I am 31, what should I do with my life?

by charlesgalofre 24 replies
I am 31, I will be 32 in October. I worked as an internet marketer for 3-4 years and decided to stop because big companies were big companies and small companies could not afford a marketing person and a budget.

Has anyone had success with anything?
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  • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
    It's never too late to do something worthwhile/great in Life. Something from "The Purpose Driven Life" (Rick Warren) is a Lady who runs marathons and didn't realize she had a passion for running until she was in her 80's.

    I suppose the question would be: "What do you want to do/accomplish in Life?"

    Some things are "impossible" however generally speaking, the average Person is capable of achieving much more than they realize. Something you may consider is being a "Internet Marketer" in the sense that you create your own Website(s) (on a topic that you're passionate about) and then earn a good income from doing that.

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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    here is where the problem comes in and i have tried to put this in other responses .

    the field of marketing is getting wider and wider on a weekly to monthly basis . every business needs some online presence ..and if you have no real online presence ..when you are trying to sell businesses on building their online presence .. it is like trying to sell cars when you do not even drive ..

    forget the size of the business big or small ..if you are not using digital marketing methods to bring in clients .if they don't find you through your marketing onlime. that does not include direct emails , real snail mail or phone calls .

    if you do not have a greate internet marketing regimen for your services you will probably not sell anyone on your ability to purt one together for them.

    rest of your life produce value earn profit. then learn to make your money earn money
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  • Profile picture of the author sesantek
    Find out what you are passionate about, and get down doing it. You will find yourself enjoying every bit of your life. Your life is here because of a cause and because of some others who need the good that God has deposited in you. Find it out.
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    • Profile picture of the author Odahh
      Originally Posted by sesantek View Post

      Find out what you are passionate about, and get down doing it. You will find yourself enjoying every bit of your life. Your life is here because of a cause and because of some others who need the good that God has deposited in you. Find it out.
      th sounds nice and fuzzy . but it is slightly off ..because so many people lack real passion it is a long process to find what you are passion about and sometimes the passion is only there because you do it for short periods of time ..

      then again many of the highest earnin g youtubers are people who play game and stream or review .

      when you do anything there tends to be a way you can do them that is either boring or gets you into doing it... you bring out passions while you work ..

      so the real key is not trying to build a living around one passion but figuring out how to engage your passion and make what you do very interesting most of the time even if you have chunks of time doing it that are blah.

      this is what i do with the way i earn money and even on days when the money sucks if the weather is good i can keep it fun .

      you can take something that your passionate about to it turn it into a job and suck all the pleasure out of doing it ..or you can figure out what make you passionate about doing that thing and find other things to do that can be done in ways to bring out the passion .

      you can have the thing you do to earn money be you main source of entertainment and play ..I am not speaking from theory .. it what i do every day at this point.. it wont get me rich.. the next few thing just might though ..
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  • Hi charlesgalofre

    I'm going to speak with you at a personal level.

    Growing up I realised that I am a 'jack of all trades' type, so my options were open as to what it was I wanted to do as a career.

    There were so many options, I didn't know what to do!

    Eventually, I decided on my main plan and my back-up.

    Let me tell you, and have tried my Plan A, which I changed to Plan B, I then had to change to Plan C and sure enough had to change to Plan D.

    I'm talking to you right now, on Plan E.

    Please don't worry so much about what to do in life.

    You control your attitude, and your attitude opens opportunity. That's all you need, is an opportunity.

    Take it from me, try something you've never thought of trying before.

    If you stop yourself from doing certain jobs or walking certain career paths, you're selling yourself short! You can do whatever you want to do. I'm serious!

    I've opened so many doors when I stopped telling myself I couldn't do something. We all go through changes in our lives, so now is the time for you to take a step forward, unlock ALL of the doors available to you, and have the courage to walk through one of them.

    You never know where you might end up :-)

    Stay motivated

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  • Profile picture of the author The Author
    In my opinion, you may want to take a closer look at Blogging. However, I doubt anyone can truly tell you what to do with your life. That is a decision you need to make flying solo. If you want to be successful online, then you first need to be prepared to fail. Affiliate Marketing is one of the best preferred methods to make money online, and Blogging can serve as the perfect corner stone.
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  • Profile picture of the author Ron Lafuddy
    I understand there's a shortage of nuns these days. And, if you put your mind to it, nothing can stop you.

