Who Told You To Set Goals? THEY LIED!

Okay, maybe they didn't lie... but most people go about setting goals so absolutely wrong. Yes, it is important to set goals... but, there's something about them that are so wrong.

Recently, I had an epiphany. Maybe our goals are hurting us.

So many gurus tell you to set a goal and FOCUS HARD on just that goal. But the thing is so many people set goals that suck. They set goals that don't empower them and motivate them. They only set goals that they THINK they can reach or that they feel their peers will be COMFORTABLE with them reaching.

The majority of people set the bar too low right out of the gate because they feel there is some sort of pressure on them to accomplish a goal.

I used to be this way until I started out for a different approach. Instead of setting definite goals and focusing and obsessing over them..

I decided that I wanted to see RESULTS.

Goals have sort of become a cliche in our culture now a days. There's thousands upon thousands of books and videos and opinions on goals but people rarely talk about RESULTS.

Lets just take a minute to think about this. Why do most people fail at New Years Goals or Resolutions? Because, for most people the word goal has developed sort of a negative connotation as much as we want it to be positive most people actually resist and repel from goals on a SUBCONSCIOUS level.

People have set goals and failed for so long that the pattern for failure after setting a goal is almost programmed into them.

Let's not forget how lazy people are and how they want INSTANT GRATIFICATION. Yes, people set New Year's Resolutions that they want to lose 40 pounds by the summer... but what happens as soon as they miss a day at the gym? Or they haven't lost 10 pounds in their first week of heading to the gym?

There is no Instant Gratification and people fall back into their normal habits and patterns.

But what about results?

Results make you want to get off your A$$ and make something happen... the most average people do with goals is read them and go back to their daily lives or they only put in 10% f their potential.

I used to be a person that needed Instant Gratification for motivation. I had a picture and a goal in my mind of how I wanted things to happen the very first time and if it didn't I said SCREW IT!

But once I started to change my view and focus on RESULTS. Everything changed.

I knew that the only way to get results was to take action, and by taking that action... ultimately I was reaching my goals anyway.

Let me explain this a little bit further.

I'm a big fan of basketball and in basketball there is an ultimate goal. To get a Championship Ring at the end of the season. That's everyone's goal.

Now in order to reach that goal of making it to that goal of getting to the Championship. Teams must first make it to the playoffs, where the best teams of the season compete for the last 2 spots in the Championship.

Now, before a team can even reach the playoffs... they must hold a certain record within the nba... i.e. more wins than loses.

How does a team obtain this record of wins vs. loses? By playing their scheduled games in the regular season.

Now in the NBA basketball world, there are 2 halfs to the season. The half Before the All-Star Games and the Half AFTER the ALL - Star games.

Both halfs are equally important, but each half serves a different purpose for the team. It's all about results. Let me break this down.

The 1st half of the season... From the very first game up until the All - Star Game is all about PLAYER Results... each team want to see what each player is providing to the team and how they are going to be able to help in the second half of the season.

Player Results come into play right when the All-Star Games hit. This is trading time. This is when teams evaluate the productiveness of the players on their team and decide if they want to trade and tweak the team for better results in the second half.

Now, we're in the second half of the season... this is where TEAM RESULTS matter. Everyone is fighting for the spots in the playoffs.

Each team goes out on their scheduled nights to produce results. Some teams make it to the Playoffs and some don't but it's all about results.

Play by play every night. Win or lose, teams tweak and tweak until they get it right.
If they lose a game do you think they all go home and quit the rest of the season... no they tweak and get ready for the next game's results.

I used to be afraid to fail. I realized "failure" we call it is nothing but feedback for my actions. Maybe I didn't do something right or in the right order at the right time.

Goals are fine and dandy, but until you grasp the concept of RESULTS. Most people will never really accomplish the goals they wish because to most failing means give up.

But for me failing means a learned lesson to help me try again and move forward! Results have become my instant gratification. Why? Because I know for every action I take I am going to get INSTANT FEEDBACK and results that I can use to tweak my approach at whatever it is I am trying to accomplish.

I take more action because I know the more action I take the more results Ill get.

This is just my approach.

What about you?