Success = Turning Discomfort Into Your Comfort Zone

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How much money do you want to make online?

$500 per month, $1,000 per month, $5,000 per month, what about $10,000+ per month.

The amount of money you will make online is determined by how willing you're to embrace discomfort and resistance.

If you're comfortable where you're right now then you won't achieve higher levels of success.

You have to step into that scary place where you don't know what you're doing and you don't know what the outcome will be.

And you have to step into that scary place over and over and over again.

Eventually, that scary place will become your new home, and all the rewards that come with it will also become your new comfort zone.

Great success requires great discomfort.

Sometimes the fear and uncertainty can be too much to bare, but it's all an illusion.

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

Maybe you're afraid of spending money and losing money....but what if you spend money and start making money?

Maybe you're afraid of taking action and failing, but what if you take action and succeed?

Maybe you're afraid of wasting your time, but what if you end up converting your time into $$$$$

Well, here is the way life works for the most part.

Whenever you're about to take action and you feel resistance and doubts starting to rise to the surface, it means you're most likely headed in the right direction (which is the direction of discomfort).

When you feel resistance and doubts arising, you need to take emotion out of the equation and look at the situation from a logical standpoint.

Most of the time our fears are just flat out stupid and we just have to suck it up and face our fears head-on.

Once you start to embrace discomfort you will start to get more done and achieve your goals more efficiently.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jason Kanigan
    Heh I found this buried in the garden patch of Page 4 of the main forum.

    And you know why? Something typical for this forum. Even though the advice is accurate and helpful, it's Not What Newbies Want To Hear.

    So I'm going to add to it, in the hopes that something I say will prompt an "Oh, I get it now!" reaction.

    What you have is right here: *

    You have that now. There it is: *

    * isn't good enough.

    You know why? Heck, I don't even know you, but I know * isn't good enough for you.

    Because if it was, you'd be happy with what you have right now!

    And you're not happy.

    What you want is this: #

    There's just this little problem, though. # is over there:

    * >>>>> (Zone of Discomfort) >>>>> #

    What you want, #, is beyond that zone of discomfort.

    If you want #, you have to go through the uncomfortableness to get it.

    Discomfort is a SIGNAL.

    Discomfort is a motivation.

    Discomfort is Good.

    Start interpreting being uncomfortable as these things.

    Want # more than you want to be comfortable.

    And then you'll ACT to get #.


    Funny thing...once you get #, that will become your new comfort zone.

    It never ends.

    So that's why you should get used to it.


    People seem to react to the feeling of being uncomfortable as if it means you're Going To Die.

    You're not. Not from this.

    Most of the terrible fears we vaguely imagine never occur.

    Most fear is caused by not knowing enough.

    Stephen King, in his analysis of Horror literature "Danse Macabre," talks about reactions to movie monsters. It's in the director's interest, he points out, to keep the monster hidden through most of the movie. During that period, our imagination does all the work. But eventually, the monster must be revealed. And there it is: a 10' high bug. "Oh, that's not so bad," says your mind. "I thought it was going to be 100' high."

    Point: you are walking around with all this nonsense in your head about fake monsters that will never materialize. And even if they do, they'll be tiny and quite manageable compared to the deadly proportions your imagination has assigned them.

    So learn more about your situation.

    Speaking of bugs and movies, if you've seen Starship Troopers you already have a reference. In the middle third of the film, when the soldiers first encounter the bugs in battle, it's a pretty bad showing for the human race. The peeps don't know much about the bugs. They don't know how they fight, or where their weak spots are, or to do much more than aim their weapons at them and open fire.

    But by the final third, the Mobile Infantry has it down. The bugs are still dangerous...but they're manageable. The humans know their weak spots. They know how to organize themselves around an individual bug to quickly kill it. They can move with confidence. Killing the bugs, rather than being killed by them, has now become the humans' comfort zone.

    And online marketing is nowhere near as inherently dangerous as battling bugs on unknown planets.

    I believe you can handle it.
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  • Profile picture of the author salegurus
    Sorry Jason but i'm feeling uncomfortable right now reading all this Mumbo-Jumbo... I think it went to the bottom of page 4 for a reason....
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    • Profile picture of the author lgibbon
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      Originally Posted by salegurus View Post

      I think it went to the bottom of page 4 for a reason....
      We really do need a lecture forum so they can just
      bore the pants off each other.
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    • Profile picture of the author Trey Morgan
      Originally Posted by salegurus View Post

      Sorry Jason but i'm feeling uncomfortable right now reading all this Mumbo-Jumbo... I think it went to the bottom of page 4 for a reason....

