Everyone has different coping mechanisms and ways they react to failure.
Here are some tips on how to pick yourself up after you fail:
1. Learn from your failure. There is a lesson to be learned each time you fail. Discover what this lesson is and keep it in mind during future attempts at success. If you don't learn from your failure, you'll keep repeating the same mistakes.
2. Forge ahead. It's completely normal to feel like giving up when you're first hit by failure. The most important part of failure is what you do afterwards. So strive to have confidence in yourself. This experience may very well be your last step before you reach great success!
3. Surround yourself with good people. It's a good idea to be surrounded by like-minded and positive people. This is especially important when you're dealing with the negative emotions that may accompany failure.
• Positive people will inspire you to pick yourself up and go further than you thought you could go.
4. Set goals. If you've failed at a large task, think about setting smaller, immediate goals. If you build your way up to completing a difficult task using small steps, each step may not feel so overwhelming. When you're finished, you'll be amazed at what you achieved!
5. Visualize your dreams. Fight the negative thoughts that creep up after failure by visualizing yourself meeting your goal. Take the time to picture yourself successfully going through each step it will take to reach your goal.
6. Be enthusiastic. When you first set out to achieve something big, chances are you approached the task at hand with a great deal of enthusiasm. If you meet failure once or even several times, it's important to maintain the enthusiastic force to give you the energy and drive to continue toward your goal.
7. Write it down. Keep a journal that details your personal thoughts, goals, and attempts. It will help you stay organized and focused on success. Another good exercise is to write your goal on a piece of paper and place it somewhere where you can see it several times each day to remind yourself to take action toward this desire.
8. Don't dwell in the past. The past doesn't have to be your present or future. Just because you had a setback, it doesn't mean that it will continue to be the case. The only way to achieve your goals is to keep trying.
9. Think about the worst case scenario. What's the worst thing that can happen if you fail? Some people are so concerned with success and have such a horrible fear of failure that they don't consider whether or not the worst case scenario is all that bad!
• Realizing that failure may only mean a small delay toward your eventual success can alleviate some of your fears and give you the confidence to succeed. Just Keep Trying It's likely that you can think of someone you know who set his or her mind on a goal and would stop at nothing to achieve it. It's not just some kind of story or fantasy - this could be you, too! Adopt this drive and apply it to your situation.
Source: My Success Principals