I am in debt of $8000 till now, and not seeing any ray of hope, tried every other biz

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I am a person who has been always positive in life and always wanted a good future for me and my family. I was earning money to sustain my family but then I had dreams of making it big on the internet and offline biz and had invested money and time in lot of stuff which actually didn't pay off. In the last 5 years I have blown up all my bank account and am in debts in excess of $8k which is other than the personal loans which have been taken from friends.

I have tried lot of stuff but seems my time and luck are both bad and I haven't been able to make any decent income. I am very worried as I am the single earner in my family and have nothing behind me. I am a regular to the warrior special forums and have bought lot of stuff from here but somewhere the money just trickles in and then goes off. I have actually found out that lot of people are just trying to "palm off" their ebooks or methods to make some easy money themselves,

I am ready to spend/invest around 6-7 hours in a day for the biz other than my work time of 9 hours and 3 hours of travelling. I need some concrete biz to help me and my family also which pays off in time. I need the money to give my kids a good future and good schooling.

All of you guys here mostly are successful and motivated people, my sincere request is to guide me and also help me out of this debt as now am being hounded by the banks and the credit card companies and life has become very tough for me.

I am not a quitter and want to regain my esteem and also prove a point to myself that hard work pays off. I need direction and motivation and help. I am ready to put in any man hours to make it a success.

My Kids and wife are only dependent on my income and without me they will also have no backup

Request all of you to kindly help.

kind reg

srini
#biz #business #debt #hope #money #online #online business advice #ray #till
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  • Profile picture of the author Brian T Burkard
    Srini, I first want to say that it takes courage to share your story and open up about the struggles you are currently facing.

    Second, you are not alone. Many people have and are now struggling to make it on the internet and to follow their entrepreneurial dreams. I too have struggled, but continue to push forward and go for my dreams!

    With that being said Srini, you must immediately change your mindset and from this point forward start FOCUSING ON WHAT YOU WANT, NOT ON WHAT YOU DON'T WANT!

    You MUST not focus on what your current situation is, but what you want your life to be like. You get what you focus on! So if you are constantly thinking about your struggles and your debt, you will get more of the same.

    You need to be strong mentally!

    Write out a financial goal that you want to accomplish in the next 90 days and be specific on the amount and the date you will reach this goal. Write it out on a 3 x 5 index card and carry it with you every day. Read your goal each morning, throughout the day and each night before you go to bed.

    Next write out a list of 25 things or more that you are grateful for in your life. ex your family, your health, your job etc.

    Next I want you to write "I am happy and grateful for all the abundance that flows to me each and every day". Write this in a note book 25 times each morning for 4 weeks!

    These things will help you to achieve a prosperity and success mindset so you can FOCUS on what you want and work towards your goals.

    You need to start to build a LIST.

    If you are passionate about marketing and making money online then you need to think about all the WSO's you have purchased and other trainings and see what interests you and what things you have had success with.

    Create some WSO's yourself and sell them here on the warrior forum and build a list.

    Or set up an optin page with a free giveaway, use free and/or paid traffic and build an optin list.

    Or take one of the WSO's that you bought that you think can make you money and work it for the next 90 days!

    These are a few ideas. Keep it very basic, don't complicate it and get it going. Take ACTION NOW!!!!

    From what you said Srini I can tell you have the desire to succeed. I just gave you things that if you are serious about improving your situation for you and your family and getting out of debt and you follow and do what I just laid out for you, you will begin to achieve success and be able to go for your goals.

    I hope this helps. If I can help you any more or share some advice let me know.
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    • Profile picture of the author srini30
      Thanks a ton Brian for your reply and your advice. I am actually quite inspired by the way you have told me to pursue my dreams and also on how to tackle one goal at a time. I am really indebted to people like you who are really the motivational force for people who are low in their life and need to pull up and back strongly.

      Thanks once again and will surely work on the advice given by you.

      god bless


      Originally Posted by Brian T Burkard View Post

      Srini, I first want to say that it takes courage to share your story and open up about the struggles you are currently facing.

      Second, you are not alone. Many people have and are now struggling to make it on the internet and to follow their entrepreneurial dreams. I too have struggled, but continue to push forward and go for my dreams!

