse their negative perception FIRST?
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    Why would anyone feel the need to justify or go into some deep explanation about what they do? Why does it matter what others think?

    Try this. Next time someone asks you what you do tell them you broker human organs on the black market. Then, after they recover from the shock tell them you sell stuff online. All of a sudden being an Internet marketer will take on a huge air of respectability.
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    • Profile picture of the author greenowl123
      Originally Posted by travlinguy View Post

      Why would anyone feel the need to justify or go into some deep explanation about what they do? Why does it matter what others think?

      Try this. Next time someone asks you what you do tell them you broker human organs on the black market. Then, after they recover from the shock tell them you sell stuff online. All of a sudden being an Internet marketer will take on a huge air of respectability.

      Love that idea !

      If somebody seems that they are not capable of understanding me (about any topic, not just IM) or not willing to understand, then why should I struggle to make them understand ? To make myself feel frustrated and angry ?

      Unless the person is paying my bills, buying my groceries or giving me some kind of benefit, their "understanding" is not required.

      A lot of people didn`t understand what Thomas Edison was trying to do either, but how many people today have electricity and light inside their homes ? And at the same time, he made some cash and got himself in the history books.

      Don`t worry about what people think or "understand"... they will think whatever they want to think regardless of how much you try to explain. Just enjoy the fruits of your labor with somebody who understands or at least does not obligate you to "explain what you do".
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      • Profile picture of the author Vid Yo
        Originally Posted by greenowl123 View Post

        Unless the person is paying my bills, buying my groceries or giving me some kind of benefit, their "understanding" is not required.
        I understand the point. I would be here all day if I began to identify the people I'm talking about, but my spouse would be one of those people who has a negative perception of IM, unfortunately.
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        • Profile picture of the author Vid Yo
          Just to emphasize, I say grandmother because I'm pretty sure it's tough for most of us to NOT care what people think who mean so much.

          I still wonder what % of IMers don't feel the least bit guilty when they go into details with relatives about what they do day in and day out.
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        • Profile picture of the author greenowl123
          Originally Posted by Vid Yo View Post

          I understand the point. I would be here all day if I began to identify the people I'm talking about, but my spouse would be one of those people who has a negative perception of IM, unfortunately.
          I know what you mean, bro.

          Mine also had a negative perception of IM when I got started.

          She thought that I was going to be taken advantage of by dishonest people selling me eBooks and such that would not help me. She thought that the only people making money online were big corporations who had lots of money for advertising OR people who were very sneaky and dishonest.

          Her perception changed when I started getting regular checks in the mail every month from Clickbank, Amazon, etc.

          Now, the problem with her is that if I DON`T get checks in the mail, she starts asking me questions, and thinks I might be goofing off and not working hard enough.

          But... let me ask you a question : Does your spouse give you benefits ? Mine gave me some benefits last night, and right now she is preparing lunch... plus she likes to earn her own money too, so its not all bad.

          As long as your spouse is giving you some "benefits" then no worries. When you start making more money, consistently, she will most likely change her perception of IM / MMO.
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  • Profile picture of the author asiaa
    She's been dead for 30 years so no.
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  • Profile picture of the author Tsnyder
    It seems to me that you have a lack of pride in what you do.

    You should find a way to deal with that or do something else.
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  • Profile picture of the author Alexa Smith
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    Originally Posted by Vid Yo View Post

    Would you tell your Grandmother exactly what you do?
    I show both of mine. One of them subscribes to some of my lists, too, just to keep up-to-date with what I'm doing (the other one doesn't speak enough English to read it).
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  • Profile picture of the author JensSteyaert
    It's just a fact that people's reaction is because of fear of the unknown, they have no idea you can make a living online. My grandmother doesn't even have internet so...

    Just don't care about what other people think, it will help you a lot in life
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  • Profile picture of the author Nuno
    I explained this to my Grandfather when he was already well into his nineties... he understood.
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    • Profile picture of the author Vid Yo
      Originally Posted by Nuno View Post

      I explained this to my Grandfather when he was already well into his nineties... he understood.
      Man that's so cool!
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      • Profile picture of the author Nuno
        Vid Yo, I should add he was a business man, but one who never used a PC.
        However he read a lot, even when he was almost 100 years old (until he passed away).
        I was/am very proud of him.
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        • Profile picture of the author Vid Yo
          Originally Posted by Nuno View Post

          Vid Yo, I should add he was a business man, but one who never used a PC.
          However he read a lot, even when he was almost 100 years old (until he passed away).
          I was/am very proud of him.
          ...as you should be. Heck, living well into the 90's is quite an accomplishment in itself.
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    • Profile picture of the author Car0251
      Originally Posted by Nuno View Post

      I explained this to my Grandfather when he was already well into his nineties... he understood.
      Haha, same! My Granda is the only one who understands and takes interest in what im doing. He even offered to fund me before, I declined of course, its great when you have a friend or family member who respects what you're doing.
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      • Profile picture of the author jbelt999
        Oh yes I would!
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  • Profile picture of the author Brent Stangel
    I still wonder what % of IMers don't feel the least bit guilty when they go into details with relatives about what they do day in and day out.
    Why would they feel the least bit guilty?

