In business, it's pretty important that people like you but I also see how this can come off as fake too (although not everyone is looking for anything more than the pleasantries to be fair!)
I know that you give out what's on your inside so you need to be completely happy with yourself before you can genuinely attract people to you but that aside, what is it that makes some people just so 'likable'?
Here's a few things that I've been noticing lately:
The people that I like are able to laugh with you when you're happy and cry with you when you're sad. It's not a case of them giving you a shoulder to cry on, they genuinely feel what it is you're going through and this shows and draws toy to them.
2) They show humility.
People who don't brag about their achievements and are gracious to those around them and they acknowledge that you don't get where you are on your own merits - it's a team effort.
Likable people don't have the brick wall around them that many seem to have, particularly in the business world. They're not afraid to show you when they're scared or don't know the answer to something and this only makes them more likable rather than making them look weak as many are scared to be seen as.
4) They're funny!
Likable people are funny. Now I've never quite been sure if they're funny because everyone likes them, or if people like them because they're funny! What I do know is that people are happy and feel good when they're around people who are making them laugh so this obviously adds to the attraction.
5) They are available.
People are so consumed with what's on the end of their phone these days that it's hard to catch someone in the moment. People are distracted and constantly responding to the beeps coming out of their tablet or laptop. Someone who can put their phone away and concentrate on you when you're in their presence is extremely likable to me.
6) They ask questions.
Being asked a question instantly makes someone feel good about themselves which makes them like the person that's asking the question. Being in the presence of someone who shows a genuine interest in you is sadly quite rare these days and it's definitely a trait held by likable people.
7) They are kind.
Another obvious one but a likable person will put others first and will give things away without a second thought. So many people these days just take what they can get so when someone is forthcoming with buying a coffee or giving away something they're no longer using, it's definitely worth holding onto.
8) They know themselves.
A likable person knows their strengths and weaknesses and is open and honest about them. They won't put their hand up for tasks that they know they're not suited to just to improve their reputation.
I've made this list because it's a list of things that I don't think you can fake. I don't think you can act as though you have any of those qualities and still be seen as a genuinely 'likable' person. What do you think?