    Best of luck,
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  • Profile picture of the author hardraysnight
    get a haircut and get a real job
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  • Step 1: Relax
    Step 2: Get in Trance
    Step 3: That's all you need

    and last but not least, join a cult.
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  • Profile picture of the author GordonJ
    Originally Posted by charlesgalofre View Post

    I am 31, I will be 32 in October. I worked as an internet marketer for 3-4 years and decided to stop because big companies were big companies and small companies could not afford a marketing person and a budget.

    Has anyone had success with anything?
    Normally, when I visit this forum, the litter box of the Warrior Forum, I bring a laser and make the kitties dance and trip over their own poop. But today, I'm going to be serious and even answer your question.

    First, you are not alone. You see the smart Azz answers you rec'd, but in truth many people of all ages are wherre you are at. Trying, some going from plan A to plan E, many bouncing around like a ball in a pachinko machine.

    The Warrior Forum is known for the many people who spent 5 years or more trying to find the thing that works, for them. I'd bet most never find it.

    Has anyone had success with anything? You asked.

    I've had success (and I dare say so have many others) with being myself.

    The problem is, most people don't know who they are or what they want.

    So one process you can use is to spend some time on SELF DISCOVERY, the who you are part and the next step, determine what you want and are willing to do for it.

    Forget that passion nonsense for now.

    Many people try to follow their passion only to end up hating what they started out passionate about, too often, when trying to translate passion into a business or a money making enterprise the daily mundane of dealing with customers, with business needs, with the grind, wears down a hot passion into a tepid drudge.

    There are schools of thought about your gifts, destiny and what would really make you happy. Here are a few of those ideas:

    A. You were born to do something, you have a destiny, you come complete with everything you need to fulfill this destiny.

    B. You set goals. You find desires, wants and you pursue these in an organized manner.

    C. It is random. Some get lucky, some are gifted, some never get to fulfillment/happiness.

    D. Happiness and success is over rated. Life is hard, a constant challenge and in the end, you are worm food.

    E, and etc....whatever you want it to be. If you want to know the exact process for this self discovery, and see if you find any hidden treasures, it can take 4 hours, 4 weeks, 4 years...however fast you want to know you. If interested, I'll detail it in a subsequent post, if not, I'll grab my laser and entertain myself. Fair enough?

    GordonJ

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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
      Nice post. Thanks GordonJ.
      : )

      Originally Posted by GordonJ View Post

      Many people try to follow their passion only to end up hating what they started out passionate about, too often, when trying to translate passion into a business or a money making enterprise the daily mundane of dealing with customers, with business needs, with the grind, wears down a hot passion into a tepid drudge.
      When I said "Choose something you're passionate about" I didn't mean take an already existing "passion" and turn it into something profitable. What I meant is that he should choose a Market/Niche that he's passionate about. Why? Because he (and everyone else) is significantly more likely to accomplish their goal(s) (and actually appreciate what they're creating/building) if they truly enjoy what they do.

      Something to think about.
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      • Profile picture of the author GordonJ
        Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

        Nice post. Thanks GordonJ.
        : )



        When I said "Choose something you're passionate about" I didn't mean take an already existing "passion" and turn it into something profitable. What I meant is that he should choose a Market/Niche that he's passionate about. Why? Because he (and everyone else) is significantly more likely to accomplish their goal(s) (and actually appreciate what they're creating/building) if they truly enjoy what they do.

        Something to think about.
        You assume

        he should choose a Market/Niche that he's passionate about

        That he has a CLEARLY identified passion, that he knows what he enjoys doing, and that THAT thing is going to give him financial success, which I assume is innate in his question.

        Of course he wants to enjoy whatever he does, obviously anyone wold prefer to work in a niche they like, enjoy and have good feelings toward.

        What niche do you suggest he look into? Where is he going to locate his passion, your post seems to assume it is all about selecting a niche or a market...and I'm of the opinion, he needs to look INSIDE first, before he go gallivanting around wasting more time, jumping from one thing to the next.

        HOW does he find out what his passion is? You have a method to help him?