      With that being said Srini, you must immediately change your mindset and from this point forward start FOCUSING ON WHAT YOU WANT, NOT ON WHAT YOU DON'T WANT!

      You MUST not focus on what your current situation is, but what you want your life to be like. You get what you focus on! So if you are constantly thinking about your struggles and your debt, you will get more of the same.

      You need to be strong mentally!

      Write out a financial goal that you want to accomplish in the next 90 days and be specific on the amount and the date you will reach this goal. Write it out on a 3 x 5 index card and carry it with you every day. Read your goal each morning, throughout the day and each night before you go to bed.

      Next write out a list of 25 things or more that you are grateful for in your life. ex your family, your health, your job etc.

      Next I want you to write "I am happy and grateful for all the abundance that flows to me each and every day". Write this in a note book 25 times each morning for 4 weeks!

      These things will help you to achieve a prosperity and success mindset so you can FOCUS on what you want and work towards your goals.

      You need to start to build a LIST.

      If you are passionate about marketing and making money online then you need to think about all the WSO's you have purchased and other trainings and see what interests you and what things you have had success with.

      Create some WSO's yourself and sell them here on the warrior forum and build a list.

      Or set up an optin page with a free giveaway, use free and/or paid traffic and build an optin list.

      Or take one of the WSO's that you bought that you think can make you money and work it for the next 90 days!

      These are a few ideas. Keep it very basic, don't complicate it and get it going. Take ACTION NOW!!!!

      From what you said Srini I can tell you have the desire to succeed. I just gave you things that if you are serious about improving your situation for you and your family and getting out of debt and you follow and do what I just laid out for you, you will begin to achieve success and be able to go for your goals.

      I hope this helps. If I can help you any more or share some advice let me know.
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  • Profile picture of the author srini30
    Also folks would be glad if there are any more to guide me. Brian if you could also share some more details on my next step or also on how to put my best foot forward, it would be great!

    thanks

    god bless

    srini
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  • Profile picture of the author laurencewins
    I would suggest getting a J.O.B. so you can get some regular income. Then you can also focus on some online income but if you are reliant on it as your only income, the pressure will be too great because immediate return is not often possible and consistency is even less likely, in the beginning.

    I am not being negative. I am trying to help you by being practical.
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    • Profile picture of the author Cali16
      Originally Posted by laurencewins View Post

      I would suggest getting a J.O.B. so you can get some regular income.
      Maybe I misunderstood the OP, but from his post, it sounds like he already has a job where he works 9 hours a day and commutes for 3, leaving him 6 to 7 hours a day to invest in making additional money to better his situation:

      I am ready to spend/invest around 6-7 hours in a day for the biz other than my work time of 9 hours and 3 hours of travelling
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      • Profile picture of the author hardraysnight
        why not just live within your means like the rest of us do
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    • Profile picture of the author Arun Chandran
      Originally Posted by laurencewins View Post

      I would suggest getting a J.O.B. so you can get some regular income. Then you can also focus on some online income but if you are reliant on it as your only income, the pressure will be too great because immediate return is not often possible and consistency is even less likely, in the beginning.

      I am not being negative. I am trying to help you by being practical.
      Exactly!!! This is excellent advice. Don't approach IM from a place of desperation. Get a regular source of income, do the marketing thing on the side till the side income is the same or more than your regular income... then depending on your boss, you can either fire him... or sell him your coaching program

      Don't lose hope, Srini.
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  • Profile picture of the author laurencewins
    Hi Cali,

    "oops" I somehow missed that bit. Thanks for pointing it out.
    My apologies to the OP then.
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  • Profile picture of the author srini30
    well thanks I am living well within my means like pointed out, but this loan had been taken to do some business which didn't work out. Now the loan is on my head. Whatever I am earning thru my job is going towards my family expense and my two kids. One of who is a special child {for who I wanted to start some biz to earn more and give him a good living....}

    I am only trying to earn more so that can pay off my debts which will not happen with my current job.
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  • Profile picture of the author srini30
    Thanks everyone, Brian, Arun, laurence.

    I am not losing hope and also am working full time and am making to sustain my family expenses. The only thing is I don't have enough money or saving to clear off my debts. I am looking for some opportunity to earn part time and make some money so as to clear off some of my debts in some time.

