sometime you may have to throw out your goals .

hello.

i didn't say give up on i said throw out ..

if you are successful at self improvement and changing your mindset .. the new you can actually be limited by many of the goals set from your current mindset.

most of the goal i set prior to a year ago hevk prior to 6 months ago..had to be thrown out ,,

I am 37 .. most of my life i have been shy and introverted ..a little chubby..and i wasn't good at talking to people ,.. in the last 2 years i have completed changed that and .. can talk to almost anyone iuf i have a reason to talk to them ..

then i was a little over weight ..and never had much muscle ..but do to heal problem balloned up to 70-80 pounds over weight ..then a bit over a year ago the weight started coming back off ..and even though i don't go to the gym or work out ,, i started developing real nice muscle tone ..

so another year and i take off the rest of the fat i need to lose and put better definition on my muscles .. then i have always had a disgusting amount of body hair.. and i need a bunch of dental work .. so in the next year or two..i get enough money for laser hair removal ..and get dental work done ,,

then there is making the money marry this smoking hot filipina who wants me to marry her .. but she has many wants ..so i need to make more money haha.

ok thats one goal i always had ..very pretty asian girl haha,


so now i can look out a year or two from now and have a much clearer set of goal.. that now i can say .. pretty wife healthy stron mucular tone body.. eating healthy tasty food.. pretty wife ..

and well it can actuallt be in 4 months instead of a year or two.. cause i don't think she can wait..her list of want keep getting longer haha ...

now physically i can't go back to doing the things i did to becaome fat.. that kind of diet make me sick.. and my stomach is smaller so it hurts like hell if i eat to much ..

and for the most part the food i cook formyself tastes better and has less bad stuff than food i can get outside ..

i know i am going on a tangent her or diverting what ever ...

but .. when people on this forum wave the banner of hard work.. sacrifice .. and the catch phrases .. man it was hard a few years ago.. when i was completly out of shape my back and much of my body was in constant pain.. my mental state was a disaster ..financial was a disater..and i didn't talk to anyone..and was being told i should try to get disability ..

hard is when you look out in the future and you have nothing to hope for..


nothing i do to improve mylife is that harder ,. in my case it is much harder for me not to do it ,,. iut would be more of a sacrifice to eat pizza every day or instant freeser foods .. poor the bowel of sugery ceral filled with artery clogging cows milk .. than cooking my own breakfast ..

you should be setting goals .. where you achieve them and your loive is much better much more fullfilling ..and failing them.. you accept the missery in your life and the hard parts it has ..

hard is when you destry your health and mental stability at a job and .. they lay you off ..

hard is just eccepting what you can get and what life will just give you .. it gets easier when you chose what you want.. and then do what is needed..which can be far less effort than it takes to not do it ..

now i will end with a dity joke my dad use to tell from when he drove busses 50 years ago..

one day two young women get on the buss ..one says to the other.. "you know it is real hard to be good ..

the other girl respond" yeah but to be good it has got to be hard ..

most people don get it..but its a dirty joke ..

anyway i took care of my parents fir the last three years of their lives ..let me tell you hard .. hard will be if you ever really retire and depend on the government for your income
there are many people who are goning to face harder times than they thought ..

.. so when you learn you have a choice ,.. failing or staying a failure becomes much much much ..harder than doing what you need to do to make your own life a success .