Constantly changing my mind about what my passion is.

by 11Y
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Hey, I have a really frustrating problem which I feel the need to share and see if there are any answers out there to fix it.

As the title suggests, I am constantly changing my mind about what I want to do with my life and what I feel passionate about.
I will go through phases of being really, really interested in one specific subject, only to completely fall out of love for it a few months later. I will research, take notes, study, complete courses etc and then, just all of a sudden not be interested or not have the motivation to do any more.
I find it strange as the interest is so great to begin with, it will be all that I think about, all that I want to do, and then its gone.
This has happened with many different subjects.

It frustrates me because I feel that I need to decide as soon as possible what I want to do with my life, and then devote all of my time and attention towards it. Or else, I feel that I will just be stuck in the job I am currently doing for the rest of my life, which I do not enjoy one bit.

I am just wondering if anyone on here has experienced this, and if so, what did you do to finally find the thing that you most definitely want to do?
Are there any steps that you would recommend I take? Perhaps I need to do a bit of research on myself? Get to know me better?

I am just extremely stressed out about this, as it has been going on for years and I just feel that the time spent on all the different interests have been wasted. And what if the next thing I feel passionate about just ends up in the same way? I need a little bit of help.

Thank you.
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  • Profile picture of the author Nassime
    Hey thanks for your sharing.
    It's interesting because I had already this kind of experience in my life. It's normal, you need to explore and feel your vibrations. That I invite you to keep that you like (write it) and try to find some common points with them. That can help you to see clear and what make you really in the vibe.
    Also if you can make a clear plan with this qualities that you have found in your experiences, that will help you to know where you want to go in your future (you need to look in the long term).
    Enjoy! ;-)
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  • Profile picture of the author iveda33
    Just curious to know, how long have you been in your job and how long have you been trying to find your passion? And if you don't mind me asking, what do you do in your job and what sort of things have you tried?

    It feels like you're forcing the flow -that you're trying too hard to find something and the harder you try, the longer it's taking and the more the ideas are running away from you. And the more you get stressed, the less you'll find. My advice (after reinventing myself) and reading where you're at is to take the pressure off COMPLETELY and simply - live life for a while! Let it go (for while). Take your mind off 'trying' to find your passion and see what you're naturally drawn to in a really natural way (rather than a 'forced' way). Inspiration pops up when you least expect it....
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  • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
    More than likely the subjects you found passionate about in the past will have a "theme" to them. That's something important to understand.

    I have heard that the temptation to quit comes both when you're in the middle of a project and when you're about to realize your goal(s).

    Just a couple of thoughts: Sorry I couldn't be more helpful.
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    • Profile picture of the author RichBeck
      Originally Posted by 11Y View Post

      Hey, I have a really frustrating problem which I feel the need to share and see if there are any answers out there to fix it.

      As the title suggests, I am constantly changing my mind about what I want to do with my life and what I feel passionate about.
      I will go through phases of being really, really interested in one specific subject, only to completely fall out of love for it a few months later. I will research, take notes, study, complete courses etc and then, just all of a sudden not be interested or not have the motivation to do any more.
      I find it strange as the interest is so great to begin with, it will be all that I think about, all that I want to do, and then its gone.
      This has happened with many different subjects.

      It frustrates me because I feel that I need to decide as soon as possible what I want to do with my life, and then devote all of my time and attention towards it. Or else, I feel that I will just be stuck in the job I am currently doing for the rest of my life, which I do not enjoy one bit.

      I am just wondering if anyone on here has experienced this, and if so, what did you do to finally find the thing that you most definitely want to do?
      Are there any steps that you would recommend I take? Perhaps I need to do a bit of research on myself? Get to know me better?

      I am just extremely stressed out about this, as it has been going on for years and I just feel that the time spent on all the different interests have been wasted. And what if the next thing I feel passionate about just ends up in the same way? I need a little bit of help.

      Thank you.

      My question is......

      Exactly when do you lose your "passion?"

      Is it in the "research" phase?

      Is it in the "implementation" phase?

      What I've seen with lots of people is they're all wired and excited about their "passion."

      They spend hour upon hour, reading, watching videos and searching on Google...

      Then, they get to the "implementation" and they realize following through is "real work." They become discouraged.....

      And they find another "passion" and repeat...

      The problem is not finding a "passion;" it is putting in the "real work" to see something through 'til the very end.
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      • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
        Originally Posted by RichBeck View Post

        My question is ... Exactly when do you lose your "passion?"
        Personally I haven't lost my "passion" for months. Part of my Mission Statement is: "To empower and inspire as many people as humanly possible." Some days I'm more motivated than others however that goal keeps me working on my Million Dollar Website.

        Then, they get to the "implementation" and they realize following through is "real work." They become discouraged...
        That's an important point. To be successful online you have to do whatever it takes and not to be discouraged by the "work" involved. It has to be a Labour Of Love.

        And they find another "passion" and repeat...
        That's the problem. To be successful online you have to commit yourself to making your Website profitable rather than jumping to the next GRQ scheme.


        The problem is not finding a "passion;" it is putting in the "real work" to complete something.
        Exactly. Without that work ethic people are significantly less likely to reach their income goals.
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  • Profile picture of the author Elvis Michael
    Are you also looking into other things WHILE taking action on your current passion?

    I ask because a new subject could easily make the current one feel outdated and unattractive all of a sudden. This used to happen to me, so I had to stop being so curious all the time.

    So, if you spend a lot of time learning about different ideas while you're already executing one, refrain from doing that so your focus remains solely on your current plan.
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  • Profile picture of the author Profit Traveler
    That is a very honest problem a lot of people are trapped in.

    Try to pick something that can be incorporated across many interests and topics.

    Like listbuilding. Listbuilding is leverage for everything. No matter what topic you will have access to your market and an audience no wonder what mood Google is in.

    Same for something like Videos creation. You can have multiple topics and income streams for video.

    Podcasts on and on.

    Hope that helps my friend.

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  • Profile picture of the author seanalexm
    It's really just normal if you can't figure out your passion yet especially those who are of younger age. Those who are between 20-30 years old. It's the age of confusion. You'll eventually figure out what you're passionate about. It takes time.
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  • There is nothing really wrong with that. Conditions changes, market changes. Just make sure you stick with it enough to see some results before moving on.
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  • Profile picture of the author gabryellahizon
    Asses yourself and determine what makes you happy upon doing it. Choose the one that makes your heart happy and fulfilled.
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  • Profile picture of the author StevePTanner
    I think this is such a common problem that people have. I struggled with it for years (I'm 38 now and have only just this year really started to figure it out)

    I think what you are doing is right, by investigating different avenues you learn more about yourself. For me I followed the Bug Free Mind process and now I have managed to (almost!) eradicate the ego voice which often gets us to quit when things get tough.

    If you can ignore this voice then the next step for me was to brainstorm a list of goals that I wanted in my perfect life. Go through the goals and list why you want them, how much you want each goal and the benefits that you would derive. This process helped me to see the patterns and realise what my true passions are. These had always been quite nebulous in my mind but putting it into writing has made it more concrete.

    By being on this journey you are already ahead of the game - the vast majority of people don't realise that we can pursue our dreams!

    I'd love to know how you get on
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  • Profile picture of the author maggyuzon
    We find our true passion as we grow old. We find what we really love to do and what truly makes us happy. It's okay if you have still confussions. Take things one at a time.
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