Is it just me, or there's something seriously wrong when you hear someone says:
Everything happens for a reason!
What's that supposed to mean, exactly?! Good or bad, right or wrong, it just had to happen. What can you do about it? Accept it. Forget about it. There's nothing you could've done about it. You're helpless. Am I missing something?
I think that there's no particular reason for the things to happen or end up this way or another. We give them meaning. We give them a reason.
I had to lose this client because that situation helped unlock the mysteries of the universe or become a better person. Seriously? Some things (not to use some other word) just happen. No meaning. No reason. You don't waste time thinking about the reasons, you move on. In this example, I lost a client for this or that reason. Maybe my price or my work weren't OK. I will accept that, but there's no way I'm going to look for the higher meaning and purpose. It was a reason not THE reason for me to lose my client. Nothing special in the universe happened that day. It was a day just like any other. That's all.
Why is this thought so potentially harmful? Because it gives you a false sense of comfort and relief. You have to accept bad things because of that special reason. I honestly believe that our life would and could be better if we decide not accept this thought. Don't say to yourself that everything happens for a reason and you will notice a change immediately. It may hurt a little bit, but you will have a completely different perspective of your situation.
I lost a client. I need to change something, or I will lose more clients. This is a healthy attitude. Not, I lost a client, but there's some higher purpose and meaning I'm not currently aware of, let's go on with the work just it is right now.
I used to say a lot that everything happens for a reason, but now, I decided to change. What are your thoughts abut this one?