    I thank each one of you for guiding, inspiring and motivating me. I have to do something for myself and my family and I don't want to live my life on other people's money or debt.

    I am indebted to each one of you for guiding me and inspiring me. Kindly do guide me at every level.

    god bless all

    kind reg

    Srini
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  • Profile picture of the author bobandnanci
    Srini, I think that if everyone were honest with you, we would all be telling pretty much the same story.

    Here's my suggestion. Quit buying everything that everybody promotes. Decide on one business that you want to build and then go out and do it. How? Be yourself.

    People are hungry for leaders and once you realize that you already are that, you are going to do just fine.

    Get your message out there through the free stuff, Facebook, Twitter, YouTube. Be honest. Let people know that you are working hard for the future that you want to create. There are a lot of people who are tired of being taken advantage of, like you, who just want to have someone be the light at the end of the tunnel, someone who is willing to take them on the journey. You may not feel like you have a lot to offer, but you do, because you have made the decision to go for your dream and you know what doesn't work.

    Let me know if I can help you out in anyway. - Nanci
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  • Profile picture of the author Brian T Burkard
    Srini, Nanci gave you some great advice!

    Believe in yourself, Believe you already know enough and take action.You will learn more by doing than by purchasing another product.

    Like Nanci said, get yourself out there using different platforms and you will start to make things happen!

    Go For It Srini. You have a lot of support just from this forum. Now start to take ACTION!
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  • Profile picture of the author art72
    Before you buy anything for your business, make sure it has the potential to pay for itself. Too many people start off in the wrong mindset that this is easy or fast money...when it really isn't. Just like your job that took time, disciplined effort, and energy to learn, you have to remain consistent in pursuing one method that works and see it through.

    When money permits, become a War Room member, some of the most ingenius marketers on this forum give away secrets, complete training series, tools, and software. Don't buy anything!!! - just learn to recognize who is making money, and duplicate their actions (or promote) their proven methods, paid membership sites etc... And earn some affiliate commissions using the tools and training made available for FREE.

    In a nutshell, 90% of successful marketers online do the following;

    -Research a niche with proven buyers (simply by looking into top selling books, whats hot, whos making money, and evergreen niches such as dating, finances, make money online offers, or a niche YOU have a personal interest in and are comfortable with discussing or marketing)

    - Build a List ; preferably focused on a niche you've thoroughly researched and know there are buyers in.

    *A simple landing page with an irresistible offer in exchange for their email address is all it takes to start building a targeted list of potential buyers.

    -Follow up with non-salesy info, via an email series or an affiliate email swipe file series, give people quality information, build your credibility/authority and start making a few sales recommending high end, quality products and/or services.

    Since it's obvious you don't have much money to invest, keep it simple...use free traffic - such as Youtube, Social media, blogging, article writing and/or reviews about quality products and services...util you can afford paid traffic methods such as PPC ads, solo ads, or other paid traffic methods.

    If you know what a particular audience needs, wants, or desires (which often is relative to what you might buy yourself) -simple guide them to that which they are already seeking.

    Again, don't buy shit... Unless it's a War Room membership (and take advantage of all the free training and resources inside...).
    Naturally, to run a successful IM business it helps to purchase the basics such as a domain, hosting, and autoresponder (for your email campaigns) and eventually buy some paid targeted traffic. *All of which can easily be attained for well under $1000...not $8,000!!!!

    Study what is working already...dont try and re-invent internet marketing or think there is some instant riches formula. Compound your efforts...just as u did at your job, only when u learn to do this right...the money comes in and keeps coming in once you've done the initial work required...

    Provided u believe in doing the work involved...you can make money online.

    If not, you will live a nightmare chasing down the next dream someone's ready to sell u!

    Good luck to you, may u recieve that which u seek.
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  • Profile picture of the author srini30
    Thanks to everyone, I was thinking of making a squeeze page and promoting Traffic wave programs thru free programs. I had actually joined Jen stewarts program earlier last month and as promised haven't got any referrals from him, so am doing it on my own now.

    Was thinking of promoting thru FB groups, free traffic like auto surf engines, etc.

    I was also contemplating selling my fiverr account {if anyone is ready to buy} which is a level 2 seller account with 99% rating. I really don't know how to sell the account. I used to sell some PLR stuff but now biz has gone down from last year onwards.

