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A few weeks ago, I gave one of my mentors my customary phone call to check in, see how he's doing, catch up, etc.

He asked me if I felt fulfilled in my business. Fulfilled? I'm successful, but what about fulfilled?

He reminded me of something I'd lost track of during the last few years between the explosion of my business and moving from place to place: simply be here now.

It seems like every day people intentionally create imbalance in their lives.

How many times have you told yourself, "I'll make plenty of money today so I can play tomorrow"?

It seems like I'm always thinking about work while playing, and thinking about play while working. Isn't it funny how the grass always seems to be greener on the other side?

The point, I guess, is that I always find myself worrying about the next step. What am I going to do at such-and-such a time and day, when what is really important is enjoying the here and now.

If you can immerse yourself in your everyday interactions with family, friends, coworkers and the world around you, while still remaining focused and driven to accomplish the things you want, you can achieve a much more fulfilled life.
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    • Profile picture of the author fypnlp
      Great advice and so very very true!
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  • Originally Posted by tandren544 View Post


    It seems like every day people intentionally create imbalance in their lives.

    How many times have you told yourself, "I'll make plenty of money today so I can play tomorrow"?

    It seems like I'm always thinking about work while playing, and thinking about play while working.

    I can't even begin to count how many times I've caught myself doing this...and the number of times I HAVEN'T caught myself is exponentially higher!

    Creating a balance is harder than it sounds, but the results make everything so much better for yourself in the end.

    There's certainly something to be said for a strong work ethic and rabid desire to succeed, but never at the cost of your health or relationships with the ones you love.

    Great post.

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  • Profile picture of the author expertname
    Nice post, thanks for sharing. I've always found "Work Hard, Play hard" to be excellent advice. Just remember to Play...
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  • Profile picture of the author JakeRhodes
    I've found myself working 12 hours a day, 7 days a week recently because I really want to push for success. Right now that success means financial success because I'd like to take advantage of the weak housing market while the ecomony is still suffering.

    Focusing almost purely on the work right now, I could probably do with stepping back a little though.
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  • Profile picture of the author jim09875
    Originally Posted by tandren544 View Post


    How many times have you told yourself, "I'll make plenty of money today so I can play tomorrow"?

    It seems like I'm always thinking about work while playing, and thinking about play while working. Isn't it funny how the grass always seems to be greener on the other side?

    The point, I guess, is that I always find myself worrying about the next step. What am I going to do at such-and-such a time and day, when what is really important is enjoying the here and now.
    Dont do so much tension about next.From my point of view you should concentrate in your present.

    Afterall a good advice.
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  • Profile picture of the author emofree
    now that's a powerful advice you've got there making plenty of money is a hard and though one ... patience is the key to success.
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  • Profile picture of the author Igor Kheifets
    I too find myself thinking about the next step even
    when I am away from my laptop on a walk or something.

    It is becoming realy annoying, need to work on that.

    Igor
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    • Profile picture of the author Jacksprat
      Hey, That's great advice. only yesterday my husband mentioned he has lost his wife to a laptop.
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      • Profile picture of the author paul_1
        Originally Posted by Jacksprat View Post

        Hey, That's great advice. only yesterday my husband mentioned he has lost his wife to a laptop.
        Losing a wife to a laptop is really funny... I've heard of someone lost his wife to a horse...
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  • Profile picture of the author John Piteo
    I find some of the greatest joys in life when I'm able to slow down and appreciate what is right there in front of me.

    A few months ago I went to Zion National Park in Utah for a get-a-way. My wife and I ate lunch at a snack bar sitting outside. The weather was perfect. A cool 68 degrees and a clear blue sky. It was the most incredible feeling just sitting there surrounded by beautiful and majestic mountains out in the middle of no where. We sat there listening to the birds and enjoying the scenery and the peacefulness.

    We sat and walked around that area for around two hours just taking it all in. No phones, no computers, no rushing to do anything. We even saw a few deer drinking by a stream. It was an incredible day because we cleared our heads and took the time to enjoy it.