        GordonJ
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        • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
          Originally Posted by GordonJ View Post

          Of course he wants to enjoy whatever he does, obviously anyone wold prefer to work in a niche they like, enjoy and have good feelings toward.
          That's true. However sadly many people (especially "Newbies") start out with being all about money. While I don't think there's anything wrong with that necessarily, it's the reason (IMO) that a great percentage of them fail at reaching their goals.

          What niche do you suggest he look into? Where is he going to locate his passion, your post seems to assume it is all about selecting a niche or a market...and I'm of the opinion, he needs to look INSIDE first, before he go gallivanting around wasting more time, jumping from one thing to the next. HOW does he find out what his passion is? You have a method to help him?
          Sure. I agree. Something that helped me figure out what I'm "passionate" about is the following exercise from Personal Development Expert Steve Pavlina: (Many people won't like this exercise ...)

          https://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/20...ut-20-minutes/

          Although I completed it years ago, two of the most important Websites/Ventures I'm working on at the moment are consistent with my "Life Purpose." And the great thing about finding your Purpose is that you can express in it several different ways/ventures/etc.

          I also found the book "The Purpose Driven Life" (by Rick Warren) helpful.
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  • Profile picture of the author brookeharper08
    Passion is really what drives people to do unbelievably crazy things. It might seem impossible for others, but if you have that unswerving drive to achieve something that's undoubtedly important to you, success comes from there. You can give up now, I mean 32 is the new 18 (obviously made that up). My point is, you can try making money out of things that you love doing. Maybe you fancy writing and traveling - start a travel blog that highlights budget friendly travel ideas. Money can be tight, it won't be easy, you'll have problems (that's life) but if you keep at it, and do it for yourself and believe that others can benefit from it, there's no reason why you won't succeed.
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  • Profile picture of the author DantePetrilla
    Think about it for a moment. What drove you to post this in the first place? You're searching, wondering what to do after having tried different things. And you haven't yet hit on the thing you really want to do.

    You could jump into something else, and then something else again, only to wind up exactly where you are right now - wondering what to do next.

    The fact is that you will continue to wonder what to do next unless and until you discover what makes you tick, understand exactly who you are. Once you know that, you'll be able to approach the secondary question of "What should I do with my life?" with some genuine information that will likely lead you into what is right for you.

    So how do you find out who you are? It's quite simple. You ask.
    I take people through this process in the course of my work as a coach, and I can't do it here the same as I would in person, but give this a shot:

    Ask yourself:

    What is most important to me in the context of my career?

    Get a blank sheet of paper and start writing a numbered list of what is important to you in terms of your career.

    Do not stop at 3 or 5, or even 10 answers. Don't allow yourself to stop until you have at least 20 different answers to this question. Pushing yourself to go beyond the obvious answers will help you get at the deep and meaningful stuff. It won't be easy, but it's worth it.

    Next, once you have that list, prioritise it from most important to least. After you've done that, take the first thing on that list, and a new blank sheet of paper. Write it down and underneath it write down why it's important to you in the context of your career. Then take the second thing on your list and do the same thing. Have no less than 2 reasons why for each thing on your list, ideally, have 4 or 5 reasons. This will be even harder, and will require much soul searching, but again, it's worth it.

    If you take the time and effort to honestly take yourself through this process, what you will have at the end will be a few pages of solid gold information about what makes you tick in terms of your career. You will likely find things in there that surprise you.

    Read over those few pages, think about them, and then ask yourself what work you could do that would satisfy what's on those lists. What sort of work would tick as many boxes as possible?

    Give it a shot!

    Hope this helps.
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  • Profile picture of the author yukon
    Originally Posted by charlesgalofre View Post

    I am 31, I will be 32 in October.
    Happy Birthday.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dana K
    Charlesgalofre, you're asking a question as old as mankind.

    Most adults asking this question have jobs, a decent enough life and a reasonable amount of happiness. So then, what is the real thing we're looking for?

    I believe most of us are looking for a life that's meaningful, rewarding and something that provides a nice income for the finer things.

    "Meaningful and rewarding" is all over the map, depending on who you ask. That's the whole "find your passion" angle, and it makes sense.

    But what's maybe more helpful, is to think about who/what group of people you want to help. Because a meaningful and rewarding life really is about bringing our unique value into the world. We're each gifted with skills and talents that benefit others, and we feel amazing when we use those gifts.

    What are you naturally good at? If it paid really well, what would you love to do every single day? What do people ask your advice about? In what area are you the "go to" guy?

