Are You Focusing On The Struggle or The Results?

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We all have things about ourselves that we would like to change. We will tell ourselves that we really want to start eating healthier, it's just that we can't stop eating the junk food. We tell ourselves that we would love to follow our passion and build a business around it, but for some reason, we just can't get started.

We tell ourselves that what we really want is to get up at 6 am, do some exercise and follow a morning routine but we just can't seem to get out of bed when the alarm goes off.

This is what we do to ourselves. We focus on the struggle and we fall for a trick that allows us to make what appears justifiable reasons for our lack of results.

We believe that we are the sum of parts that are working in opposition. I want to do X, but I just can't stop doing Y.

So when we say things like "I want to eat healthier, but I just love burgers and fries" who is the 'I" that wants to eat healthily and who is the 'I' that wants to chomp down on a Big Mac?

Are there two of us in there and is the one who "can't" is the most powerful of the two? No, of course not.

To try and combat this we think the answer is more willpower and to push harder against ourselves. It's often said that what you focus on is what you get. By believing that the answer is to fight harder against ourselves, all we are doing is focusing on the perceived struggle. So that is what we get.

It's not until we accept the truth that we can see the changes we want. The fact is we are already getting the results we want. We can con ourselves that there is a part of us that wants the outcome and a part that doesn't but that is b.s. They are the same person. Our focus on the apparent struggle between the two lets us off the hook.

Wouldn't it be better and kinder to ourselves to accept the truth that you are already getting the results you want?

The fact is you can have anything you want. It doesn't have to be a struggle; you can produce any outcome you wish with effortless effort. You already are.

To break this self-defeating cycle of 'I want but I can't' stop focusing on the struggle because it doesn't exist. You are not struggling to create an outcome, you have already decided on one.

If something in your life is not currently how you truly wish it to be, then focus instead on the results you want to see. Add to that the intent to make them happen and your life can change far quicker than you imagine. It really can be as simple as that.
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  • Profile picture of the author james flynn
    Originally Posted by Mark_Austin View Post

    We all have things about ourselves that we would like to change. We will tell ourselves that we really want to start eating healthier, it's just that we can't stop eating the junk food. We tell ourselves that we would love to follow our passion and build a business around it, but for some reason, we just can't get started.

    We tell ourselves that what we really want is to get up at 6 am, do some exercise and follow a morning routine but we just can't seem to get out of bed when the alarm goes off.

    This is what we do to ourselves. We focus on the struggle and we fall for a trick that allows us to make what appears justifiable reasons for our lack of results.

    We believe that we are the sum of parts that are working in opposition. I want to do X, but I just can't stop doing Y.

    So when we say things like "I want to eat healthier, but I just love burgers and fries" who is the 'I" that wants to eat healthily and who is the 'I' that wants to chomp down on a Big Mac?

    Are there two of us in there and is the one who "can't" is the most powerful of the two? No, of course not.

    To try and combat this we think the answer is more willpower and to push harder against ourselves. It's often said that what you focus on is what you get. By believing that the answer is to fight harder against ourselves, all we are doing is focusing on the perceived struggle. So that is what we get.

    It's not until we accept the truth that we can see the changes we want. The fact is we are already getting the results we want. We can con ourselves that there is a part of us that wants the outcome and a part that doesn't but that is b.s. They are the same person. Our focus on the apparent struggle between the two lets us off the hook.

    Wouldn't it be better and kinder to ourselves to accept the truth that you are already getting the results you want?

    The fact is you can have anything you want. It doesn't have to be a struggle; you can produce any outcome you wish with effortless effort. You already are.

    To break this self-defeating cycle of 'I want but I can't' stop focusing on the struggle because it doesn't exist. You are not struggling to create an outcome, you have already decided on one.

    If something in your life is not currently how you truly wish it to be, then focus instead on the results you want to see. Add to that the intent to make them happen and your life can change far quicker than you imagine. It really can be as simple as that.
    A good crafted piece. It's a kind of struggle which every human goes through in different aspects of their life. Willpower doesn't come easy and to commit yourself to do something requires a lot of motivation and people that can push you.

    Cheers-James
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  • Profile picture of the author Reimaru
    I've read about solution to that kind of thinking from Eric Greitens' book "Resilience." It's the way people get through the horrible BUD/s training and Hell Week:

    Focus on the NOW.

    Stop thinking about the horror you'll need to get through or that you have XYZ Days/Hours left of hell. Just concentrate on the next pushup. The next jog. The next exercise.

