How can one spend so much time on the WF and be so unthankful for what this place offers...?

by John Durham

Posted: 15 years ago 24 replies

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Not trying to create fluff. This is a legit question:

I need to understand, is there a political reason why maybe I shouldn't thank others, does it make me look bad?

Is it a sign of weakness?

I notice many times when considering a warriors advice, how many times they have been "thanked" because it's "one" possible indicator that they "might" be good counsil, but THEN the next thing I always notice is how often they thank others...

Sadly, I have noticed (more than a few) who have hundreds of posts, even over 1000... and have only said 'thank you' to other fellow warriors less than 10 times! Some even less than 2 times!!!

This Baffles me. No offense but,

How can you participate in over 6-800 threads, on such a great forum, and not even find 2 things to be thankful to other warriors for?

I would be personally embarrassed to have gotten so much good out of a place like this and not have said thank you more than 2 or 3 times.

Are we really so smart that we can't appreciate others sharing more often than that?

Is there some reason why some don't thank others that I should know?

I have been wanting to ask this for awhile.

#offers #place #spend #time #unthankful

Am2m

15 years ago

I'm curious to know as well. I just signed up and logged in a few hours ago. I've been reading some content and I like to look and see how many times that person has posted to get an idea if they have much experience I guess? I noticed the thanks button after seeing many posts. Then noticed you can track how they have thanked ppl. I saw a person with some 900+ posts, who had thanked only 9 times. I found that puzzling.

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Kay King

15 years ago

There was a good discussion about this earlier this month - link is below

http://www.warriorforum.com/main-int...nks-sucks.html

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John Durham

15 years ago

Originally Posted by Kay King

There was a good discussion about this earlier this month - link is below

http://www.warriorforum.com/main-int...nks-sucks.html

That was what originally caused me to think about it, but this is less "why dont people thank me"? and more "How can a person have 500 posts and only two thanKs"

Just baffles me. I am so thankful for what is offered here. Sometimes, admittedly, I don't "thank" because I wonder if there is a reason I shouldn't?

I could say honestly thanks to someone at least once in every discussion, because there is so much good info here!

Originally Posted by Am2m

I'm curious to know as well. I just signed up and logged in a few hours ago.Then noticed you can track how they have thanked ppl. I saw a person with some 900+ posts, who had thanked only 9 times. I found that puzzling.

Then you understand how legit the question is.

As a new poster, you have to wonder if it is viewed as weakness, or not a good political move to appear overly thankful...? It's a real question that I really wonder. I would prob have thanked 100 people by now if it didn't seem strange that alot of the more experienced warriors don't do it much, and I wonder if there's a reason.

Not questioning their ethics. Just asking why?

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Lawrh 15 years ago

Perhaps, in IM terms, these snobs don't want to share any "link juice":rolleyes:
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Paul Myers

15 years ago

Is it a sign of weakness?

Nope.

It's easy to overdo it, making the thanks a small bit less significant, but so what? If you feel that someone has given you comments that are helpful, and you want to thank them, do it. Who cares what other people think, especially anyone who might consider gratitude to be somehow "weak?"

Paul

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Paul Myers

15 years ago

For the new folks... One thing to keep in mind when comparing the ratios of posts to thanks: The thank you button is relatively new. Some folks had thousands of posts before we started using the software that makes it possible.

It can be an indicator, but you need to take it with a few grains of salt.

Paul

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John Durham

15 years ago

Originally Posted by Paul Myers

There's the answer I needed. That explains alot.

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Michael Mayo

15 years ago

Originally Posted by Kay King

There was a good discussion about this earlier this month - link is below

http://www.warriorforum.com/main-int...nks-sucks.html

I must have missed that one...lol
Thanks Kay!

Hi kadensnga,
I must be the opposite of your OP title.

How does one spend so much time on the WF and be so thankful for
what this place offers...?

Have a Great Day!
Michael

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John Durham

15 years ago

Originally Posted by Paul Myers

And in what thread isn't there a helpful comment? I could easily go thank happy here...don't mean to devalue. All thanks are genuine.