    You're the only one who can answer the question you asked. But the answer involves giving immense value that you alone can give, in your own unique way.

    Find a way to serve others in a generous, selfless way, and the money will follow. What an awesome way to live.
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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
      Originally Posted by Dana K View Post

      But what's maybe more helpful, is to think about who/what group of people you want to help. Because a meaningful and rewarding life really is about bringing our unique value into the world. We're each gifted with skills and talents that benefit others, and we feel amazing when we use those gifts.
      Just had to quote/repeat those thoughts. : ) They're (IMO) integral to living a successful/wonderful/inspiring/etc. Life. (And, literally took me years of study and Living to understand them ...)

      Thanks Dana K.
      : )
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  • Profile picture of the author AL Hummel
    Success will manifest so long as you keep your Faith strong and emotionally true. When one door closes it leaves room in our life for God to open up another. Believe with your heart, every day, that the greatest direction is happening for you. Surrender and truly allow God to do the work.
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    It has taken me 5 years to craft the vision for what i want to do with my life or at least with the next 5-10 years and massive amounts of personal growth and change ..

    the person who posted this may not even be reading the thread anymore ..

    in the last year one of the main things i am learning and running into a lot of people whos lives are a complete mess ..

    let me diverge by saying i have a little food high going on from the steak i cooked and ate for lunch and heating up my mashed potaos ..for lunch.. i eat so much better now that i get on the buss to go by food once or twice a week and find the really discounted meats .. and i cooked it to my pallet so it was sexy good for me .. and the piece of seak only cost me about 3 buck and it was big enough to cut in two .. so it was for lunch and dinner before i go back out to work.. so for about 6 buck in total ingredients i get a real tasty steak and mashed potato lunch and dinner .

    now i run into a lot of people whos lives are a mess and while my life was miserable i did this a lot ..to nights ago when i decided to wake up and go shopping because i had the money .. and still had a valid buss pass ..at 7 am when i went to go shopping .. i would have foun d some reason not to go ..

    and if had had not gone i would not be having steak for lunch and dinner for 6 bucks ..i would have had to spend twice as much buying a crappy cheesburger for lunch or what ever i could buy while i am working out on the Vegas strip..

    now you want the secret to a better life ..or what to do with your life ..do the things to make your life better that you know you should do.. and you are probably spending many time more effort and energy by not doing ..
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  • Profile picture of the author treka
    big companies were big companies and small companies could not afford a marketing person and a budget.
    I hear you on that one! Personally I've not had the success I want but I'm still here and still giving it a go. I do believe that small companies can benefit greatly from the skills we have. They just dont know it yet.
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  • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
    Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

    That's true. However sadly many people (especially "Newbies") start out with being all about money. While I don't think there's anything wrong with that necessarily, it's the reason (IMO) that a great percentage of them fail at reaching their goals.
    Yes, over the years l have seen plenty of newbies trying to do a flyer in record time, (Graphicriver) in order to make a lot of cash from it from day one.

    They probably do one in an hour or two and it looks like crap and doesn't sell.

    When l started l did one in a few days, but that means that it would take me almost 10 years to make an income from it.

    Other pro,s raking in the money from this, did one in a day, most newbies scoffed or wondered how.

    Now l can do them much quicker than one a day, or in the ballpark to what a newbie was aiming for.

    But l had to go through that slow, frustrating and at times, gut wrenching period of time in order to see it.


    Originally Posted by yukon View Post

    Happy Birthday.
    Lol, l was going to say that 31 was a very good year, but apparently not?

    Originally Posted by charlesgalofre View Post

    I am 31, I will be 32 in October. I worked as an internet marketer for 3-4 years and decided to stop because big companies were big companies and small companies could not afford a marketing person and a budget.

    Has anyone had success with anything?
    Lol, l know exactly where you are coming from. Me yes, (read above) but l have spent years on websites, doing exactly what the experts advised and ended up with $1.30 a month from a $30 a month site.

    And plenty of other stuff, pretty hard to get unbiased information that you can depend on.

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  • An idea might be to get temporary jobs while you figure out what you really want to do. If you're able to as well, voluntary work could help you decide what kind of work you want.
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  • Profile picture of the author Andrew Hurst
    Affiliate marketing works.
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