Getting Rid of Ego

Don't take advice from just anyone--learn from the people who know. Choose a couple (a few?) people you respect and admire, and study them. Read what they have written and what has been written about them. Listen to interviews. Reverse-engineer what they do, not to copy them, but to learn from them.

I tend to be cynical of advice from people who have not done what they are talking about. However, listening to people who have been there, done that has shortened my learning curve and helped me avoid mistakes that would have been costly in time and money.

Hey Jack. I think there are lots of people like this. Not necessarily a problem, though.

The good news is that you eventually learn from your mistakes. There are many who
do not. Also keep in mind that your past behavior does not have to be your future
behavior. I'm sure you realize this.

If you want to be better at taking in good advice, then perhaps consider the following:

1. Try to maintain your awareness of what you want. Seems to me it's more of an
openness to taking in good advice. So try cultivating an open mind. Practice listening
to what others have to say.

As a sidenote, one thing I've noticed with very many people is they do not listen very
well. Try paying closer attention to other people and notice what they're doing when
they are listening. You may be surprised at what you discover.

2. I do not know if you do this, but you may. Don't be quick to dismiss what others
suggest to you. Maybe you think about it for some short period, then quickly judge
and dismiss. If you do that, try consciously hanging on to it a little longer and sincerely
considering what they're suggesting.

3. Everyone needs to exercise some discrimination with advice from other people. Not all
advice is good, or what is best for you. So it's good and healthy to try to objectively
determine if someone's advice, to you, is worthwhile and in your best interest.

If it is, then take it further in your mind and seriously consider it.

Yes I believe this can be done, to answer your first question. Here's something for you to
consider...

We all condition ourselves in lots of ways. We tell ourselves things about us that really
serve to reinforce an "existing" attitude in our minds. It's interesting because those existing
attitudes are usually very convenient for some reason.

Here's an example:

A student always says that he is not good in math. I don't have a good mind for math. I've
never been good at math. So what do you think will happen. How much does that
circumvent any attempt to put in more work or harder effort to understand math?

So, my point is for you to consider your current attitudes about your own self.

Yes, perhaps your history is that you only learn by failing, etc. You cannot, or do not want
to, learn from others. That attitude is pretty strong in your mind; however, to your credit
you are demonstrating some flexibility by making this post and asking about it. So that's
very good.

Realize that lots of others can do what you are asking about. I have an older sister, and I
remember learning a lot from her by observing her mistakes, in certain situations, and
deciding that I didn't want to go through that.

I watched... ok, if I do this, then that will happen. 'That' really sucks. I don't want that. So,
cool... I won't do 'this.' lol. I avoided much pain and aggravation by using that very simple
set of reasoning.

Your second question about making things stick without trying it out, first.

Easy, there will still be some kind of result, some kind of affect, from the alternative to not
trying something out, first. This is difficult because we are talking in abstract, here.

There is a particular action that produces a result. There is the non-action, to that
particular action, that also produces a sort of 'anti' result. Make sense?

If the first result is something undesirable and the lack of that result is desirable, then
why would that not stick in your mind?

I hope that made sense.

What are your thoughts?

Best...

I would say that you need to turn you obstinence into HEALTHY skepticism. You get to maintain your cynical nature, while being open to learn new things. In order to become a healthy skeptic, you have to have a good, well-tuned BS filter. But when some one is presenting you with solid information, that filter needs to let that information through and that information needs to stick with you like glue. Good luck.

Ego will always be there to stay.. Learn to live well with it!

Failure is a brother to success. If you didn't fail, you didn't try. If you don't try, you will never make it. Words to live by!

it's like don't be afraid of failure ... failure will make you strong if you fall down you can rise back up again. failure will always be there and it's really true that nobody is perfect.

your ego wont do any good for you.
don't afraid to fail. It's always a part of our life.
learn from your mistakes and try not to repeat the same mistakes again.

I think we can learn from people without trying it first...

Can we learn from nature's example?

Have you ever been water flowing in a stream?

I firmly believe that experience is the best teacher. On the contrary, it is not necessary that we are the ones to experience in order to learn. We can learn from other people's mistakes or experience.

wayne dyer talks alot about ego:

Ego is simply - 'I AM'

the frailty comes in acting egocentric, its normal to have an Ego, but to then allow your Ego to act within the group mind is the preferable way.

As for learning experiences..

O.P.E - other peoples experiences are almost as valid to the Ego as a method of learning.

Think about it.. you know you dont need to jump off a cliff to crack your head, yo know by OPE

The people who have the most successes have failed the most number of times- I heard that while ago and liked hearing it