If you say it's okay Paul, then I'm goin on a thankin' spree this week.

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Paul Myers 15 years ago

If you say it's okay Paul, then I goin on a thankin' spree this week.

The board imposes a daily limit. Other than that, it doesn't matter what I say.

I doubt you're going to get any grief from anyone for using the thanks button, though.

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- John Durham 15 years ago
  
  Well if nothing else, now new warriors will know the legit answer to that question and won't be put off when they notice something like that. I certainly wondered.
  
  I'm out. Got what I need!
  
  Thanks!!!!!
  
  Ps. Sorry Kay, i have been reading your posts since you were "bkay" and love ya. Just didn't understand. Was more referring to people with 2 thank you's...and 700 posts...that just seems RIDICULOUS!!!!!!
  
  @Michael:
  
  Yeah wish I had gotten in then, the beer thing was pretty cool. I just lost my password for about 6 years and ended up lurking through that whole era.
  
  I had deleted the post you quoted so as not to jade anyones view but I guess it's cool.
  
  They can read the answers here, and get a balanced perspective. Still some are selfish, but not as many as I thought, and it isn't considered weak to "thank" here, that's the point.
  
  If you view the thread kay mentioned you can see that I have wondered this for awhile... I'm thinking others did too.
  
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Michael Mayo

15 years ago

Originally Posted by kadensnga

It appears that you are one who at least gives back 10% in thanks. Thats more than reasonable compared to like 1%... once again not even an ethical question as much as a why?

I think your math may be off a bit.

The number of posts I've made vs the number of Thanks I've given have
nothing to do with each other.

Now if you look at it using the correct numbers you would see that I have
given over 200% more Thanks than I have received.

Post count has nothing to do with it as many Warriors came from the
old forum and back in the day there wasn't a Thanks button only a
By Me a Beer button!

Ooh, The Good Old days!

Have a Great Day!
Michael

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summerm 15 years ago

700 posts and 2 thank yous... or 1 million posts and 0 thank yous... no big deal. maybe they just don't like the "thank you" feature and thinks it clutters the forum. maybe they forget about using it-- don't we all have a lot on our minds. maybe they'd rather give out a personal thanks. maybe they don't find the content extraordinary and think they are the only ones who know anything on here... that's ok too, they are probably right . i dunno, maybe it would be a good idea to just give these hyperactive warriors the benefit of the doubt. the only reason this place exists is because of prolific posters like that, anyway.
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Diana Lane

15 years ago

I don't use the 'thanks' button as often as I should do because of the daily limit. I have no idea what it is, and always feel that I'll find something super-thankworthy later on and the button won't be available. If I thanked everybody for the useful stuff I find on here, I'd probably have used up my quota by 10am every morning

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Kevin Riley

15 years ago

Originally Posted by Diana Lane

That's OK, when you've reached your limit and I dazzle you with brilliance, you can always ship me a bottle of Irish nectar (Jameson, Bushmills, Tullamore Dew ....)

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Paul Myers

15 years ago

Oldster,

dazzle you with brilliance

You're more likely to baffle her with b_llsh_t.

Paul

PS: That word seems to have experienced a vowel movement...

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Kevin Riley

15 years ago

Originally Posted by Paul Myers

Oldster,You're more likely to baffle her with b_llsh_t.

Paul

PS: That word seems to have experienced a vowel movement...

More ramblings from the outhouse resident. Hope you don't fall in again today. Rednecks are full of enough sh_t, without getting covered in vowel movements.

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Paul Myers

15 years ago

Kevlar,

without getting covered in vowel movements.

When one is a true writer, one expects such things.

Paul

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ExRat

15 years ago

Hi Kadensnga,

I notice many times when considering a warriors advice, how many times they have been "thanked" because it's "one" possible indicator that they "might" be good counsil, but THEN the next thing I always notice is how often they thank others...

If you notice something unusual about the numbers that intrigues you, click on the person's name on the top left (or right click, open in new tab), click on 'statistics' tab, then choose either 'all posts by' or 'threads started by'.