      No need to be negative. There is always someone who will benefit from what you may call "mumbo-jumbo" and we can all use a reminder at times.
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  • Profile picture of the author DaveTheSinister
    What a great post!

    Only he forgot one thing. A lot of people are afraid of success itself. Which is why they self sabotage to begin with and spend more time looking for quick fixes and secret hacks. If a person truly wants to succeed they dont spend their time asking questions, they spend it coming up with solutions.
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    • Profile picture of the author Jason Kanigan
      Originally Posted by DaveTheSinister View Post

      What a great post!

      Only he forgot one thing. A lot of people are afraid of success itself. Which is why they self sabotage to begin with and spend more time looking for quick fixes and secret hacks. If a person truly wants to succeed they dont spend their time asking questions, they spend it coming up with solutions.
      I have coached otherwise-high functioning leaders who were in this situation. I can remember one guy who was afraid he'd have to move his family back to the other coast where they'd came from years before, if he succeeded in his new venture. So he was sabotaging himself. Uncovered this about 20 minutes into our conversation.

      People have all sorts of limiting beliefs about money and success, and what these will do to their lives if they start having them in abundance.

      @Salesgurus...funny thing...all the top leaders I know and work with concern themselves with one primary thing: Mindset. Getting and protecting the right mindset. Which is what we're talking about here. Poor people are squirreling around, looking for those magic How To bullets.

      Let's consider something that should be familiar to your world, given your nickname: prospecting.

      Reaching out to other business owners to see if they have a problem you can fix.

      Nearly everyone feels uncomfortable about this. So much so that they let their fear block them from taking action.

      What they want is on the other side of that discomfort.

      And if they get started, they find their fears are nowhere near as bad as the reality.

      If they do and succeed, then they develop a new comfort zone. Prospecting is OK. The results are worth it.
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    • Profile picture of the author Trey Morgan
      Originally Posted by DaveTheSinister View Post

      What a great post!

      Only he forgot one thing. A lot of people are afraid of success itself. Which is why they self sabotage to begin with and spend more time looking for quick fixes and secret hacks. If a person truly wants to succeed they dont spend their time asking questions, they spend it coming up with solutions.
      Great point. I could've definitely made this thread a lot longer but I just wanted to throw a quick jab that might wake somebody who stumbles across this thread.
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  • Profile picture of the author webmonopoly
    Originally Posted by Trey Morgan View Post

    How much money do you want to make online?

    $500 per month, $1,000 per month, $5,000 per month, what about $10,000+ per month.

    The amount of money you will make online is determined by how willing you're to embrace discomfort and resistance.

    If you're comfortable where you're right now then you won't achieve higher levels of success.

    You have to step into that scary place where you don't know what you're doing and you don't know what the outcome will be.

    And you have to step into that scary place over and over and over again.

    Eventually, that scary place will become your new home, and all the rewards that come with it will also become your new comfort zone.

    Great success requires great discomfort.

    Sometimes the fear and uncertainty can be too much to bare, but it's all an illusion.

    What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

    Maybe you're afraid of spending money and losing money....but what if you spend money and start making money?

    Maybe you're afraid of taking action and failing, but what if you take action and succeed?

    Maybe you're afraid of wasting your time, but what if you end up converting your time into $$$$$

    Well, here is the way life works for the most part.

    Whenever you're about to take action and you feel resistance and doubts starting to rise to the surface, it means you're most likely headed in the right direction (which is the direction of discomfort).

    When you feel resistance and doubts arising, you need to take emotion out of the equation and look at the situation from a logical standpoint.

    Most of the time our fears are just flat out stupid and we just have to suck it up and face our fears head-on.

    Once you start to embrace discomfort you will start to get more done and achieve your goals more efficiently.
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    • Profile picture of the author discrat
      It does seem like rehashed mumbo jumbo but I really think Trey brings up an excellent point.

      I have noticed anything in Life that I have been successful at ( running, working out, Business, College) took a certain amount of discomfort and pain before I saw the Success.

      Its just a fact of Life.


      I know it seems common sense but it is really worth mentioning every now and then beause many Newbies do not seem to have it engrained in their noggins !!