    Do the same with whatever you need to do. Here's a productivity Tip: Picture the end goal, then separate it into several little "Do this next" pieces. Then do them one by one (and adjust if necessary).
    Eventually, you'll have succeeded at it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kenny Lee
    Originally Posted by Mark_Austin View Post

    We all have things about ourselves that we would like to change. We will tell ourselves that we really want to start eating healthier, it's just that we can't stop eating the junk food. We tell ourselves that we would love to follow our passion and build a business around it, but for some reason, we just can't get started.

    We tell ourselves that what we really want is to get up at 6 am, do some exercise and follow a morning routine but we just can't seem to get out of bed when the alarm goes off.

    This is what we do to ourselves. We focus on the struggle and we fall for a trick that allows us to make what appears justifiable reasons for our lack of results.

    We believe that we are the sum of parts that are working in opposition. I want to do X, but I just can't stop doing Y.

    So when we say things like "I want to eat healthier, but I just love burgers and fries" who is the 'I" that wants to eat healthily and who is the 'I' that wants to chomp down on a Big Mac?

    Are there two of us in there and is the one who "can't" is the most powerful of the two? No, of course not.

    To try and combat this we think the answer is more willpower and to push harder against ourselves. It's often said that what you focus on is what you get. By believing that the answer is to fight harder against ourselves, all we are doing is focusing on the perceived struggle. So that is what we get.

    It's not until we accept the truth that we can see the changes we want. The fact is we are already getting the results we want. We can con ourselves that there is a part of us that wants the outcome and a part that doesn't but that is b.s. They are the same person. Our focus on the apparent struggle between the two lets us off the hook.

    Wouldn't it be better and kinder to ourselves to accept the truth that you are already getting the results you want?

    The fact is you can have anything you want. It doesn't have to be a struggle; you can produce any outcome you wish with effortless effort. You already are.

    To break this self-defeating cycle of 'I want but I can't' stop focusing on the struggle because it doesn't exist. You are not struggling to create an outcome, you have already decided on one.

    If something in your life is not currently how you truly wish it to be, then focus instead on the results you want to see. Add to that the intent to make them happen and your life can change far quicker than you imagine. It really can be as simple as that.
    I can relate to what you are saying. I've had my own fair share of struggles too. I think it could be we are afraid of what we would lose in the process of getting from Point A to Point B.

    Say, I know that sleeping late is bad for health, but I'm doing it anyway. It doesn't matter how many articles I've read about successful people getting up at 4.am. I can't do that when my alarm rang.

    Perhaps I've become too comfortable of sleeping late. Waking up early seems like a total change of my routine. We are creatures of habits anyway.

    I've came across your concept in "Born To Be Rich" from Bob Proctor if I'm not mistaken. It's about having the mindset that you are already rich. Thoughts leads to idea, idea leads to action. But we don't follow that sequence. Our ideas are formed when we react to our situation, and it reinforce our thoughts, and we keep repeating the same action.

    Anyway it's a good sharing of yours.
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  • I sympathize. I know how tough it can be to break bad habits. beliefs and behaviors. It's not easy. What I do is try to make small, manageable changes. In most cases, it does work. The small changes build on each other and becomes big changes.
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    one guy goes to the gym .. follows a plan .. does his cardio.. and wheait training .. he goes the the work to get the results ..

    another guy goes to the gym on a regular basis..stretches warms up ..looks at the weights stretches more.. gets on the tredmill and walks slower than he would if he was outside.. occasional talks to his wife on the sell phone and whines ..i come to the gym all the time and get no results ..

    most people are not really struggling for results they are struggling because mom struggled ,dad struggled ..everyone they know struggle with the same things over and over ..they struggle to fit in and have something to cry about ..

    then if you are not struggling enough .. people try to fix that ..and dump their problems on you


    are you going to keep struggling with being broke and not having money .. when you do make more money are you just going to get another payment ..

    or are you going to struggling with doing something to make more money ..the process of building a business over a few years ..of developing more valuable skill sets ..
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  • Profile picture of the author GordonJ
    Originally Posted by Mark_Austin View Post

    We all have things about ourselves that we would like to change. We will tell ourselves that we really want to start eating healthier, it’s just that we can’t stop eating the junk food. We tell ourselves that we would love to follow our passion and build a business around it, but for some reason, we just can’t get started.

    We tell ourselves that what we really want is to get up at 6 am, do some exercise and follow a morning routine but we just can’t seem to get out of bed when the alarm goes off.

    This is what we do to ourselves. We focus on the struggle and we fall for a trick that allows us to make what appears justifiable reasons for our lack of results.

    We believe that we are the sum of parts that are working in opposition. I want to do X, but I just can’t stop doing Y.

    So when we say things like “I want to eat healthier, but I just love burgers and fries” who is the ‘I” that wants to eat healthily and who is the ‘I’ that wants to chomp down on a Big Mac?