    Brian , nanci and rest of all of you do you think its a good idea to do it whatever I have mentioned?
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  • Profile picture of the author bobandnanci
    I think that it's good that you are looking at taking action. I think that the Facebook stuff is good but, also, look at doing some YouTube videos, again free, but they do drive traffic. You might also think about doing something through LinkedIn because not a lot of people are using it.

    Proud of you though for thinking of ways to make this work. Now, send me a link when you have a fan page and a video so that I can like it and show you some real support.
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    • Profile picture of the author srini30
      Thanks Bob am already on it. I am doing some changes to my squeeze page and will then start promoting it. Thanks a ton for your kind support

      Originally Posted by bobandnanci View Post

      I think that it's good that you are looking at taking action. I think that the Facebook stuff is good but, also, look at doing some YouTube videos, again free, but they do drive traffic. You might also think about doing something through LinkedIn because not a lot of people are using it.

      Proud of you though for thinking of ways to make this work. Now, send me a link when you have a fan page and a video so that I can like it and show you some real support.
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  • Profile picture of the author srini30
    Dear All,

    I have started promoting my traffic wave income plan and have got a free referral now. Hoping he upgrades so it starts off . I have also joined Jen stewarts program - WSO where he has also promised paid signups and also free utilization of his lead swap account

    Hoping I do get more leads. If any of you can give me more ideas on getting leads it would be great, and also any other program which is cheap to join would be an added value.

    Thanks to all for your kind support and motivation

    god bless

    srini
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  • Profile picture of the author Justin Lewis
    I'll give you my simplest bit of advice.

    Find businesses that need websites or marketing assistance and if they're interested, find a good (reliable and affordable) web developer or marketer and then ask for a finders fee.

    It's simple and it works.

    I've paid people 25% just for sending me a qualified lead that turned into a sale. Some of those clients were $20,000/yr clients so that's $5,000 right there. Anyways, there are always solutions.. ya just gotta think more simple in the beginning.
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    Listen to advices but find your own way, fastest income is generated when thinking outside of the box, and offering solutions for problems which have not yet been tackled.
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    i can give you some tips>>FREE<<
    1)write good quality articles on click bank product review.
    2) write everyday, track your clickbank hop link with freeurltracker.com (it's free) , then trim it TR.IM<< .then add the link with your articles, post them to any one popular article submition site. keep this work for 90 days, then feel the change.
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  • Profile picture of the author srini30
    Thanks everyone, Loved your ideas and am working towards it. I have already managed to get my first referral on trafficwave. I really don't know how much further will it survive but I will give my best shot. I am also trying for some other options as relying on only one would be risky too.

    I am grateful to all of you for guiding me so much. Clickbank marketing have done in the past but probably its not for me coz I have never managed to get any sale from them.

    I would be very happy if any of you could post your success stories and also on what are you currently doing online and also any other biz which can offer some good incentives.

    kind reg

    srini
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  • Profile picture of the author Trey Morgan
    Video marketing on YouTube was the first business model that actually put some consistent money in my bank account.


    I would recommend that because it doesn't require a large investment to get started. Only the basics such as domain, hosting, and autoresponder.


    What I do is I choose a profitable niche. Find a high-converting product to promote in that niche.


    Create a 10-50 page report and give it away for free on a squeeze page. Write out a 7 day email series and promote the affiliate product in the email series.


    I drive traffic by doing keyword research in my niche and creating helpful videos on a daily basis with a call-to-action to get the free report and sign-up to my squeeze page.


    I upload the videos to YouTube and then I add more products to the funnel, while continuing to create more videos on a daily basis.
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    • Profile picture of the author AngelaB11
      Hi Srini,
      Although I don't have any pearls of wisdom on the money side at the moment, I would like to say that you should get a good amount of sleep per night.
      Reading your post where you're mentioning how many hours you work, travel and are prepared to devote to something other than your job, leaves little time for sleep..
      It's an important part of staying healthy and therefore motivated with some energy to pursue your new business..
      Good luck, hope you find something very worthwhile soon
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  • Srini, what's up Fam!

    Look, I know that you may be looking at your situation as if it isn't working for you or that you are not achieving the Success that you want in Life, I get that, but I want you to realize that things don't just happen...things happen just!

