Break Away from Self-Limiting Thought Patterns

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Have negative thoughts hindered your efforts to live, learn, and grow? Your personal beliefs about yourself and your life matter more than you realize. In fact, those beliefs become the very foundation upon which you build your life.

How do you recognize self-sabotaging thoughts?

Some common self-limiting thoughts are:

• “I’ll never be able to save any money for retirement.”
• “I guess I won’t ever fall in love again.”
• “Why can’t I find any trustworthy friends?”
• “I’ll be fat forever.”
• “I'm sure Pat will get that promotion over me.”
• “I wish I could take a vacation to Europe, but I know I could never afford it.”
• “How will I ever live the life I want earning what I earn now?”

If you identified some of your limiting thoughts while reading the above examples, take steps to break your cognitive ties to those thinking patterns.

Focus on these strategies to start thinking in a new direction

1. Refrain from labeling yourself. If you see yourself as “poor” financially, then you might unconsciously strive to match that label. Or if you think of yourself as “fat” you may be unable to imagine yourself as beautiful and thin.

2. Take baby steps. When you continually move towards your goals, you’ll gain the momentum to keep on going. Rather than think you’re unable to achieve success, make a plan of achievable steps to ensure you do.

• For example, perhaps you’d like a European vacation. Instead of believing you’ll never get there, establish a small weekly savings goal of $20, and keep putting the money aside until you have enough.

3. Learn to be your own best friend. Love yourself enough to be your own best friend. Do this by giving yourself the benefit of the doubt. Think positive thoughts such as, "I can do this." When you practice this, you’ll reject self-limiting thoughts.

4. Believe in yourself. Instead of insisting you’ll “never” do something, say that you can, and then do it. If you turn those negatives into positives, it boosts your self-esteem. Trust that you can accomplish, succeed, and prevail.

5. Assess the truth. Ask yourself, “Is what I’m thinking really true?” For example, is it an absolute reality that you'll never be able to save any money at all for retirement? It doesn't have to be true, unless you strive for that.

• Change your mindset by beginning your retirement fund today. At the end of the day, put all your change into a jar. See how simple it is to start saving?

• Question your self-limiting thoughts. When you realize they’re unrealistic, untrue, and within your power to change, you’ll be able to break away.

6. Recognize how powerful your negative thoughts are. You create who you are by what you think about yourself. Why not turn that power into positive energy that drives you towards the things that you want in life?

7. Learn from prior errors. Instead of using your past against you, think about the knowledge you’ve gained from each experience. Maybe an important relationship dissolved a few years ago. The loss of that relationship doesn’t mean you’ll never find another partner again.

• Rather than getting bogged down with self-limiting thoughts, reflect on the shortcomings of your previous relationship. What part did you play? If you proactively learn from your past mistakes, you’ll make healthier choices in the future.

When you apply the above strategies to your life, you’ll see the possibilities that are all around you. You can do anything you set your mind to. Extinguish those self-limiting beliefs right now so you can start embracing the good life that’s yours for the taking.

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  • Profile picture of the author Yury2006
    Not sure this is a good thing to think about retirement fund when you are below 50. This is = to the thought that you will never be rich. The successful people don't need retirement funds.

    Either you want safety or success - 2 different roads. Yes, certain safety is required, but the main direction shall be towards success. IMHO.

    The same thing about European vacation. Decide what do you want - vacation or achieve your goals. Then concentrate on the target. I'm not again vacations - but concentration of efforts, energy and thought is required.

    The real power is within

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    • Profile picture of the author AntonioSeegars1
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      • Profile picture of the author Matthew Trujillo
        Originally Posted by AntonioSeegars1 View Post

        Agreed. The best way to save money is to make more money than you need, and to continuously compound your income by investing in profitable enterprises.
        That's where a lot of people fail, they continue to spend money on things they don't need rather than maximizing every dollar to create more. It's not only about saving money that we are led to believe, but how we utilize our current expenses to maximize our investment. Cutting out all unnecessary expenses is the first step.
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  • Profile picture of the author oppyeaunome
    This is true. Too many times in life I see people who defeat themselves before they even begin. The negative self talk can do a lot more harm to you then good.

    Negative self talk could hinder the growth of your business if you are a online marketer. I love the points that you made in this post and I think that many people should take what you have said very seriously.

    Its all about forming and creating good habits whether that be mentally or physically. James Clear on his blog has a great free book that goes into the specifics of building good habits. I suggest that anyone who wants to know more about forming good habits check out what he shares on his blog. I know that they have helped me a lot.

    Stay Positive and Keep Working Hard!
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  • Profile picture of the author JimsonWright
    A lot of people give up on the fight before they actually start it. I think that's the biggest reason why people never succeed. Sometimes there are people who are very much capable, very talented, very smart but they lose in the head game.
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    • Profile picture of the author Matthew Trujillo
      Originally Posted by JimsonWright View Post

      A lot of people give up on the fight before they actually start it. I think that's the biggest reason why people never succeed. Sometimes there are people who are very much capable, very talented, very smart but they lose in the head game.
      Agreed, self belief is one of the biggest reasons why many people quit before they get started and see results.
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