    I come from a long line of entrepreneurs. Grandma taught me to be one, so why wouldn't she be proud?

    As for the general public, I say I'm a "secret agent."

    Grandma isn't the one you should be concerned with. It's the mug you see in the mirror. How do they feel about what you do?
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  • Profile picture of the author ceenote100
    I wouldn't tell my grandmother this but I usually tell people that I'm a director of midget porn. Most people don't know what IM really is and would find my explanation quite boring.
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  • Profile picture of the author Sweersz
    Don't trust anyone, including your grandmother.

    And always opt for Whois privacy protection.
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    • Profile picture of the author Steve B
      A psychiatrist and a proctologist decided to go in together as partners on a new building rather than each build his own clinic. The only difficulty turned out to be what they should tell people who inquired about their new partnership.

      "Simple" seemed to be the best way to go, so they just decided to tell people they did "odds and ends."

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      • Profile picture of the author Karen Blundell
        since I'm old enough to be a grandmother - I don't need to answer to anyone really except myself, now do I?
        my answers are exactly the same as Steve B's
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  • Profile picture of the author Joe Stewart
    I used to question some things back when I was promoting CPA offers like crazy. When I first started out the industry appeared to be legit, so I went all out with Adwords, Yahoo and Bing. Then a few months later the "free trials" that used to be 30 days started shrinking to 21 days, 14 days, 7 days, etc.

    I was shocked when I found out that most of these offers were sucking people into continuity offers that were extremely difficult to stop. No one would answer the phones when customers would call in to cancel or if they DID answer, most of the time they'd be placed on hold for what seemed like an eternity.

    How do I know? Because not only did I promote them, but my wife also joined a diet offer through an infomercial and it took her 3 months to get the payments stopped. Actually, the bank had to intervene because the company simply wouldn't do it. From what I understand there were a couple hundred customers at her bank that got taken.

    If you're actually reviewing products, giving honest reviews, doing your best to help people and being honest all the way through the process, I don't see any reason to be ashamed at all. On the other hand, if it's a scummy product and you're aware of it from the beginning, no, I wouldn't want either of my Grandmother's (both are deceased) to know.

    As fate would have it, I lost my Adwords account shortly after those offers took a turn for the worst. It hurt really bad financially at the time, but it was really a blessing.

    Just to be clear, not all CPA offers are bad. The industry has really had to clean up its act since then. Still, it's not something I'd want to put all of my efforts into.
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    • Profile picture of the author Vid Yo
      Originally Posted by Joe Stewart View Post

      On the other hand, if it's a scummy product and you're aware of it from the beginning, no, I wouldn't want either of my Grandmother's (both are deceased) to know.
      And pondering the number of people who do this is where my curiosity was born.
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  • Profile picture of the author cyberzolo
    My parents always look down upon the whole "making money online" deal and people are going to continue to raise their brows because they are ignorant and believe the only way to make money is though working a job.
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    My Grandmother bookmarks my YouTube videos for me... on Digg, Stumbleupon, Folkd, Delicious, etc.
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  • Profile picture of the author AndreEngland
    My family (including the wife) are happy as long as I'm bringing in money although they all get concerned about how much time I spend working online. My friends, well that is a different matter. I used to get a kick out of showing them how much I was making, but that was a flaw in my personality. Now I keep quiet about what I do, if someone asks I say I'm an information engineer, if they question me further I tell them it's far too boring to talk about.
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  • Profile picture of the author clever7
    Originally Posted by Vid Yo View Post

    When I tell people what I do for a living, I always get questioned further. My first response is never good enough. I used to think it was because people were genuinely seeking understanding but im beginning to think it's more skepticism and with a raised eyebrow.

    You all know that we have a reputation that's not always positive. I'm curious:

    How proud are you about what you do online?

    How honest are you with what you do?

    Have you ALWAYS been proud and honest...from day 1?
    Answering your questions:

    If my grandmothers were alive, I would tell them what I do. Why not?

    I'm very proud of my work online and offline. It was very hard to learn everything I'm teaching others.

    I'm so honest that my honesty bothers many people...

    I've been proud and honest from day 1.

    Why are you making this research?





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    • Profile picture of the author Vid Yo
      Originally Posted by Brent Stangel View Post

      Why would they feel the least bit guilty?

      Grandma isn't the one you should be concerned with. It's the mug you see in the mirror. How do they feel about what you do?
      Refer to Joe Stewart's post...that's why. I completely agree with the 'man in the mirror' suggestion. That's the first person to be concerned about. Still, family matters.

      Originally Posted by Karen Blundell View Post

      since I'm old enough to be a grandmother - I don't need to answer to anyone really except myself, now do I?
      I guess you don't

      Originally Posted by clever7 View Post

      Why are you making this research?