    I'm glad I've learned to do this because I wasn't brought up this way. My dad was always in a rush to go and do the next thing that we never took the time to stop and smell the roses so to speak. To this day I'm still trying to get him to slow down and enjoy the small pleasures in life.
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    • Profile picture of the author dsanchez
      Originally Posted by John Piteo View Post

      I find some of the greatest joys in life when I'm able to slow down and appreciate what is right there in front of me.

      A few months ago I went to Zion National Park in Utah for a get-a-way. My wife and I ate lunch at a snack bar sitting outside. The weather was perfect. A cool 68 degrees and a clear blue sky. It was the most incredible feeling just sitting there surrounded by beautiful and majestic mountains out in the middle of no where. We sat there listening to the birds and enjoying the scenery and the peacefulness.

      We sat and walked around that area for around two hours just taking it all in. No phones, no computers, no rushing to do anything. We even saw a few deer drinking by a stream. It was an incredible day because we cleared our heads and took the time to enjoy it.

      John,

      I really liked all the other posts, but I absolutely LOVE yours!

      This is truly great... to be able to get away like that, with no computers, phones, no need to look at the time... we should all be able to REALLY do that even if it's just once or twice a month.

      I'm sure once we're back home, it will be a lot easier to concentrate on work and be more efficient.

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    Nice very inspiring, thanks!
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  • Profile picture of the author maco
    Very good. I must admit that I am av very guilty of doing so. Right at this moment as I am writing this I am holding in my lap my three-year son looking through a book and reading this post. Just not right.

    I will try to use this advice.
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  • Profile picture of the author clubvikram
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    Be here or live in the present moment is the best way to live life,it makes you more focussed and unleashes your creative energy.Infact i am a loyal follower of Eckhart Tolle and specially his book "The Power of Now",its like bible to me.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kimberly4562
    Originally Posted by tandren544 View Post

    A few weeks ago, I gave one of my mentors my customary phone call to check in, see how he's doing, catch up, etc.

    He asked me if I felt fulfilled in my business. Fulfilled? I'm successful, but what about fulfilled?

    He reminded me of something I'd lost track of during the last few years between the explosion of my business and moving from place to place: simply be here now.

    It seems like every day people intentionally create imbalance in their lives.

    How many times have you told yourself, "I'll make plenty of money today so I can play tomorrow"?

    It seems like I'm always thinking about work while playing, and thinking about play while working. Isn't it funny how the grass always seems to be greener on the other side?

    The point, I guess, is that I always find myself worrying about the next step. What am I going to do at such-and-such a time and day, when what is really important is enjoying the here and now.

    If you can immerse yourself in your everyday interactions with family, friends, coworkers and the world around you, while still remaining focused and driven to accomplish the things you want, you can achieve a much more fulfilled life.

    I have this problem and I am just striving to achieve goals, I do not run a business or anything yet. I can't imagine how much harder it is when you are making it big time and people hold you in high regards.
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  • Profile picture of the author s8999w
    Great thoughts; thanks for sharing them with us! Every experience does come with something worthwhile.
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  • Profile picture of the author IMcruiser
    Every time I work, I think about play and vice versa. I had never really realised this but now I think about it, you are absolutely right
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  • Profile picture of the author kennethsmith72
    It's good to be heard a good advise to other,it can really help a lot
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  • Profile picture of the author Ciara Mac Mahon
    Great posts Tandren & John! It can be particularly hard to strike a balance when you're just starting out on the path to doing this full-time. Right now, I've a part-time job, three small kids & am also chomping at the bit to learn all I can about IM, so trying to divvy up the time is challenging to say the least... but God loves a trier!
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  • Profile picture of the author Igor Kheifets
    In order to create success we constantly need
    to Zoom In and Out of our businesses.

    Sometimes we need to focus only on the now, but
    later on, we need to zoom out and watch the whole picture.