    EVERYTHING that is happening in your Life right now is shaping and molding you into the WINNER that you truly are. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF! I Believe In You Fam, and I'm about to tell you something that can Absolutely TRANSFORM Your LIfe:

    You can either go through things and b*tch and complain about them, or you can GROW Through Things And Teach And Train About Them!!!!

    That's REAL, and the choice is YOURS Fam!

    Step Up To The Plate And KNOCK IT OUT OF THE PARK NOW.

    Yours In Prosperity,

    Omar "Power Moves" Adams
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  • Profile picture of the author srini30
    Hi Omar and Angela,

    Glad to read your comments and quite inspiring, motivational and also caring messages. AM really thankful to people like you who are the driving forces.

    I ACTUALLY am believing that I will come out of this situation very soon and also earn decent money for my family and myself . I am sure on that and giving my best everyday.

    Angela am thankful to your advice and will definitely take rest, I know at these times people like us don't get sleep but will definitely try and relax further and stay healthy.

    I have got some real good advice from all of you and have started promoting my biz too and am also awaiting some other low cost opportunities as I don't want to rely on only one biz as of now.

    I have 4 immediate goals:

    1. Pay off my debts within a span of 6-8 months
    2. Take my son and family for a trip next year somewhere for atleast a week
    3. Have at least some balance in my bank account to save me on a rainy day
    4. Be a successful internet marketer in a year's time

    Thanks everyone, and pls keep on suggesting me and motivating me. It means a lot to me.

    god bless!!
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    • Profile picture of the author srini30
      I do Believe my Dreams would be fulfilled during this period. Anyone knows of techniques of "Manifestation" please let me know.

      I have heard of some powerful words which bring in whatever you deserve.

      If anyone knows anything please fo let me know

      god bless

      Originally Posted by srini30 View Post

      Hi Omar and Angela,

      Glad to read your comments and quite inspiring, motivational and also caring messages. AM really thankful to people like you who are the driving forces.

      I ACTUALLY am believing that I will come out of this situation very soon and also earn decent money for my family and myself . I am sure on that and giving my best everyday.

      Angela am thankful to your advice and will definitely take rest, I know at these times people like us don't get sleep but will definitely try and relax further and stay healthy.

      I have got some real good advice from all of you and have started promoting my biz too and am also awaiting some other low cost opportunities as I don't want to rely on only one biz as of now.

      I have 4 immediate goals:

      1. Pay off my debts within a span of 6-8 months
      2. Take my son and family for a trip next year somewhere for atleast a week
      3. Have at least some balance in my bank account to save me on a rainy day
      4. Be a successful internet marketer in a year's time

      Thanks everyone, and pls keep on suggesting me and motivating me. It means a lot to me.

      god bless!!
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  • Profile picture of the author srini30
    Dear All,

    I tried the Mind Control Techniques mentioned by one of the warrior member about writing your goals 100 times and focusing on it.

    I had written about my goal and had started visualizing it and am really pleased that the very next day I received $200 from a source who I had lent out money many years back!

    I am really grateful to this forum for the tips and motivating me. Can someone also help me with some more ideas and some cost effective biz plans. As suggested by few I have started promoting some affiliate programs but am awaiting to get any income

    Please do let me know and also god bless all of you

    kind reg

    Srini
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  • Profile picture of the author sunray
    Stop focusing on debt, and put all your focus on GRATITUDE. Whenever you notice there is a negative thought, replace it. Just be grateful. Doesn't really matter so much what it is: your good health, your family, a nice cup of tea. Do it for a week (first days are the most difficult!), and you'll see changes beginning to happen.
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    • Profile picture of the author srini30
      Thanks a ton for your kind words. Yes I am doing that only and am very hopeful that would over come all this.


      Originally Posted by sunray View Post

      Stop focusing on debt, and put all your focus on GRATITUDE. Whenever you notice there is a negative thought, replace it. Just be grateful. Doesn't really matter so much what it is: your good health, your family, a nice cup of tea. Do it for a week (first days are the most difficult!), and you'll see changes beginning to happen.
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  • Profile picture of the author harvestmeaduk
    Write out a financial goal that you want to accomplish in the next 90 days and be specific on the amount and the date you will reach this goal. Write it out on a 3 x 5 index card and carry it with you every day. Read your goal each morning, throughout the day and each night before you go to bed.
    This ritual is a good one; it actually helped me change my scarcity mindset.