    Are there two of us in there and is the one who “can’t” is the most powerful of the two? No, of course not.

    To try and combat this we think the answer is more willpower and to push harder against ourselves. It’s often said that what you focus on is what you get. By believing that the answer is to fight harder against ourselves, all we are doing is focusing on the perceived struggle. So that is what we get.

    It’s not until we accept the truth that we can see the changes we want. The fact is we are already getting the results we want. We can con ourselves that there is a part of us that wants the outcome and a part that doesn’t but that is b.s. They are the same person. Our focus on the apparent struggle between the two lets us off the hook.

    Wouldn’t it be better and kinder to ourselves to accept the truth that you are already getting the results you want?

    The fact is you can have anything you want.

    It doesn’t have to be a struggle; you can produce any outcome you wish with effortless effort. You already are.

    To break this self-defeating cycle of ‘I want but I can’t’ stop focusing on the struggle because it doesn’t exist. You are not struggling to create an outcome, you have already decided on one.

    If something in your life is not currently how you truly wish it to be, then focus instead on the results you want to see. Add to that the intent to make them happen and your life can change far quicker than you imagine. It really can be as simple as that.
    I highlighted some brilliant copy, the Coach is skilled in NLP and this post is an excellent example of how to establish rapport...

    BUT...is this really a FACT, and the TRUTH:

    The fact is you can have anything you want.

    Or is it just a "figure of speech"?

    Fact is, no dwarfs play in the NBA, in spite of their belief, desire or positive thinking.

    Truth is, you can't have anything you want, like a date with a movie star.

    RED flags should go off in your brain when anyone starts telling you what the facts and the truth is.

    The Tony Robbins/Rohn/NLP/The SECRET/Positive Thinking Crowd all share this LIE.

    TRUTH is, you have limitations.
    FACT is, there are things you simply can NOT do.

    The BIGGEST lie in this industry is the old...

    Activity=Results. It goes something like "I did this, if I did it, you can do it, just DO WHAT I DID AND YOU WILL GET THE SAME RESULTS".

    It is a default mantra, which Motivational Gurus like to use, but if it were put into real world terms...

    Study this LeBron James home study course on playing basketball, and you too will get the RESULTS LeBron got.

    Pretty silly sounding, yes?

    You ain't LeBron.
    You ain't OPRAH.
    You ain't Tony Robbins.

    So, I call this a LIE. You can't do and be anything and everything you want.

    That is a fact.
    That is a truth.

    And I'll give you one more, uttered by a self-made Billionaire, who wrote a book...

    "All you can do is all you can do...
    but,
    all you can do is ENOUGH!" Art Williams.

    Study this post carefully, it is expertly written and worth your time and attention to see how the WE is led,
    how the premise is presented and justified.
    How to the conclusion is made.

    Good post to model.

    GordonJ

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  • Guess we all need better directorsa our own mind/body movies.

    I would want sum kinda choice over that, otherwise I am jus' sum replay.
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  • Profile picture of the author Master Blake
    Yes you can.

    Most of the icons you see out there are not better off than you.

    Maybe you're not dreaming enough. Maybe you've been taught that you
    don't have enough "capacity" in there to blow steam and ruffle feathers.

    What's the so called destiny...can be manipulated and tampered with.

    There's a very powerful tool in your arsenal.

    It's called visualization.

    Visualization can bring onto the surface your weak spots, so you
    can work around them. It can also unearth your uncapped potential.

    Whether you think you're wrong or right...you're probably right.

    It's where you lay focus on at the end of the day.

    It's the target fixation effect in the works.

    Chances are, you're better than you think.

    Push the pedal to the metal and keep grinding.

    Enjoy the process. You were given a chance in this life.

    Either fall flat on your face or fly in the ethers.

    Once upon a time I got sucked in what seemed a black hole...

    I got to the "other side".

    Never glanced back.

    That was all she wrote.

    The fast lane of eventuality.

    I got fulfilled...pragmatized.

    A dream that I never woke up from.


    YES!
    I CAN!
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  • Profile picture of the author marydelacroix
    Most people are excited to get results out of very little effort. I think one thing that is really helpful when we are struggling is dealing with the struggle as it is and not wanting to jump immediately to get results. We reap what we sow and the harder we work on something, the better the harvest.
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  • Profile picture of the author siera
    In one of my readings, I read that we should look for progress and not perfection. I think it is important for us to focus on progressing. Make it a point that everyday, there is little progress until we achieve perfection.
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  • Profile picture of the author beat ship
    Focusing on the struggle makes it harder to get results. The more we consider the struggle, I think that we get slower we get and the more it feels like we're struggling. But if we work everyday to progress, we will be surprised at how far we've come.
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