Success = Turning Discomfort Into Your Comfort Zone

Heh I found this buried in the garden patch of Page 4 of the main forum.

And you know why? Something typical for this forum. Even though the advice is accurate and helpful, it's Not What Newbies Want To Hear.

So I'm going to add to it, in the hopes that something I say will prompt an "Oh, I get it now!" reaction.

What you have is right here: *

You have that now. There it is: *

* isn't good enough.

You know why? Heck, I don't even know you, but I know * isn't good enough for you.

Because if it was, you'd be happy with what you have right now!

And you're not happy.

What you want is this: #

There's just this little problem, though. # is over there:

* >>>>> (Zone of Discomfort) >>>>> #

What you want, #, is beyond that zone of discomfort.

If you want #, you have to go through the uncomfortableness to get it.

Discomfort is a SIGNAL.

Discomfort is a motivation.

Discomfort is Good.

Start interpreting being uncomfortable as these things.

Want # more than you want to be comfortable.

And then you'll ACT to get #.


Funny thing...once you get #, that will become your new comfort zone.

It never ends.

So that's why you should get used to it.


People seem to react to the feeling of being uncomfortable as if it means you're Going To Die.

You're not. Not from this.

Most of the terrible fears we vaguely imagine never occur.

Most fear is caused by not knowing enough.

Stephen King, in his analysis of Horror literature "Danse Macabre," talks about reactions to movie monsters. It's in the director's interest, he points out, to keep the monster hidden through most of the movie. During that period, our imagination does all the work. But eventually, the monster must be revealed. And there it is: a 10' high bug. "Oh, that's not so bad," says your mind. "I thought it was going to be 100' high."

Point: you are walking around with all this nonsense in your head about fake monsters that will never materialize. And even if they do, they'll be tiny and quite manageable compared to the deadly proportions your imagination has assigned them.

So learn more about your situation.

Speaking of bugs and movies, if you've seen Starship Troopers you already have a reference. In the middle third of the film, when the soldiers first encounter the bugs in battle, it's a pretty bad showing for the human race. The peeps don't know much about the bugs. They don't know how they fight, or where their weak spots are, or to do much more than aim their weapons at them and open fire.

But by the final third, the Mobile Infantry has it down. The bugs are still dangerous...but they're manageable. The humans know their weak spots. They know how to organize themselves around an individual bug to quickly kill it. They can move with confidence. Killing the bugs, rather than being killed by them, has now become the humans' comfort zone.

And online marketing is nowhere near as inherently dangerous as battling bugs on unknown planets.

I believe you can handle it.

Sorry Jason but i'm feeling uncomfortable right now reading all this Mumbo-Jumbo... I think it went to the bottom of page 4 for a reason....

What a great post!

Only he forgot one thing. A lot of people are afraid of success itself. Which is why they self sabotage to begin with and spend more time looking for quick fixes and secret hacks. If a person truly wants to succeed they dont spend their time asking questions, they spend it coming up with solutions.

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Nice post. Part of the positive attitude adopted by successful people.

"Never be comfortable"

When you are comfortable, it means you will stop improving, and be totally contented with what you have. You will have much less motivation to strive to a higher heights.

It may be mumbo jumbo, but it's true. You will get a lot of people that will be afraid to take risks in live becuase it's uncomfortable. But if you don't take risks and remain exactly where you are, how will you ever grow or move forward?

It's not an original idea, but it is something that I think anyone who wants to be successful should understand and apply.

I was going to post this boring, mumbo-jumbo:

It's tricky. What you focus on expands. But not dealing with the problem directly is delusional.

So we have to learn to focus on turning problems into something successful.

Now we have the keys to the universe.

Too much discomfort literally kills us. Nobody does anything until it is safe first. Big risk often means great and complete failure. Manage risk well to achieve lasting success.

That is the key.

Being able to do difficult things in fun, interesting, fulfilling ways that are just safe enough to be able to stretch ourselves. Safe enough. Then, we can go further and further each time while staying alive to enjoy the results.



But then I read more of the posts and became intrigued. I loved what little interaction there was between the pro's and con's here. Yes, people already do have a blog page to bore the pants off each other. But I am actually wondering now if this is boring because it is seen as common sense? Was that it? Or was it something else?

It could also be seen as boring because of the serious lack of any story, examples, or analogies. Where is the picture? Just conceptual ideas being posted.

Or, is it boring because people see it as over simplistic? Whoops, that is probably the common sense thing again. I meant, could it also be boring because it involved emotional inner work or referencing some loosely based, possibly inaccurate, psychology or philosophy. I personally find philosophers boring. They talk way too much, saying very little while really only just wanting to get attention.

Just get to the point. and by damn, hang a lamp on it!

Let's make some changes around here.

Nice post.

Common sense but most people don't embrace discomfort. They are to busy looking for the "secret to success".

Cheers,

C.G.

You're right man, it's all about getting out of the comfort zone!

Right now I make $0 online and just enough to survive at my job. I am behind on bills.

I am out of my comfort zone right now.

I am going to work hard and do whatever I can to get back into my comfort zone... Where I don't have to worry about all the incoming bills.