    Aside from changing your mindset, you can do the following:
    1. Assess where you are right now including how much you are currently making and how much you need every month for your basic needs
    2. Create a plan for paying off your debts. Pay off your debts as soon as possible. Make it your priority.
    3. Once you're debt-free, focus your energy on starting your online biz.
    This is not easy but with your persistence, I believe you can make it.
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    • Profile picture of the author Yury2006
      Srini, I will put shortly my view on the right thinking attitude which you may find very different from most topics above as well as the different books on LOA and Positive Thinking.

      The advices Make Gratitude, Think Positevely, Make good financial planning (for example in the 1st answer of Brian T Burkard) are very good but rarely work if follow them directly.

      My opinion is that first your negative feelings and opinions shall be dealt with. Opinions like "I have bad luck", "I'm a looser", "How will I feed my family", "How could I be that stupid"... Wording is not important, your feeling counts. Trying to express gratitude for some different things is just the attempt not to pay attention to real negative feelings/beliefs. Then this is the way of resisitng them. And what you resist - persists.

      Face the challenge, take the gauntlet!! Don't avoid looking at them, don't try to go for something pleasant. These negative feelings are the patterns which repeat themselves and make you act in a wrong way, no good to suppress them. Look them straight into eyes. Accept yourself as you are, and forgive yourself as you are.

      Yes, you shall deal with them positively, until they dissolve, but I can tell from my experience that this is not the most pleasant thing to do. This is the hard job to be done. Find the gratitude inside them!! Find why you shall be grateful that you're in such lamentable situation. Find why you shall be grateful for all that stupid mistakes which you did. Find why your wife and children shall be grateful to you!!

      I put the routine of dealing with fear of failure in another thread, but all of these negative feelings can be dealt with about in the same way. Here it's more difficult because of selfjudgement and selfcondemnation which usually present in feelings.

      Much easier certainly not to do this, and try instead to find and focus on positive, ... but will not work for long. Can't work for long. Only after negative feelings are not in the way, then that process of searchng for positive outside can and will work.

      Wish you all success

      P.S. This certainly does not mean that I advice sitting and doing nothing. All steps which are recommended in this and other threads are good, but the best effect will be if the mindset is right and the attitude is right.
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      • Profile picture of the author srini30
        Thanks Yury for your kind words. I am actually following all the advice and I really need some guidance time to time.

        I am very thankful to all of you for all your kind advice. Kindly do guide me like this and motivate me. I really want to publish my store on this forum and hope it would be an inspiration to many.




        Originally Posted by Yury2006 View Post

        Srini, I will put shortly my view on the right thinking attitude which you may find very different from most topics above as well as the different books on LOA and Positive Thinking.

        The advices Make Gratitude, Think Positevely, Make good financial planning (for example in the 1st answer of Brian T Burkard) are very good but rarely work if follow them directly.

        My opinion is that first your negative feelings and opinions shall be dealt with. Opinions like "I have bad luck", "I'm a looser", "How will I feed my family", "How could I be that stupid"... Wording is not important, your feeling counts. Trying to express gratitude for some different things is just the attempt not to pay attention to real negative feelings/beliefs. Then this is the way of resisitng them. And what you resist - persists.

        Face the challenge, take the gauntlet!! Don't avoid looking at them, don't try to go for something pleasant. These negative feelings are the patterns which repeat themselves and make you act in a wrong way, no good to suppress them. Look them straight into eyes. Accept yourself as you are, and forgive yourself as you are.

        Yes, you shall deal with them positively, until they dissolve, but I can tell from my experience that this is not the most pleasant thing to do. This is the hard job to be done. Find the gratitude inside them!! Find why you shall be grateful that you're in such lamentable situation. Find why you shall be grateful for all that stupid mistakes which you did. Find why your wife and children shall be grateful to you!!

        I put the routine of dealing with fear of failure in another thread, but all of these negative feelings can be dealt with about in the same way. Here it's more difficult because of selfjudgement and selfcondemnation which usually present in feelings.