      Research?? I'm not writing a report here. Just wanted to see if I was in company regarding others' perception of making money online. I'm glad you at least gave your thoughts, though.
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      • Profile picture of the author Alex Blades
        Would you tell your Grandmother exactly what you do?
        Of course, why not??? If my grandmother were alive, she would probably tell me " Then you're paying for the next six pack "
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        • Profile picture of the author Vid Yo
          Originally Posted by Alex Blades View Post

          Of course, why not??? If my grandmother were alive, she would probably tell me " Then you're paying for the next six pack "
          See post #27.
          Ha, Sounds like your grandmother was pretty chill
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            It will be one of the first things on my to do list after clearing the Pearly Gates checkpoint. Meanwhile...
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  • Profile picture of the author wigglywo
    Yes, but she would not understand one bit.
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  • Profile picture of the author Nick Logan
    I would, of course, but I would really need to choose words carefully so she would understand it. I think it is mission impossible
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  • Profile picture of the author Claire Koch
    My own mother thinks I'm nuts. My grandmother? Pffffffffffffff lol
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  • Profile picture of the author Ken Meno
    Just focus on really helping other people. If you're not doing that, you shouldn't be doing it in the first place.
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    • Profile picture of the author Vid Yo
      Originally Posted by Claire Koch View Post

      My own mother thinks I'm nuts. My grandmother? Pffffffffffffff lol
      Being a little nutty just makes you interesting

      Originally Posted by Ken Meno View Post

      Just focus on really helping other people. If you're not doing that, you shouldn't be doing it in the first place.
      I agree.
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    Originally Posted by Vid Yo View Post

    When I tell people what I do for a living, I always get questioned further. My first response is never good enough. I used to think it was because people were genuinely seeking understanding but im beginning to think it's more skepticism and with a raised eyebrow.
    There will always be skeptics and haters, especially if you work online or own your own business. Many are jealous of the perceived freedom that you must have by 'working at home', imagining that it's all lounging on the beach all day and having big fat paychecks rolling in. Most will not believe that you work hard if you work from home or commute, when in fact many of the largest corporations employ freelancers and tele commuters, if only to save costs. Just be strong in your own convictions that what you are doing is right and ignore everyone else.
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  • Profile picture of the author Yao Daniel
    Yes, you're definilely right and people who judge you too.
    And the reason is simple: "every body creates his reality"
    You have to decide if you want to make your own way or just walk on those already made.
    I think that's a huge step you have to face(no one will, can do it for you).
    If you want to make your way(and i hope that's the case), just follow great advices given above....

    Good luck.
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  • Profile picture of the author Badassbro
    If you're good at marketing you can always find the right angle to explain it to people.. just split test and see what works. I have a different response for every demographic.
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  • Profile picture of the author rhydham
    so far i have not get any big success but surely i will do ...very passionate
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  • Profile picture of the author Robert Puddy
    I wonder how many people thought selling bottled water was scammy when it first started out

    After all its free from the tap in millions of places without paying for it. A tap isn't even hard to find
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  • Profile picture of the author brutecky
    Originally Posted by Vid Yo View Post

    You all know that we have a reputation that's not always positive. I'm curious:
    Every business has bad apples. I dont know about your rep. but mine is just fine. As for, would I tell my grandmother what I do. Actually no, because she is 92 years old and doesnt know a thing about computers, so it would be a waste of time trying to explain it to her.
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  • Profile picture of the author Lyanna
    Over the years I have done many, many things to explain to my family exactly what I do. I once even put together a powerpoint slideshow and explained affiliate marketing to them step by step! But the only thing that has been even remotely effective is showing them this video:



    That's exactly what I do - I find content/products and use words (my website) make it better so that people buy it.
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      Originally Posted by Lyanna View Post

      Over the years I have done many, many things to explain to my family exactly what I do. I once even put together a powerpoint slideshow and explained affiliate marketing to them step by step! But the only thing that has been even remotely effective is showing them this video:

      It's a beautiful day and i can't see it ! - YouTube


      That's exactly what I do - I find content/products and use words (my website) make it better so that people buy it.
      Brilliant i must say. My grandmother is dead. Mum sometimes asks me but she is not informed enough to understand. All she says is. "You seem to know what you do so well".
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      Originally Posted by Lyanna View Post

      Over the years I have done many, many things to explain to my family exactly what I do. I once even put together a powerpoint slideshow and explained affiliate marketing to them step by step! But the only thing that has been even remotely effective is showing them this video:

      It's a beautiful day and i can't see it ! - YouTube


      That's exactly what I do - I find content/products and use words (my website) make it better so that people buy it.
      I forgot how amazing that video was. Just got a little teary eyed over copywriting of all things lol
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      • Profile picture of the author discrat
        Most people who ask me.....well I do not get into the specifics because it is confusing for them.

        Basically, I tell them I do Consulting through a Newsletter of mine and that I teach and sell services that enable people to increase the Productivity and Profitability of their small businesses.

        Something like that.

        They usually respond , " Oh cool " !



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  • Profile picture of the author miklanderson2
    I don't have any living grandparents, but my mom knows what I do and I have no problem telling her about my work. She doesn't always understand the technical side of it and is still in awe that I'm able to make so much money without working a "real job," but I'm not ashamed to tell anyone what I do for a living.

    As far as being proud, I'm proud of what I've accomplished so far, but feel I've still got a long ways to go. I've been honest about what I've been doing since day 1. There's nothing shameful or dishonest about what I do, so I have no problem talking about it.
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