      Thanks Trey for reminding of us of this important factor !!!


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  • Profile picture of the author sttbs
    Nice post. Part of the positive attitude adopted by successful people.

    "Never be comfortable"

    When you are comfortable, it means you will stop improving, and be totally contented with what you have. You will have much less motivation to strive to a higher heights.
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  • Profile picture of the author JoeInTheMiddle
    It may be mumbo jumbo, but it's true. You will get a lot of people that will be afraid to take risks in live becuase it's uncomfortable. But if you don't take risks and remain exactly where you are, how will you ever grow or move forward?

    It's not an original idea, but it is something that I think anyone who wants to be successful should understand and apply.
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    • Profile picture of the author Trey Morgan
      Originally Posted by JoeInTheMiddle View Post

      It may be mumbo jumbo, but it's true. You will get a lot of people that will be afraid to take risks in live becuase it's uncomfortable. But if you don't take risks and remain exactly where you are, how will you ever grow or move forward?

      It's not an original idea, but it is something that I think anyone who wants to be successful should understand and apply.

      It's weird how we already know this, but if you look around most people are still making excuses and staying in their comfort zones. The same people that say this is mumbo jumbo are the people that need to hear it the most.


      And I'm not saying I'm perfect. I write stuff like this to help others but also write it to remind myself. Naturally we want to stay away from taking risks and looking stupid, but success is usually right outside our comfort zones.
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  • Profile picture of the author tobyjensen
    I was going to post this boring, mumbo-jumbo:

    It's tricky. What you focus on expands. But not dealing with the problem directly is delusional.

    So we have to learn to focus on turning problems into something successful.

    Now we have the keys to the universe.

    Too much discomfort literally kills us. Nobody does anything until it is safe first. Big risk often means great and complete failure. Manage risk well to achieve lasting success.

    That is the key.

    Being able to do difficult things in fun, interesting, fulfilling ways that are just safe enough to be able to stretch ourselves. Safe enough. Then, we can go further and further each time while staying alive to enjoy the results.



    But then I read more of the posts and became intrigued. I loved what little interaction there was between the pro's and con's here. Yes, people already do have a blog page to bore the pants off each other. But I am actually wondering now if this is boring because it is seen as common sense? Was that it? Or was it something else?

    It could also be seen as boring because of the serious lack of any story, examples, or analogies. Where is the picture? Just conceptual ideas being posted.

    Or, is it boring because people see it as over simplistic? Whoops, that is probably the common sense thing again. I meant, could it also be boring because it involved emotional inner work or referencing some loosely based, possibly inaccurate, psychology or philosophy. I personally find philosophers boring. They talk way too much, saying very little while really only just wanting to get attention.

    Just get to the point. and by damn, hang a lamp on it!

    Let's make some changes around here.
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  • Profile picture of the author C G
    Nice post.

    Common sense but most people don't embrace discomfort. They are to busy looking for the "secret to success".

    Cheers,

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  • Profile picture of the author PaulHadfield
    You're right man, it's all about getting out of the comfort zone!
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  • Profile picture of the author Tim John Jr
    Right now I make $0 online and just enough to survive at my job. I am behind on bills.

    I am out of my comfort zone right now.

    I am going to work hard and do whatever I can to get back into my comfort zone... Where I don't have to worry about all the incoming bills.
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    • Profile picture of the author Trey Morgan
      Originally Posted by Tim John Jr View Post

      Right now I make $0 online and just enough to survive at my job. I am behind on bills.

      I am out of my comfort zone right now.

      I am going to work hard and do whatever I can to get back into my comfort zone... Where I don't have to worry about all the incoming bills.
      Being an entrepreneur is about taking "strategic" risks. There are people who have been in an even worse situation than you have just described and have found a way to be successful.

      Some people (like myself) would rather deal with the adversity that comes with starting a business than to stay in a 9-5 job. However, I wouldn't take a such a risk without having some form of a strategy that is based on realistic expectations.

      When things get tough there is nothing wrong with going back to your comfort zone and preparing yourself for another try. I've had my ups and downs on my journey to creating a successful online business.
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      • Every success started with a discomfort story. For that is the reason why you MUST grow. It is for your survival.

        Thanks for this post! I am inspired.

        "a successful person is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at him" - one of my favourite quotes
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