        Much easier certainly not to do this, and try instead to find and focus on positive, ... but will not work for long. Can't work for long. Only after negative feelings are not in the way, then that process of searchng for positive outside can and will work.

        Wish you all success

        P.S. This certainly does not mean that I advice sitting and doing nothing. All steps which are recommended in this and other threads are good, but the best effect will be if the mindset is right and the attitude is right.
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  • Profile picture of the author srini30
    I am really grateful to this forum. Each day I follow whatever you guys have taught or advised me. In fact whenever some days are bad I always read each and every article of this site and it really motivates me and recharges me again.

    I am following Brian's advice and have made a goal and a plan and am carrying my goals for the next 90 days. I am also really grateful to all the members here for really motivating me and give me real good advise.

    I have started something, it's affiliate promotions of clickbank and all and am doing it on various forums and also have enrolled into the trafficwave program by Jen Steyart. I have already got some 3 referrals . I am really on the lookout for something which can give me some immediate money probably $10-20 a day which can be utilized to fund my internet marketing programs and also help me earn a decent income.

    I am really happy with the mind techniques taught by various warriors on this forum.

    I think whenever anyone needs motivation or when anyone is down in life, they should use this forum coz this forum has got some amazing people like all of YOU!

    Thanks to all you wonderful people for lending a hand and a shoulder to a complete stranger.

    God Bless all of you

    Kind reg
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  • Profile picture of the author srini30
    I have already earned close to $1000 by IM by doing biz some biz on clickbank, fiverr and trafficwave.

    I am really grateful to all of you for guiding me thru this. I would request one more help if possible, Is there anyone who can help me with a good coach or a fiverr coach?

    I am a level 2 seller and want to take my biz to the next level, but my fiverr biz is going quite slow, so thought if anyone can help me with it. Someone suggest me daniel evans name but I feel he's more into selling info products than coaching,

    Also as the biz rule states I am planning to reinvest some part of my earned profit back into the biz to take my biz to a higher level. Can anyone suggest some biz or some coaches who I can share some amount and who would help me take my fiverr or affiliate biz to a level higher. I am also open to any other biz Ideas which require low investment.

    Am really happy that I have earned some decent income after talking to all of you and with your valuable guidance.

    I am sure all of you would help me go one step higher and earn something more

    kind reg

    srini
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    • Profile picture of the author iam8iam
      Srini, you already are successful, you made $1K doing IM which many on the forum cannot brag about. Also, you are a level 2 seller on Fiverr. Why don't you use your reputation on Fiverr, put PLRs on hold, and start selling some new service or product. You can also write an ebook about what worked and what did not work for you on your IM journey and use it as a giveaway to build your list. I just wanted to let you know that you have the options, but you need to calm down your mind and don't let the debt get the best of you.
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      • Profile picture of the author BigFrank
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        Originally Posted by iam8iam View Post

        Srini, you already are successful, you made $1K doing IM which many on the forum cannot brag about.
        Was that in a day, a week, a month a year or 5 years? Before expenses or after?

        Cheers. - Frank
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  • Profile picture of the author BigFrank
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    Originally Posted by srini30 View Post

    I have actually found out that lot of people are just trying to "palm off" their ebooks or methods to make some easy money themselves,
    You sound surpried to have discovered this well-known fact.
    I need direction and motivation
    Bills showing up in your mailbox should provide all the motivation one could possibly need.
    and help.
    While dozens of people will now be posting to tell you what you should do, none of them will actually do anything to help you. They will tell you to 'believe in yourself', 'never give up,' 'build a list,' 'start writing articles' and other such nonsense. When they do, ask them if that will feed your children, today.
    I am ready to put in any man hours to make it a success. My Kids and wife are only dependent on my income and without me they will also have no backup Request all of you to kindly help.
    The only thing that is going to turn your life around, immediately is to get a job, pay off your debt, rebuild your credit, get your family in a secure position and then if you still want to pusue IM, put six months of income in a savings account and invest some money in whatever skills you already possess.

    If you want me to blow smoke up your butt, I can do that. Let me be the first person to give you advice that can actually benefit you.

    I'll leave the giving you false hope to the others whom will tell you that I'm a 'negative' person and to pay no attention to me.

    Follow their lead. See how far you get.

    Cheers. - Frank
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