Strategies to Overcome Any Obstacle and Succeed

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We’ve all been there. We think we’re well on our way towards a specific goal – whether it’s a new career or a new lease on life – when all of a sudden disaster strikes! We have a setback. Perhaps you didn’t capture the heart of your crush, the promotion fell through, or somehow your perfect plan just didn’t work out.

Disappointment is only human. However, knowing how to accept, manage, and strategize beyond disappointment is the real key to success!

Here are some excellent tips to enable you to stay on track, remain motivated, and defeat your disappointments so that you can overcome them and reap your success:

1. Accept reality. Disappointment is a necessary part of life. In order to experience success, every person must face setbacks or disappointment sometime in their life. The reality of life gives us the polarity of setbacks and successes to better appreciate our wins. Such setbacks also encourage us to strive harder to achieve our goals.

• Overcoming challenges brings us the wisdom to reach even higher goals.

2. Accept relativity. Facing up to the fact that life will always bring trials to overcome will help you beat disappointment in your current mission. Hindsight will inevitably show you that no setback is as big as you thought it was at the time.
• Realizing that life could have handed you a much larger disappointment helps you put the setback in perspective.

3. Do not dwell. When you are hit with a challenge to obtaining your goal, it can be very easy to sink into disappointment. If you find yourself having a pity party, pull yourself up with some positive thinking. Above all else, do not dwell on the last snafu in your struggle to succeed. Dwelling on your disappointment will not change the fact that it happened.

• Spending your time feeling sorry for yourself will delay your success as well as permeate your life with unnecessary pessimism and futility.

4. Create realistic expectations. Like many people today, you may be harboring an unrealistic expectation of yourself. Perhaps you had this inspiring idea to change your life in some grand way. Naturally, you want to achieve your goal now and without anything less than stellar performance! However, realistically, you must recognize that achieving your goals may take some time. You can always adjust your expectations higher and higher as you conquer new goals!

• Having unreal expectations of yourself will only set you up for failure, as you cannot reach impossible heights.

5. Learn from your mistakes. When a setback occurs, the first thing you’d like to do might be to toss in the towel on the whole enterprise! However, a much wiser person bent on success will acknowledge the disappointment as a learning experience.

• If you examine how and why the unwanted situation occurred, then you may be able to restructure your strategy for even bigger and better things than you had originally planned!

6. Stay positive. Lastly, you can surely find your success and win your prize by obliterating disappointment with positive thoughts. Know that you will obtain your goal! Pessimistic thoughts can swallow you whole if you let them, forcing you to delay or give up your dreams altogether.

• Following your positive thoughts with decisive, confident and positive action will propel you to new heights.

Even though disappointment may creep into your life when you least expect it, you can take it in stride by following these techniques. Setbacks don’t define your life; it’s how you react to them that will determine your success. When you face disappointment, learn from the situation, deal with it positively, and confidently move forward toward your goal. Success is yours!
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  • Profile picture of the author JimsonWright
    Nice read! Thank you for sharing!
    I think its the best that people leave the disappointments to today and face tomorrow like its a fresh start. I guess doing so means that you will commit mistake and fail at some point but you won't let that pull you down. You leave all of them behind be and be a new you.
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    • Profile picture of the author Matthew Trujillo
      Originally Posted by JimsonWright View Post

      Nice read! Thank you for sharing!
      I think its the best that people leave the disappointments to today and face tomorrow like its a fresh start. I guess doing so means that you will commit mistake and fail at some point but you won't let that pull you down. You leave all of them behind be and be a new you.
      True, you're going to fail that's the fact of life, but fail if you're going to fail , fail forward.
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    • Profile picture of the author Matthew Trujillo
      Originally Posted by AntonioSeegars1 View Post

      Good post. I agree with everything except the "set realistic expectations" part. I believe that everything is possible for a person who has God on side, and works hard.
      Have faith in the impossible , faith in the infinite.

      Make great goals, and turn them into bite size pieces.

      Know you will like to reach the top of the mountain.

      In between then are the small steps needed to achieve it.
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  • Profile picture of the author nurz
    Thank you for this nice post OP. It’s very empowering. Indeed, life is not perfect and it’s never going to be. There will always be obstacles that could disrupt us from achieving our goals and problems that could dampen our positive energies. There will always be disappointments towards unfulfilled promises or expectations that were failed to meet. But we need to stay positive and keep our Faith in order to move forward in life.
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  • Profile picture of the author cnich23
    I agree. Based on the laws of attraction - the way the universe operates, like attracts like.... so dwelling on disappointment will only bring more disappointment.

    Feel good and feel better. Remind yourself of how awesome you are. Feel success and you will bring success!
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  • Profile picture of the author Khabeer Rockley
    Great thread, below is an extract from my site Business Junkee

    There is the age old question; why do some people stay committed to certain things, and others seem to drift off, or not be able to complete the journey?

    A perfect example – say you go to the gym. Look around, and you’ll see plenty of new people. You’ll also notice a lot of people you recognise that may have been there for 3, 6 months, maybe even a year. Now stop and think. How many people do you know that went to a gym, did it for a few months and now they’ve stopped going? What made those that stayed actually stay, and what was it that made those who may have seemed so motivated end up quitting?

    The same can be seen in business. Maybe either yourself or someone you know started a business, and they started facing hurdles. Things got difficult, and although they tried and tried and persevered, they ended up quitting. Then you’ll probably know of others; things got difficult for them too, however they kept at it and stayed consistent, and they’re still in it. They’ve gone through thick and thin, and stayed the course – even till this day.

    The reason for both examples is the same – what were their motivations? There are two motivations.



    Push Motivations

    Push motivations are willpower based – where we are pushing toward attaining to achieve something. This is the type of motivation that easily results in discouragement whenever obstacles present themselves in the road to achievement. This type of motivation is tenuous as best. Willpower alone is just as strong as the desire behind the willpower. With push motivation you can easily question your original goal when things get hard, so you ask yourself, “why am I pushing so hard at this?”, “is this really worthwhile?”



    Pull Motivations


    This type of motivation is a lot more powerful than push motivation. This is where the thing that we want is so compelling and exciting and clear that it appears to pull us to it. Everyone has experienced pull motivation at sometime in our lives. Pull motivation is when effort seems easy. Where we stay awake late and get up early and don’t seem to need to “talk ourselves into working”. We’d like something so bad that it just appears to pull us to it. When we get up in the morning we think about this compelling thing and it causes us to be excited to get to work. With pull motivation we never need to “convince ourselves” to work hard. You just do it. It’s something you’re passionate about, and you naturally gravitate towards it.



    That brings me to the second point. The importance of doing something you are passionate about. In business, your career, heck even your hobbies, you need to fill your life with things that you are passionate about. You are going to face obstacles along the way. Things will get difficult, and you want to make sure for the long run you are using the right motivation. Passion will activate your pull motivations and with that you’ll be able to take action, stay consistent, and see it through to success.
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    the expectation factor ..

    do as much study as possible on what possible problems may arise..and prepare accordingly or to the best of your ability .

    nievity or denial( positive thinking) .will not hold up when times get tough . the best millitaries in the world train their soldiers to fight in the worst of conditions .

    the more obstacles in your way or that pop up to over come.. the more meaningful the success .. .
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  • Profile picture of the author Matthew Trujillo
    Obstacles are really a test as to how bad you want it. Excuses like " i don't have enough money" or "I'm not good enough" is what holds people back in life. Winners will always find a way , losers will always find an excuse.
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