Why you should not compare your success.

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we are all human beings an we tend to compare our success to another person's success.

comparing yourself to another person leads to envy and you can find yourself over reacting trying to achieve what that person has or even more. (Believe me I have been here)

it is tedious and makes a persons life harder.

this is what i do to avoid comparing myself to another person.
1. i keep my progress in life to my self
2. i avoid people who always talk about their success.
3. i stay around people who push me to achieve and are concerned about me.
4. i focus on my everyday tasks which push me to my goal.


leave a comment bellow to let me know what you do to avoid comparing your success to others
#compare #success
  • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
    I think it's part of the "Human Condition" to compares one's self with other people.

    Some people are more prone to this than others. (I think this happens less as a person grows in "self-esteem.")

    We're all very unique. No two people are the same. In fact, the chances of someone being born the same as you are astronomically low. And a person cannot accurately measure themselves against another person because they don't know everything about that person.

    A concept I have always liked is “competing with myself:” In other words, seeing how good I can do compared to how I have been.

    Interesting thread.
    : )
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    • Profile picture of the author TrickyDick
      Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

      We're all very unique. No two people are the same. In fact, the chances of someone being born the same as you are astronomically low. And a person cannot accurately measure themselves against another person because they don't know everything about that person.
      True....

      Even if two people were "biologically identical," they are going to have different families, different socioeconomic strata, different friends, different experiences, different education, etc.

      These two people would be very different in how "successful" they are.
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      • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
        Originally Posted by TrickyDick View Post

        True....

        Even if two people were "biologically identical," they are going to have different families, different socioeconomic strata, different friends, different experiences, different education, etc.

        These two people would be very different in how "successful" they are.
        Good point TD. Even "identical" twins aren't the same: They develop different personalities etc.
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  • Profile picture of the author UndefeatedMind
    I like this post - I think that keeping progress to yourself is good and bad. If you can help motivate someone else to achieve greatness in their life by sharing your story I think its a good thing! If you are just being arrogant, then not so good. One thing I always recommend to people to keep them focused on their own progress and not be worried about anyone else's - every 90 days sit down and see how far you have come, focus on what you have learned and how much more you will learn over the next 90 days to keep pushing toward your goal. Really it is all about the mindset of staying focused on ones own achievements! Good post!
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    well ,

    if you don't have a firm grasp of what you define as success..you are stuck with a definition of success that is relative..and based on comparison to how others are doing around you ..

    an so you get the sick political society we have today ..and personal some really arrogent judgmental crap on success forums ..that declare 99 percent of people failures ..

    the kind of car you drive use to be and still it a symbol of success .. but what if even if you have the money you don't own a car ..and use lyft uber or other ride share ..or car shearing services ..

    what if instead of buying a 1 million dollar mcmansion .. you instead get a 70k mobil home that is really nice ..or a 250,000 dollar rv..and travel the country ..

    there are so many options on how to live ..and life is increasingly become much more customization..that it is almost foolish too chase some vision of success that is soley based on looking successfull
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    ok let me state it in a way most people will understand ..

    there are comparison that can be made that can lead to you getting better ...but in many cases people are trying to look successful compared to others to show they have "made it " thats a game that is hard to play ..

    deside what you want and what make you happy then do what you need to get it ..now you will probably always want better when you can have better .. and being around the people who can show you how to get the next level ..is fine ..

    right now there are so many option on how to live your life .. you can waste a lot of time trying to look like you have mad it or put on a success show ..that you really end up not enjoying ..well the expensive 1000 dollar a day coke habit might be a sign ..
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  • Profile picture of the author ShawnLim
    You can't finish compare with others.
    There are mountains above mountains and clouds above clouds.
    You just need to make sure you make progress each day.
    Make sure you are moving closer toward your dreams and your goals.
    And more importantly, you enjoy the process deep down.
    That's ultimate fulfillment and you don't have to compare with others..
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  • Profile picture of the author gooroo
    Like Tony Robbins says, happiness always comes from within, not outside sources.
    Comparing your success to others is using the outside sources to fuel your ego, don't do that. It doesn't work, it never worked and it never will work.
    It's a pretty simple rule, just follow it.
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  • Profile picture of the author blakesienna
    I've been there. After my graduation and I saw my classmates doing great and already found their own jobs. What I did was I avoid using social for a while. I think I didn't use it for a month. It's effective for me.
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  • Profile picture of the author annyabanana
    I see other people's success as my motivation. Before I tend to be frustrated and disappointed upon seeing someone I knew succeed. But I realized it was wrong. So I change the way I view it. Envy and jealousy is wrong.
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  • Profile picture of the author ByEdvin
    I think the big problem is when you no longer have anyone in your surrounding to envy... when you have taken your life to such a level that most people are not able to see the "same reality" as you.
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  • Profile picture of the author StevePTanner
    You are right, most of us do compare ourselves to others and it is normally in a negative way (i.e. they are so much better than me at....), then in order to feel better about ourselves we tend to judge other people by thinking we are better than they are.

    I think it is important to remember that there will always be someone better than us, it is impossible for this not to be the case. This is good though as it gives us someone to learn from and something to strive for.

    When we are happy in our own achievements then it is easier to stop judging others too.
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  • if you keep comparing yourself to everyone else, you'll never be happy or content. There's always going to be someone who'll be doing better or worse. It's better to focus on achieving you definition of success and work on what makes you happy rather than worry about someone else.
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