If you choose 'all posts by', then when you get the list of posts -

a) if you click on the bold title next to the folder icon at the top - you go to the start of the thread

b) if you click on the 're:blah blah' below that, which is the subheading of that person's post, you go directly to that specific post in the thread

It probably won't take you long to decide whether the person is good counsel or not. And you will probably get a good idea of the peron's posting style.

EG Some start more threads, some add to existing ones.

Some are more promotional of their own products, some don't promote any.

Some take time to offer helpful advice, some like to voice their opinion.

I could go on, but the point is once you start to 'get to know' people in this manner, you can learn a lot more from them. For example, you might get a good idea about what type of business they are involved in, what they did prior to coming online, what their goals are. I have found this to be very useful towards helping me to plan my business, based on my skills and weaknesses, after getting a bigger picture view of how others have succeeded before me.

Of course, it is common to find someone who says inspiring things on subjects that are close to you, and over time you can then look out for their posts and learn more, or perhaps get to know them more.

And my main point, if you do this you will more than likely find information that will help you to understand why those original posting/thanking numbers caught your eye - which in turn will tell you more about that person's style.

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John Durham

15 years ago

Originally Posted by ExRat

Hi Kadensnga,

If you notice something unusual about the numbers that intrigues you, click on the person's name on the top left (or right click, open in new tab), click on 'statistics' tab, then choose either 'all posts by' or 'threads started by'.

If you choose 'all posts by', then when you get the list of posts -

a) if you click on the bold title next to the folder icon at the top - you go to the start of the thread

b) if you click on the 're:blah blah' below that, which is the subheading of that person's post, you go directly to that specific post in the thread

It probably won't take you long to decide whether the person is good counsel or not. And you will probably get a good idea of the peron's posting style.

EG Some start more threads, some add to existing ones.

Some are more promotional of their own products, some don't promote any.

Some take time to offer helpful advice, some like to voice their opinion.

I could go on, but the point is once you start to 'get to know' people in this manner, you can learn a lot more from them. For example, you might get a good idea about what type of business they are involved in, what they did prior to coming online, what their goals are. I have found this to be very useful towards helping me to plan my business, based on my skills and weaknesses, after getting a bigger picture view of how others have succeeded before me.

Of course, it is common to find someone who says inspiring things on subjects that are close to you, and over time you can then look out for their posts and learn more, or perhaps get to know them more.

And my main point, if you do this you will more than likely find information that will help you to understand why those original posting/thanking numbers caught your eye - which in turn will tell you more about that person's style.

DAMN. You are smart! I have followed your posts some...there's alot of great qualities in the people here, but you have got to be one of the most helpful guys on the forum!

Good to see that some people are having fun on this thread after coming back and checking it!

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ExRat

15 years ago

Hi Kadensnga,

You are smart!

Thanks - but if I am, then one thing's for sure - I'm a lot smarter now than when I first came here.

And part of the reason for that is practising what I preach now, above ^. There are many profiles here with 'ExRat' mentioned as one of the last 10 visitors to the profile.

There is much more to learn from this place than just 'internet marketing'. For example, I have always read books, although I have never been what you would class as a book-worm. But my book collection has increased by about 200% in the last few years - most of them from recommendations here, on subjects that I would probably never have even discovered on my own.

This is one of the reasons why I am such a big fan of the place and most of the people in it. I have said it before, my warrior experience has changed my mindset, my business and in many ways, my life. Cheers warriors!

Hi Kevin,

Dammit Roger, you're getting as long-winded as Wags. More pictures, less words

I deliberately became more verbose so that the more illiterate types in here would skim over my posts and fail to be annoyed by them.

But just for you -

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Kevin Riley

15 years ago

Originally Posted by ExRat

Hi Kevin,

I deliberately became more verbose so that the more illiterate types in here would skim over my posts and fail to be annoyed by them.

But just for you -

Thank you. Now that I could understand.

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ExRat 15 years ago

Hi Kevin,

More pictures, less words

My House

Your House

My Boat

Your Boat
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