    ~Igor
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  • Profile picture of the author linkbeasts
    all to true the tommrrow that never comes

    " "I'll make plenty of money today so I can play tomorrow"? "
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  • Profile picture of the author aeroturner
    Most effective advice and powerful too..Nice one..Thanks for the share
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  • Profile picture of the author benboniwell
    I enjoyed reading your post, thanks for the advice.
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  • Profile picture of the author hails2009
    Thank you for the insight. I too understand living in the NOW. I sometimes fall back into thinking of TOMORROW and not today.
    I remember when I was 24 years old. When I was so happy to be alive. I enjoyed every day and expected and felt everything was going to be okay. And it did.
    I am getting back to being happy for today.
    So thank you for your insight!
    Have a wonderful day.
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  • Profile picture of the author JoeDRL
    Thank you for that,
    I do believe it's the BIG secret to happiness, being in the present moment. There is nothing wrong in the present moment, only life in its purest form.

    Have a nice day, enjoy it, it might be your last, we never know,
    ~ JoeDRL
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  • Profile picture of the author WiFi
    Yup happieness and fulfillment and success are different things. Sometimes we get caught up in the success of money and are not actually happy nor fulfilled. I was one.
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    • Profile picture of the author JohnWiz
      Great advice.

      One doesn't have contentment when he or she is always worrying about the past, or anticipating the future.

      By being here now, one has contentment, and thereby happiness.
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  • Profile picture of the author TheTruth2011
    Yeah it's always good to stay grounded no matter what material gain you get. Balance just seems to be the key to human life ... no matter how much you want to go against that sometimes ahaha
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  • Profile picture of the author Jager
    Very true. I got lost in optimizing for my future, I forgot to enjoy the present.

    I still think starting out a venture by optimizing for your future is a good way to go, personally.
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  • Profile picture of the author TomHarvey
    Too true!! Totally resonates, thanks for the useful advice - simple yet effective
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  • Profile picture of the author talks 44
    Originally Posted by tandren544 View Post

    It seems like every day people intentionally create imbalance in their lives.
    Indeed, no wonder what the reason is, But it's not so possible at start that your life will be as balanced as you want.
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  • Profile picture of the author dougb
    Great words to remember, now I wish I could just do it. Thanks for the share.
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  • Profile picture of the author lucasannois
    I enjoyed your posts, it motivated me. thanks!
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Bucker
    What most not understand is once one finds a way to be in the moment while away from work they discover that while at work they are much more affective. Simply because of balance.
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  • Profile picture of the author taylatrefl
    Thank you so much for sharing, good advice indeed.
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  • Profile picture of the author writerforhire
    "Be Here Now" is easy to get your head around because of its simplicity. Great reminder!
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  • Profile picture of the author MaryKathan
    Sounds like you have a great mentor!

    Great advice - focus on what you are doing right this minute and enjoy it. All these minutes add up to enjoying life
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  • Profile picture of the author David Sneen
    It is all about being 100% where you are. No matter what you do, you will do it better with full focus. Meditate, take a walk, do whatever it takes to live in the current moment.
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  • Profile picture of the author Wilma1980
    thank you for the advice!
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  • Profile picture of the author webworm
    That's a great thought ! I appreciate it.
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  • Profile picture of the author howardallen
    great thread with a great advice
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  • Profile picture of the author JeffHalligan
    some of the most important messages are in the space between the sentences.
    this is the same space between breaths. when you take notice of it. it will transform you into the now. for that is the only place that it exists.
    Great advice for certain and turned into a great thread and a fun read. thanks for the post.
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  • Profile picture of the author AJ Smith44
    Thank you. I really enjoyed reading your post. What you are saying is absolutely the truth. You must be where you are and enjoy yourself through each process and interaction. Every task or experience deserves your full attention and enjoyment.
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    • Profile picture of the author Daniel Evans
      Planning for the future will always bring in anxieties.

      It's important to be able to pull back and sit in the "now".

      It's difficult, but it can be done!
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  • Profile picture of the author meaghandrina
    nice advice. It really motivate me tru your post. I also want to be hardworking like you.

    thanks
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